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The general consensus here is right - don't chat up a girl at the bus stop - especially if you're catching bus yourself.

Approach them at social or work place, meet them through a mutual friend - I'm not going to lie you but dress sense and ascent are also a factor.

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Quote from: Halle B on March 27, 2006, 10:57 AM
E- you love pre-intimacy
B- you are wild and crazy
E- you love pre-intimacy
L- when you smile u make other people smile.
E- you love pre-intimacy
interesting!!!![/quote]How u doin?? 

That's what we're saying - but there is also a -ve with being over-confident

9ja4eva:
lol
Super Analyzer

I'm just asking the question o

Please this what i can't stand when two people are together and someone (even people) is telling them that some spiritual element has revealed to them that they are not mean't to be. My answer would be go find me that one that i'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with and show me, then we'll talk more. But the fact is most people that are actually fed this rubbish deeply belief in it - my ex is still waiting believing that we are made for eachother cos some white garment wolly told her so - yeah right!

If u feel for the girl n she feels for u, that's the start the rest is trust, honesty, care, love and perseverance - I wish u all the best!

P.S. ", every where we go, it's either we are a mismatch or our stars don't match" - It's in yo mind - unless she's 6ft plus n u 4ft

I bow for you o - personally, snoop all u want even our wedding will be on credit 

See this is what angers me with girls - dey no fit understand themselves or what they want so they just blame the guy.
If he calls daily he's a love terrorist - If he calls 3ce weekly he doesn't care!  

What is sista refering to by natural African features ?
- Big head
- Big nose
- Big lips
- All the above

LMFAO - Nah so it be? There is a thread that Nigerian men are unromantic floating around this forum - so u disagree? Me i am very romantic 4 yo information! (I think - scratches head)

ikamefa:
aint saying that am just saying , the girl better have her head screwed on right!

What she should hire a private investigator b4 she says YES?

Kai na wa o - so men with bad or even questionable credit no fit get married again!

Oh really - so us unromantic Nigerian men are now your possessions?

"Those girls are in trouble"

candy:
How come this story is two? I thought i was posting here,but i can't find my post on the thread. . . _{ok,i'll copy and paste here o.}
Romeo must die o! LMFAO Ole buruku. To say that I fell for this cheap lie! It's good to know that we have some SSS in tha house. . . watch your back. I wonder where the guy is hiding now,maybe under another name
Find him,I'll kill him

LMAO - @PDF - u're needed here too!!!!

LMAO - he has his other posts filled with pages of CONGRATS - LONG LIVE - HAPPY MARRIAGE

@pcmecom - u get time - haba!

LMAO - u go fight?

Shakara n serious harrassment - awon omo ye ti te

9ja4eva:
LOL
Make im head no go swell oh

I'm sure he's past that now - I feel sorry for all the girls that cross across his path  

Ice cream and/or alcohol and/or revenge

Well as you say it is a forum and everyone is entitled to their own opinion as well as being treated with the same respect that you would also demand for yourself.

sisistingy:
Why will want a relationship with Jamaican woman, abeg i support your parents on that oh.
Those woman are mean, dirty, rude, dirty looking.
They are so freaking loud and wear those ugly big hair on their head
They have no type of culture or manner.

This is completely out of line - understandably i know where you're coming from but you are generalising, fact is everybody is different! It is obvious that you don't associate with Jamaicans, but that is no reason to rubbish the whole Country. They can wear their hair however they want, the same way you can wear yours how you feel, fact is people have different tastes, appeals, mannerism and culture - I would say the same to any Jamaican about Africans - ignorance is NOT bliss!

@sketch18 - my guy, do whatever makes you happy - i too went through that phase that only a Yoruba woman would suffice, but i am a rebel by nature! Your parents have their reasons for wanting you to marry into the same Tribe/culture (whatever they maybe, right or wrong), but it is your life and your life decisions!

Maybe yo friend wasn't as sharp n quick with his game as the other guy. Nowadays peeps are earger to loose their V n the other guy offered her something that yo friend wasn't (a D**K) and she spread them

On the real, are they staying together (the girl n the other guy)? If so, she might just like him more - hence his game is better than that of yo friend!

fmbaba:
Was it money? COS SHE COULDN'T HAVE BEEN LOOKIN FOR LOVE!!!

How do u know they didn't make love as opposed to f**ked?

acidrop:
go 4 it, but tnx 4 stealing our mennnnnnn ooooooooo, lol

At least it's black with black - LOL

In retrospect looking at all these pages of responses, i think he already knows he's cute - hence his ego nah my concern!

He has obviously developed this approach over time and yes it a puzzle no doubt, but the answer(s) are there to be found from his:
Character/personality - he might not be the type that leaves himself open (emotionally) and doesn't necessarily communicate about matters that he regards as leaving him vulnerable. You say he can be regarded as being quiet, this again might be a contributory factor as he probably has developed the ability of being content with himself in his own company.
Past relationship - could be in the case that he had a bad experience, bad enough not to want to put himself in that position again. Even family could be a factor as leading him to go through life focused and dependant on only himself.

I have to say that i have been accused of the same nonchalance in the past about my relationships - for me it wasn't that i did not like or want to commit to the person, but that i did not want to leave myself open for let down/disappointments - as per a previous experience. I now realize that it was wrong of me and not fair on the other individuals, but i did not realize until current girl-friend raised it as an issue. Fact is i did care about her and yes i did feel for her and enjoyed the time we spent together as well as missing her when she wasn't around - but I did not necessarily communicate it to her, as far as she was concerned i won't care if she stayed or went, which wasn't true.

From what you have said, it is clear that he cares about you and doesn't necessarily care if others know about your relationship - so he is not trying to keep it under-wraps. When you miss his calls or don't see him, does he call you/text, go out of his way to see you? If you know that there is any element of care and concern on his part i would advise that you bring him up on it. Simply ask him seriously or jokingly where he sees your relationship going/how far he would like it to go? If he cares for you, thinks of and misses you when you're not around? Or quite simply how he feels about you!

You obviously have fallen for him and so its up to you now to ascertain how much you want to get to know about him and of course if he is prepared to let you in. If he cares let him know that as a woman you too need to be made to feel relevant, wanted and needed - in essence train him to develop that relationship etiquette. It will take sometime but unfortunately he is who he is, whom you fell in love with - but just realize that you will require patience and tact  

lol

@teee - If i'm reading yo post right, u want to know what to do after approaching the girl and toasting her  - My question for u is WHY did you approach her in the first place?
One of the following can pass:
- Ask her for her number/address/email - contact details - with the intention of seeing her again
- Take her back to yours/back to hers  , or go with her to where she's going (if u've gt that kind of time)
- Agree to meet somewhere, whenever  
- Just have a nice conversation and leave it at that  

It all really depends on why you approached her in the first place! Don't start what you can't finish

@cute-ass - u really have a way with words - do u write columns for a living?

ThoniaSlim:
@IBdat
if thats referred to me, then read my post well, ain't supporting it. am just saying he is being to harsh, must he insult her, when its obvious his hands might not be clean also.

I wasn't personally singling u out for one, but JuneJemini was just giving his opinion on the matter which u also gave yours and it wasn't clear if it was for or against.

earthtones:
Hello Nairaland members,
- my problem is that I just can not read this man, I know he is not seeing any other women, I have fallen in love with him because of the way he lives his life - He just gives me mixed signals, am I being a fool for this man, he wants his kind of relationship which is noncommittal but with all the benefits - or am I making excuses?

Reading a man is one thing, knowng actual facts is another. I'm guessing you would prefer actual facts, but i'm slightly puzzled by your post - Can you pls clarify the following for me?
- Has he told you what his kind of relationship is (in those words)?
- Have you told him how you feel about him?
- You know you are the only (in that sense) woman in his life, but yet there is an issue (on your part) of commitment from him?

LMFAO, Nairalanderz can alwayz be counted on

I agree it no easy, but he go develop more n more confidence the more he does it.

star01:
on the right side of your heart,

HHHAAAAA , so sweet!