10 (TEN) TIPS FOR HEALTHY LANDLORD TENANT RELATIONSHIP

Most residents give little thought to how they communicate with their property manager or landlord. Considering that nearly 70 percent of Nigerian currently reside in approximately 20 million rental units throughout the country, it is surprising that so few of us really understand how to communicate effectively with our landlords.
Almost every one of these landlord-tenant relationships last a minimum of one year and some last many years, even decades.
The relationship that you enjoy with your landlord can directly impact your lifestyle, comfort, image and financial standing. Establishing a positive and healthy relationship with your landlord can go a long way in helping you live in the best conditions possible, getting you the fastest responses to maintenance requests, and keeping your rental rates reasonable.
The following are some quick tips that can go a long way in helping to maintain and improve landlord-tenant relations:

During your property search
1. Know what your expectations are before searching for a property. If your requirements aren’t offered at a particular property, then move on. Don’t expect a landlord to add an unreasonable amount of amenities or upgrades to an existing rental. There are often other units available that will meet all of your needs.

2. Submit completely accurate rental applications regardless of your shortcomings. Do not overstate your income or lie about credit problems . Landlords are increasingly open to working with challenged credit. Providing a clear explanation as to why your credit has suffered and expressing your desire to improve the situation will go a long way to sway a decision.
We always recommend a prewritten letter with this information be sent with the rental application, as it shows some planning and thought went into your process. Lying on an application is almost always grounds for denial or later termination of a lease.

3. Ask the right questions. Those questions are the ones most important to you. In most cases, landlords and agents are not required to disclose some information that may be important to you. Do not be shy when searching for a home to rent . Ask as many questions as necessary to make sure that you are comfortable with the decision you are making.

4. Get it in writing . If a landlord has promised a repair, new carpet, new appliances, or anything else will be done as a condition of your lease, then be absolutely sure to get it in writing, preferably on the lease document. Anything less opens up the chance for miscommunication and leaves an opening for problems.
I can’t remember how many times I’ve spoken to tenants who were "promised new carpeting" at some point during their tenancy and did not get it. Promises don’t get things done. Written agreements do.

5. Read your lease/tenancy agreement completely. This is an important process. You are making legally binding guarantees regarding payments, upkeep, repairs, etc. Read it thoroughly before you sign it. If possible, ask for a copy the day before signing the lease so that you have enough time to read and think about any potential questions.

Move-in time
6. Complete or request a walk-through to assess any existing wear or damage. This will alleviate many disputes at the time of move-out. Make sure this is done thoroughly and ask for a copy for your records.

7. Make sure that you know all of the pertinent property information (utility info, meter number, shared services , homeowners association rules, etc.).
By collecting all of this information upfront you can eliminate several calls to your landlord over the first weeks of tenancy. When landlords receive a flood of calls from a new tenant they instantly start to think of that tenant as high maintenance. This puts an instant strain on the relationship and can set up future problems.
An effective landlord should provide this information for the same reason, but many do not. By collecting all of this at the time of move-in you can avoid that unnecessary contact.

8. Make sure that you know the exact process for contacting your landlord in case of any questions or repair issues. Every landlord is different and each has a process for dealing with tenant inquiries.
You are best served to ask exactly how the landlord would like to be contacted. Don’t assume that texting or calling is the preferred or most effective option. By following the landlord’s preferred process you instantly become "easier to work with" than the tenant who contacts the landlord by some other means.
Landlords are also likely to respond more quickly to those who operate the way that they prefer to operate.

During your tenancy
9. Pay your rent on time. That’s easy enough when everything is going well, but what about when things are not? Your best option is to contact the landlord as soon as you see a problem arise, and work out an agreement to get on track. Very few landlords will want to evict a tenant who they believe honestly wants to pay but is having a short-term problem.
The worst option is silence. A nonpaying, noncommunicating tenant will and should be dealt with harshly.

10. Be reasonable with your requests. Most landlord-tenant issues that don’t involve money center around tenant maintenance requests that they feel are not handled adequately by their landlords.
There are many cases where the tenants are absolutely in the right and landlords have neglected their duty to provide clean, safe housing. However, in many other instances the requests made by tenants are completely unreasonable, and by utilizing a bit of patience and thought these issues can be resolved reasonably.
Handle very minor issues on your own. Almost any tenant can replace a light bulb, furnace filter, or smoke detector battery. They can tighten a door knob or put a closet door back on its track. However, these types of tiny issues constitute a huge number of service calls and maintenance costs for landlords.
If you have small issues and can’t handle them on your own, then wait until a larger problem arises that truly requires service and ask if those smaller items can be addressed as well at that time, saving multiple service trips. If you have a non-emergency issue, don’t require that it be handled on an emergency time frame.
There are many factors out of the landlord’s control that go into how quickly an issue can be resolved, including vendor schedules, time of day/week, weather, travel time, etc. Tenants need to take these factors into account and try to understand that your landlord wants to resolve your issues and wants you to be a happy tenant, as it is in their best interest.
Above all else, it’s important to remember that you are ultimately dealing with another human being. If you are speaking with a property manager or maintenance tech you are dealing with someone who can choose to help you or ultimately push your concerns aside. Your goal should be to get your questions answered and problems resolved, not to make as much noise as possible.
By portraying yourself as an honest tenant, preparing yourself for your tenancy up front, educating yourself on your lease terms and rules, and making reasonable requests using the proper channels, it is very likely that you will have a happier and more successful relationship with your landlord and a more pleasant stay in your rental property.

Bakare Abiodun is a registered real estate practitioner, the Managing Partner of IBNALAFIA REALTORS.

The former wife of the Ooni of Ife, Olori Wuraola has come out to confirm that her marriage to the reigning Ooni of Ife Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi Ojaja II has crashed.

Recall that we had earlier reported that there have been rumours of trouble in the marriage of the Ooni due to several undisclosed reasons.

The former queen of Ife has finally confirmed the end of her marriage by releasing a statement via her instagram page. She has also reverted to her maiden name Zaynab Otiti Obanor.

 Read her full statement below: 

We have got to stop this culture of shaming and vilifying women with false stories of infidelity & nefarious behavior. The spreading of false information (through "sources" afraid to be identified) is the mark of cowards and a cover up for guilty parties to justify their horrific actions. There is absolutely no truth to the media circulated lies of infidelity and infertility- on my end. 

What I can confirm, is that the Ooni and I are no more. I inhale love & exhale gratitude. My journey continues as a Humanitarian aiding women and victims of domestic violence & abuse with the United Nations. No matter how much time you've invested, no matter the use of media to silence & manipulate, no matter the circumstance, slander, embarrassment, threats and lies: Get out and seek immediate help! 

We've seen this movie before. Women being dragged in the press & blamed for everything under the sun. This behavior is unacceptable. I urge those involved to be mindful of their actions for the eyes of our Almighty God are always watching. The seeds of slander is a cancer that harvests to eat away the souls of the planter. 

The throne is sacred and the attempts to tarnish the name of a Queen, in defense or on behalf of a silent King makes all involved look terrible. Remain dignified in all you do. It's not the end of the world, but the start of a new chapter and you must turn the page with grace. The world is watching. 

As I bid adieu to this chapter, my wish to you all is to step into your lives - boldly & fearlessly, the way God intended and live not just by words, but through example. The best chapter in our lives is the one we are writing now. Thank you for your love and support.

With peace, love &  light, -Her Highness, Zaynab Otiti Obanor.

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The Nigeria Police has asked a serving Senator to return to service on the grounds that he did not legitimately resign from the Force.

Senator Isa Hamman Misau is being wanted by the police for alleged forgery and desertion from the Police.

The Police in Nigeria is insisting that Misau is still a Policeman and should not be a Senator.

Misau is currently representing Bauchi Central Senatorial District in the National Assembly.

On Friday, Sen Misau, who is Chairman, Senate Committee on Navy and member of the Committees on Police Affairs and Intelligence, condemned what he described as “series of fraudulent practices in the running of the Nigerian Police”.

Addressing National Assembly Correspondents on Friday, Senator Misau, who is a retired Deputy Superintendent of Police (DSP), said that a high level of corruption had been noticed in the handling of monies allegedly being collected by the police as payment for special security services rendered by the Police to corporate bodies, oil firms and highly placed citizens in the country.

The lawmaker also accused the Inspector General of Police, Ibrahim Idris, of extorting money from Commissioners of Police, State Mobile Commanders and SPU Commanders.

But the Police spokesman, CSP Jimoh Moshood has asked the general public and indeed the Senate to dismiss statements credited to Senator Misau, saying everything he said about the IGP and the Police are false.

According to Moshood, Senator Misau is “a habitual and unrepentant liar.”

“His real name in the Police is DSP Mohammed Isa Hamman, with Police number AP No. 57300. He is still a Police Officer and not a Senator because his name is still in the Police Service.

“Senate will do the nation good by asking him to return to the Nigeria Police Force to face disciplinary committee and answer all the charges bordering on serious misconduct, unprofessional wrong doings as earlier contained in our press statement released today.

“We want the public to know that he is not fit and proper to be a Senator of the federal republic of Nigeria; because that purported retirement letter he displayed today was forged.

“All DSP Hamman was saying were cheap blackmail, distraction and deliberate acts to derail investigation.

“So the force will want the Senate Ethics and Privileges committee which we have confidence and trust into see reason to ask him to dress up in his police uniform to come and appear before police disciplinary committee to answer charges against him.

“The IGP has no use to distractions DSP Hamman is instituting before the public, and no matter the position any person is, once he or she runs afoul of the law, he will be made to answer the charges,’’ Moshood stated.

Source: PM NEWS

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they are always exceptional instances like this.....

But we should bear in mind that woman cannot be predicted like a Yoruba adage that says

No matter how many children a woman born for you it does not determine if she want to kill you.

But we the write up is encouraging is a VIOLENCE FREE MARRIAGE

I don't use belt, I don't use abusive words, I don't use sex starvation to beat her, I don't use blow, I don't use kick. I am a king & married to a queen. Such don't happen in a palace like ours. This is the way I 'beat' my wife and I am recommending it for all men. The reason why my Queen can't leave me is because she is enjoying the beating. This is the way I beat her. I beat her by:
B - BEAUTIFYING HER,
E - ENCOURAGING HER,
A - ASSISTING HER, and
T - TREATING HER AS A QUEEN.
No woman can die in your hands no matter how many times you beat her in a day as long as you do it the way I do it to my Queen. I know this is the way women will love their husbands to BEAT them. There can't be divorce or separation if we BEAT our wives like this. When you use belt, wire, blow, knife, slap, or any domestic violent means on your wife, you are worthy to be awarded a duplex at Neuro-Psychiatric Hospital or you can go there yourself and tell them to detain you there until you are okay. For all excellent husbands, follow that syllabus I gave you on how I beat my own Queen daily & go and do likewise.
The joy of your family is my priority.

*WISDOM FOR WIVES!*
As a wife, your BEAUTY attracts your husband, but your WISDOM will continue to keep him! Your ELEGANCE catches his ATTENTION, but your INTELLIGENCE convinces him! NAGGING irritates your husband, but your "CONSTRUCTIVE SILENCE" weakens him! Remember that the "boyish" character in your husband comes out occasionally, but your ability to always handle it, is a sign that you are a MATURED WIFE! Every man has "Secret Struggles and Pains" including your husband. If you should ever find them out from him, please exhibit the greatest maturity by asking the Originator of your marriage (GOD), to help you with USEFUL IDEAS, that you will suggest to him (your husband)! In the long run, your KIND WORDS matter to your husband than your "LOOKS"! So, always invest the RIGHT WORDS! Earn your husband's respect and he will consider you as the yardstick for all his actions! Learn to mould your husband's moods, and he will naturally give you his "FUTURE" as he recalls your maturity in handling past issues! Note that WOMEN are everywhere, but REAL WIVES are scarce. Let the QUEEN in you come alive, and your husband will always hold you in a very HIGH ESTEEM!

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Assalamualaikum Dear Brother & Sisters,
Being thankful for these blessed days
Allah says; ‘By the dawn/day break’ and by the ten nights. (Surah Al Fajr, Ayah 1-2)
Opinion scholars : Allah azza wa jall is swearing on the last 10 nights of Ramadan or Allah is swearing on the 10 nights of the 1st ten days of Dhul Hijjah. InshaAllah today we will discuss in reference to the 2nd opinion (also held by Ibn Katheer)
LESSON: Can u imagine Allah Himself swearing on something?? Likewise, the 1st ten days of Dhul Hijjah are immensely important and we should thank Allah azza wa jall for the blessing of these days.
How can we thank Allah?
By doing those things and deeds through which we can attain the maximum benefit and reward. To do those deeds the most beautiful, beloved, respectful and humble way. This is what ibaadah is.
Do you feel now like you felt in the last ten nights of Ramadan? Why? Because we don’t realize the importance of these days of Dhul Hijjah. Did you prepare for them? Did you make an action plan?
What is Dhul Hijjah?
It means the month of pilgrimage, the Month of Hajj, Last Islamic month (12th)of the year, It is one of the 4 sacred months in which fighting is forbidden.
History facts dhul hijjah
* The Prophet ﷺ performed the farewell Hajj and gave the historic sermon known as the “Farewell Sermon”
* Egypt was conquered by the army sent by Umar (radiyallahu anhu)
* Uthmaan (radiyallahu anhu) was appointed the 3rd Khalifah
* Fatimah (radiyallahu anhaa) married the 4th Khalifah, Ali (radiyallahu anhu)
* Umar (radiyallahu anhu) was martyed on the 27th of Dhul Hijjah in the year 26AH
* Uthman (radiyallahu anhu) was maryted on the 18th of Dhul Hijjah in the year 35AH
Overview of these ‘honorable’ days:
* 1st Dhul Hijjah –10th Dhul Hijjah
* 1-8th Dhul Hijjah
Pilgrims assume or put their ihram on with the intention of performing hajj, the pilgrims leave and all head to Mina. For the non-pilgrims, these days are of immense ibaadaat and reward.
* 9th Dhul Hijjah = Yawm-Arafah. Most beloved day to Allah azza wa jall
Pilgrims they leave to go to a place called Arafah. Here the Pilgrims pray and ask of Allah azza azza wa jall.
This is the Hajj Day – This is what Hajj is.
For Non-pilgrims, it is a day of fasting which is the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ
* 10 th Dhul Hijjah = Yawm alNahar = Day of Sacrifice
The day when the pilgrims go to throw stones at the Shaytan- Jamaarat -cut their hair take off,their ihram, perform the sacrifice.
Eid-ul-adhaa ”Big eid”- people often don’t bother celebrating this Eid. Day of Qurbani or Haddiyah
Note: there is no chand raat like Christmas eve!
* 11th Dhul Hijjah = Yawm-al-Qarr – Pilgrims stay in Mina
* 10-13th Dhul Hijjah = Qurbani can be performed
Importance of this Month
Last 10 nights of Ramadhan are virtuous – Likewise there are 10 days that are MORE virtuous
Many people are not aware of this, there is so much emphasis on the days of Ramadhan yet very little on these days and that is only because of our ignorance. These days are a chance to bring back that feeling you had in Ramadhan that closeness you experienced, the eman boost you had. It is a blessed gift, a fresh opportunity to erase our sins and cleanse ourselves. It is also a second chance, for those who felt Ramadan slip through their fingers and these are the 1st 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah!
Realize Virtue:
The Prophet ﷺ said, “No good deeds done on other days are superior to those done on these (first ten days of Dhul Hijjah).” Then some companions of the Prophet ﷺ said, “Not even Jihad?” He ﷺ replied, “Not even Jihad”, except that of a man who does it by putting himself and his property in danger (for Allah’s sake) and does not return with any of those things.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari 15:86] The standing (wuqoof) in ‘Arafah reminds you of the throngs of people on the Day of Gathering. If you feel tired from being in a crowd of thousands, how will it be in the crowds of barefoot, naked, uncircumcised people, standing for fifty thousand years?
9th Dhul-Hijjah: Allah azza wa jall frees people from hell: The Prophet ﷺ said: “There is no day on which Allah sets free more people from hell than on the day of Arafah “
Fast on this day
To expiate minor sins previous and next year, you will have your minor sins forgiven with the fast of ‘Arafah (In shaa Allah)
So, what about your major sins?
REPENT for your major sins on this day!
“There is no day when Allah ransoms more slaves from the Fire than the day of ‘Arafah. He draws near and expresses His pride to the angels and says: ‘What do these people want?’” [Sahih Muslim] Think about all your sins and repent sincerely and remember that Allah can forgive all our sins no matter how great they are. “Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” [ Quran 39: 53] These grand days are a great opportunity to quit your sinful habits once and for all! Be regretful for committing sins and make a strong determination to never commit them ever again.
FEEL YOUR QURBANI
* 10th Dhul Hijjah: Yawm alnahar: day of sacrifice The Prophet said:
The best day in the sight of Allah, blessed is He, the Most High, is Yawm alnahar (day of sacrifice), then Yawm al Qarr (the 11th of Dhul Hijjah, the day the pilgrims begin their stay in Mina)’ (Musnad Ahmed)
UDHHIYA (Arabic for sacrificial animal) It is performed on the days of sacrifice which is the 10th, 11th or 12th of Dhul Hijjah.
One may sacrifice a thousand animals on days other than these, but it will never be regarded or considered as udh’hiya. Therefore, the qurbani is a sacred act which can only be done during the three days of Dhul Hijjah as specified.
✔Let your sacrifice renew your taqwa. After the fasting of Ramadan whose main purpose was “…that you may become righteous” [Qur’an: 2, 183] The sacrifice is a symbol of: Attaining Allah’s pleasure and approval, Expression of one’s love and servitude to Allah: to attain Taqwa!
Look at this ayah:
Allah says in Surah al Hajj ayah 37: “Their meat will not reach Allah, nor will their blood, but what reaches Him is piety from you.”
What is the History behind the Qurbani?
Ibrahim alayhissalam was ready to give up everything for the sake of Allah
– Do your kids know this story?
– tell your kids
Sacrifice vs Emotions
When you slaughter your sacrifice, you are reminded of the great event when our father Ibraaheem submitted to the command of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala to sacrifice his only son Ismaa’eel, after he had grown up and become a help to him. You remind yourself that there is no room for emotions which go against the commands and prohibitions of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.
And very important; we have to work hard every day to instil sabr in our children like Ismaa’eel, who said (interpretation of the meaning):
“‘O my father! Do that which you are commanded. In shaa Allaah (if Allaah wills), you will find me of al-saabireen (the patient ones).’” [al-Saaffaat 37:102]
Fiqh of sacrifice
Upon sighting the moon, the one offering Qurbani should stop and not cut their hair and nails
* We learn from the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam that the one who wants to offer a sacrifice must stop cutting his hair and nails and and not remove anything from his skin.
* This is from the sighting of the moon until one has offered his sacrifice as the Prophet said:
“When you see the new moon of Dhu’l-Hijjah, if any one of you wants to offer a sacrifice, then he should stop cutting his hair and nails until he has offered his sacrifice.”
Scholars have said that if the man of the household sacrifices an animal on behalf of his family – the family members can still cut nails etc, just the person who is financially/ and or pyscially doing the sacrifice has to not cut nails etc – And Allah knows best.
One who wants to offer a sacrifice may resemble those in ihraam in some aspects of the rituals performed so that he may draw closer to Allah by offering the sacrifice. When a slave was purchased, his head would be shaved to show he has a master >Hopes that Allah will save him the hellfire. And Allah knows best in this matter.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THINGS TO DO THESE 10 DAYS:
PRAY: Take special care of your obligations
Before talking about any voluntary actions (and bonuses), it is important to remind ourselves that we must first take care of all our obligations. How can we think of building and beautifying a house without constructing its pillars? Thus, we must pay special attention to the pillars of Islam and strive to perfect our obligations.
Pray on time (and in congregation, for men)
Voluntary prayers (nawaafil)
BEST OF ALL TAHAJJUD – EACH NIGHT Due to its worth in the sight of Allah, the reward for the extra night prayers has been kept secret. Allah says in the Qur’an,
Surah As-Sajdah, 32 v16-17: Their sides forsake their beds, to invoke their Lord in fear and hope, and they spend (in charity in Allâh’s Cause) out of what We have bestowed on them (v16) No person knows what is kept hidden for them of joy as a reward for what they used to do (v17)
1. For house in Jannah (2 rakaat before fajr, 4 before dhohr, 2 after dohr, 2 after maghrib, 2 after esha)
2.Whoever sticks to the habit of offering four rak`ahs befor dhohr prayer & four rak`ahs after it, Allah will shield him against the Hell-Fire.” [Sunan An-Nasai] 3.Duha prayer between approx 20 min after sunrise (6 30 am) and 20 min before dhohr (12 30) (two rakaat or more even amount of rakaat)
4.Salatul tawbah<
– after bad deed or shortcoming, pray 2 rakaat
5.2 raka’ahs sunnah after performing wudhu “Tell me about the best of your deeds (i.e. one which you deem the most rewarding) since your embracing Islam because I heard your footsteps in front of me in Paradise.” Bilal (may Allāh be pleased with him) replied: “I do not consider any act of mine more rewarding than that whenever I make ablution at any time of night or day, I perform Prayer for as much as was destined for me to do.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
SAY THIS DHIKR AND MEAN IT – Alhamdulillah!
Verily all praise and thanks belong to You. Hamd means praise and thanks. When it comes to praise, you can think of many things. Allah has more than 99 Names and for each of His names, you can praise Him.
For example, O Allah! You are the best in showing intense mercy (Ar-Rahman), the best in showing continuous mercy (Ar-Raheem), the best Creator (Al-Khaliq), and so on.
Don’t complain! When something bad happens think of something good you have.
Earn the reward of a Hajj without going to Makkah
“Whoever prays Fajr in congregation, then sits remembering Allah until the sun has risen, then he prays two Rak’ah, then for him is the reward like that of a Hajj and Umrah” He said: “The Messenger of Allah said: ‘Complete, complete, complete.’” [Al-Tirmidhi]
Istighfar: ” Astaghfirullah”
The Prophet ﷺ said: ” Whoever wants his book given to him on the Judgment Day as he is happy then let him do a lot of Istighfar.”
Do not only do Istighfar for yourself but rather for the entire Ummah because the Prophet ﷺ taught us that when you do Istighfar for the entire Ummah you will get the reward for each one of them:
“Allahumma ‘ghfir lil mu’mineen wal mu’minaat”
Making salah and salam on the Prophet ﷺ
Every time you make salah and salam on the Prophet ﷺ an angel goes to the Prophet ﷺ and tells him that son of so and so did salam on you. Every time you do salah and salam on the Prophet ﷺ the angel do salah and salam upon you, their salah and salam on you is asking Allah (azza wajal) to forgive you.
FAMILY
Respecting and honouring our parents: Islam teaches us that of the most beloved deeds to Allah, having respect for one’s parents is second only to that of prayer and is greater than that of fighting in His cause.It is narrated on the authority of Abdullah bin Mas’ood (may Allāh be pleased with him), who observed: “ I asked Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) which deed was the best.” He (the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him)) replied:
‘The Prayer at its appointed hour.’ I (again) asked: “Then what?” He replied: ‘Kindness to the parents.’ I (again) asked: “Then what?” He replied: ‘Earnest struggle (Jihad) in the cause of Allah.’ I refrained from asking any more questions for fear of annoying him. [Sahih Muslim]
Recite Qur’an with them, read a book together, discuss a lecture you heard, share your plans and seek their input. Drive your father to the masjid if he is unable to walk there and earn reward for doing so, or call them a few more times in the day if they live far away.
‘Labbayk Allaahumma labbayk’ vs Watching your tongue!
As when we say Labbayk, we intend to speak only of obedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and avoid talk of disobedience. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala watches us and our speech all the time, so we daily must watch our tongue and avoid the two biggest problems we have with this muscle: gossiping and excessive talking!
Just like the person performing Hajj must refrain from getting into disputes and acts of disobedience or risk the acceptance of their Hajj, you should try to do the same.
-Forgive everyone no matter what they have done to you.
-Visit the sick.
-Have good relations with people, especially your parents, relatives and neighbors. This would be the best time to re-establish ties of kinship and put barakah in your life.
QURAN!
Read more Quran, contemplating the meaning
Have those blessed moments with the Qur’an like you did in Ramadhan.
Know always that every word you recite carries great reward as the Prophet said ” Whoever recites one letter of the Quran, for him shall be one reward (hasanah) and each reward is multiplied by ten
Seek the times dua’a is more likely accepted and among them are:
1- 1/3 end of night
2- before salah between Adhan and Iqamah
3- when the Imam is on the minbar during Jumu’ah Friday
4- during the rain
5- in sujood
LESSON: Start your du’a in praising Allah (azza wajal) and the prophet Muhammad ﷺ . And use the Names of Allah. Repent and ask for forgiveness, keep these things in mind when making dua
E.g. Yaa Rahmaan, I know you are the most Merciful and I am your slave, peace and blessings on the prophet Muhammad … [start your dua]
FAST all 9 days
This is not fardh but a commendable act. Nafl means that act which is done with happiness, he is happy to do it for the sake of Allah.
“Whoever observes fast for a day in the way of Allah (non-obligatory fasting observed for the sole purpose of pleasing Allah and seeking His blessings), Allah will remove his face from the Hell to the extent of seventy years’ distance.” [Sahih Muslim]
Finally, …
If you have not yet fulfilled the obligation of Hajj, make special dua to Allah to grant you the opportunity to do so soon and in the best of manners.
In your next sujood- ask Allah to help you make the best of these days.
Subhanakallahuma wa bihamdik nastaghfiruka wa natoobu ilayk.
Khawlha bint Yahya

JazakAllahu Khairan
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MAKKAH: Folding umbrellas will be installed at the Grand Mosque’s courtyards and roof next year to protect pilgrims from the sun and heat, said commanders of Hajj security forces.
The umbrellas will cover 53x53 meters, making them the largest in the world. The commander of the forces responsible for security at the mosque, Maj. Gen. Mohammed Al-Ahmadi, said temperatures are quite low inside the mosque due to air conditioning, but the umbrellas will provide comfort for pilgrims in the courtyards and on the roof.
Source: ArabNews

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