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Hallo

Thank you MOD for putting this on the front page.

Thanks guys for the advice, bashes and all. you guys really rock!

I will keep you updated.

one love!

Where is the OP sef. What's up with you and what have you decided to do.

Give us a feedback na!

Dammiesugar:
My dear op don't feel bad or sad, your best is yet to come and definitely you will laugh last. We are almost having the same experiences but What I always do is "pray" contact me through my email if you need a friend.

Do you mind if I mail you too? Thanks

Sorry about that. Try and not call or sms him. If he dosen't call you, let go

peppyluv02:
Yes,love can grow with time and you have to be compatible. But then,remember that we all have our differences that is why adjustment and understanding comes but not adjusting to negativity. Some people feel they are not compatible with their partner because they are in secured and have complex issues.
It is better to fall in love before marriage. Children and other issues will come in and there will be divided attention,it is the love that you both had and have that will keep you going. There is no proof you will fall in love after marriage just like prissyluv have rightly pointed out. Some end up just managing and the love never comes in. I have heard a man say 'I can't really say I love my wife but she's ok,not a bad person. I asked 'why did you marry her and his answer was, she met the qualities I wanted but I still don't know why I don't feel something so strong for her. just like Gaborone asked, I asked him too...'was she the only woman in the world'? If you were not in a hurry,you would have found one who met these qualities and still be in love with her.

All the same,if what the op @ idontaya has said about the first girl is true,he should give the second girl a chance...a woman should not be a liability but a partner and a help!same applies to the man. But Pls find out if you love her and not just accepting and managing her. Don't be in a hurry to marry.

YOU BE DAT IGBO GIRL WEY MAKE SENSE

BuddhaPalm:
Marry the one with the biggest mammaries...


More seriously: the first woman is a bad choice for a wife.

If you want to buy a house, and you're a wise guy, you don't go for one with cracked walls, on sinking sand, and in a flood-prone neighbourhood - just because you like the painting.

The painting is going to wear off in a few short years.

For a wife, you want someone who's measured, prudent and even resourceful.

Someone like the second woman, but that you find attractive.

Thanks man

Thanks for your contributions and advice

Phema:
If you had only one, you wouldn't be this confused.

Sometimes, putting our eggs in one basket is a better approach.

Take some time off from both women to think things through. The picture will become clearer.

And, who's putting a gun to your head that you must take one to mama this december? Take your time bro. This is marriage and not some short lived fantasy.

Makes sense

cococandy:
Stick to one.
Play boy

Play boy as in....? Abeg jor

Oya na more advice plsssss

Oya na more advice plssssss

Acidosis:
You don't marry someone because you LOVE them.


Married couples fall in "love" after wedding oo. Falling in 'love' is a never ending process.

You marry because you are compatible. My advice: get closer to the girl you claim you don't love. Love grows with TIME. There is no such thing as falling in love at FIRST SIGHT. Just spend more time with her, as in quality time and watch that love grow

Thank man.... you too much

taryour:
Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

Thanks ma'am...

taryour:
Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

Thanks ma'am

Godmother:
Why should you be dating two people in the first place.
Anyways, you are waiting for perfection and guy there's no such thing.
My advice to you would be to sit Labake down and make her know what you think about her attitude to work.
Better let Shalewa go so a man that loves her can marry her.

Thanks so much

7footre:
Ask yourself this, if per adventure something happens, and you are unable to earn, which of the two would be able to take care of your family? Financially emotionally nd otherwise? Which of the two would raise your kids right? Well one man's meat is another's poison. It all boils down to what you want in a wife

I love this.... you're so on point

tpiar:
how do they marry where you come from?

because december only has two weeks left, and you are saying you want to marry this month but you are yet to decide who.

besides that, what is the meaning of this rigmarole you typed?

Read well...... . Said I have to take one of them to mamma this December NOT marry!

Patiently read what I typed up there and you'll understand better

andromida:
How are you confused about a woman you don't have feelings for? Anyway people want different things from marriage so you can start by asking yourself what you want from marriage. As per the first chic if you like her you share what you want in a union and if you can't blend you free both of them surely they are not the last women in the world.

Thank for the advice..... how I wish I can swap bodies! It is well

VintageCocktail:
How about dumping them and getting a third girl instead of coming up with all sort of whining tales when you settle for any of the two. Get somebody that has both their qualities and take home to mamma.
Don't be in a haste to dig your grave .

I can't even focus now sef! Gosh

Twaci:
Follow ur heart

I hear you

niggi4life:
I won't advice u to go for the lazy girl(Labake) and neither will I recommend the other one as u don't av any feelings for her else u will just blame ursef.


My guy u never see wife o

Hmmmm.... makes sense

Please keep the advice coming in

Thanks

Twaci:
You don blacklist the first babe na....wetin be your question again?

If I was ur bro, what wld you advice me to do?

teemanbastos:
[B]Guys please if you were in my shoes
what would you do?[/b]

Tank God i am not in your shoes..
I have mine

e no funny jor..... i need serious advices

Please guys come to my rescue....

This is centered around two female which i do not want to loose but have to select one to marry. Here goes...

I met these ladies around the same period, i asked Labake out and after the initial gra gra she accepted to date me. thing are getting serious now that i had to ask her certain questions... She has been into business for like 6 years and when i asked what was her savings from the biz she said NOTHING. I asked the reason and she said debts and some other excuses. In short she has no savings and told me to my face i am providing all she will be needing in marriage, relocating her shop from one town to where i am and other things even to her sanitary towels! What is annoying me is that have i now offended the gods that i want to marry her and there taking over her liabilities (her body being the only asset)! I do not have a problem meeting these needs but she has to meet up at some point which she cannot do! I just like/love her i dont know why despite these liability.

On the other hand, there is Shalewa, who is more than willing to meet my people, she has a job and even a business. She encourages me to be the best and all other positives. The problem here is that i dont have a feeling for her at all, but i dont want to let go. Mind you we have not had sex even with Labake

Guys please if you were in my shoes what would you do? Who will you take home to mamma. Cos i want to do that this december and wrap up marriage. But i am in a dilemma for nowQ

please advice maturedly

Please guys come to my rescue....

This is centered around two female which i do not want to loose but have to select one to marry. Here goes...

I met these ladies around the same period, i asked Labake out and after the initial gra gra she accepted to date me. thing are getting serious now that i had to ask her certain questions... She has been into business for like 6 years and when i asked what was her savings from the biz she said NOTHING. I asked the reason and she said debts and some other excuses. In short she has no savings and told me to my face i am providing all she will be needing in marriage, relocating her shop from one town to where i am and other things even to her sanitary towels! What is annoying me is that have i now offended the gods that i want to marry her and there taking over her liabilities (her body being the only asset)! I do not have a problem meeting these needs but she has to meet up at some point which she cannot do! I just like/love her i dont know why despite these liability.

On the other hand, there is Shalewa, who is more than willing to meet my people, she has a job and even a business. She encourages me to be the best and all other positives. The problem here is that i dont have a feeling for her at all, but i dont want to let go. Mind you we have not had sex even with Labake

Guys please if you were in my shoes what would you do? Who will you take home to mamma. Cos i want to do that this december and wrap up marriage. But i am in a dilemma for nowQ

please advice maturedly

sure

makes better sense

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