LaShawn:

Yes. That is why I can relate with others who have been in such situations and when they hear mine, they'd also exclaim about How similar my case was to theirs.

Infant, I saw this with a roomie I had. I could see what happened to me happening to her too. The guy was behaving in a way that was very similar to my ex. Infact, without her confiding in me, I knew the guy was abusive.

I told her my story, hoping she'd pick one or two lessons. Alas, She went ahead with the marriage. She even told us that the love was now very sweet as the guy had gotten a job in an oil company. The guy succeeded in alienating her from her brother who brought her up before the wedding and She was actually supporting the guy over the brother. Suddenly, to her, her brother was up to No good. All Because of a guy She met over the social network.
I was just looking at her, Because after all I've been through, I can't pick a man over my family. My family have been there for twenty something years, loving me and Seeing to my well-being.

Anyways, they got married and from the honeymoon, trouble! Of Course She didn't confide in me. But the person She told told me.

For the honeymoon, they lodged in a beautiful hotel in lag for a few days. This guy would Sleep with her roughly with his huge manhood. At night, in the mornings and he'd also come back for more during his breaks from work, as he was also working during the honeymoon. She dared not complain of pains as he bluntly told her it cannot be painful, that after all, She wasn't a virgin bride.

Probably Because of the rough sex, She got an infection and started Seeing drops of blood after urinating.
When She told him, he told her to get herself cured before he got back from work or else, he'd return her back to where he got her from.
He told her if he gets infected, she'd be in for it. That How won't She get infections when She was always sleeping around.
She was always being harassed and abused and insulted. I won't be surprised he beat her too. A few weeks after wedding, She was already envying single girls.

LaShawn:

Yes. That is why I can relate with others who have been in such situations and when they hear mine, they'd also exclaim about How similar my case was to theirs.

Infant, I saw this with a roomie I had. I could see what happened to me happening to her too. The guy was behaving in a way that was very similar to my ex. Infact, without her confiding in me, I knew the guy was abusive.

I told her my story, hoping she'd pick one or two lessons. Alas, She went ahead with the marriage. She even told us that the love was now very sweet as the guy had gotten a job in an oil company. The guy succeeded in alienating her from her brother who brought her up before the wedding and She was actually supporting the guy over the brother. Suddenly, to her, her brother was up to No good. All Because of a guy She met over the social network.
I was just looking at her, Because after all I've been through, I can't pick a man over my family. My family have been there for twenty something years, loving me and Seeing to my well-being.

Anyways, they got married and from the honeymoon, trouble! Of Course She didn't confide in me. But the person She told told me.

For the honeymoon, they lodged in a beautiful hotel in lag for a few days. This guy would Sleep with her roughly with his huge manhood. At night, in the mornings and he'd also come back for more during his breaks from work, as he was also working during the honeymoon. She dared not complain of pains as he bluntly told her it cannot be painful, that after all, She wasn't a virgin bride


Him being rough eas unexcusable, even if she was a former prostitute. If he wanted a virgin, why did he marry her.
My husband started that way early in the marriage. The description was almost identical. I had to beg him to let my body heal many times throughout the day, not even week. I thought he was ovet excited or impatient. I never understood why he did it.


Probably Because of the rough sex, She got an infection and started Seeing drops of blood after urinating.
When She told him, he told her to get herself cured before he got back from work or else, he'd return her back to where he got her from.
He told her if he gets infected, she'd be in for it. That How won't She get infections when She was always sleeping around.
She was always being harassed and abused and insulted. I won't be surprised he beat her too. A few weeks after wedding, She was already envying single girls.

Mister Dan: I believe your husband has gotten quite bored of the relationship since he had the guts to utter the word FREEdom... I suggest you look for ways to sparkle up the relationship by exercising(if overweight) and dressing se.xy for him to admire.

sheniqua:

I am glad this ended well.
You have a good heart
If you need recipe for some Nigerian dishes please let us know
I will be glad to help

registered:

THATS THE MAN THAT PRESSED HER NECK ALMOST TO DEATH. THIS ABUSED THREAD IS FOR HER. COME OUT AND CONFESS KOFINSKY KO, KOFSI NI. WHERE IS SENSUAL MAN?? https://www.nairaland.com/647069/all-lie

sheniqua: Igbo wife i asked your question somewhere else too with some mature posters,some Igbo in origin
http://www.nigeriancircle.com/forum/showthread.php?650-Having-trouble-understanding-my-Nigerian-Husband&p=5567#post5567
Follow up with what the say there to come to the best solution to this problem

£&nairato&froUK:
if they do it abroad doest dat mean they are not properly??

things change, u have to get wit the times.

i watched a youruba traditional marraige on tv a few weeks ago, a yoruba girl and an english boy.#

the girls parents even gran ma was there and it was a very enjoyable ceremony. all traditions and customs were adhered to. are they not married??

must u risk everbody's life across the ocean to a place wit no road, no electric and no safety?


before u know accident don happen, person don die, dats wat happened to my bestfriend's eldest brother.
dats if kidnapper no catch u first

its not worth the hassle

Keneking: What does the other women have that you don't have? Look for it and come back and update the house.

Ihedinobi: Hi IgboWifeUSA

Glancing at fine women is almost automatic. Following a pretty lady with your eyes is not automatic, that's a choice. And I'm speaking from my experience as a man. We follow with our eyes when we want to imprint a memory. It's a not a nice thing to do when you have a woman and it's even less nice to do it in the presence of your wife, and positively wicked as welk as iddiotic to say, "you're making me uncomfortable, everybody wants freedom" when she confronts you about it.

It's not a Nigerian thing though. And I wouldn't have known how to advise you about it. I'm glad you did something and he responded. It is not good what he did and if he thinks it's normal and you shouldn't be offended, be very clear to him that you are offended by it. And let me be clear in telling you that it is not normal.

However, his response convinces me that he still values you so keep that in mind. If how you behave matters to him, then leverage on it but don't punish him unnecessarily. Just get his attention enough to show him that you don't want to share his sexual attention with random ladies on the street. And listen to what he says or does in response to that.

I wish you well, lady

Ujujoan: @ Poster . . .

I can't decide who is the bigger child between you and your husband!

Phema:

Hell will let loose because he stared? What if he slept with the said woman and even impregnated her? What will your mum do? Pluck out his eyes? Commit suicide? Oh Puhlease! Stop giving yourself high blood pressure cos your man stared at a Woman! You are making mountain out of a molehill. He is a MAN and heterosexual (I assume). If he doesn't stare at a woman, who will he stare at?

And yeah, if i see an extremely-handsome-six pack dude, I stare too! You stare, I stare, God no go vex.

Chanchit:


Actually I knw women that does it cos they would do anything to keep their husband, I knw of women that knw that their husband had xtra marital affair, but because of the way they handled it they are still together with a repented husband. If I asked u to smile if ur feelings permits, its because such smile @ that moment to a right thinking guy means danger, he would knw its time to adjust. The smile would say a lot that 6hours of arguing whaat you saw.

Cykik: But as we all know, it's painfull that after getting married, we get our eyes on young boys or girls old enough to be our sons or daughters. Why can.t they remember the times they said "baby u're the only one for me" and now it's "woman u're the only problem in my life". Gush now i understand why most girls refuse 2 marry bcause in situation like this, u get confused and may even pick out wrong advice thinking it's right and at the end it's jst full of regret. Only God in heaven that knows the right solution to your problem.

Chanchit: I'm not married but I think I should add what I think from a guy's view. Stop complaining about the act, but let him knw you know when he's staring, you can smile a lil' bit if ur feelings permit. It would make him feel guilty but he won't be able to tell you.