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My husband is way too organized to let that happen. If anyone leaves money around it will be me because the baby keeps me busy. But if I wan something, I go straight for the wallet.

I need some advice. I am american and married to a nigerian igbo man. We have two children and have been married three years. He is changing lately and I noticed some behaviors I didnt like so I asked him about them and he got really angry. I told him that I notice he stares at other women and that its not right. Its not a normal stare, because he will look at them for a long time and his head will follow their direction if they are walking. That day I told him that he stopped talking until the next night when i asked him why wont he talk.
He just went off saying How can i make him feel uncomforatble like this, hes confused about what I said, and then stated that everyone needs freedom.
That obviously didnt solve anything and left me with a bigger trust issue.
I was already having thoughts because he has stopped kissing me. We are still active on a regular basis to say theres a newborn, but whats with the starring. It has slowwed down since that day. But I notice that if he wants to stare he will look at the girl briefly, then check if I see him, then look again as I pretend Im not paying him attention to test him out.
I need help with this because I was completely secure up until this point and this marriage is too fresh to be having issues.

queensmith: Actually if we are to be frank thats exactly what it is, it isn't today women have been travelling to England for the full purpose of working to support thier husbands. Women that base thier life choices based on whether the man will cover their every need without them having to contribute are exactly so.
Whether the man is a cleaner or a billionaire is irrelevent since our perception of wealth in this case is relative.
I may not blink twice at the OPs situation, but to your typical village girl he's a goldmine. See what I mean?

Well if that is her attitude, im sure he's wise enough to further examine things before taking the big step of bringing her there. Many of my wise teachers have taught me that Marriage is a Contract, you both should be Able and Willing to bring something to the table, whether its food or money. This is why they say you must take your time to choose a partnert. This decision impacts you for a lifetime.

This is so nice. I cant wait til we finish our first house in Nigeria. Congrats to you

queensmith: sarcasm?



You want to finish the posters life? Am I the only one that sees the girl as a crook?? and people complain about goldiggers yet nobody can recognise one! lol!

Everywoman who thinks this way cant possibly be a goldigger. If originally, parents would pick a wealthy guy who Already has a house and enough money to begin building a family, you are basically calling the parents goldiggers. This did not began with her generation.

Yes theres.. no problem doing it but i was told they give you less naira

Hello I am Chinyere. I am new here and plan on learning as much as i can about Nigeria here. I am american, but now Nigerian by marriage.

Well I am America and I understand what you mean with the taxes, morgage, and fees. Its hard here and people lose their home everyday because to carry rhe nurden can necome too much.
I noticed you said she is still there, well so is my husband. He too has never left. I have thought of money topics but we only discuss what we plan to do. We never emphasize HIS money or MY money because we are one and must share everything.

Your wife is old fashioned and theres nothing wrong with that. She is following what her parrnts have taught her. Just allow her to come and see how things are and it will automatically show her that you must work together to build a home. Dont panic for now, you two are just expressing your opinions right now.

I am travelingnto 9JA again and this time I need to know when and where to exchange my money. I am woried about exchanging money there because friends of mine were robbed the same night they collected their money. Are people really watching you that closely?