₦airaland Forum

Jupxter:
Time to put on my bad boy mojo back. They can ease off for all i care...Old sheriff is back in town

LOL.

Jupxter:
I've gotta imbibe more of your skills. Never apologise. Never say sorry, Never say please. Maintain high brilliance. Cool

kinda like being a douchebad. no what they say about women liking bad boys?

shaybebaby:
I may do that but it in no way gives me an understanding of your perspective. So hope you indulge me when you are feeling less tired.

I will.

shaybebaby:
Do enlighten me..

google it. too tired to go into that.

shaybebaby:
Still doesn't equate to sight. The brain processes information from those other senses differently. Yes they can compensate but never can they replace.

ever heard of 'third eye'?

shaybebaby:
Interesting.. Elucidate.

do you know when you lose you sense of sight, your other senses heighten?

shaybebaby:
True, but someone with eyes shut willfully sees nothing at all.

Sometimes the only way to see is to be blind. hope you know some blind people see more than those who ain't blind?

shaybebaby:
Suit yourself, I made my diagnosis. None as blind as those who refuse to see.

people can't always see what you see. I mean, who else can see with your own eyes, eh?

WrathOfHadez:
Simple logic. Even western laws frown at indecent exposure and nudity.

These girls don’t just know what the sight of a nakèd firm female flesh does to a healthy male.

How can they? when all they see is their narrow mindedness.

i'm no longer surprise why many of this set of women are celebrated spinsters. imagine the number of sex stores growing in Nigeria.

why tempt a sleeping hyena?

WrathOfHadez:
we’re in the era of nudity; the worst time to be a healthy man.

I personally call it, the era of testosterone stretch

sentiment flying left, right and centre. I wonder why some women can't seem to get it into their thick skull that the more you dress nude, the likely for you to get raped. like why plunge yourself into the lion's den? perhaps they forget there's only one Daniel.

let's ask ourselves how many times we hear about moslem girls and reverend sisters being raped.

nothing can justify rape, bro. but any girl who dresses almost nude and gets raped should have a rethink.

Tozara:
[color=#000050]Should we blame rich people who go about town building mansions, wearing designer dresses, displaying their rolex for all to see, driving the latest cars, when animals kill them to make away with their wealth and property? Should we advise them to live like paupers because there are predators and lazy bastards around who would be tempted to hurt and rob them? Should we blame them for flaunting their wealth? Are THEY the problem, or are the animals who chose to attack and steal from them? "Prevention is better than cure", yeah? Because poor people who have nothing to flaunt don't get robbed of the little they have? Because the most cautious of men do not fall victim of misfortune, courtesy of the beastliness and wickedness of the baboons in human skin that litter the streets?

Blaming the victim is justifying the crime and wickedness of the aggressor/predator![/color]

Course we do. who else would we blame. like if they didn't flaunt their wealth would they have been robbed/killed/maimed?

TSOM:
What the...?!

Hands up. You win. I'm daring but not that daring.

come on now. they don't bite. a simple compliment lightens their mood. lol.

Daeylar:
I will never accept victim blaming in any way or form

A woman's dressing will never ever be an excuse for rape.

Instead of trying to create a society where people know, men know, that no matter how a woman dresses the thought of sexually harrasing her is not acceptable not to talk about carrying it out, we would rather tell women to cover up, to protect herself from predators??
Tacitly passing a message that if you dress in a certain way, you are inviting rape, tacitly telling rapists that they have an excuse, never ever acceptable,

Kids are raped, Muslim women covered head to toe are raped, well dressed women are raped, as we have seen countless times the problem is not the clothes,
So that dress well bullshīt is DOA.

The problem is the animals that are raping people, our solution should bother on how to get rid of the animals, and maybe teach the younger generation better values so that they know, no matter what was worn, rape is never acceptable, not to start attacking victims

Victim blaming culture is wrong.

victim blaming indeed. when will you ever learn you can't force people to think/reason like you. or have you forgotten "Prevention is better than cure"?

TSOM:
True. Except she sexually objectifies herself like a lot of females do now on and off Nairaland - dressing deliberately provokingly and uploading pictures to focus on their butts and boobs - I guess she hasn't given passive consent or invitations to be treated as a plaything.

If you dress like a whöre, you forfeited the right to be treated like a duchess. She can't claim sexual harassment but rape is a not an option.

some females still say it's their God given right to dress they way they see fit, be them going almost nude_ or nude_ without guys harassing them.

For me, I've come to the conclusion that most female are sexually attractive, and i'll approach them like that. it's left for them to accept or decline. be them dressing like a whore_ or a saint. it doesn't matter.

I once made a sexual overture to a reverend sister and she blushed. now this is someone who wasn't dressed scantily, though her boobs, curves and hips hug and cloth very well, it made my imagination come alive with lewd thoughts...

Jupxter:
Tushe. You've spoken well. On point

Okey dokey.

Daeylar:
They love presenting this argument but don't see where it shows men as weak or unable to control themselves,

But the moment women use it against them and call them weak, they at up in arms


Even if a woman is naked does not give anyone the right to rape her.

So true. I agree wholeheartedly. but what do you call a person who goes swimming in crocodile infested water?

it's the same with women who dress scantily, like why attract predators to yourself when you know you're not physically/mentally fit to wade them off.

TSOM:
Well, why every woman sort of uses sexual appeal as a requisite for reiterating her feminity, some women do not want to be regarded as just sexual objects or judged with the sensuality they supposedly exude.

When you repeatedly sexualize them, in essence , you are saying "Your boobs and bum are the only things about you I find interesting; not your intelligence or intuition or your kindness and stoic character. Just your boobs and bum, nothing more."

exactly, Kay. something must attract you in a woman, be it her ass, boobs, curves, facial feature etc.

let's be sincere here a bit, for most male, body features are among the first things that attracts them in a woman. intelligence and others things comes later.

I still believe it's left for females to prove there's more to them than just boobs, ass, hips and the likes. most male react to what they see in females. if it's not her facial features, then it's her body feature, that's the way I see it.

pocohantas:
I would only consider the use of force to have sex as rape, this force includes using drugs on the victim.

The women who traded sex for jobs and favours, have no case to me. I'll call that sexual harrassment, but when she gives in, I don't count it as rape.

first time you're making sense. who say "change isn't constant"?

still I disagree. use of force doesn't necessarily come into it. for me, if believe if a girl say no, her no is no. cajoling and manipulating her literally translate to taking advantage of her/raping her.

Even if she's given consent, and you're pumping her, as soon as she say stop, and you didn't stop, you're raping her. That's just the way I see it.

so, with things like this, I believe it's best we go with what the law say.

TSOM:
If she replies with "LOL", " You're such a flirt", "You're so good with words you can make any woman swoon" or something in that region, she's tacitly given you consent actively or passively. Then it isn't sexual harassment.

But if she replies with "Leave me alone", " I am not interested" or she ignores you and, still, you continue making sexually suggestive comments about her , you are sexually harassing her.

A lot of Nairaland males are guilty of the second. The blunt truth of it.

Okay. regarding the second point, I'm guilty as charged. but only one female i've made such remark on and she rebuffed me, MizMyColi.

but still, if it's as you say, one can't make a remark about a lady without being accused of sexually harassing her. like a lady have a big butt, and you compliment her, she rebuffed you... I mean, you're saying the truth for pete's sake.

sometimes it's never easy with women. like it's never easy at all.

TSOM:
If you make sensually suggestive comments at or about a female who isn't into you or isn't edging you on actively or passively, you are sexually harassing her.

A lot of male Nairalanders are guilty of this. A female comments and the next is, " You look beautiful. You would be sweet in bed o. I'll fûck you till you cûm..." Such perversion.

The sad thing is, female Nairalanders ( Romancelanders, especially) revel in this and later complain about being regard as nothing more than sexual objects.

Jesus! so you're saying I and Lezz have been sexually harassing ladies here? wow!

FTrebirth:
but is nnamdi kanu mentally sound to be a leader? i listen to that guy at times and he sounds like he's lost it somewhere.

life in prison can do that to a man.