₦airaland Forum

ucee64:
Baba thank God say you don break up with the girl. In your next relationship make sure you find someone that will give you peace of mind, you see this peace of mind don't joke with it. I don't know why majority of Nigerian girls are like that.infact thunder go still fire that your babe she dey vex say you dey spend on your own family oo no be which craft be that. See brother man she still return when her eyes go clear but never accept her back that's a big red flag unless you want your family to be a war zone.

I really appreciate brother man

chatinent:
No, I don't think your speech with him was wrong.


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Since you went to school, here are my suggestions for both of you:

The digital world is your oyster, ripe for the taking. You can begin e-jobs. I don't know what you studied but find sth within it that can be sold as a service online. If you can't think of anything, start thinking of being a freelance writer of what you studied. (If you think you can do this very well, let's talk).

Your supposed brother's pursuit of paper qualifications in Nigeria at his/this age now, without the necessary financial resources, is akin to a ship sailing in a stormy sea without a compass. It is a recipe for disaster that will leave him stranded on the shores of ignorance. How delightful it would be to offer a digital proficiency that doesn't necessitate his presence. I'll suggest logo designs, wedding card making, other designs, PPT presentations and those beginner designs. It'd be helpful. If he says he can't, make sure he believes that he can. You can learn these on YouTube...you only need to search.

You can get your clients by running paid adverts on social networks you feel your clients are dominated or present. You can run adverts on Facebook with even ₦2000...and it converts.


And if you are consistent, you and him could be earning some ₦50k to ₦200k monthly as a beginner.

Lastly, if you are honest to your clients and remove the urge to scam, you'll get more clients.

Impossibility is nothing. The unattainable is but a mere illusion, a fleeting shadow that dissipates with the light of determination.

how can i contact you

frozen70:
The only lesson I want you to learn here is, stop telling her what favours you did for your family and family members, I don't know why she finds that uncomfortable

On the issues of monthly allowance, you have actually given her the impression that you are making money

Well don't give her that money yet, let her keep releasing all she has to release in the name of character and attitude
That will help you to understand her very well

Use that as a test on her loyalty

actually I met her through my sister and she more close to my family and she get the information from my people l, honestly sometimes she will be the one to ask and nothing else I can do but to open up to her.
Her family and my family has been a familiar friend.
Infact. My mother and her mother does the Same business

SenatePresdo:
She's lying

She knows that she can't force you, so she somewhat brings in idea of following another man so that she can get you on your toes.

Well it depends on the way you relate with her, a girl should not at any point in time make it look like she's doing you a favor by dating you, it's disrespect.
This same girl now, if you tell her you have found another girl that's contended with you, she will run mad.

Anytime you make a girl feel like she can't lose you, it will automatically reduce your worth to her.
Anytime she tells you that, don't be weak, just tell her to go and meet those men and call it quit with you.

I appreciate. At least you kind with your words unlike others

Blue86:
I will talk to you like someone that needs help.
So bear with my manner of telling you the right thing.

What's the business of your three year distance relationship romantic girl with your family members?

She is not even your wife.
She is just a gal friend.

And you are yapping about your personal biz to her like that.
Are you well?

She is not even wise to be telling her things to get counsel from.
All she can come about Is that she needs a share out of your dough.

Enough stories are here to make you wise, Mr three year distant relationship.

Will you end the relationship.
Focus on God, and let him guide you on how to deal with your life.

Not because you hold cash now mean say you wise.
A lot of cash people wey Dem don kill, and another chop dia money.

Focus on God, and let him lead you.


See how d gal dey manipulate you.

thanks for the harsh criticism and it really made me have a recalled and I’m making some amendments

benqo01:
U sure say u still get babe Abi na babe wey dey do things like witchcraft? Haba how u go dey do something for ur famz u go tell her as in why?

DAT in d first place self whatever u do for ur famz is between u and Dem nothing concern her.

This her attitude self ehn if u continue am she go make u abandon ur famz,u go even regret am

Seriously am yet to see a man complain when a girlfriend or wife does something for her own people why is d case of women different?

Anyways find way discharge her.....

she is just a close chapter now

FREDCLSSICO7:
hope you won't regret it
bkos she dun dey already display some red flags for you to see
"If it's ur family you will rush and send it" you see this statement alone na very strong word o
she want come first or want you to place her above ur family
na her type go later marry no go allow family relatives step foot for husband house
call a meeting btw the two family let them know what you won't tolerate from ur wife to be if she is not willing to adjust or change her way then you'll be forced to let her go
bkos every man dream is to marry a supportive wife not a liability

I just clear her yesterday that I want a woman that will give me peace of mind, she can try another man

FREDCLSSICO7:
what he mean is that the babe get boyfriend during na longtime relationship and the guy dey nack her steadily without giving her a dime instead she dey collect money from you take dey sustain and give the guy for upkeeps
she keeps you for the money and spendings
she keeps the guy for the nacking and flirting
those times she no pick ur calls she dey the guy house dey collect wotowoto
and any time she tell you say she dey go vigil na the guy house she dey go and if you call and the guy ask her who call she fit say na one fat pot belly mugu dey disturb her life
you better breakup with this kind of girl because she don't have anything meaningful to add to ur life except tears and sorrow
her type plenty for nairaland here very lazy b!tch with entitlements

I concur, thanks brother

FREDCLSSICO7:
love dun shark ur head by then na
you no go want hear

cumoverna:
Long distance kill you there, can you bet your balls that this girl never de collect?

On the matter at hand, place ur mom first on salary, the way God go open doors for you ehn.

brother man you no get joy

Smartguyboy:
You have to choose between your family or her because one have to go if you marry her .

honestly but it’s already too late for her

Bea12345:
S+h-ut up and credit her aza with 100k right now or do you want to loose the air that you breathe?

nice one

Bea12345:
Before don't you know that she's doing you a favor by dating you? C'mon you can do better dude. I am a guy but I will tell you the truth, Fine girls are supposed to be on monthly daily salary by there partner for life

Other guys wouldn't hesitate to spend on your gal if they were in your shoes. Are you okay

Show your woman that you love and appreciate her. Let her know that she is the next best thing after slice bread (even better than your mama)

You can start by placing her on a meager 100k weekly salary, else you loose that precious diamond who can't even be compared to your mama.

Show her that you truly love her. Women deserve to be pampered dude. Make her the sole signatory to all your accounts and will whatever property you have to her.


Start by doing all these and see how she will love you heavily and in turn open her legs so you can at least sniff her chocolate dripping panties ☺️

you are not okay

advanceDNA:
Women dont like when u spend your own money on your own folks?? ...bros na devlish woman be that....
the way u dey talk seff.... u sound like u have one of them at home frustrating your life and u have to dance to her tune to have small peace

i wished I can write and pour all my experience with her here. She is just a sadist

Blackskinman007:
I broke up with my babe this morning because of something similar to this...
I no get time for shiii
Many fishes in the river.

I thought I was alone in this. I clear her eyes today

SenatePresdo:
99% of girls believe a man is the provider, especially when she knows you are her main man.

My cousin's wife earns over 800k per month, but she dey pressure the guy for money no be here oh, because the guy is richer than her.

Most girls are not logical, they reason like kids.. we see them as companion, but they see us as zaddy .

Just be doing the ones you can do, she can complain if she wants.
But breaking up with her over such trivial issue is out of it, unless they are other part of her you don't like.

i hate the fact that she believes that it’s a favor to me for Dating her always remembering me how other men are ready to spend on her

akube34:
let her use ogun and swear say person no Dey knack am where she Dey

it’s waste of time because I already block her out of my life

Na u go leave women, till you tire.

Since u cannot keep ur mouth shut.

Must you kiss and tell. @ she is close to my family so she get more of the information from them

theophorus:
3years long distance relationship ke?

Are you sure you are not dating Yourself?

She so much like you, till the point of wanting to be placed on Salary abi?

Continue ooo, very soon she will be on daily wages.

i week honestly

Kasdat5:
I think your mouth too has put you in that position , must you tell her all your financial obligations ??
Marriage with that babe go just turn you ur once peaceful family to Russia / Ukraine.

honestly i wished someone clear me on that earlier

advanceDNA:
Another nigga is offing pant...baba dey pay salary

I know people like you will add more pains to the injury

viceddy95:
Young man,don’t tell her you don’t have money,tell her you can’t place her on salary , watch her response and leave that entitled girl and go look for wife material to marry even though they are scarce…
Believe me if you marry that girl,you will have problems with your family……

And I can wholeheartedly tell you she has another boyfriend in her place of residence,since you guys are in long distance relationship….

you are spiritual man. She vent all out all the abusive words in her mouth when I told her that I’m not mad to place her on salary

Flora2Sweet:
Long distance relationship😂😂😂😂😂😂

If i tell u Now 😂😂😂

please don’t add more pains to it

Waffarianman:
Wahala wahala wahala everywhere discharged that Ashi no time to waste

Already done that

advanceDNA:
I gats mention u the second time....

Ditch that babe very fast... i beg you....No be only entitlement mentality be the issue ooo....na witchcraft u dey date sooo...

But I know say ur pricķ no go gree make u break up....

thanks brother

Nice2023:
Instead of placing that girl on a weekly salary,u had better place ur mum and dad on a special weekly salary.

Guy,if u do this for ur parents,u will see how their blessing over u would increase but if for this soakway digger,it would amount to a waste.

Don't start what u can't finish honestly.

Any woman that hears what u do for ur family members and gets angry over it just because she wants u prioritise over others,then u need to be very careful.

it’s really pains me and to be honest with you brother, I have really invested so much in this girl

Dangrace01:
Consider yourself a dead man if you continue with dat relationship

blood of Jesus.

faith2kool:
Don't marry her, she is already having entitlement mentality. Marrying her going scatter your family

seriously this worries me so much

advanceDNA:
Ditch that babe fast...
That one no be wife oooo
Na enemy of ur life be that

thanks

Olasyke:
Nah, you shouldn't end it.
Place her on a salary. She deserves it. 🤡 🤡 🤡 🤡

long distance, 3 year old relationship. 🤡 🤡

you last comment confused me honestly. Please give a brother a honest advice

Some girls get mind sha.
I have to bring this issue here because I need to hear more people opinion.
We having been dating for three years now and our relationship is basically a long distance as we are not even close but we communicate more.
As the first son she knew that I always carry my family matter for head, and I always make sure that I do my best for my family financially but the issue is that she is always comparing my spending on my family and the little I was able to do for her.
This year after purchasing a bus for my brother for transportation and informed her about it and honestly from her response I know that she is not happy.
By April ending this year she demanded that she need 50k because she wanted to travel and meet her family at Lagos and I told that I will give her the money next month been this May but something comes up and I was unable to fulfill the promise.
Ever since than I have received all kind of words from her.
In her words. “ if it’s your family you will have rush and send the money to them”
So last night she made a suggestion that if I don’t want her to be disturbing me about anything that I should place her on weekly salary.
Note: the girl in question is working for her sister’s husband and she is getting paid but because I have already made it known to her family that we are getting married she now assumes that I’m her responsibility and this worries me so much.
I’m honestly thinking of ending everything right now and I hope that I’m doing the right thing

burp18:
I asked you a really simple question. LP won 10 states and ulled votes from various parts of the country. Same LP party managed to win just one state when the guber elections were conducted. Isn't that a pointer that they rigged their way in? Where are the people that voted LP and helped them win the 10 states? Did they just suddenly die?

people voted Peter obbi and not party