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superintendents:


I understand now, you can do better with/without them..

superintendents:
then how do you do about this 3 particular things?

Most important light and water?

PrinceDoctor:
We stoop to conquer

A submissive wife holds the true power in a family. When God created everything, He endowed each creature with the ability to defend itself.

Did you know that a zebra's kick can kill a lion? If a zebra stands its ground, faces a lion, and kicks it, that single blow can be fatal. The same goes for buffalo.

However, these animals often choose to run from lions, unaware of the incredible power they possess. The moment the lion catches them by the neck, they submit to their fate, not realizing their own strength.

In a similar vein, women often fail to recognize the immense power they hold when they embrace their femininity. Many women today are fixated on competing with men, striving for equality, and forgetting the quiet power that comes from their feminine energy.

There are things I do now that, if you had told me I would do them last year, I would have been in disbelief. My partner has subtly influenced me to act in ways I never thought possible, without even directly asking.

I do these things and then wonder how it happened. I pray that the men I mentor about being alpha males never find out, as it would seem as though I've become a "SIMP," unfit to lead them.

When a man marries a respectful and non-confrontational woman who does not diminish his masculinity or challenge his alpha traits, he will naturally let go of the defensive mechanisms he once used to guard against being controlled or disrespected.

Think about Delilah: if she had approached Samson with an aggressive or "iron-willed" attitude, would she have succeeded in bringing him down?

Absolutely not. Samson was a warrior, and any direct confrontation would have failed. The same applies to Solomon. If his wives had attempted to outwit him with logic or wisdom, they would have failed, as Solomon was renowned for his wisdom. Instead, these women employed their feminine energy to influence these great men.

If Solomon, one of the wisest men in history, could turn away from God to worship other deities under the influence of his wives’ feminine energy, it speaks volumes about its power.

This is how it works. You may be having an argument with your wife, feeling frustrated and ready to lash out. But before you can fully express your anger, she apologizes, diffusing the situation instantly. You are left without an outlet for your frustration, and the anger dissipates.

Or perhaps you tell her to be quiet during a conversation, and she obediently complies without protest. When you finish speaking and ask her why she isn’t responding, she calmly reminds you that you asked her to stay silent.

Suddenly, the tension vanishes, and you may even find yourself laughing at how respectful and compliant she was, despite your harsh command.

This is the essence of feminine energy: it disarms masculine aggression and creates harmony.

There is nothing stronger than feminine energy. It can soften even the toughest, hardest men, rendering them gentle and peaceful.

The only scenario in which a man can truly claim to be the head of the household is when he is married to a nagging wife. In this situation, the man knows that he has married a woman who behaves like another man.

As the saying goes, "two captains cannot steer the same ship." Thus, this man constantly asserts his dominance, reminding his wife that he is the head of the household.

He remains perpetually in his masculine energy, ready to suppress her disrespect and disloyalty, always prepared for a power struggle.

He may stay out late deliberately, returning home at 11 p.m. When his wife questions his tardiness, he responds angrily, “Why are you asking me? Am I not the man of this house? Is this not my house? Don’t I pay the rent?” They will argue, and he will assert his position as the "man of the house."

He will cheat and justify it by saying, “I am the man of the house.” In truth, the only family where the man is the head is the one where the wife refuses to be a wise and soft queen but insists on competing for kingship.

As I said earlier, a submissive wife is the true head of the family. Why? Because the respect she shows her husband causes him to protect and cherish it.

He will do whatever it takes to maintain that respect. When his friends invite him out after work, he will decline and head home.

Why? Because he enjoys the peace and companionship of his wife more than a night out with friends, where temptation might lead him astray and ruin the trust and respect between him and his wife.

Whenever his wife is upset, he will do whatever it takes to cheer her up. If she needs something, he will provide it, even if it means borrowing money.

Her happiness is tied to his sense of peace, and he will go to great lengths to preserve that balance. Anger can make a woman act irrationally, leading to the loss of respect, and for a man, losing respect is worse than losing affection.

In a family, the man is like the head, but the submissive woman is the neck. You cannot turn the head without turning the neck.

When a woman is submissive, the man becomes a ceremonial figurehead—the real power lies with the woman, and whatever she desires, she receives.

For example, let’s say your younger sister visits and, after a week, still hasn't contributed to the household chores.

One day, you come home from work, and although your wife greets you with a hug, she seems unusually sad. She serves your dinner and retreats to another room, her face turned away, silent and upset.

Sensing something is wrong, you ask her repeatedly what’s bothering her until she finally confides, “When is your sister leaving? She hasn’t lifted a finger since she arrived. She watches TV all day, and I don’t want it to seem like I’m pushing her out.”

With that, the message is clear, and you immediately tell your sister to either contribute in chores or leave. Why? Because you don’t want to lose the respect your wife holds for you.

Many people today believe that our mothers settled for less or didn’t know what they were doing. On the contrary, it’s the new generation of women who are not as wise as the women of old.

Our mothers understood the power of feminine energy, and they wielded it effectively, often without us realizing it. This energy, while gentle, is manipulative in its ability to get men to do anything.

Even today, some mothers try to use the same tactics on their sons’ marriages. A mother might remind her son of how she carried him for nine months and raised him, all in an attempt to control his decisions.

The women of old knew how to use their feminine power to subtly influence the men in their lives. They weren’t foolish for recognizing its strength.

It's the modern women who are missing out, blind to the power they have. Instead, they try to compete with men, adopting masculine energy and, in doing so, inadvertently diminish the potential influence they could have had.

This desire to project masculine energy leads men to ask, "What do you bring to the table?"—a question that never existed before.

Back then, a woman worked only if she wanted to. Today, men expect women to hustle and contribute financially, all because they are bringing masculine energy to the relationship just like a man.

If a woman chooses to embody masculine traits, she should be prepared for war. Men are built for conflict, and when confronted with masculinity in a woman, they will respond in kind, ready to prove their dominance.

However, when a woman taps into her feminine energy, men become calm, protective, and eager to guard her. This is why you’ll often see a strong, tough man dating a small, gentle woman.

He’s not looking for someone to match his strength; he’s seeking feminine energy, which brings respect and loyalty.

Many modern women mistake this dynamic for control, believing that a man wants a submissive woman just to dominate her as his slave.

They don’t realize that by embracing their femininity, they actually gain control over the man. He will worship her, and their marriage will endure far longer than those women trying to be "kings" like King Tonto Dikeh.

Where is King Tonto’s marriage today? Her future marriages will still end the same way except she switches to feminine energy. Even Blessing CEO confessed that she knows better now.

There was a day I went to buy fuel. The queue was long, filled with angry, muscular men (because the price of fuel has gone up) and some beautiful women.

Out of nowhere, a woman appeared, greeting everyone, “Good evening, brother. Good evening, sister.” She greeted the entire line and then humbly asked if she could buy fuel ahead of us because she was in a hurry.

Though there were other beautiful women in line, all the men let her go ahead. Only one man objected, but she had already won over 99% of us.

She bought her fuel, and even the men in line rebuked the one who refused her request. When she returned, she thanked him as well, showing grace even in the face of resistance.

I watched in awe as she used her feminine energy to win over a group of men and women. Meanwhile, the other pretty women in line complained,

“We’re women too! Why haven’t we been allowed to buy?” The men simply laughed and told them, “Not all women are the same.” This is the power of feminine energy.

If more women understood this power, they wouldn’t waste time trying to be "kings" like Tonto. When I see a woman with “king” in her title, I immediately know she doesn’t understand the power of being a queen. Even on a chessboard, the queen is the true powerhouse.

For so many years, one of the most powerful figures in the world was a queen—Queen Elizabeth. She commanded armies filled with strong men, and her empire colonized vast territories around the world.

A woman doesn't understand the power she holds when she fully embraces her feminine energy, and that’s why she finds herself competing with men.

Feminists, on a mission to dismantle marriages and relationships, preach equality, but in truth, there is no equality—you already hold the upper hand through your feminine energy.

If you truly knew the power of a queen, you wouldn’t waste time competing with a man or flaunting your intellect in debates. You certainly wouldn’t bother with titles like "King" to prove your strength.

Do you see? You have the power! When a submissive woman commands her husband, it may look like witchcraft, but it’s not. It’s simply the man responding to the pull of feminine energy.

This isn’t magic. It’s a man protecting his respect. Disrespect a man, and you bruise his ego—he’ll retaliate, often harshly, to prove his worth. But with feminine energy, you eliminate the need for conflict and violence.

Want to spice up the dynamic? Throw in a bit of playful stubbornness, then revert to your true feminine self. He’ll swoop you up from the kitchen and carry you to the bedroom, eager to remind you who’s boss in a loving way, you know what I mean. #Smile.

With feminine energy, he will confide in you about everything or most things. When a decision looms, you’ll be the first to know because he trusts your judgment, believing in the wisdom of your feminine insight. Even if he ends up not accepting your suggestion, at least he told you about it.

He might even tell his friends, “Let me ask my wife first,” leaving them baffled by his devotion. What they don’t understand is that he’s the king, but his queen’s opinion is invaluable.

I reiterate: in a household where the woman is submissive, she is the true head, even if the man appears to lead.

This kind of family will thrive because the woman’s gentle influence keeps everything balanced. But if you insist on asserting masculine energy, the marriage will falter, just like the beautiful King Tonto Dikeh’s own did because she wants to lead with masculine traits as if she's a man.

On the other hand, look at 2Baba’s wife, Annie Idibia—she isn't as beautiful as Tonto, but hers worked out. Annie understands the power of feminine energy, and 2Face cannot bear to lose the love and respect she has nurtured within their relationship for years despite him having access to lots of more beautiful and rich women.

This difference in approach tells you everything. The power does not lie in competing with men or proving oneself as their equal in strength. The power lies in understanding the potent influence of femininity, in being a queen rather than attempting to be a king.

In conclusion, the only home where the man is truly the head of the household is where he has married a nagging wife.

In homes where the woman is submissive, she is the true leader. The man may believe he holds the reins, but it is the woman’s quiet strength that keeps the family together.

Women, if you wish to have a lasting marriage and a happy home,

1. Look for a man that loves you (or at least likes or admires you and you do too).
2. And embrace your feminine energy.

Compete with your husband by trying to be more masculine, and you may see your marriage falter like King Tonto.

Take a lesson from the failed relationships of those who insisted on being "kings instead of queens." The real power lies in being a queen.

Vergovert:
The video makes sense.

Holluwhakemmy:
You are dreaming of be like him abi? Just wake up from your slumber you can never be like him.

Holluwhakemmy:
You are not relevant like him just keep quiet.

superintendents:


Hilarious

ogashman:
Lol...we don't know who to believe between u and ileg.end. He is for checking, u re for not checking

Holluwhakemmy:
This man started as a noise maker now ended greater by catching out from different people

Ybholy:
These people are being sponsored by top men in the politics to distract the public attention from the reality

DaddyCash:
Why do you hate women so?

frugal:
All these plenty shalaye over a girl? Interesting!

floss:
You’re good with understanding women, first time seeing a long post that isn’t news that caught my attention…
If you channel this your skill in the positive way you might go far as a relationship/marriage counsellor

Ebubu:
iLeg.endd well done baba

Please reply this my post


This girl started listening to other men after I told her we might not marry, I warned her she will regret it she persisted and until in the end, one guy who got her number from group chat toasted her and she accepted and ended our relationship and went with him. Eventually he wasn't treating her well so she comes to me for consolation and I take advantage of it to sleep with her and give her money once in a while.

Eventually I travelled and she slept with another man because I wasn't around for consolation nacks because she was regretting and can't come back either because she feels I'll only use and dump her.

I eventually got tired of her not staying in one place and blocked her. I unblocked her some months later and she keeps sending me her memorial pictures such as sign out from university, induction pics. She came to my town for her sister's burial and told me she's in town without directly asking us to see, she probably hoped I would offer for us to hang out after months of no seeing, but I didn't give the offer, so in the end she spent her stay here and left without seeing me. She also send me picture of her appointment letter at one job like that some one month after. I congratulated her, ever since then she hasn't been chatting me up again..

What do you think? I think she has gotten the message and moved on. She wanted to use me as bestie without sex but I don't like that role which she introduced after she left that guy who was maltreating her and went for a richer guy while I blocked her.

sholikay:
Nice one boss ILEGENDD..

But that last paragraph is confusing..

How does a man convince to date a lady with him telling her he is already taken...the mentioning of being single is what may cause a woman to accept your toasting..unless if it's the lady that's toasting you...

First and foremost, wise men do not invest their emotions deeply in relationships or marriages. Their primary roles are to provide, discipline, and protect, not to fall in love or invest emotions—that one is reserved for weak men.

For wise men, everything else is merely a façade they maintain until the inevitable crash. When that moment arrives, they simply laugh and say, "I saw this coming and was already prepared. I can't be caught off guard."

If you catch her cheating, end the relationship. However, if you are particularly attached to the sexual aspect, still break up but in a more amicable manner.

This way, she can remain a casual fling or "friends with benefits." When your desires get the better of you, you can call her to spend the night.

If she catches you cheating, break up with her as well. Why? Because her revenge could be much worse. Women are revengeful—they don't forgive. They'll pay back in one way or another even in 20 years time.

Just don't beg her for forgiveness. It'll make you look weak, yet she'll still deal with you, making you raise another man's child or bringing infection into the house as punishment. Also, you're entitled to multiple wives like Ned Nwoko (just make money), so don't dare apologize — end it instead and save yourself some tears and pains.

She may even lash out violently (you might end up stabbing her in self-defense, or she could attack you), and this could lead to jail or hospitalization. Believing that she has forgiven you, only to find out she hasn't, might have disastrous consequences.

So, regardless of who cheats, as soon as cheating is involved, break up. Failing to do so will only bring regret later.

Now, starting a new relationship: Even if you're single, particularly if you're wealthy, always tell a woman that you are already in a relationship.

Why? Women are often drawn to men who are "taken"—it increases your perceived value. Moreover, many enjoy the thrill of "stealing" another woman's man, whether he's rich or simply possesses those traits they find appealing.

There's another advantage to this approach. If you're financially well-off, women might be content with the idea of being your "side chick," without realizing they are actually the main one. "Stolen fruit" often tastes sweeter.

You can even tell her not to call you during certain hours, claiming that your girlfriend might find out, all while you're actually enjoying your free time at home without interruptions.

Additionally, after telling her you’re taken, if she initially refuses to get involved, continue to be kind and persistent for about a month. If she eventually gives in, this means she can be swayed by a determined man, so proceed with caution—she may be the type to cheat.

On the other hand, if she consistently declines your advances, citing your "relationship" as the reason, you’ll know she has integrity. At that point, it’s safe to reveal that you’re actually single and just wanted to test her character. Either way, you come out on top.

In summary, if you cheat and she finds out, leave. If you catch her cheating, break it off but keep her as a casual partner if you wish.

When meeting a new woman, always claim you’re taken—especially if you’re single. Women are attracted to what they perceive as valuable, and what is seemingly unavailable often becomes more desirable.

TOPCRUISE:
I hope she won't turn to another thing when she get belle

purples25:
Sometimes it's that, sometimes it's also insecurity or fears that simply won't allow the men to go the loving and fair way. But men should be working on healing themselves, rather than devising harmful means of handling women.

But most guys prefer violence or revenge.

IamSainted:
A different angle towards rationalising your monopolizing act.
The girl is fine with feminine curve.
I hope she doesn't subscribe to any feminist ideas.

illicit:
U did not mention the camel toe

BigDickProblems:
I nor get your time. Grow up…..your posts are becoming stale. It used to be quality, now it’s trashy quantity. JSYK sha.

Bmaster:
iLegendd,of what essence do you advertise someone that can't be Reached?
She does the video and watched 8t herself before posting it on her page,if she ain't comfortable with the video would she have posted it !
Now you that blurred her name,what is your own?
Are you an enemy of progress ?

CodeTemplarr:
Life is not a movie OP.

Chance are that you will want to have xhildren and educate them. Those are everyday stuff that will shatter all these songs of solomon dramatisation.

For your children, everyday is christmas, but for oga n madam, it is christmas eve.