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TonyeBarcanista:
That the Bible says a man and a woman become one flesh in marriage is not synonymous to a wife becoming more valuable than the mother of her husband. There is NO record of such Biblically. In fact, the Bible continuously commanded men to always be subjected to their parents so that their days will be long.

The wife is the flesh of the man NOT the mother of the man. She is the Daughter in-law to the man's mother not the godmother of the man. She is lower in status to the mother of the man, it doesn't mean she isn't loved. But we should recognize hierarchy

The Bible says that where it said that a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. There was no other mention of a man being attached to his mum after he gets married.

TonyeBarcanista:
I know my mom, she stood with my Dad even in worst poverty and when he was sick. She is still standing by him because she is a lovely wife.

But you know what, before (and even when she came into the life of my father), my father's mom never ceased from laying her life for him. Suffering for his sake and giving her all to see him happy. Furthermore, she is one woman that he knew will never let him down even in his worst. Yes, my mom proved she could do likewise and earned her due place but not above my father's mother. My Father's mother and my father so loved my mom that my mom became most endeared to her mother in-law more than my father.

My mom was upgraded to the status occupied by my father's mother upon her demise at age 89 and so far she remains the most important person in my father's life.

I believe women should respect hierarchy and understand that there was a mother before they came into the picture.

As a man, I will ALWAYS trust and adore my mother more than ANY woman in the world. That doesn't mean I won't adore my wife but never above my mom. NEVER

It is even against the Bible. You are supposed to be one with your wife. It is just that a lot of men do not see their wives as part of them. They see her as a stranger.

So they tend to relegate their wives and magnify their mothers instead.

Well i was told that i have become my husband's mother. Your orientation might be different

TonyeBarcanista:
NO NO NO!

My mother comes FIRST over any woman, be it my girlfriend, babymama or wife.

She's the only woman I have ABSOLUTE trust in, the only woman that will have my back even when I'm poor, bedridden or handicapped (god forbid though).

My mum took care of my dad for 7years when he was ill...not his mother.

You think it is your mum that will do that. She doesn't have her own husband and you don't have your wife?

My mum took care of my dad for 7years when he was ill...not his mother.