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Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by Nobody: 8:29pm On May 21, 2018 |
Elder001:Well said bro My mom always stood by me and will always stay by me. The only person that believes in me always. The only woman that will always make me laugh when I am sad or down The only one that will always provide a shoulder to cry on Some ladies can do all these, but they are extremely rare. Thus, I will stick with my mom any day, anytime. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by khiaa(f): 8:44pm On May 21, 2018 |
EzendiEgo1: My father is deceased. There is a different kind of love for a spouse than the love of a parent. The love for a spouse can be greater than the love for a parent, it depends on the parents and the spouse. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by Nobody: 8:53pm On May 21, 2018 |
khiaa:it's sad so sad i never knew whites can be this cruel , I know that that they are racist,but this gosh! you know here in Nigerian, we see them as saints. See them as demi-gods . What the media show us ,it's what we see,and what we belive I think u should created a thread about this, so that a lot of young people will have different views on how they see whites 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by EzendiEgo1: 8:56pm On May 21, 2018 |
khiaa:Sorry for your lost. Different type of love or you mean level of love 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by khiaa(f): 9:01pm On May 21, 2018 |
EzendiEgo1: I mean a different type of love, the kind of love that you honor, and cherish, a romantic love sort of speak. A spouse could be your lover, your protector, your friend, your confidant, your ride and die, while your parent has always been a stranger to you and in some cases not even a part of your life, so who would your loyalty be towards? |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by EzendiEgo1: 9:23pm On May 21, 2018 |
khiaa:why should my parents be a stranger to me, I am alive today was because of how much they devoted in caring for me and you say they are always a stranger. A spouse could be your lover, your protector, your friend, your confidant, your ride and die, all this quality you mentioned can never be seen in 21st century wife. I will always love my mom my parents more than a stupid girlfriend 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by khiaa(f): 9:30pm On May 21, 2018 |
EzendiEgo1: You are right, I stand corrected. You said girlfriend not wife. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by EzendiEgo1: 9:41pm On May 21, 2018 |
khiaa:yes I did 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:19pm On May 21, 2018 |
Elder001:Yes it happens, I agree and it is the same point I was making. Your spouse should come first but everyone has an opinion.Personally I won't marry a man that thinks that way. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by queenitee(f): 11:02pm On May 21, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:I'm not against what you said. You will see I said the place of a wife and a mother is different, so is the love you have for each of them. What am I saying is once a man realize this, he wouldn't need to start wondering who he should love most between his mother and his wife. And like you said, once you get married, your wife becomes your mother's daughter, which upgrades her to the level of your sisters. Don't you sometimes disagree with your mom to agree with your sisters and at other times you agree with your mom to disagree with your sisters. Those times you disagree with your mom, does that make you love her less? Or is it your sisters you love less when you disagree with them? I'm only saying a guy shouldn't have a problem with who he loves most between his mother and his wife once he realizes the importance and responsibilities of the two of them in his life. He shouldn't even show one he loves her more than the other, esp when it comes to the wife, he shouldn't show her he loves his mom than he loves her. And of course, a wife in her right sense would see her husband's mother as her own mother and wouldn't even try to compete with her. But seriously, most times self when a wife is competing with her husband's mother, the fault is likely from the husband, it's because the husband shows her he loves his mom more than he do love her. You might love your mom more than your wife, but never show it. You need to understand that once you get married, there's a limit to which you can be a mama's boy. Some decisions are to be made by you and your wife and not you and your mother, some stuffs are to be shared with your wife and not mother, by so doing, you would even encourage a healthy relationship between the two. And you also talked about your kids. No doubt, your kids belong to your mother, she's their grandmother, but do not forget your wife is their mother. The same way your mother taught you what's right and wrong, prayed for you, protect you, scold you, cared for you, is the same way you should allow your wife have a say over her kids. The truth is no matter how caring, awesome and wonderful their grandmother is to them, she would never understand them like their mother would. There's just this Natural connection between a child and the mother. Trust me, it's so easy for a child to hate the grandparents, even the father but you will agree with me it takes a lot before a child can hate the mother. So to me, your wife rather than your mom should have the first say when it comes to your kids. Even you, when it comes to your kids should have a say over them than your mother does. Yes, your kids are subject to the authority of your mother but that comes after they are already subjected to that of you and your wife. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:32pm On May 21, 2018 |
queenitee:For clarification, the reason why this subject is being discussed is due to this argument by "wives" claiming ownership of the man over membership of his family, including his mother. Like I earlier pointed, my wife will never be treated as second tier but she should zero every attempt to place herself higher than mother in hierarchy. That I marry wont stop gists and plays I do have with my mom and siblings. They will go on as long as it takes. However, I will ensure that my wife is properly integrated in the scheme of things and carried along. I trust my mother, she treats young people like hers and she will love my wife more than she love me. As for taking decision as a man, even as a Bachelor I make my own decision and I believe it won't change in the nearest future. I am a man of myself not a baby elephant. Now to my kids, of course, they are my wife's kids and she has the primary duty to love and care for them just like I do. She(and myself) has FULL authority over the kids, but the higher authority remains my parents, I trust my parents, they don't take advantage of things. BTW There is nothing I can't share with my mother whether I'm married or unmarried except other room things |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by Imaima1111: 11:49pm On May 21, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista: The Bible says that where it said that a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. There was no other mention of a man being attached to his mum after he gets married. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by queenitee(f): 5:18am On May 22, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:Fine, all I'm saying is encourage a healthy relationship between your mom and your wife. Don't give your wife reason to compete with your mom and also, let her have a say in issues. I did not say you shouldn't share things with your mom, I only said you should make a decision with your wife and not her. |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by Favor99(m): 7:09am On May 22, 2018 |
Saviour22:No their not saints bro. The white man controls the Nigerian media and most media’s in the world. They do some of the cruelest things but because they control the media they can sweep it under the carpet and paint themselves as saints. They’ve done and continue to do so many heinous acts. For example they created AIDS and Ebola to kill our people, they destabilize and colonize and exploit many countries, they are spreading hatred towards Africans in the global media by painting us as as mud hut dwelling savages, they pit Black Americans and Africans against each other causing animosity between the two groups Cc: musicwriter |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by EzendiEgo1: 7:12am On May 22, 2018 |
Favor99:Shut that your dirty mouth up What nonsense are you saying White controls Social media Ignorance is a disease indeed 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:40am On May 22, 2018 |
Imaima1111: That passage's context was about "divorce". The Bible never inferred that the woman owns the man by marriage, it simply say that the man and the woman becomes ONE (joined together) in marriage. It doesn't mean the right of the man has been taken over by the wife over his family. That's not the idea... When the sons of Jacob married they were still subject to their parents authority along with their wives who were treated like daughters of their husband's parents not "Queen mothers". The status of parents and importance in a man's life remains till the parents depart the world... |
Re: Any Guy Here That Love His Girlfriend More Than His Mom Is an asshole by khiaa(f): 9:29pm On Jun 10, 2018 |
AstroG: That's better. |
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