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Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 12:01am On Mar 21, 2013 |
debosky: @ OP That was so extremely helpful. Thank you! You guys have offered a great deal of insight. I'll be talking to him again about our options in a few. I'll keep you guys posted on any developments. Thanks again for the help. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 8:27pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima: I have met them and they seem accepting of our relationship, but I cannot say that I know them well. My bf and I have been dating for less than one year. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 7:48pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
baby_123: Like I said earlier, I do not mean to offend. I don't view Yoruba people negatively at all. I really thought that there would be some cultural norms that people could offer insight on. I understand that everyone is different. I'll relax and try not to worry. Thanks. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 7:19pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
baby_123: I have already met the family and they seem to like me. They have accepted me even though I am not from their tribe or even their country. This is something I was worried about before interacting with them because I have heard a a lot of horror stories. I am not saying that the family will definitely be angry. I am not sure. I just wanted to see what people who know the Yoruba culture well may have to say on the issue. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 5:22pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
baby_123: OP, answer our questions honestly... We spoke of marriage prior to the pregnancy and it is something we were both looking forward to. We were not officially engaged and we had not selected a date. My issue now is that I don't want to get married just because of the baby. I want him to be in the marriage for the right reasons. I am answering honestly. I want to get as much information as possible. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 4:41pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
baby_123: We are not cohabitating. We are dating. I have met his family and they seem to like me, but I am worried that they will be upset about the pregnancy given that we are not married. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 4:40pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
baby_123: I am not trying to use his family. What I am most worried about is that they will not be accepting of the child. I have not asked him to marry me, so I am not sure if that is an option. I have read threads in this forum before and seen advice offered to people based on tribal beliefs and such. I was not trying to offend. I was just looking for help. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 4:36pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
Ujujoan: I never said whether or not they will accept me has an impact on my decision. Nor did I say that I was not planning how to raise my child. I can plan to be a parent AND wonder if his family will accept me. Those things can be done simultaneously. Thank you for responding. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 4:32pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
RollingFella: I appreciate your response. I do not want to have an abortion. I included that in my question because I am not sure what his family's views on abortion are. As a tribe, I am unsure of where Yorubas stand on the issue. I have already told him about the pregnancy and he is supportive. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 4:24pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima: That is my plan. I was just hoping to maybe get an idea of what to expect. I don't know many Yoruba people, so I have no idea how things may go. I know that simply because they are Yoruba does not guarantee a specific response, but I do know that there are some cultural norms and I just wanted people to share what may happen or maybe what they have seen happen in similar situations. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 4:17pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
Ujujoan: I really do not see what the big deal is here . . .I think you may have missed my question. I am not concerned by how the father will respond. We have already discussed this. He has been very supportive. I am just wondering how his family will respond. I am just trying to get a sense of how accepting they may or may not be of me and the pregnancy/child. And I don't recall you asking if I took the morning after pill. Whether I did or not is none of your concern. I did not ask about the process of conception or safe sex practices. Like I said, I am educated. I am aware of such things. I am asking for someone to comment on what I may be up against with regards to his family. 4 Likes |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 3:35pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
ifyalways: @OP,have you told the man and what did he say. I understand what you are saying about unprotected sex. You are right. That is why I say the pregnancy was unplanned. I cannot honestly say that it is unexpected. Like you said, we are both adults. We know better. I did tell him. He said he will support me regardless of my decision. He seems overwhelmed but believes that no matter what, everything will be fine. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 3:31pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
Mr. Globe: That is funny! He doesn't have a wife. That is the least of my concerns. He is already an American citizen (he was when I met him) and spends all of his time in America along with his immediate family. I can cook a few dishes, yes. I'm no expert though. |
Family / Re: Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 3:25pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
Mr. Globe: Really? That is something I do not want. Can you tell me why this is likely? |
Family / Pregnant For A Yoruba Man. I Am African American. HELP!! by ImJustMe: 3:17pm On Mar 20, 2013 |
I just discovered that I am pregnant for a yoruba man. We have been dating for several months and things are great, but the pregnancy is completely unplanned. I don't know much about his family, specifically how they feel about pregnancy outside of marriage, abortion, etc. I have read a lot about traditional yoruba culture, but I don't know if his family is extremely traditional or if they have assimilated some to the American culture because they have been here for several years. Anyway, I am hoping to gain some insight about how his family may react to my pregnancy. I know that no one will really know for sure. I am just asking that people provide information based on what would be typical of yoruba parents. FYI, we are both mature adults in our mid 30's. We are well educated and financially stable. We do not live with our parents and we do not require assistance from them. If you need to ask questions before being able to offer advice, I will be happy to answer. |
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