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May her soul rest in peace. What a lifetime sad memory for her child. Tears!

The way parents sacrifice for children's education these days is concerning.

Some JAMB candidates were escorted by their whole families (mother, father and even siblings). I was wondering why. So, the both parents cancelled their businesses for the exam? May God reward their efforts.

Self employment is not the best in all cases. This is why some tailors or people that own small shops still do salary jobs because their business alone cannot sustain them.

If you are successful in your own business, great. But if you are struggling in the business and a good paying job comes your way, grab the job.

In conclusion, a very profitable business is better than a salary job while a good salary job is better than a business that is struggling.

Some people foolishly think that self employment is always the best. They start a business, close it within a year and claim that they are being pursued by village people.

Everything is not by prayer. Nigeria's problem is not spiritual. Israel is not using prayer. America is not using prayer. UAE is not using prayer. It is only in Nigeria that we are told that prayer determines the governance of the country.

One female minister said this pastor's prayers gave her the position. Corruption later sacked her and she didn't give us the opportunity to ask why this pastor's prayer didn't make her righteous in the position.

BlackfireX:
Experience is the best teacher

Experience can be a good teacher but is never the best teacher.

BlackfireX:
I think every men should go to the market once in a while to know and appreciate our mothers , wives, sisters and daughters...Omo the kind of mind game that goes on before and after buying, how the little money you give a woman is managed... omo go that same market with the same money you will get half of what they bought.

Happy mothers day

A sincere and observant man does not need to go to market to price or buy items before he can understand and acknowledge inflation.

The hardship is unbearable. Yet, some people are trying so hard to use fake life to oppress their fellow human beings, and tribalism still influences political choices.

To forgive is divine but to forget is foolishness.

The Bible that tells us to forgive never says we should forget. Remembrance does not automatically mean revenge or grudge. Manipulators mischievously claim that remembrance means grudge and revenge.

The Bible preaches forgiveness but does not advise us to forget.

Gargantuan gaga!

Every war has numerous roots and branches.

But only fools will click on the link.

oluplus:
I guess you're not married. So I won't say what's on my mind.
When you get married. Pls visit this your post 10 years after the marriage and review your own comment.

Truth does not depend on the marital status of the speaker.

Only hypocrites sound like you do here.

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You punished nine maids for your husband's sin.

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You may not even be telling us the whole truth. It might be that you accused your husband and sacked those maids out of mere suspicions.

Stupidity is an incurable disease. It is the worst form of madness.

MrSly:
I made myself clear and I speak of wives only. Any other person is none of my concern.

So, should those shits be tried with adults that are not married?

Answer this question if you have any fact against my comment.

The Catholic follows this teaching.

damoobaba:
What an INTELLIGENT RESPONSE from you. Some people need serious education.

You are the one in need of serious education. You have a biased mentality that reduces the functionality of your brain.

The post is not about how to punish adults. The post is sentimentally seeking preferential treatments for married adults. The post is not asking whether it is good or bad to tell an adult apprentice to kneel down. The post is only concerned about married apprentices. But your biased mentality prevented you from understanding the post.

MrSly:
I read your comment thoroughly and I maintain my stand. There are shits you don't try with a person's wife. No man will allow his wife to be treated like trash in the name of learning work. A wife is different from a lady and her due respect must be accorded without bias and in all situations.

So, should those shits be tried with adult females that are not married?

Answer this question.

MrSly:
It is a lie. You can't tell an adult to kneel down. You can withdraw from the contract for breach. We are not talking about kindergarten kids, we are talking about somebody's wife for good lmess sake.

You obviously responded to my comment without reading the comment. I never said that it is good to tell an adult to kneel down.

Fiscus105:
In other words the punishment meant for toddlers should also be given in same measurements for adults.

At age 40 your dad can still be slapping you, after all, he is your biological father.

You are missing the point. As long as the offences are the same, let the punishment be the same.

If you condemn the punishment because the offender is married, condemn the same punishment when the offender is single.

Let's avoid double standards.

If kneeling down as a punishment is good for any apprentice, it is good for all apprentices, including married ones.

If kneeling down as a punishment is bad for married apprentices, it is equally bad for unmarried apprentices.

Let us not judge the matter based on marital status. If the treatment is bad, it is bad. Married apprentices and unmarried apprentices have equal dignity as humans.

Fiscus105:
In other words the punishment meant for toddlers should also be given in same measurements for adults.

At age 40 your dad can still be slapping you, after all, he is your biological father.

You are twisting things here. The topic is not about punishing children versus punishing adults. The topic is about punishing adults that are married versus punishing adults that are not married.

So, any apprentice that is single is automatically a child and every married apprentice is an adult? Don't you see shops where married apprentices are younger than the unmarried ones? Do not tie dignity to marriage. Anything that is humiliating for a married adult is equally humiliating for an unmarried adult. Becoming an adult is natural while marriage is by choice. Why should we discriminate against nature in favour of choice?

You are missing the point. As long as the offences are the same, let the punishment be the same.

If you condemn the punishment because the offender is married, condemn the same punishment when the offender is single.

The reward or punishment for an action should not be based on marital status. Otherwise, biase and discrimination will reign.

Yes, let her tell her husband the truth.

Telling the husband has consequences but is godly.

Hiding it from her husband is ungodly and has more consequences. If he later finds out from another person, trusting her again will be tougher.

The husband, on his own part, should control his temper, knowing that two wrongs do not make a right.

RhemaJet7:
Paul was a Spiritual Father to Timothy, in the scripture I gave, Jesus sent Timothy to him as a Son in the faith.

Paul confirmed it in the following scripture:

1 Timothy 1:2

Unto Timothy, my own son in the faith: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God our Father and Jesus Christ our Lord.

I repeat, YOU CAN NOT HAVE MORE THAN ONE SPIRITUAL FATHER, BUT YOU CAN HAVE MULTIPLE MENTORS.

If you think I am wrong, prove it with a scripture, I proved mine, and that is the TRUTH.

If you choose a wrong person as your Spiritual Father, YOU ARE LOST!

I am speaking from experience, inspired by the Holy Spirit .

When you're filled by the Holy Spirit, the Spirit / anointing will teach you all things, even the deep things of God.
1 Corinthians 2:10.

A life without divine guidance, is a life in chaos.

Seek the in-filling of the Holy Spirit today, and become wiser

No part of the Holy Bible condemns having multiple spiritual fathers.

You are turning the scripture upsidedown. The places you quoted in the Bible do not say Paul or Timothy should not have more than one spiritual father. Therefore, your misinterpretation of the Bible is obvious. It is either you don't understand simple English or you are intentionally misinterpreting the Bible.

RhemaJet7:
I gave a scripture that you may have multiple Mentors but you cannot have more than one Spiritual Father, thus:

Corinthians 4:15-17

15. Even if you had ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel.

16. I urge you to imitate me.

17. For this reason I have sent to you Timothy, my son whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord. He will remind you of my way of life in Christ Jesus, which agrees with what I teach everywhere in every church.

Regarding the benefits, I have given enough info on that.
God back and read

Having multiple spiritual fathers is not bad, unless the fathers do not have the same mission of serving God in spirit and truth.

You are misinterpreting the scriptures you quote in your post.

If we are to follow your interpretation, we do not need any human as spiritual father because God is already our father. Your scriptural quotes do not even recommend any human as our spiritual father. According to your scriptural quotes, Timothy is sent as a teacher, not as a father.

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If we are to follow your interpretation, we do not need any human as spiritual father because God is already our father. Your scriptural quotes do not even recommend any human as our spiritual father. According to your scriptural quotes, Timothy is sent as a teacher, not as a father.

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No part of the Holy Bible condemns having multiple spiritual fathers. You are turning the scripture upsidedown. The places you quoted in the Bible do not say Paul or Timothy should not have more than one spiritual father. Therefore, your misinterpretation of the Bible is obvious. In fact, you are not only misinterpreting the Bible, you are adding what is not in the Bible. The same Bible says that nothing should be added to or removed from the word of God. It is either you don't understand simple English or you are intentionally misinterpreting the Bible.

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You are yet to mention what only one spiritual father can do well.

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All the benefits of spiritual father mentioned here can come from more than one person.

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Having many spiritual fathers is good if the spiritual fathers have the same mindset or mission. For instance, we have God, Jesus Christ and Holy spirits.

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Having many spiritual fathers will be bad if the fathers' missions are not the same.

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It is unclear how her WhatsApp posts show that she doesn't love you. What does she post?

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Someone that was using a torchlight phone until you gave her a smart phone might actually be unable to give you ₦200 at a point.

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Denying you sex suggests the desire for purity, if she is a virgin or portraying a decent lifestyle. But if she denies you sex while doing vulgar things, she doesn't love you.

Conclusion:
She might be bad but you are yet to prove it in your post. For the fact that she did not open her legs for you until this moment, she will not open her legs for you because you want to collect the phone you gave her. So, wetin you gain?. Show me a man that will buy a phone for a girl at the initial stage of a relationship and will want to collect the phone when the relationship ends, I will show you a man that is highly inconsistent and selfish. Such a man is the male version of gold digger who believes that money and material things are all it takes to get every woman, the same way female gold digges believe that sex is all it takes to get every man. If you know that you cannot forfeit the phone when the relationship ends, don't buy the phone until you are very sure that the relationship will please you and last for long. If you genuinely want to buy a phone for a lady because you think she needs the phone, do so whether you are dating her or not and whether the relationship last or end quickly.

Mariangeles:
When you see evil/wickedness happening, don't turn your eyes away [no matter who it may be], otherwise, eyes will be turned away from you when you need help.
That is how life is.

Do better.

Keep ranting. You cannot delete my comment.

Mariangeles:
Keep enabling/making excuses for abuse/abusers.

What goes around comes around.

Keep ranting. You cannot delete my comment.

Mariangeles:
You know, you're so shameless for this cowardly response.

Imagine trying to manipulate and turn this around on me, while you're the abuse apologist/enabler, going by your response.
Goes to show the kind of person that you are.

Such a shame!

Keep ranting. You cannot delete my comment.

Mariangeles post=139085749[i:
Taa![/i]

Emotional manipulation does not work around here.
Abuse apologist/enabler.

Do better!

Keep ranting. But you cannot delete my comment.

Mariangeles:
Until he kills her, and rots in jail, then what?

Okay. So, what if it was the mother abusing the father, would you say the same?

My judgement is not gender-biased.

It is not the responsibility of a child to separate parents for whatever reason.

Mariangeles:
Just take a look at what you're saying.
Because it's not your mother involved.

Which sensible grown child would standby and watch their helpless mother [parent] being abused by their spouse?

Your response shows that you are aggressive and abusive.

But you can't change my opinion. Continue to rant.

Weretuntun:
what am I am trying to say is that what if your father is beating your mother and you know if you don't act fast you going to lose your mother,
Is not better to be proactive than being reactive.

Your father and your mother understand their marriage more you do, even if your father is beating your mother. Therefore, it is not your responsibility to disunite them.

Weretuntun:
what if the the father kill your mother and turn you into motherless child

If your father has killed your mother and made you motherless, the marriage is alread ended and your question about separating the parents is baseless.