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franchasng:
Check the second list lol

You only had, "Continued" as your comment when I made my main comment. You sound as if the second list was here when I made the comment.

Meanwhile, 5 and 7 should also not be on the list. No rational parent will reject son's fiancee because of those three things I have pointed out.

I agree with you.

Living alone in the city should not be on the list. Replace it with, "Being a single mother". Living alone in the city becomes a questionable decision only if she lives in a separate yard on the same street where her parents live, or her parents lives close to her workplace but she chooses to get an apartment that is far from the workplace.

Using expensive phones is not a sign of bad character unless the girl is jobless and from a poor home.

Getting so many phone calls is not a sign of bad character unless the girl is jobless and all she does on those calls is gossip. How many phone calls one gets doesn't define the person. What defines the person is what the person discusses during those phone calls. Someone that receives just a few phone calls can be more irresponsible than someone that receives numerous phone calls.

It simply shows that everyone has a moral conscience. It also shows that almost everything that happens at clubs is immoral, though hypocrites claim otherwise.

torqque7:
Hmm 🤔 so are you saying someone with NYSC exemption letter cannot run politics in Nigeria or become a commissioner?pls enlighten us if that's the case for people to know

Obtaining the exemption letter is a serious civil offence because he is not up to thirty-one-year-old.

It simply shows that everyone has a moral conscience. It also shows that almost everything that happens at clubs is immoral, though hypocrites claim otherwise.

A man that understood that fame ends on earth. He didn't want his family to go through the stress of raising money for an expensive funeral.

aisha1314:
Because I'm having sex and I don't want to get pregnant right now.
21 is old enough for contraception though. It's below 18 that's problematic.

You own yourself. I can't dictate for you how you should enjoy yourself. But be careful with how you enjoy yourself. Self control is a virtue. Having sex in a manner that inspires you to go for such contraception indicates that you are... let me not voice it out.

Why do you need the contraception at the age of 21?

Hushpuppy20:
You are very cruel with this you response, haha how can you be like this? So he should share his story so that you can mock him more just as what you are doing now

So in your family, asking necessary questions means cruelty?

Wetin cause the problem?

DelilahMakinde:
Eyebrow shaving is part of makeup

I'm talking about painting of face.

You did not mention the most-common one which is makeup. I'm talking about painting of face.

Another one is adding too much spices to food. Why can't they even avoid spices completely?

Meanwhile, not all Nigerian women are guilty of these things.

DelilahMakinde:
Nigerian women please read about how we waste time and money trying to impress men. But men really don't give damn about these things

Butt enhancement surgeries

Let me let you in on a little secret a polygamist told me .
Your BBL , fat transfer, Mexican butt lifting operations we risk our lives for don't mean or rather have no meaning to a Nigerian man.

As long as they know it's not natural , it can never turn them on. In fact it's the opposite. Just like Offset said....it even starts to stink after a while.

Imagine a sister who got a big NY*S* but cannot kn**k well ....what's the value to most Nigeria men. Zero


The cost of your wig/hair

Most men don't want to know if your hair came from India, china or mars. They don't want to know the cost.
They do want you to look as natural as possible whatever you're wearing.

Some men don't even like wig or attachments at all...


Your nail fixing

Men want a clean woman. But they couldn't be bothered about the cost of your acrylic nails.

If your nails look nice or you use acrylic nails . Don't go overboard with scary designs, colors and shapes. Don't openly boast about how much you paid for them either. They couldn't be bothered.

Shaved or shaped eyebrows

If you have no eyebrows better not let him catch you before you put them on.
Men prefer a woman's eyebrows to be as natural as possible..
Obsessing over your eyebrow shape is just a complete waste of time.

Wetin cause am?

The post is useless. What do readers stand to gain from the post?

At least, mention the cause of the problem, maybe the man's lifestyle in the past, so that the public will learn from the story.

Cashless policy 😂

Wow!

Pilgrimage excellence?

It is like saying "Corruption excellence". What is the economic or even spiritual benefit of the pilgrimage? Do better and richer countries do pilgrimage to other countries?

The government does not sponsor Hajj? At least, the government misappropriates funds in the "facilitation" of Hajj. The government does not sponsor Hajj but... https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/694660-tinubu-subsidises-cost-of-2024-hajj-with-n90bn-shettima.html?tztc=1

Men open up easily and, women don't. So, e go be somehow here.

042

Not just in 042 but in many parts of Nigeria.

In most apartments, tenants remove the living-room (parlour) window burglary for furniture movement when packing in and when packing out.

It is only in Nigeria that uncompleted projects are commissioned.

When you cash out from what you do on the phone, he will believe you. Until then, you go explain tire

Some things should never be presented as a question. The exemption is for those who have crossed the age of 30. Is it possible for someone who is 27 today to become 31 today?

I know the country is so corrupt and anything goes. I know you can manage to boycott the NYSC program. But the problem is that people boycott certain things and refuse to give up the good things that what they boycott bring. You may boycott NYSC now and try to use corruption and bribe to cover it up in order to become a commissioner, minister or governor tomorrow.

No one knows tomorrow. Do your NYSC program. You managed your business for many years and it has been sustaining you but has not been able to make you a billionaire. Taking a break from the business for just 1 year will not be the reason the business can't make you a billionaire.

I can neither explain what happened nor proper a solution. May you find a solution soonest.

Shaving stick are not good for pubic regions. Use a clipper but don't set it to make the areas bald.

press9jatv:
This estate beat some estate in Enugu State. I only pity some people that compared Ibadan city centre to some city in the South East.

The same way some estates in Enugu are better than these estates. Or, are you trying to say that no estate in Enugu is better than what is shown here?

I do not think that comparing Ibadan and Enugu should be the purpose of the post. But since you have turned the post into a comparison between the two states, let us play along.

She is desperate and will soon visit a pastor or a dibia to use whatever to either convince or confuse you.

May she find genuine happiness at last.

May his soul rest in peace.

Babatunjo:
Your points are valid, and I agree, perverts and abusers deserve whatever karma serves them.

But let’s not pretend every man suffering in marriage is a cheat or unwise. Some entered with pure intentions and strong values, yet still got crushed by emotional manipulation, sex starvation, and constant power struggles.

Marriage isn’t for every man, and that’s okay. It’s a tool, a structure, a kind of technology meant to serve a purpose. If you choose to adopt it, do it wisely.

My tip for men:

- Vet for deep character, not just vibes or beauty.
- Don’t marry a woman who sees submission as oppression.
- Guard your mental health, your life literally depends on it.
- And never enter marriage because of pressure. Enter with purpose, or don’t enter at all.

You have finally accepted the truth you tried to oppose.

I tried filling the questionnaire but stopped for a reason.

You see what the lady did as a review. But what she did was defamation, not a review.

Babatunjo:
No wahala. But marriage prep for men needs to reflect today's realities—not just recycled advice from another era.

Too many men attend seminars, stick to the script, and still get blindsided. Why? Because the manual no match the terrain.

We’re not knocking marriage—we’re saying: update the tools, update the talk.

I mentioned marriage seminar here because you mentioned driving school. The seminar is to marriage what driving school is to driving cars. Many did not go to driving school but they are good drivers. Many have enjoyed or have been enjoying peaceful marriages without having attended any marriage seminar.

Any man who is sincere to himself does not need to attend marriage seminars. Any man who does not choose physical appearance over good behaviour does not need to attend marriage seminars before he can have a peaceful marriage. Any man who is dedicated to his marriage without looking at other women outside will have a good marriage without marriage seminars.

Divorce rate is increasing as the society gets more marriage seminar centres. This is the same way the rate of road accident is increasing as the society gets more driving schools. This is because the population of abusers and perverts is growing. People know the right thing but are unwilling to do it. Nothing is wrong with marriage. But so many things are wrong with humans and the way humans approach marriage these days.

The post is subtly condemning marriage by questioning whether marriage has any benefit for men. What the post should have done is to question why people approach marriage wrongly, or question what people could have been doing wrongly in marriage these days.