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we still dey....I learnt something big that if you dont have evidence, you might be wrong....that gist na for next post.

Pikahol:
she is guilty. Hope u have done the necessary?

Unfortunately i didnt...discussed with an uncle of mine, told me that it may or may not be what am thinking, that since I did not catch her red handed, I may need to let it go.

Foodqueen:
Hmmmm!!!

From your write up, I could deduce that u are so in love with her.

Maybe she did it, maybe she didn't. U said it yourself that she's one of the best u ve ever dated.

Maybe it was one of those moment she was very vulnerable.

Her explanations are well absorbed.

My thoughts though...

Two questions sis, how do you mean moment she was very vulnerable, and what do you deduce from her explanations that was well absorbed?

Foodqueen:
Hmmmmm

I would av said u should let this one slide. Give her another chance

Another chance? if I may ask, why did u say so?

akube34:
no mind am. When I found out about my ex gf, I was down for 2 months. I couldn’t believe it cus this girl made it seem like she’s a saint. No mind dem, dem sabi lie

Me i know trust females generally, but its no crime to try to at least trust one wey dey show sey she can be trusted. Wetin just pain me pass for this one nor pass sey na my house wey i just pay for, wey i furnish she come run the package.

akube34:
let me tell u something. I am based in Canada too, gf a girl I was dating for four years, wen I came to Nigeria, this girl swore on her life dat if any other man has seen her pant, make she die. I remember dat day in d hotel, she was crying. Guess wat, 6 people don see d pant while I Dey away. 6 na d ones I confirm oooo. Lol. Bros free those write ups, I can bet she Dey cheat

Lol, as the matter be now like this, she still dey tell me sey she wan go shrine go swear, sey make i arrange for the parol myself, but that once she finishes it, she will finally say goodbye to the relationship, that she cant go that far to exonerate herself and continue with the relationship, u dey see as far again some of them can go to prove shiit? She also stated that she will make sure that she includes my name that if she didnt do it and i am accusing her wrongly, may bla bla happen to me more reason why i have it sealed that she was guilty.

abeg make thread close. DUSTED

iInjureHerYansh:
Are you going to marry her. If not then why the fvck you worrying yourself. Just smash the pussy and move to the next jor.
When a woman wants to be useless no matter what you do she will be useless. So it's best to take advantage of the moment and make her more useless then move to the next better girl when you are tired.
Win win

This is a 3 years relationship, my plan is as soon as am done with masters,coming down to nija to get our engagement sealed.

Stevenbright:
That epistle is most likely full of lies to guilt trap and manipulate you to accept her back.

Most likely, but who in this world will go as fast as using psalm to swear, people can you see the extent a woman can go to do shit?

you guys dont get it, i am just here for masters, 9 months course, already spent 4months here and I'm going back to my country cos I know the next president will give us a good change.

nicerod:



Na me dey chop ur gal wotowoto


I go still raise her legs on Saturday.




Long distance relationship sweet o

saturday is too late, shes leaving the property for togo tmr,plus u cant move on saturday ozuo

Ballzproblem2:
that generalization has been guarding men heart on no occasion should you do long distance relationship, not to talk of one that is outside country,love machine ain't enough, no matter what man/woman will still long for flesh , accept your loss ,next time date your class.

How do you mean date your class? So generalization to you seem right ! right? Common, do you know how many people dun lose good girl due to generalization sey all nija girls are cheat? You can do better than that bro

tosinhtml:
Do you mean 3 years in Nigeria or 3 years outside Nigeria?

3 years in Nigeria.

Richy4:
OP, how do you think a distant relationship will work for you? Assuming you were married to her before stepping out, I would have said Ok ...This kind of scenario is one of the reasons why it is discouraged. Even if your assistant is not there, your mind will be thinking....

But on a lighter note....Is it too hard to say that it was a hanger that fall off because of enormous western breeze blowing toward Ojuelegba across Atlantic ... that the weather forecast predicted heavy storm ... She can even excuse herself, hand up for 2mins just to close imaginary window ...Dull people shaaAaa!!

Bro am just here for a 9months course. And am going back to Nija, not settling down here, I engaged her but not officially just to give her re-assurance. Its not like i am always worried if she would cheat or not, shes always accountable, tells me all the places she goes, send videos and pictures and always making sure we are in touch until she leaves, i do the same, its called respect accompanied with accountability, so what happened that night just took me by surprise. Now i have received a heap of message from her now defending herself. please guys permit me to post the transcript here, fear women ooo, i know it might seem childish doing this, but i want yall to see how far a woman can go to deny shit they do:


Well in as much as I do not want to say anything concerning what transpired that led to breaking up the relationship, some things still have to be said,

Firstly, I obviously do not have anything to exonerate myself concerning the sound you heard that led to a breakup, but am sure you have done your findings, Now this is what I have to say,

If truly someone was there that night you heard a sound, Let the ground swallow me up and Let God almighty take my life but if not and you felt in your heart that this is the best way to treat me, then I leave you to God like I always say, you can’t plant rice and harvest beans, whatever you sow you shall reap it in double folds, God will use the fact that I am using one mind with you and reward me, and I just hope you are as faithful as you claimed, didn’t know this is how fragile the relationship is, na see finish dey worry you, but it’s ok, na me fuckup for that aspect, E go be ben, God pass any man.

I first name and last name, if another man has seen my unclothedness or if I have had Sex with another man since i started dating you my first and last name, I curse myself and my whole generation today with psalm 35 and seal it up with the blood of Jesus Christ
I will rather leave you, than to cheat on my partner, it has never happened and it will never happen,
You told me to stand up once and you were laughing about it, I didn’t even take it seriously cos God sees my heart, all I tried to avoid that night was for you putting unnecessary fear in me, as I was already getting scared at what u said
The windows and curtains were opened, so the sound could’ve even been from outside, my eyes reaction was just a mere coincidence, I would never in this world hurt you or cheat on you or even having a side guy, as long as we are still together, I am stuck with you and you alone,
I do not have the effrontery to even dare bring a male visitor into our home, I am not that loosedneither am I a wicked person.
All I have always requested from you is your love to always keep me thriving at my own end, that’s all

I love u so much ben,I will never do such a thing and am sure u know it

And have d effrontery to bring a guy into our home?
Why would u ever think I will have such mind to do such a thing
A place that i just moved in and everyone knows I am a married woman here
Something I didn’t do at our previous place where It wasn’t even announced that I am engaged to you, so u think I will have the effrontery to do that here
It’s ok ben to think whatever u want to think towards me
God almighty knows how extremely faithful and loyal I am to you ben, I don’t talk to any guy or start up any conversation with any guy, I literally cut of all means of communication with all my male friends, even my female friends that invite me out, I usually declined the ones that I know you wouldn’t be convenient with,
I prefer to stay at home lonely, than start going to place I know u wouldn’t like, I stay home most of the times and still I even get attacked by even single thing, oh I called u twice what were u doing? Oh I heard a sound and wasn’t like there was a sound of a door slamming or opening afterwards, I turned the camera to the other side, both the toilet door and the room door was still closed and it wasn’t like they were opened, but still yet no trust at all,
But if tables were to turn it will be a different story entirely,
How on earth is it even possible to bring a man inside our house to come and Bleep me inside our house…is that even possible? Oh ben, I am not hurt at the fact that you’re breaking up, what hurt me the most and make my cry is the choice of words u use on me and you thinking I am prostitute or a cheap slut, that will stoop so low to bring a guy to come Bleep me where I stay, even when I was staying in the hostel where guys were allowed to even stay over, I didn’t try such a thing, not to talk of when I am fully committed to you.
Ben i will always pray to God to make u experience everything you do to me, the way you accuse me wrongly and hurt me with your hurtful choice of words, thinking you are saying the right thing, God will look for a perfect way to repay u back in full.
My loyalty has always been taken for granted, so I just want u to experience it and know how hurtful it feels when someone lie on you constantly, constantly keep accusing you wrongly of cheating and won’t believe anything that comes out from your mouth, God almighty will make you ben experience it.

Ireportlive:




Peter Obi sacked Non Anambra Indegene from Anambra State Civil Service , retrenching workers from Imo, Enugu and Ebonyi

When asked to speak on the policy, he stated it clearly that Federal Allocations were low and Anambra State money was solely for Anambra State indegenes

Ironically the same man that said Anambra State allocation were low, deposited over 75 billion naira in Access/Diamond Fidelity bank making 20% intrest for the banks he had share

Jagaban
Right now go to Alausa Secetariat, Igbo men and women who got recruited under Bola Ahmed Tinubu are now Senior Level Officers, Directors and Permanent Secretary.... Not a single Yoruba man works with Anambra Civil Service


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With the above statement which is a verified and trusted info/ The tribal war leaders are the king of tribal noise and bigotry. I have said it times without number , the Yoruba tribe are the most accomodating, they are disloyal too oo, deceitful and hateful amongst themselves, but when it comes to inter-tribal love and accommodation, na Yoruba nation get am.

ItisWell22:
Wish I could “like” your comment more than once.

I had this thought also, but when you think about something, you will also need to talk about the risk. Person wey suggest Love Machine, will automatically tell u that she doesn't want to cheat why she asked for it. So if didnt meet up hr demand and the otherwise happens, u know woman na, she go lay the classless blame on me that she suggested a Love Machine and i didnt approve of it.

invinzible1:
Leave you said no, then trust her you don't want too. You can't be in the middle else you will give yourself ache in your heart

When was it that i stated that i was not leaving her?

texannaija:
You dey Canada and you still dey trust “Girlfriend” wey dey Naija….Is this playing?. Shey you dey whine ni?….

u wan tell me sey na all girls wey dey nija dey cheat if their man dey abroad? remove my case outta this, but some girls wont, this generalization na him dun spoil our society finish.

invinzible1:
Then just trust her

huh? which kind trust? blind trust?

satandeterrible:
Oga don't be a victim of sunk cost fallacy.

Why ever you spent is nothing compared to the fact of dating a hopeless cheat that'll cause you irreparable damage in the future.

Use your sense nwokem. No dy act like a headless puppy. Mumu.


Better don't move things forward with that cheat of a girl. Better to be alone than to wife a cheat.

If you don't follow my advice. You'll regret it immensely in the future. Mark my words.

I dun tell am sey i nor deydo again, and i said i am giving her 3 months to move off d property, cos na me pay rent and na my name dey agreement. No wonder when we wanted to collect the apartment, the agent told us that its better we present ourselves as couples not assingles cos the landlady wants couple. You said it doesnt matter that we should use a single name and that her name should be on it. I was pissed, at that moment something such as this came to mind that she may eventually bring someone into the house , and i might find out thereby sending her packing, but as long as sey na her name dey there, i cant do nothing, so Insisted that my name be on the agreement, we had a 2 days fight over this until she succumbed. I am glad I didnt make that mistake.

damn, as the day goes by, the hurt eats deeper, I should be strong, yes I should be, havent told her yet am moving on, but I think i have to do that now. Really hard to let go, she try sha, one of the best loyal girls i had, sad she couldnt make it to the finish line.

Goodlady:
Interim4 aka Mujaidu, those first set of advise are terrible. They ll ruin your relationship.
Until you catch her someone well you don't speculate or accuse. Save your relationship show the girl more love and see how she ll love you more

This is not speculation, out of 10 cheaters, you can only catch one red handed, thats if luck is with you. This incident gives me 85% assurance that something aint right. I made a big mistake by letting my demand slide, i would have stood my ground that she heads towards d living room i probably would have had much to know, she normally wont argue with me and go ahead to check, but her hell bent on not making a move and making flimsy excuses threw my faith in her off. What more love do i want to show than what i have showed, i am losing it, i just probably not get married again.

Saintmary:
If you've not invested too much in the relationship, you can move on easily.


End the relationship fast, tell her it's over, then move on.

Unfortunately i have invested far more than expected.

Chocoloco:
She's definitely cheating on you.

I once banged a girl while banging her she was on phone with bf ...

This also I have experienced before i got into this serious relationship, i go even hardly penetrate so that her voice can change so the guy can ask why are u sounding like that. Though from my write up, i called twice on both of her phones, she didnt pick, so she called back a minute later, the person definitely had left the room cos she knows me that i could ask her to show me her environs, but the sound came from the living room, its a new place, I PAID THE rent myself, so i know how the apartment is structured. The person had left the room, probably in the living room where the suppose person had hit something when i heard the sound. All still boils down to same thing (CHEATING)

AbdulMagaji:
But she's your girlfriend na and not your wife. So you think she would keep waiting for you especially if another serious suitor show face?

Better marry her now or leave her alone to find her better half.

But waito..

You no see woman for Canada?

I already engaged her, but not officially. its really hard, 3 years relationship, and she has been loyal for as long as I can observe. Here is boring, if i was single, to get a girl here will take time. People mind their business here, where approaching a lady can be termed harassment

Uchenna10:
Break up bro...u even have the mind to date someone that is far from u.....

we have been dating for 3 years now, i just travelled to canada november, and i was still home in january spent 8 days and we had fun, just thought this act was a little bit too soon.

GeorgWashinton:
Another useless maggot dating a potential cheat And for lying that you are in Canada may God punish the vagina that you passed through to planet earth I don't know why Nigerian guys are so useless. While men in other countries hustle to make it, our guys hang 24/7 on nairaland disturbing us about useless pussy matter.

How does this solve the naira crisis in our dear country? I can link u to someone who will pay you 5k new notes with a commission of 6k.

MonthlySalary:
this is why i dont do distant relationship. Either you are a woman or Man, you cant take away the fact that sex will be needed at a point in time and that urge needs to be fulfilled.
its hard to date someone who you are states apart from, talk less of continents apart..

i know you are worried because you have invested financially in the relationship. Shes is cheating and there is nothing you can do about it

She suggested i bought her a Love Machine, which I did so she can use it to cure her konji when the need arises. We do video sex and she uses it on herself, but something at the back of mind always say she will still require the real one. I still travelled home 4weeks ago and spent 8 days, we had fun so this is just a little bit too early. I am broken, 3 years relationship wey i don nurture with all i got is no joke. But wetin come dey bother me na the reasoning sey who could it be? From proper observation and reasonable assumption, na one of the tenants in the same building he go be. Such is life.

invinzible1:
Better face Canada squarely and look for someone there

Really hard, 3 years relationship, and she has been loyal for as long as I can observe. Here is boring, if i was single, to get a girl here will take time. People mind their business here, where approaching a lady can be termed harassment

Saintmary:
You want to masturbate to the view of someone having sex with your girlfriend!



This story is fake.

Sis, its me just catching cruise, it isnt a fake story, i was feeling bad that very day, but the situation has gotten worse now as the whole thing is dawning on me as i type. I havent been able to eat properly. My saying all those things is to convert my anger and sadness to cruise, which eventually sound stupid. I am broken, but i gotta piece the pieces.

Guderian:
It's Better to not get into sth you are not sure of.

The distance is very far, so there are more tendencies to cheat.

If you also seeing other ladies i dont think you can judge her for it

I already engaged her, but not officially, its a serious relationship. I understand the tendencies of cheating when it comes to long distance relationships. I am not seeing other ladies as I consider my engagement to her as a serious one that will lead to marriage. Also she was the one that suggested buying a Love Machine to keep her company when shes Hot, and we both do video sex while using her Love Machine, though i have always thought she would still need the real thing.

BigDick70inch:
LoL....
The bitter truth is the interim pussy fucker was trying to sneak outta the room....
But unfortunately.....he kicked something

Well i doubt if this was the actual scenario. I called her twice on both phones, she didnt pick, she then called back a minute later on audio whats app, so i switched to video. She was on her bed at this moment, but from what i observed the sound came from the living room, it was dark so the person probably hit something that wasnt seen. So it seems like b4 she called back, she had asked the person to step out. But mehn body dey pepper me like this, its a sweet and sour feeling. Inside life. And this kind level now, if person dey there, the kind fucking wey go dey go down, if i fit see the view, i fit use am mastur.