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d7thcaller:
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The OP went shopping in the pigsty and is shocked his purchase turned out dirty! You think club girls are interested in you because you are handsome?! The kind of Nigerian girls you're looking for rarely ever go to clubs, especially not by themselves. Any Naija man from a good background/home will know that you don't go to certain places to find girlfriends! The girls I hang-out with when I go home are either friends of friends or friends of my cousins. They are usually from good homes and lack nothing. When I go out and pay, it's by choice. They would NEVER demand anything from me. You're looking for girls in the wrong places bros! Don't come here crying when those girls end up milking you dry!

. I would have expected a forum specific guy like you to discuss more important topics that has to do with the nations security but of all topics to choose is that of a guy's encounter with little girls who frequent Ozone. Is this topic not too timid for your distinguished self. please lets hear word abeg.

It seems most people here are like trying to say the Poster deserved what he's got. Some are criticising him for coming out to express his experience and opinion about Nigerian women which we all know that is true. Some says he looked for women at the wrong places etc, The fact that our society doesn't approve or respect the idea of meeting women in clubs or bars doesn't mean you can't meet a good one there, it might only take the Poster a very long time to meet the kind of woman he is looking for in Naija club or bars. It's every parent dream that their daughter should gain admission into a Uni to have a qualification and if she is lucky enough, she might end up meeting her life partner before her graduation, but Nigerian Universities nowadays are worse than a night club and bars, they are as good as a brothel.
Has anyone ever thought that the Poster might be a Nigerian by nationality but he is as good as a foreigner when he relocated back to Nigeria. We all don't how long he has been away from home, where, how and with whom he has live his life abroad. If he lived in UK before relocating to Nigeria he might probably be prepared for the shock and not be so that surprise with the materialistic behaviour of some of our Nigerian women at home because there is little or no difference between the behaviour of Nigerians living in UK compare to the one in Nigeria.
But if the Poster lives his life for a long time in a typical white man countries like Germany, Netherland, Swissland, Austria etc, he might not be
prepare for Nigerian women at home (Naija) because of the lifestyle in this countries and the few Nigerian women in this countries don't really act and are not as demanding like the ones in UK and Nigeria, most of them are just happy when you finally returned back home after work. Probably this is due to the fact that their population in this countries is not so that much hence they can not spread this materialistic behaviour around and was forced to adapt to the white people ways of life. For example, black brother ain't much in Germany compare to UK and Yankee wey black man wohwoh or Yapaa, unlike Germany, black men are not so that valued in UK by the white women nor by our black women. Divorce cases are common between the Nigerians/blacks in UK and in compare to Germany

I have hardly come accross divorce case between Nigerian or other black couples in Germany. I used to flock around with the black American soldiers in the military when I was in Germany, I've seen some of them getting excited to be with white girls and I heard some of them saying Germany is a blackman paradise when it comes to women, lot of them have their first intimate contact with a white woman in Germany, so please don't always believe all what you see in American movies about black and white relationship in America.
So a typical Nigerian woman knows if she is too materialistic, you are gone in the next seconds because you could have what you want without paying for it.
Secondly, white girls in the above countries don't joke with black PORO, if you now what I mean . The white girls will serve you appetizer plus main dish without asking for a dime and if you are good enough they will top it up for you with desert (PALI to waka). Like the Poster said, girls in western world just wanna hang around with a guy who is entertaining, you don't have to be handsome, just have a good physique. They are more into your personalty and physical qualities but all this doesn't count in our society, what count is the size of your pocket. And when I say western world I don't mean an advance third world country like you UK.

Like the Yoruba saying "Inu Ikoko dudu leko funfun ti jade" (white pap from the black pot) Maybe in our society you don't come accross good girls in clubs and bars, but in Mainland Europe, I've got lot of friends who came accross their black (especially Nigerian women) or white life partners at the clubs or bars and they are now happily married with children. I come to discovered that the Nigerian/African living in the above countries valued their black

brothers/partners more. So to most Naija women who are hating in this forum, and the materialistic ones in Naija, pls stop hating, make haste while the sun is shining. A man have a good chance of correcting most of his past mistakes, but you women don't always have, WHY? because of our culture, belief and mentality and for the fact that women body grows quickly older than men. In our society usually a man mistakes doesn't live after him for long but with the women the stories goes on, the damage to the image is not worth the chicken change. If a woman is good and smart enough, she can make a man empty his pocket on her without asking. No be say make una go cook punana vegetable soup for the man or go do tribal mark for your punana oo (Adodun).

@ italkalot, your essay are on point on mostly naija babes, esp lagos babes even abuja babes are worse. It is just unfortunate dat u based your experiences on naija babes on 2 immatured girls,statiscally dat is low,and because of your essay d guys are bashing us all,it is said in yoruba land dat u can't throw away the bath water togeda wt the baby, Just  continue your search for a good woman and remember don't lean on your own understanding trust in God or if u r muslim Allah, it is said he who finds a wife find a good tin.

Yes. I went to watch movie alone. I didn’t add this to my already long post. First time she as late. I got there, and called she was still at home at the time we agreed. So you see in my mind she is not d keep to time type.
The poster took his experience of naija chicks too personal.
Dude, you need to see it as a game.
Naija girls cannot seperate going out with a man from obtaining money and all the things they need.
when you approach them, the assumption is that you are ready to take over at least most of her financial needs; dont panick or get upset.
This is what to do:
the moment you talk to a naija girl and u start going out, as soon as she starts pushing for material things, start pushing for s.e, x.
If she stops , you stop.
If she wants things before sleeping with you then you draw up the conditions like she's a call girl.
this is just so that there are no misunderstandings.If she wants to know if you must sleep with her, im sure u want to know if u must buy her things.
It balances up and eventually u will come to an equilibrum where you will then see the real her.
(what kind of person she really is, what she really is about,if she likes u, etc)

@Op,  the criteria for wooing a Nigerian babe or even fluking around with them you'll need to be fantastic with the following:

1. BB torch or Iphone4
3. Car keys in your middle finger
4. Dress like a very big boy even if you are not
4.fake American accent
5.When you want to book an appointment, it best be the hot spots around
6. You like the Don Jazzy type(money spinner)

my brother, maybe because you don't want to see "classy ones"

@ OP

You got what you wanted because of those you choose to hang out with, maybe what you don't know is that, this so call chicks desperately hang out on this spots so that they can get feeding allowance, money to barf-up and money to make hair-do. And once you walk into there traps, the more you see the more you spend.

And the other thing is this, when Guys like you just land from wherever you always like to show , make unnecessary noise, flaunt and want everybody to know how you spoke with Obama and Iya charlie

My advice- Dress simple, comport youself and be relax you will enjoy yourself in Niger.

u attract what u desire.am sure u went for lil girls who got no jobs.what'd u expect from such girls?dont blame them cos u shud look before plucking

d way some dudes complain abt how naija girls r so demanding makes me wonder if its not d same naija girls i meet every now n then.

no, I don't think so, are you not aware that nigerian men are PERFECT.

@ poster
First thing is I am a guy who likes to go out, so first week back, i started visiting cinemas and bars. Met a couple of people. Decided to take some girls out,          that says it all , dodon't think

@op, to some average nigerian girls, you fit the frame of a 'nice' guy. Picture that.  Maybe, you a bit unlucky with the ones you attract here. Unless you go about with a large banner on your forehead that you just came back or there is a logo inscribed somewhere on your shirt, you should know the way some of these girls behave. This is 'normal' to a guy on the street. The advise l could give you has been proferred by @hackney, wherever she turns, she is gored.

Nigerian girls take their traditional roles seriously and their men should do so too. They are slowly teaching you how to be the head of the household when you finally put her for house, both of you come back from work and as head of the household you go sit down for parlor with cool breeze and finish off the newspaper while she dey slave over the gas cooker and when it is your turn to dami siwa ju so that you can tele tutu you start to complain. A beg find something else to talk about.

. . . you know what? I believe it would be better if you guys just consolidate all your grievances into a single thread where you can verbally chastise the type of women that born you into this world without clogging up the whole board with these repetitive complaints . . . after all the subject of Nigerian women is a hot topic around this forum.  If you like, such a thread could even be permanently pegged on the top of the board like the complaints section only this time the subject would be appropriately named "The irredeemable Nigerian Woman: Chapter 1"

@OP,
You're a real selfish man and I'm disappointed in you. I read your post completely because I'm not a lazy reader. You shouldn't have gone in alone just because the said lady was late to the Cinema. You didn't know why she was late and you were not interested in finding out. She even called you several times, you ignored. She bought ticket, but couldn't find you. She waited for you till the end of the movie, she really tried. I don't want to say much about the first lady but in the case of the second lady, you got it wrong! You're full of yourself, too bad. That lady deserves an apology from you and you have to refund her ticket money because you invited her to the Cinema and she spent her money on transport and I didn't see anything close to being materialistic in this second case. Man, you've got to change your attitude.

OP! Very Nice articulated write up! Kudos!
The level of mindless castigation you meted out to Nigerian girls on this thread, is nothing short of amazingly stupefying! That you only ran and concluded your hypothesis in just a week makes it even more pathetic!
Now let's get straight! You took them girls to ozone, right? Where is Ozone situated? Around the environs of Unilag? A Nigerian university? Filled with all sorts of wannabe girls? Majority of Girls living around Unilag are what? Students? I mean, c'mon man! What kind of independence were you expecting from student girls, who are dependent? Girls still discovering who they are, and who they want to be, academically and emotionally? And after you purposefully & surreptitiously criticized Nigerian girls, you typed a disclaimer that read that "I KNOW ALL NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE NOT LIKE THAT, JUST THE FEW ONES I MET". Are you for real? Just a few? And you wrote this epistle? Are you an Apostle? That smacks of unenviable Hypocrisy! If you say Nigerian girls and swallow it before the end of your poem!
Another case i pointed out, is that you actually took these girls out to have fun with them, did you actually go with empty pockets? And as the loud trumpet i think you are, you would obviously have been harping to them that you just got back to Nigeria!, Right? What kind of girls were they? Were they your old friends? Was anyone of them your girlfriend? Did they have your best interests at heart? Because, one week is not enough to truly know the true intentions of any girl. Unless of course she is a prostitute! There are lots of them in Unilag, under the guise of students! #FACT! Look before you leap next time!
Independent ladies! Hmm! you struck a nerve there! But i'll ask you what is wrong in spending on an independent woman? Why o Why did you not make clear the terms and conditions of the relationship or the date, so to speak, before diving in head first? It's even more pitiable that with the amount of twists and crookedness of this fanciful, well concocted story of yours, gullible ones are even swallowing it hook, line and sinker! True that in some percentage of occurrences, your scenario plays out, but i urge you to be unbiased when categorically pointing out unenviable flaws of the Nigerian Woman!
Some of Us are actually blessed with them and they are very pretty and we love them the way they are! If you dont like them, you not need to date them! Easy on the Bashing!
Next time you want to conduct a case study, dont do so with students who cant fend for them selves! Students and making demands are synonymous! I'm Out!

ronkebp:
@ Poster it depends on where and who you go with to catch your fun, like someone said, there are independent ladies in naija, that money you think you have is not enough to buy the water they put in their refridgerators,  (no offense).