Let's mention their names.

deltateam:
People should make due enquiry before taking appointment with some schools especially those that have different branches. They often owe to tie you down from leaving.

Adekaka12345:


I didn't post it. Quote the person that posted it

pardon me. I wanted to quote the poster.

Adekaka12345:



Do you mean only one teacher will teach all the subjects or a male teacher each for each position?

I have my doubt about this vacancy post. Please shed more light.

jumiasalesguy3:
We are in the same boat!
Just let me know when you spot a dry land.
You can do nothing than distract yourself.

I do that a lot. I usually bury myself in work.

monerozi5590:


Very true.

are you a lady?

mvik57:
I think that if you want to stop getting quick erection you need to start watching more porn or porn content https://eggporncomics.com/comics-tag/19/furry it can make you feel more relaxed before sex .. What do you think about this tip ? Good luck.

I think this will only worsen the situation.

femi4:
You are in your 20s, by the time you get to your 30s.....you ll which this experience never leaves you

I am 37 currently. Sex is a time waster some times. having an erection all the time is not ideal.

let do some calculation. I need at least 10 minutes to get my wife ready for sex, 20 to 25 min for the actual act and then 20 min to cool off. That is almost an hour.

10 hrs after that I am hard again at the slightest stimulation.

RealityShot:
is normal for your age...
Get a job...

Do you know my age?

mamajj17:
Is because you are Jobless

I am not. If it is not an issue with you, good for you. I want solutions not insults.

Hi guys, is there someone experiencing the same thing?

I get erections by mere looking at a lady or seeing anything romantic. This situation is embarrassing and makes concentrating difficult.

Please kindly notify us of job vacancies at your location. Most schools usually don't place adverts online.

Faith Academy Lokoja needs Maths teachers and some other subject teachers. Accommodation is available.

LordPherule:
Lol... seems the poster was kidding

It isn't a joke. Things like this have separated many homes.

Janosky:

It takes two to tango.
With good ,honest communication, trust,mutual love and seek divine intervention coupled with fear of God, you and wife will tango very well on this matter and every other issue in your home.
She's has misgivings about this matter.
Are you reckless with money?
She has broken no law if she's not hand over her entire paycheck to you.
Every couple must mutually work out an arrangement that works for them.
You have to speak truth to each other in order to solve this issue.
Please thread with caution and wisdom.

My wife and I have discussed. Apparently, she wanted me to show concern, support and appreciation. I will personally be giving her financial support every month, no matter how little.

PrimadonnaO:


Na wa o. What a traditional man you are!

Note, not every tradition is bad. That is why African and Asia has the lowest divorce rate in the world.

Maya4eva:






I teach in one of the known education establishments with branches all over the country. In my branch of the school, students pay as high as over 500k in a session. The population of students is over 900. Guess what? ALL members of the teaching staff earn 60k...even MSc holders. As a matter of fact, the management said that as far as the system is concerned, upgrading your educational qualifications is for yourself and is not recognised by them. We work ROUND the year and only get two-weeks' leave in August (which isn't even definite; it could be taken away at the whim of the "Ogad at the Top" and one week in December...for a teaching job o. Add these to the constant threat of one's job! Do you want to know how the non-teaching staff are treated? They're asked to resign at the end of every term and reapply in the new term just so they aren't paid during the holiday.

Your description of school resembles Faith Aca.

Xtfield:
A general trend with most applicants these days. They'll see an advert, apply and then back out when invited for an interview.

Inteviews should be flexible. Most recruiters only fix dates that are convenient for them. Many competent teachers may not be able to meet up with interview dates fixed for Monday through Friday. They would prefer weekends or holidays due to the process of securing permission from their current place of work.

Some have advised me NOT to depend on my wife's income for anything. Well, that means she equally have not right to question how I spend my money. Is that not separation?

I think this will create gaps in our home.

The best thing is for her to tell me how much she is willing to put on the table.

We both will then discuss what we intend to do with our income for the month or year. This is very import in a home. A man should know the financial status of his wife and vice versa . Many bankers have become rich due to financial secrets in homes.

Manner of approach also matters.

ststyreal:

Something must have triggered this attitude of hers, and it might be your attitude towards her. Honestly, with what is happening in marriages these days, most women are insecure in their homes, as most men have taken to adultery, hence women borrowing sense this days to secure themselves in case of any eventuality. I think it is your duty as the husband to take care of your family while she supports you as the helpmate but to support person no be by force; hence, you have to lovingly talk to her in the language she will grab. Hubby doesn't ask me of my salary.. yet he takes care of the feeding and the children's school fees while on my own, I take care of the children's clothing, making their hair, undies and some other little things... Just budget your salary to take care of your family in the best way you can.. don't depend on her salary... leave her to her conscience... You can give her like 35 or 40k for the feeding every month while you make do with the remaining 50k. May God perfect your home amen...
Please, kindly Ignore any words of mine that aren't ok with you.. just trying to make a common sense

Thank you.

yeyeosoronga:


The house is indeed yours, and she can be driven out of it anytime by the time it's completed.
She completely understands the Nigerian system and that is why she keeps her money from you.
You also have a mentality that you are naturally polygamous. She is calculating in her head why she should contribute to a house where she is just a tenant, and a cowife/cotenant can be brought in to her

I taught marriage should be about trust.

ZIMDRILL:


if they dont agree they need to back to drawing board and find a way to agree to knew thing that work for both

in this case he is saying she wants her own house, lets forget about the car because if money is there you can have cars in family one for each but for me when comes to marriage you can not say this is house my house and that one is hers

nothing wrong with having many properties aka house but having them in personal names while you are married is not a good idea

she wants her own house may be the house is in his name only thats why she feels insecure WHY? (from the few responds i see here when it comes to properties aka house when the husband dies, husband's relatives will kick the window out take over the house etc ) so her solution would be having her own house just in case

But eg if the husband puts both there name on the property she feel secure because in the even he dies before her, she will legally the owner of the house and kids would have a roof on there head

so sometimes it is us men we make our women insecure because we do not involve them in financial decision of the future, therefore they try to have secret future plans in case the worst happen

i agree that sometimes we need to sacrifice personal happiness for marriage to work but its always better to lead by example eg you as the husband lead by sacrificing first

Why should a wife be thinking of the aftermath of her husband's death. She is the next of kin to all our properties. Woman and their thinking pattern!

The way things are going many single men will prefer to remain single and have baby mamas here and there.

thorpido:
Why did you come up with the idea of submitting her salary to you in the first place?Na you employ am? Why do you people like to start something that will backfire later?

She was doing that before.

Mizwisdom:



If she tells. you to prepare lunch or dinner for the family you will start preaching that a man is not supposed to do such but here you are shamelessly waiting for your wife's sweat. Look Oga, you're a man and the head of the family, start acting like one, go out there and hustle enough so that you won't be waiting for your wife's meagre salary, the only way I personally will share my salary is if I see that my husband helps me with domestic work and he's humble.

So what would you do with your income, knowing fully well that your husband's salary cannot pay all the bills?

ZIMDRILL:


i get you but

its you who have to make her self secure like right now you say "MY PROJECT" instead of saying OUR PROJECT

remember in most marriage ceremony they say you are now ONE meaning you no longer think and do things as an individual but as couple, couple means who people who have the same vision, goals and they sit down and agree to those visions and goals

What if they don't agree? marriages are successful because there is a will to make sacrifices.
It must be a collective effort and not a one-sided thing.

MMotimo:
From your narrative, it sounds like she’s not comfortable with how you use the family income so she’s taken it upon herself to save compulsively. You’ve mentioned how you pay bills but are you able to put aside any tangible savings after those bills? Is it possible her strategy is to save for possible emergencies that may occur?

Communication is key here. Who or what is she saving for? Do you both need to open a joint account so that there’s transparency with the family budget? Since she’s not spending her money on frequent owambes and asoebis, it does not sound like you have a major problem. You both just need to understand and plan the savings.

I’m female and I run the household income/budget with occasional input from my husband. That works for us because there’s mutual trust and frankly, it’s less headache for my husband as he doesn’t have to worry his head about planning the money. His income is double mine but no one is siphoning secret monies to do secret anything. All income goes into a joint account.

She has a personal mutual fund account and another saving scheme at her place of work.

I have worked hard to ensure that we complete our own house but she sees the house as mine and not ours

boldx:

From your comments, I kind of understand your personality. I am sorry to say this my brother. N95,000 monthly income for a man is barely enough for buying fuel, car repairs, feeding, NEPA bills, fuel for generator etc. My brother, just pray for God to enlarge your coast and this wahala will be a thing of the past.

Ok. Thanks

Octobertwentysix:
Marriage is the union of two people who share everything and that includes money. Handing over her money shouldn't be used but rather contributing to the family income, we've been married for eight years with two girls and a baby boy, the formula I and my husband use is simple.
we both have paid salary jobs and side hustle, I have small company and he has his own side hustle, from our salaries we put some amount in our children's account and the rest of the money goes into what we call our capital projects such as car, land and building, now from my side hustle I buy foodstuffs like plantains, garri, yam,palm oil, dried fish and crayfish etc because I have access to local farmers who comes to sell these thing on market days, while my husband is responsible for sack of rice, beans, beverages, detergents etc.
He is responsible for school fees, House rent I assist when needed but it's not compulsory, and any of us can buy clothes and shoes for the children. it's all about financial intelligence and trust.
Most women who try to hide money from their spouse do so out of fear of the unknown, sit with your wife and discuss what's best for you, just because A is doing it doesn't mean it will work for B. Cheers.

Well said

theButterfly:
Why should she continue "handing over" or "submitting" her salary to you? Ahnn ahnnn, what kinda thing is that? If she's no longer handing over her salary to you but saving, it's probably to protect your family [I doubt she's doing it for herself]. Open a joint account where an agreed amount from both of you goes into - towards household expenses, but demanding her whole salary isn't right. Instead of trying to use her salary as your own extra income, double your hustle and make that money yourself.

Do you know the irony of it? She may even get more from me if she agrees to submit her pay.

IamR:

What stops women from being polygamous in nature?

Just watch National Geographic Channel, you will understand. A man is till sexually active even at 100, some men can have erection by mere looking at a woman

Graxie:
School fees is paid once in three months, house rent once a year, feeding three times a day excluding juice for children and special meals. How about her cream, soap, hair and clothes . Review your program, start contributing to feeding money daily, give her the option of helping to pay half of school fees once in a while. Also, let her also contribute a little during house rent. The truth is that, it's not easy on both of you but her especially. She is feeling overwhelmed. Have you gone to market lately? Try and be giving her feeding money she will compliment, let's say you give 1500 for soup, she will add 1k to prepare a week soup. You must be patient with her and let her understand that she is trying. Don't make it look as if it's her duty, it's not true.

Thanks but remember that my net income is just 95k. Some families earn less and still lives happy.

I do car maintenance, parents upkeep and sometimes assist in feeding by buying things in bulk like bag of rice.

Olorunnim:
She has been listening to bad advisers Nairaland So Called feminist have gotten to her


On a more serious Note Marriage is a Union and not Single person should foot the bills While the other get to keep theirs. She's just being selfish, Op sit her down and talk to her.

Ok, I will do that, if she will listen.

zeb04:
I don’t handover my money to my husband,will never do.

What we agree on is, i take care of some of the expense in the house and I save what is left for myself.

Quick question, why is that every small argument, y’all will say, but “I don’t cheat oh”are we suppose to clap for you? Westin concern money with cheating?

Pls know your wife before you yarn this dust. Nobody get monopoly for anything.

Thanks for your response. A man is polygamous by nature. Any man that sticks only to his wife is sacrificing for his marriage and keeping to his marital vow.

That said, may I ask, what is the savings for and is oga aware of this?

princfred:
In some places in Rivers state I heard tales of women giving their salary to their husband even the husband being the one to receive/collect the wife's salary after which the man will give her money for home upkeep from there sometime an amount bigger than her salary that she collected. What a beauty.

An ideal man is always happy providing for his family. Do you know that most men are more liberal than their wives?