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Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by cy4eve(f): 7:47pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
Jayslicky:modern day slavery |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by lilmax(m): 8:20pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
I find this degrading 3 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by jarmy: 8:37pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
ZIMDRILL:Why should a wife be thinking of the aftermath of her husband's death. She is the next of kin to all our properties. Woman and their thinking pattern! The way things are going many single men will prefer to remain single and have baby mamas here and there. |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by bluetopaz: 10:07pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
jarmy: Oga please read https://www.nairaland.com/1980256/husbands-demand-wives-submit-salaries 1 Like |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:19pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
jarmy: its because of the environment she is aka she has seen other women loosing the house they built together with her husband simply because of 1 the house in her husband's name 2 inheritance after the death of a husband is dealt with traditionally whereby the relative of late takes everything instead of law letting the surviving spouse aka wife takeover everything you see in zimbabwe where i am from between 1990-2000 aids killed so man married man and most of the surviving spouse aka the wife lost properties due the traditional ways of dealing with surviving spouse, the late husband relatives takeover most properties and sold them etc there even a movie made for awareness of how to deal with such issue, teaching people to respect and let the surviving spouse inherit her late husband's properties weather they were married traditionally or civil so from 2000 and onwards most parents would encourage their daughters to have a civil wedding, that would protect their daughter in the case the husband dies, the civil wedding protects a surviving spouse no relative would take anything (law wise) in case their is greedy relatives who would have admired the late's husband properties etc so the wife would think of the aftermath becoz of how society is dealing with the death of a husband and husband is not also showing the wife that their future is safe in case he dies 1st 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by generationz(f): 11:40pm On Aug 30, 2019 |
zeb04: Babe, I love your third paragraph. You are pretty BTW. |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by ststyreal(f): 12:08am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy:Something must have triggered this attitude of hers, and it might be your attitude towards her. Honestly, with what is happening in marriages these days, most women are insecure in their homes, as most men have taken to adultery, hence women borrowing sense this days to secure themselves in case of any eventuality. I think it is your duty as the husband to take care of your family while she supports you as the helpmate but to support person no be by force; hence, you have to lovingly talk to her in the language she will grab. Hubby doesn't ask me of my salary.. yet he takes care of the feeding and the children's school fees while on my own, I take care of the children's clothing, making their hair, undies and some other little things... Just budget your salary to take care of your family in the best way you can.. don't depend on her salary... leave her to her conscience... You can give her like 35 or 40k for the feeding every month while you make do with the remaining 50k. May God perfect your home amen... Please, kindly Ignore any words of mine that aren't ok with you.. just trying to make a common sense 4 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by elektra(f): 12:40am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: Why shouldn’t she? You yourself should be thinking of the aftermath of your own death. I don’t understand why a lot of Nigerian men act like they are immortal. Oga whether you think of it or not, you will die! And you don’t know when it’s going to happen. Anyone (both men and women) with young kids should give some thought to what’s going to happen to their family when they die. And if they can, they should have some plan (save money, invest, build house e.t.c) to cushion the suffering of their offspring when they die. This is common sense, but you see Nigerian man, the moment wife starts talking about will, he will say she is trying to kill him. Mtchew. 11 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by bukatyne(f): 1:06am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: Oga In all sincerity, what changed? What turned an open loving wife to one who hoards her salary, saved and wants more from you? What made her stop trusting you? 3 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by pocohantas(f): 1:28am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: Please Sir, refer to this thread. https://www.nairaland.com/5316341/how-recover-funds-accounts-deceased |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by Nobody: 4:37am On Aug 31, 2019 |
ThothHermes:He insinuated he was female some months ago. I tend to believe it is true |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by ThothHermes: 5:45am On Aug 31, 2019 |
LoJ:Should it not be she |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by yeyeosoronga: 6:17am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: Is it the same national geographic channel that shows female animals receiving dick from different male species? Abeg, let's hear word. If it's about how animals behave, many female species are polygamous in nature. 2ndly, with your mindset, one cannot blame your wife for not trusting you with her money 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by yeyeosoronga: 6:30am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: The house is indeed yours, and she can be driven out of it anytime by the time it's completed. She completely understands the Nigerian system and that is why she keeps her money from you. You also have a mentality that you are naturally polygamous. She is calculating in her head why she should contribute to a house where she is just a tenant, and a cowife/cotenant can be brought in to her 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by LordPherule(m): 6:32am On Aug 31, 2019 |
Jayslicky: Hmm... I fear the kind life of one with such view. May our sisters not fall in kinda trap of such view. My sisters and mother are not maid. They are queens. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by MuttleyLaff: 6:39am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: budaatum: ThothHermes:ThothHermes, because budaatum identifies, acknowledges and expresses his feminine side of him does not make budaatum any less of a man than he already is. budaatum is a virile non-gay manly man, he is a conscious person and so happens to have no qualms, expressing and being in touch with his feminine side LoJ:Us human beings are fearfully and wonderfully made, wonderful works of God. We are all complex creatures, and yes, we have characteristics which whether by nurture or nature are associated with the two genetic sexes, as in male and female, and so another yes, we all, at one time or occasionally talk about or express a spectrum of those characteristics to a greater or lesser degrees and so why budaatum usually does same about his anima (i.e. talk about his feminine parts of his personality, persona, attractiveness and make-up) |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by ThothHermes: 7:06am On Aug 31, 2019 |
MuttleyLaff: 1 Like |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by MuttleyLaff: 7:12am On Aug 31, 2019 |
ThothHermes:You look like you're scratching your head and gotten more confused than you already were. I am sorry that I didn't keep quiet and now only worsened the matter |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by ThothHermes: 7:16am On Aug 31, 2019 |
MuttleyLaff:Exactly. He's a man until proven otherwise. |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by MuttleyLaff: 7:35am On Aug 31, 2019 |
ThothHermes:Trust me please, at least for the sake of you know I can't ever knowingly lie to you. Budaatum is as man as you and I are, if not more than most men are, and that's for having no qualms expressing and identifying with his feminine side, just as much as some of we men usually do. ThothHermes, if his missus, is the one who wears the trousers in the home, then means budaatum has got a husband on his hands, its just as simple as that. Capisce now? |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by Jayslicky: 9:17am On Aug 31, 2019 |
LordPherule:Dude don't take it too serious, I was just being sarcastic. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by budaatum: 11:55am On Aug 31, 2019 |
LordPherule:And men are pigs! |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by budaatum: 12:17pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
MuttleyLaff:Sorry, but you cannot be trusted to have done sufficient research to ensure you have not unknowingly lied! |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by MuttleyLaff: 1:42pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
budaatum:Whatever you say budaatum. However you want it. ThothHermes, never lie to yourself because the most dangerous lies, are ones, you tell yourself. Denial is the worst kind of lie, because its a lie you tell yourself |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by CsRockefeller(m): 2:06pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
Jayslicky: Only few saw the sacarsm in your post. Nigerian's are too emotional, damn! |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by jarmy: 3:29pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:I taught marriage should be about trust. |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by jarmy: 3:42pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
ststyreal:Thank you. |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by jarmy: 3:52pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
Some have advised me NOT to depend on my wife's income for anything. Well, that means she equally have not right to question how I spend my money. Is that not separation? I think this will create gaps in our home. The best thing is for her to tell me how much she is willing to put on the table. We both will then discuss what we intend to do with our income for the month or year. This is very import in a home. A man should know the financial status of his wife and vice versa . Many bankers have become rich due to financial secrets in homes. Manner of approach also matters. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by FredasMumAndI: 4:25pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: The biggest cost of all is feeding. To feed 4 mouths on that salary is no easy thing. Rent is probably paid once a year. School fees is paid once in a term. Food is eaten everyday!! It is expensive and gulping down all the 65k. Take some money out of your salary and give to her monthly to support the running of the home. 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by LordPherule(m): 6:07pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
budaatum: We are kings! |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by LordPherule(m): 6:08pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
2 Likes |
Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by Phenomenal16(f): 6:17pm On Aug 31, 2019 |
Jayslicky:...I pity d unlucky woman that will marry u 1 Like |
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