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I did not get this as a mail from www.talkwithdasilva.com , this is actually a discussion I had with my colleague at the office before closing for the year.

While we were gisting at the office, we diverted to cheating issues and she told me that the last time she and her husband visited her father, he sat them down and right in presence of her husband; her father told her, she should take things easy with his husband.

He told her that, the guy will cheat and that she should just see it as normal thing if she does not want to die of hypertension or die young.

Immediately I chipped in and was like "Why in Gods name will your father tell you such a thing in the presence of your husband"?

If your father want to advice you on such issue, he should have called you aside and told you; him telling you that in the presence of your husband is a green card for him.

Your father is automatically telling you husband that even if he cheats on you, he won't have problem with it.

She was just looking at me as if am an alien, because she is sensing reason in what am saying.

So guys, do you think this my colleague father utterances are okay, especially when his daughter is newly married?

Nah am nt a counselor, the post has got nothing to do with cheating with dignity as you presume.

I stated in the post that the man is cheating, he can decide to call it quite or continue.. Also I said am not in anyway supporting extra marital affairs..

The way you ladies approach issues is not the same way we men approach issues.. Yeah, I know some underlying language of mine meant "Cheat with Dignity" but still at that. Anyway sha..

Just like I said, it is a thing of the mind.. Your wife and kids are better off if they don't know about your extra marital affair, but some men are so wayward that they even bring their girlfriends home.

The post is for such men. Men that cheat and still use it to hurt their family. I know of a man over here in ikeja.

Once he receives his salary, his wife and children won't see him at home again. Immediately he gets paid on the 30th, from work he will go straight to his girlfriend house, he will stay with her for almost two weeks or more, once the salary is finished, he will find his way home. When he gets home he will start pouring out his vexation and frustration life on is wife and children.

In all, what am actually trying to say is that if you are cheating, do it with respect, still respect the fact that you are married.

To me, any married man that is on social media will surely have a girlfriend but fine, having a mistress is not the problem, you said your wife is not okay for you but let your mistress remain outside, let her never come into your family.

I bet you did not read the entire post, cause if you did you will see that I gave some tips on how a married woman should retain her man

This morning I will be discussing "Cheating" again; but from a different perspective. You guys know each time I talk about cheating I always limit it to Relationship only but today I will be discussing " "Cheating in Marriages and how to avoid it".

Weather you like it or not "Men" cheat on their spouses in marriages, not all men though but most guys of now adays cheat on their wives. All thanks to social networking sites. If you ask an average Nigeria lady she will tell you "All Men" cheat. They most times claim cheating is in men's DNA. I disagree to agree to that.

You see when we talk about "Cheating" in general it is more or else a thing of the mind. I can be married to a wonderful lady that is great on bed, in the kitchen and well mannered but yet I can still decided to cheat on her; likewise I can be married to a lady that can not take care of me or my children and I can still decides to be faithful to her. So if you ask me, cheating is a thing of the mind.

I won't lay much emphasis on how to avoid your husband from cheating on you. That is a Topic for another day; this article is directed directly to men that cheat on their wives. Now you are already cheating on your wife with another lady; what will you do? You can decide to call it quit with your mistress or to continue.

Let me quickly say this before I forget, a man that is cheating on his wife does not mean he doesn't loves her. Most Relationship Counselors are quick to tell you that a man that Loves his woman will not cheat on her; well if you ask me Jb Da Silva Usman; that's a lie. Am not in anyway supporting extra marital affairs but most times we just have to forget what we read and see on television and face reality.

There are some rules governing Cheating in marriages. I know some women cheat on their husbands too but I am directing and focusing my cheating accusation on the men this morning. So as I was saying, there are rules governing cheating on your wife as a man. Some of them are.

* If you must cheat on your spouse; do it with dignity. You don't have to remove your wedding ring because you want to cheat, you don't have to deny your sweet wife and lovely kids at home because you want to cheat.

* You don't dare bring your extra marital affair into your home. Your mistress is a mistress and a mistress she must remain.

* You don't dare bring your mistress into your home weather your wife knows her or not. You don't also bring your mistress into your home because your wife traveled.

* You don't deny your wife and children your fatherly responsibilities because of one mistress you are keeping.

* You give your family 90 percent of your time; you can spare your mistress the remaining 10.

As a lady why not ask yourself why your husband will leave you at home and will go chasing other girls? Are you not a woman? So why will a woman like yourself be sharing your man with you? Even though your man is still doing everything to make you happy all the time the thought of sharing him with another woman was not part of your marital vow so why share him?

The other day I threw a question on my Facebook fan page where I asked fans where they will want their spouse to be good at between the Bedroom and Kitchen. Most of them were busy saying kitchen.

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Just like you guys suggested yesterday, I told him to stop self treatment and go and see a Doctor. He just sent me a mail today.. He said he is fine now.

He said he spent a total of #1,300 to cure himself.

He said he went to this cottage govt hospital in their area. He bought their card for #500 and requested to see the Doctor. He said he waited till it got to his turn.

When the male Doc asked him what his complains was, he told him everything and as he was telling the doc, he was writing some note down. after everything the Doctor handed him the list and told him to go to the hospital pharmacist and hand them the note.

He did as he was told and them sha pack some drugs for am sha. It totaled to #800.

He said he went there yesterday afternoon and when he got home, he took some and he said since that yesterday, he has not experienced any burning sensation when peeing again, also there is no more discharge..


Thanks guys...

Thanks Guys, will tell him to go and see a specialist just like you have suggested..

Good day Nairalanders, Please I want to ask here if you guys can help. I actually got this from a reader from my blog www.talkwithdasilva.com see it below.

Good day Da Silva, please am having some health issue. For 3 months now I started experiencing this.

Any time am peeing, I feel this hot burning sensation. The same thing happen if am having sex and am cuming. Sometimes I do see some whitish discharge from my penis. But the discharge looks like sperm because it does not smell.

This burning sensation and discharge come and goes. If I pee like 5 time a day, I might feel the burning sensation in one or two.

I know this is not normal because I have not experienced this before. I took some Ampiclox but still it did not stop.

I even went to one traditional doctor, he said it is infection, one said it is syphilis, he made an Agbo for 2k for me. I drank it for 2 weeks but still no remedy. I still feel the burning sensation when am peeing and when am releasing during sex. I do see the discharge once a while too. Please do you know of any pills I can take that will flush it out of my system?


So guys please, that was what was sent to me. Please to the doctors or medical students here, please can you refer to me any good pill for him?

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Android phones are gaining in popularity globally. Its popularity is largely due to its adoption by most mobile phone manufacturers as their platform of choice and the cheap cost of Android phones. Some of the reasons why Android seems popular to phone manufacturers include that it is open with little restrictions giving OEMs the liberty to be creative and differentiate their devices.


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Another is that the Android OS is free and designed to provide a great user experience. A lot of Android Phones manufacturers are now building cheap Android phones leading to a huge explosion in the growth of the Android platform. This article shows off some of the best cheap Android phones currently available in the Nigerian market.

Android OS requires powerful hardware to run that is why most Android smart phones feature at least 1GHz processor and 512MB RAM with premium models boasting of quad-core, hexa-core, or octa-core processors. High-end Android phones also offer large displays ranging from 5.0-inch to 6.3-inch.

Although the latest Android OS version is Android 5.0 (Lollipop), most cheap Android phones will be coming with Android 4.4 (KitKat) and Android 4.2 (Jelly Bean) for some time to come.

Here are some cheap Android phones in Nigeria


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I don't know why some women are suffering their babies for no just cause. Little babies are beautiful creatures already; you don't need to start dressing them like adults and making them feel like an adult when they are just babies.

They are beautiful already. You don't need to make them up like adults. I just walked passed a woman back strapping her baby. You need to see the way this poor girl is sweating with the heavy attachment they sew to her scalp, the heavy pendant around her neck and her sweat has spoilt the make up her mum wore for her; making her face look like a colour book


I see no reason why you should start wearing Lipstick, Mascara, Eye liner, etc for your 2-10 year old daughter, they don’t need it, it is we the adults that needs or uses make-up to enhance our beauty due to aging or other skin issues. Babies don't need them.

If a married woman wear Make-up, of cause she is doing so for her husband, now if you wear makeup for your 3 year old daughter, whom are you making her up for? There are clothes for adults and there are clothes for children, you don’t have to buy adult clothes for your babies, because what you teach them at an early age is what they will grow up with.

I have this neighbour that has a 13 year old daughter, each time she wants to------> http://www.talkwithdasilva.com/2014/03/make-up-dressing-kids-like-adults-my_4.htmlClick Link to read full gist

Having a successful wedding is the dream of every intending couples but the big question is “How do you plan your wedding” to make it a big success? Wedding planning is fun but it can also be very stressful and frustrating if your wedding is poorly planned. There are lots of things to put into consideration when planning a successful wedding and they are listed below.

1. Finance:- Before dreaming of having a successful wedding you must first of all consider your financial status. Don’t get me wrong, am not in anyway saying your wedding must make you bankrupt neither am I saying you must have an elaborate wedding but whichever the case maybe a proper financial schedule should be drawn out for your wedding. Know how much exactly you are willing to commit into your big day. This survey should be carried out between you and your would be husband. Finance is the key to every successful wedding be it a big or small wedding.

2. Set the date: After you might have finished drafting out your budget, the next thing is to choose an appropriate and convenient date. Double check your calendar and make some inquiry from your would be guest before choosing a wedding date so that the date will not coincides with any major event that might take place that day which could prevent some of your guest from attending your wedding.

3. Choose the Theme of your wedding:- This is where to consider all the colourful paparazzi that comes with having a successful wedding. Choose who will participate in the wedding. This is when you need to decide who will be the bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, ring bearer and so forth. You'll need to make plans with all of these people before hand and make sure they can participate before making all of the arrangements. You also need to consider your event décor, the welfare of your guest; you might consider hiring a caterer, the Emcee, Photographers and Videographers; this is very important in all celebration (wedding inclusive) because photographs helps reminds us of great days in our lives. Djs or live band should also be considered. All of these boil down to your level of finance; if you have limited finance you might consider having a Dj than hiring a live band.

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great, would have love it to be in other sections too, so that we can all learn one or two things from it but .......

Female Genital Mutilation (FMG) otherwise known as Female genital cutting or female circumcision is a barbaric act carried out behind closed doors in some parts of Africa, Nigeria inclusive. This act is carried out in such a way that a tip of the clitoris or the entire clitoris is cut off from the female Instruments.

This act is part of child abuse, imagine the physical and psychological trauma that girl will go through. We do hear cases of some girl child that bled to death during this act. Some of the girls that survive this trauma will tell you, they feel less of a woman if they grow into adult.

I was reading an article published by one of our NGO's in Nigeria the other time where a 16 year old girl and her mother were banished from their village because the girl refused being circumcised. According to their tradition, every first female child of a family (otherwise called the Ada) will be circumcised on her 16th birthday. I was like, how do they expect a fully grown, educated 16 year old girl to lie down and let you use blade or knife to cut off part of her womanliness all in the name of one tradition? That is very much impossible.

I was pondering on why these people carry out this heinous act on their daughters and according to my findings, apart from the fact that it is part of their tradition; they carry out this act because; Click Link to read full shocking details----------->http://www.talkwithdasilva.com/2014/11/understanding-female-circumcision-and.html