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Op, what qualifications has your mom got to run a day care? A daycare goes beyond putting children in a space and looking after them. Does she have qualifications and experiences in child psychology, teaching targeted at children or any child related qualification/experience? If your answer is no then I will say the daycare idea be shelved, unless she is willing to hire someone with the right experience/qualification to spearhead the day to day running of the daycare.
Another question is what is the age range to be considered? Running a daycare is a lot more than the average Joe thinks. If not because of the Nigerian factor, there should be a body responsible for overseeing such operations, and ensure all employees are duly checked (criminal checks etc)
One can never go wrong with food because as someone said, people must eat. But like one poster asked; is it porridge or pottage? You need to clarify this, and is this not been too restrictive? I will advise your mom does a feasibility study on the intended locality where the business will be located. That will enable her to make a decision on what will more profitable.

OP the truth of the matter is, this is the predicament in many homes not just in Nigeria but all over. However, the earlier you nip this in the bud the better for your home now and in the future. Your marriage is still young so hopefully this matter can be solved winth some strong feet on the ground actions.
A lot of good advise have been offered to you, hopefully you will be able to sieve through all of these and pick and apply practical steps for this.
A young man (I am assuming your hubby is less than 35) who insists that he won't work for anybody but himself despite situations glaring him in the face is a very proud and arrogant person. At least if his projects were bringing in some form of finances no matter how little one will understand.
He can easily get a job from all you've said, so what is the big deal with him working for someone now while his projects materialise. If he shows some level of interest in your business, let him get involved at this point when you can't physically manage to do what you usually do, and supervise him.
This may be harsh but I will also advise that you do nothing about the house rent, don't bother running around for the rent, he will understand the severity of the matter when he sees that you have no means of getting the rent. Maybe get a loan (I know you will be able to pay back once baby is here and you are back on your feet) to cater for your needs and health and get things for baby and for nothing more than that. Men like this need to be hit with a harsh reality to wake up, although to some it doesn't matter to them.
Please handle this matter with all firmness so that this stops now, otherwise you will be saddled with a lot of financial responsibilities. I am not against a woman providing financially in the home but she shouldn't be saddled with the entire burden, except it is her choice. But clearly it isn't your choice in this case.
Go back to the drawing board, sit with him and rediscuss financial responsilities in the home with him, who should be responsible for eg rent, groceries, school fees (thinking for the future), cars/fueling, maintenance, miscellaneous spending and stuff like that. This will give both of you a clear direction.
Praying for good health for you and hoping that all works out well for you eventually.

For crying out loud, who the hell is responsible for putting stuff on the front page? How can this nonsense be on the front page, haba!!!

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I will say everyone who is trying to do registration for Post Utme online should be patient. people are always in a hurry, if the previous year's details are still there then give it time and everything will be sorted out, why are you people stressing unnecessarily and I hope you have all visited www.abu.edu.ng to get the correct portal you are to register on. Nobody here works with ABU, so there is no way anybody here can help. Just be patient.

Poster, there is this thread in the Health section ''Trying to conceive a child, TTC''. it is very informative and it was started by a poster who had been married for a while and had some miscarriages. I think you should check it out.
Cheers.

Odunnu:
What info were u posting? were u warned to quit reposting? I guess the spam bot auto banned you.

I was only trying to post info for post ume screening that I got from an institution's website, since a lot of the people in the education section were asking after it. The thing is that I wasn't warned whatsoever, if I was I wouldn't have kept reposting it. I just got banned after the first attempt. That is so unfair.

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