Goodday ladies and gentlemen.
i have been wanting to get a real life answer about this.is it better for a man to love his would be wife more than the wife loves him or the other way round?.

pls push it to front page to allow more advise.God Bless u.

Hello everyone.
I travelled to Lagos from Benin, attending a conference/camp meeting organised by my church Gospel Pillar Ministry.
It was a four days program and it was indeed a powerful time out with my man of God.
I stayed in Ogudu around Ojota area. This is not actually my first time of coming to Lagos. But i notice one very interesting act by lagosians that i actually taught to be a good way of being patriotic and having some respect for the Nigeria bank note.
I used tricycle and sometimes taxi to move around during the time i spent in lagos, and i noticed that no matter how bad the bank note was, the drivers would never for anything ask questions or reject the bank note.
I went to get some stuff in CCD a big mall near Ramat GRA. After my shopping, the sales person that attended to me gave me my change and the change was way too bad that i rejected it. But she insisted I take it that I can still spend it. You need to see the state of this bank note, the bank note needed to be out of circulation eventually ended up not using of one of such bank notes because i just felt not nobody will accept it from me.
It got me wondering because from where i come from, its not possible to find that kind of note still being used for business or anything buying and selling.
So the question is, how often you reject bank notes don’t think is a good practice.
You as well share you experiences too, so we can know other states that have this good practice of respecting our bank notes.
#NigeriaWillBeGreatAgain.

what a move worthy of emulating.it shuld nt bnews anyway bt what do u xpect frm a country like nigeria.good one gov.

mouth watering indeed.i see d gunners takin dis one frm tot.who is wid me?

calberian:
After all the money spent. . . Poor madrid

Money is a defence,wisdom is also a defence.havin money alone is nt enough..there shuld a good buy frm d trans.market.

October 31, 2018 10:22 am


Femi Ogbonnikan In Abeokuta

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has notified the national leadership of the Peoples Democratic Party of its decision to accept and publish the list of candidates submitted by Adebayo Dayo-led state executive committee in Ogun State, for the 2019 general elections.

The Dayo-led executive committee in the state is loyal to the embattled Ogun East Senatorial candidate, Buruji Kashamu.

INEC’s letter with reference No. INEC/LEG/DR/197/1/514, dated October 25, 2018, addressed to the national Chairman of the party, Chief Uche Secondus, was obtained by THIS DAY on Tuesday.

In the letter titled, “Nomination of candidates for 2019 general elections in Ogun State”, signed by its Acting Secretary, Okechukwu Ndeche, INEC drew the attention of the national leadership of the party to two different judgements of the Federal High court in the following cases: FHC/L/CFS/636/2016- Engr. Adebayo Dayo and Another Vs INEC and five others; and FHC/L/CFS/114/2018 – Alhaji Adewole Adeyanju (member, PDP National Working Committee) and six others Vs INEC and 30 others .

The letter read thus, “The Federal High Court in the matters ordered the commission to recognise Adebayo Dayo-led State executive committee of PDP in Ogun State and receive list of candidates for the 2019 Governorship, National Assembly and State House of Assembly election from the said committee..
click here to continue reading:https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2018/10/31/inec-notifies-pdp-of-its-decision-to-recognise-kashamu-candidates-list/

NAIRALANDERS, i just want to clarify some routine act of dressing.
what is the right hand to wear your wrist watch it sound funny but i really need an answer.
thanks_

what does dat do for u?set urself aside ohk.

Ohh yeah..

Truth be told this post ain't lying
like if yes n share if no

i wonder what these countries will be like without cash.

prim.

Nyerhovwo101:
where is ur pvc?

hes after posting with his pvc on line..

its just a natural thing.but make sure there taught in the things of christ..

D preplanned evil finally has gotten expression. Let d Peace of Jesus reign.

This is a show of misplaced identity..time will tell

This is the truth about Sunday.for those that say there is no God am sure you are still in a deep cus that's the sin that even the devil himself did not commit.be wise!

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I may have shared this story before with some of you: Many years ago, I was giving evidence in a hearing over a dispute with a partner. The hearing was taking place before an arbitrator in London. As a requirement of the arbitration process, before the hearing each party had to disclose all documents (including all correspondence) over the course of the relationship.

One evening during my three-day cross-examination, as I was preparing for the next day, I came across an email written by one of my staff which completely contradicted and undermined everything I’d been saying. It was very damaging for our case. No one had seen this email, and it had never been disclosed.

I discussed the email with a lawyer on my team. He just shook his head and said, "If that email emerges, our case is gone. We will lose."

Our dilemma was compounded by the fact that our partners hadn’t disclosed many documents that we required, and that we knew they had. They openly lied to the judge, saying the documents did not exist. If we lost the case, we would immediately lose $15m. And that was a lot of money for us in those days.

What was I to do?

That evening I knelt down and prayed. Then I went to bed.

The following morning, I returned to the stand but before I could start, my lawyers asked the judge for an opportunity to speak:

"My client came across some documents last night which had not previously been disclosed."

And with that he handed him the file with the email in it. The judge read it carefully, then handed it to the other side. Their lead advocate who had been aggressively cross-examining me, read it, and looked at me.

When we resumed, the advocate for the other side did not raise the email, and its contents. I noticed that his entire tone and attitude had changed -- he was more respectful than before.

The judge then adjourned the case to allow him a few weeks to consider the case.

A few weeks after the hearing closed, but before we had a ruling, the lawyers of the other side called our lawyers saying: "Our client would like to settle this case, before the judge issues his ruling."

And with that they offered to pay us the money we had been asking for.

To this day, I don’t know what happened on the other side that prompted them to settle, but on my part, that’s when I first coined the phrase:

"I would rather lose believing God was with me, than win knowing He was not."

The great civil rights leader, Rev. Martin Luther King Jr, once said, "The time is always right to do what is right."

Whilst the story I have just told is an extreme example, be assured that every day of your life you will have your integrity tested. Much of the time it is very small things that are almost unnoticeable, but at others, it will require every ounce of your integrity and courage.#copied

The world is losing it...vanity is not a mix.

*CHANGE YOUR PHILOSOPHY*

A lot of times many of us do not know that the only thing we need to change our life for good is a change in philosophy. A change in philosophy is what made the proverbial prodigal son to move from eating swine food to drinking fine wine. Here are a few common philosophies we need to change today.

1. *"WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE"*
Whatever will be will not be; you have to make it be. You have a part to play in what will be in your life, so don't leave it to chance. Lucky they say is when opportunity meets preparation.

2. *"HALF BREAD IS BETTER THAN NONE!"*
Why settle for half bread when you can get a full bread or even own a bakery. This is a limiting belief that positions you to settle for less and it is a mediocre philosophy. Life pays any amount you ask of it. Never settle for less.

3. *"A FOOL AT FORTY IS A FOOL FOREVER"*
A fool at any age can be a fool forever if he refuses to let go of his foolishness. It is never too late to become wise because the day you wake up and wise up is the day you CHANGE! The founder of KFC changed his life upon retirement at an age above 60 to become the richest man in America. It is never too late to make a turn.

4. *"FINGERS ARE NOT EQUAL"*
Yes! Physical fingers in your hands are not equal but that does not make any of them valueless. Lose one and you realise that they are all valuable. You are not even a finger, so why look down on yourself. They say "As a man thinketh so he is"

5. *"LIFE BEGINS AT FORTY"*
If you are below forty and believe this, I feel so sorry for you because it means you are not yet alive. If you are waiting for 40, then you have faulty mindset.

6. *"WHAT GOES UP MUST COME DOWN"*
Is your age coming down? Is your wisdom and knowledge coming down? Is the price of goods coming down? Think my friend! Think! If any of these are always coming down around you then it seems you are gone six feet down already. Raise your game, your hustle and your standards. It is less rowdy at the top.

7. *"HE WHO LAUGH LAST, LAUGHS BEST!"*
Why laugh last when you can laugh always and why laugh best when laughter is not a competition. When we programmed ourselves with these strange philosophies, they limit and restrict us. Don't wait to laugh. Laughter is good for the soul. Laugh now!

Change the way you think and talk..
You will change your world...

[color=#990000][/color]CONSEQUENCE OF SLEEPING IN CHURCH
While in church a lady dozed off during the preaching. Suddenly, the lady snapped
out of her slumber and what she heard from d pastor was "stand on your feet", so she jumped to her feet. She noticed that she was the only one standing. She also noticed the shock on the faces of the entire congregation looking at her including her husband and daughter. The stares made her confused until the pastor stated, "One person is already up, Sister God bless you. Let me repeat myself for the benefit of those who did not hear me well, this is your last chance!: If you are a witch, stand up on your feet for deliverance!
WAHALA DON GAS O
Abi make sister siddon or continue to stand?, please advice!
Be careful, church is not your bedroom o.... good evening beautiful people

[color=#990000][/color]CONSEQUENCE OF SLEEPING IN CHURCH
While in church a lady dozed off during the preaching. Suddenly, the lady snapped
out of her slumber and what she heard from d pastor was "stand on your feet", so she jumped to her feet. She noticed that she was the only one standing. She also noticed the shock on the faces of the entire congregation looking at her including her husband and daughter. The stares made her confused until the pastor stated, "One person is already up, Sister God bless you. Let me repeat myself for the benefit of those who did not hear me well, this is your last chance!: If you are a witch, stand up on your feet for deliverance!
WAHALA DON GAS O
Abi make sister siddon or continue to stand?, please advice!
Be careful, church is not your bedroom o.... good evening beautiful people

Diversity?what particular school of thought don't get to view it from an obvious scene?

Alot of ladies complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused to give them sex, some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys.
Let me be very blunt here. Virginity may not be the real reason the guys go away. Yes, no doubt, there are several guys who want sex, and if they don’t get it, they walk away. The problem may not be with the virginity or the sex. The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that
both the wise and foolish were virgins; the other five were not refused from seeing the bridegroom because they were virgins or because they lost their virginity, but because they were foolish; they were called foolish because they had no EXTRA OIL.
Most ladies don’t have any EXTRA OIL to sustain any relationship. While many brag about their virginity, that is all they have to offer, they forget that virginity ends the night after the wedding, but EXTRA OIL is what will keep the marriage going.
If a man asks a lady for sex and she says NO, the man can walk away if what he really wanted was sex and also, if that is all he thinks the lady can offer him. A man may not come to a lady for sex but along the line, he may be tempted to ask for sex, if the lady turns him down, the man may still stay in the relationship, if he sees other things that are valuable to him but if he doesn’t, he may walk away.
Before you think guys are walking away because you are a virgin, look inwardly. Some ladies who brag about virginity are somewhat timid, some impolite, uncultured and aggressive. Why would a guy stay with such a lady? Some ladies do not have manners, some do not have much upstairs, some are not social, some are dull, and maybe the best thing they have is their hips, nice backside, nice breast and nice lips, and so when a guy comes because of all the physical shapes and wants sex, if he is turned down, he walks away because there is nothing else
interesting about the lady.
Most men now are even scared of marrying such virgins. Their fears prompt them to want to test before they discuss marriage because many ladies who got married as virgins have caused their husbands to be looking elsewhere because they are too naïve on bed.
However, you don’t need to test to be sure she will be good, you can know a lady who will be good at home and bed by her decent conversation, by the level of knowledge acquired, by her quest/zest passion for knowledge and by God’s leading. I know of many ladies who are still virgins, they have great relationships, they have many friends around them, you may not even know they are still virgins unless they tell you. Do not break your virginity because a guy wants to walk away, unless you don’t have anything else to offer in the relationship. It is not all about virginity, work to build up virtue.
Virginity is good, but to your virginity, add knowledge, add EXTRA OIL….“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith, virtue; and to virtue, knowledge; And to knowledge, temperance; and to temperance, patience; and to patience, godliness, And to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, charity.” 2Pet. 1:5-7.
Virginity or no virginity...,do you have any Extra oil to sustain a relationship?

There so much most ppl don't kW abt sex.sex destroys an individual spiritual life,makes u lose ur spiritual covering.it's also a channel
Where demons can enter into ppl.it's also cause some alternation in destinies..I can go on n on,apart frm d bible itz immoral to nature to engage in fornication..flee frm it!!

I'll like to say something to young people, When you've got a Vision, you Don't Need Permission! Lots of young people send messages with great ideas on things they're passionate about and sort of need that push, endorsement or approval to go ahead. Yes you might need guidance, but you certainly don't need permission from anyone. Go ahead, start, make your mistakes, learn from it, but keep moving on. If you keep waiting for permission, it may never come & you'll never get anything done. Identify your area of passion, develop your capacity and expertise in it, actively look out for opportunities to volunteer and then also look for a Mentor and "serve". Don't ask for any favors, help or anything until you've built a great relationship with him or her. This may take some time, 3-6-9 months, however long it takes, be ready to wait and invest that time, it will surely pay off. So many people look for Mentors & once they establish some form of contact, they immediately begin to send long lists of all they want, while they forget the same Mentor has needs & career related issues also. You want the best way to get Mentors? Identify what they are passionate about, what they need or what they're struggling with and provide the solution. Some of these Mentors need help with research, typing or editing manuscripts for conferences, power point presentations for workshops, information, and other stuffs which takes up a lot of their time. Be there to provide that solution and see whether they won't open up doors for you in return. I've said quite a lot, hope this helps someone.

This is a clear picture to those who live life callously. Nobody kws his own tym to depart earth..gv ur life to Christ n continue to wrk out ur salvation wid fear n trembling. #christisclosest

I am an advocate for starting small if small is what one is. The idea of waiting forever to achieve excess wealth before doing the important things in life does not guarantee the success of it, it does not even guarantee the wealth. The only thing it guarantees is lost time. That's you waking up one day and realizing your 50th birthday is in a few days but you are still waiting for the big break before settling down.
Having said that, it is not enough to start out without the basic ability to cater for the family created, at least that should be the mindset.
Unfortunately, life doesn't always follow our plans. You can plan all you want but when life throws challenges at you, a seemingly foolproof plan starts to look like an irresponsible one. People? those ones don't care how good you planned it, what they see is what they judge. "Your guy no go work today?" and then they snigger right in your face or even ask you "bros you dey leave?"
This is where most men break. Go back in and break down in thoughts, others not so emotionally strong, in tears.
I promise you, being redundant is arguably the worst thing that can happen to a man who sees himself as a husband or head of a home.
Which of the issues do you want to address? is it the fact that you cannot actualize your dreams? or the fact that you cannot even be asked for the most basic of necessities? Okay make that one group.
Is it the people assuming you are irresponsible or the ones saying your wife has locked you down under (switched your "Saturday" with a "Sunday",make that another group.
Is it families and in laws who strip you of respect because you are "stingy", broke or both? make that a third group.
These are externals and very small compared to the internal issues you actually do live with starting with your mind and your head, then to the new arrangement in the home. If you are a bit lucky at least you can have a wife that's providing, if you are not as lucky,she's at home with you piling the pressure. Forget maturity, patience and love, this situation will test you till it gets a failure out of you. Tempers will flare and a union built of love will become a trap.
Most people, including maybe you reading will ask why anybody got married without a job. Some do and even though I strongly condemn it, you really cannot grasp the decisions of a person until you have walked the same shoes in the same instance and parameters. But majority did not get married without a job, they got married with a job which was lost, something quite unfortunate given this appears to happen a lot before the plan to settle the wife down gets implemented. A pair that decides to settle down together and start small on the income of one will always have my respect because it is not an easy thing to do. We say this is surely better than waiting endlessly until that one job is lost and the same people applauding, start to condemn what they thought was a worthy example.
The people going through this have it rough already, what will it profit you to make it worse with your harsh words? If you cannot help, then learn what you have to from it and leave them in peace. It is even worse as some dare not share their situations for the fear of toxic words that will hit them back so they stay quiet, missing out on those actually able and willing to help.
If you are in this situation, you need to be strong as it is not going to be easy but that's not a problem if you tell yourself you were born to be tougher than this situation. These words will not become food in your stomach and they will not pay the fees of your children but they will let you know that all you need to keep going on already lies within you.
Keep believing, keep praying and don't give up but while you are doing that, see this as an opportunity to be mentally constructive. The CVs can keep going out but there are other ways. No morally good job is too small if you maintain your focus (ask some of the people abroad).
Finally, understand, that through thick and thin, you cannot afford to lose your sense of humor. Garri without sugar for breakfast? laugh at yourself and enjoy the moment then "travel" the garri and make it swell. If you are blessed with someone who stays with you, you'll discover the biggest secret of marriage. "Money has very little to do with marital happiness".