lexy2014:


Is palliative not subsidy?

Is subsidy the cause of Nigerias problems?

People don't need palliatives. What they need is jobs. And by jobs, I means encouraging farming and other low risk high reward macro-investments instead of giving people handouts. Socialism increases corruption.

It's because at some point you both dropped your goals and aspirations because you were "feeling love" or "raising a child" whom you are going to fk up anyway

Saintinoo:


So sir, what is the way forward.

Ol boy I don't know o. I'm not in government. But what I know is the Central Bank has to peg the naira to dollar rate first. Then they can take this advice here by Wale Edun. And hopefully, if Tinubu has sense now, he'll reduce the costs of government and remove other unnecessary subsidies Nigeraia is paying. Or else the Naira will keep free falling until we start using the dollar like an economically colonized country (e.g El Salvador)

LordAdam16:


Emefiele's tenure did not start in 2021.

We had two recessions in 5 years. https://www.reuters.com/article/nigeria-gdp-idUSL1N2I7084

And the reason the economy grew at over 3% post-2021 is because he funneled trillions into it.

Which is not peculiar to him either. The entire planet pumped ungodly amount of cash into the system. Everyone is wrestling with the aftershocks.

-Lord

Yes. Recession causes deflation. Covid-19 was a worldwide recession. And every smart country funnelled money into their economy at the time. They encouraged small biz loans, mortgages and deployed money to people for local and foreign investments. Nigeria's Central bank under Emefiele didn't.

After Covid-19 when it was time to revert back as worldwide inflation had already started (in part fueled by Russia-Ukraine war), our guys were sleeping, while countries like the US were working to improve their currencies by playing with interest rates.

These ones were just borrowing people naira and dollar anyhow, then borrowing from The World bank, China etc. to run a very expensive government. So it's just simple demand and supply. When there's limited supply vs demand, price increases, that's your currency in respect to other countries. When you increase supply vs demand, price decreases, that's why the naira will keep going down unless drastic measures are taken by the Central Bank.

LordAdam16:


Meffy had to grapple with two recessions.

The only viable way to boost economic growth after a downturn is to open the spigot.

Don't compare apples and oranges.

-Lord

You don't understand what they call a recession bro. Nigeria's GDP has been growing at over 3% since 2021, yet there is high inflation and people are suffering at scale and the currency is losing value almost daily. What do you call that?

mrvitalis:
Like I said making a micro economist CBN governor and minister of finance is a tragedy waiting to happen

Buhari did same at least they were humble to accept they didn't know took time before taking decisions

Now we have a bad combination of arrogance and ignorant people as heads of our CBN and finance ministers


my solution
Cutting money supply would harm the already struggling businesses ...so what to so

Pump money into key manufacturing sectors as low interest loans 10% max give them 8 months before Tenure starts

Make sure they are in this two areas 1) import substitution products 2) exportable products produced at below international market price

This would marke goods available to match money supply dragging down inflation creating jobs and increasing revenue for government


Note when I mean pump in money I don't mean 50billion 😂😂

I mean 5 trillion minimum

. Spoken like someone who has no idea of macro-economics. The economy doesn't suffer from a lack of money supply. And ramping up manufacturing is a long term play

Yes restricting money supply (loan facilities) is always the sensible way to stop rising inflation. I don't know why it hasn't happened sooner? And why this Emefiele guy was just testing stupid policies. And also removing subsidy was wise but free floating of the naira was a bad move. I don't know if there are no sound economists advising these guys.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

War is not genocide. The aftermath of Truman's nuclear bomb - cancer, tumors, and making sure that no living thing (plant or animal) could occupy the Hiroshima and Nagasaki area at least for the next 2 years is why nuclear bombs are banned worldwide.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/history/2023/07/21/oppenheimer-truman-atomic-bomb-guilt/

A good war strategy tries to minimize the number of innocent casualties while launching a hard and fast offensive, not win at any cost.

ASAPFERG:
igbos deserve nothing but death

death to all igbos

This is a mentally retarded person. And I'm not even Igbo. Who takes Reno Omokri seriously anyway? Attention seeking buffon

airsaylongcome:


Is schizo characterized by extreme paranoia? I'm talking really extreme paranoia here, with belief that your friends and close family are out to "get you". Or that you are the target of a "radioactive ray"

Yes. That's psychosis. Could be from schizo or from another mental health issue. But most likely schizophrenia

Self love is opening your eyes fully before entering into a life-long contract with anyone (marriage). The signs would always be there. Just like I wrote in my recent post about girls with "daddy issues".

airsaylongcome:


How can you tell its schizo?

It's more common than you'd think. Him not being able to keep a job or to graduate despite being a smart student also point to it.

Your husband seems like he suffers from schizophrenia. And those episodes are psychotic. He needs therapy. And he needs to stay on his meds. The reality is, until he finds himself with your support, you'll be the "man of the house". These were things you should have looked at before marriage, especially for the sake of your kids. He can live a healthy and normal life but not until he learns how to read the signs and manage the disease. It's a disease of the mind. And it has no cure. But it can be managed.

CuriousStudent:
No one will admit it That child abuse in form of beating and coporal punishment has effectd on them. The passive aggression is something ruining everyone. The misogyny and the rest traces back to something. When violence is the only way of living,it traces back to abuse. Some people rarely use the magic word. Vulgar,swearing,slamming doors,banging tables,raising voices. Some(like myself) are conflict avoidant and ghost others as a means of survival/protecting our feelings instead of communication.

Comparing you to your siblings that do better. Parading you in the school for pooing on your body. And the rest. Belittling you or scolding you in public to prove to others that they are a disciplinarian or manipulation of everything about you just so your parents will not embarrassed in public.

I don't want to talk of boarding school. One girl almost sent me to my creator because the guy she liked was hitting on me.

But no,"beating made me who I am" . Who are you? If I may ask. A third world unattractive low earning hypocrite . Who are you? Some dirty misogynist dealing with scabbies and body odour and broke and still eating from mother pot or living in Shanties and squalors with mattress on the floor.

Or the hook up girls were not flogged?

Okay,I guess who you are is something great.you are not gay/lesbian,so that makes you "better"

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I recall an accident that made me realize most Nigerians are mentally unstable. I went to a restaurant with a coursemate to eat. He was frowning at some point and I inquired if all was well. Then he said ,"just look at them,they can will never cook but will be coming outside to eat. All these irresponsible girls". I asked if he was alright and he was like, "I just feel irritated when I see a lady eating outside when she should be cooking".
Till today I struggle to come to terms with the fact that instead of eating your food in peace,and walking out,you will devote your time to evaluating and noticing others.
The guy was "disturbed". Him and many others hold very strong opinions and expectations of others that owe them nothing and are quietly living their lives because someone must have subjected them to some high subjective standard. The cycle repeats itself

Very true. I have been studying a bit of psychology. And in Africa, we are ignorant of how being very tough on a child, especially girl children, during their brain's formation and maturation stage, combined with other factors, leads to issues like schizophrenia and bipolar disorders. https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/harsh-discipline-increases-risk-of-children-developing-lasting-mental-health-problems

UyaiIncomparabl:
I used to have "DADDY ISSUES and ABANDONMENT TRAUMA", but it's no problem at all, and I am past it too.

Yea. That's what everyone says until it rears up it's ugly head again, when you least expect

They don't even try to disguise the propaganda again

Zedoo:
Came here expecting an in-depth analysis...now I’m just looking like who in the world wants any woman they love to be out and about in the night?
Have your own daughter make we see if you go sleep well when she dey outside by 11pm with the evil of the day.
What you called daddy issues have nothing to do with daddy issues it’s called staying safe in a dangerous society even you as a man shouldn’t be roaming without adequate measures in the night.

There are only a handful of dangerous states in Nigeria rn. What they call narcissism starts from this controlling attitude. You absolutely should not try to control the movement of the girl you're dating (and I can guess from your profile you're not In a relationship rn or you have a degree of shyness in approaching women. But if you enter into one, being controlling will cause you lots of avoidable fights). Letting people know what the consequences of something is, and how it would make you feel about them is enough to compel wise choices (at least with someone who isn't already messed up)...

When you do a good job as a parent, a 13 year old child knows right from left. I've seen children that have no parents grow up to be responsible adults and children with very strict parents grow up to be wrecks. There are too many case studies.

Samantha124:
Then there's friendship love, the one that has been putting me through the most.

There's this other friend of mine that I love so much, but she's been hurting me over and over again, it's like she doesn't care about my feelings anymore... But I keep finding a way to overlook everything and forgive her without her asking for forgiveness.

I feel like I'm in this friendship all alone, but I can't let go because it's a 20 years friendship, we've been friends since we were young and I feel like she's the only friend for me.

She recently did something that hurt me so bad, I've been crying all morning and I only got out of bed at around 12pm, but the problem is that despite what she did, I still love her.

Friendship is transactional (I wouldn't say love). You both have benefits you offer each other - time, companionship and otherwise. Do an 80-20 assessment of the friendship. Is it 80% hurt and 20% happiness. Or vice versa. If it's the former, cut them off. You'll be making space in your life for better things and better people. But since you've been at it for a while, do it slowly. Just drastically minimize time spent with them. And also, find a way to deal with your own attachment issues.

kalufelix:
The mother-child love you talked about is still an investment for old age from the parents perspective...love is a complete hoax...its all about our various interest and desires...

Yes. There's always a reward in love. Even God saved us to make us better and be empowered to do his will. But when that reward isn't visible in the short term and may not even be realized, then that's sacrifice - the hallmark of love

Why are black celebs always ending up with hoes. It is well

Have you heard something like this before: "I love you more than life itself"...

Fact is if you think you love someone else more than yourself, it's not love in the first place. You didn't love them that much, and you surely didn't love yourself that much either.

To understand love, you should examine just two types of love:

Love for your child:
A passionate connection to someone who can't give much back. A baby is taken out of your body, a child that you kinda had a relationship with, if you're a woman, for 9 months, and you feel some sort of connection.

Then the baby has needs and those needs keep you hustling around the clock. You forget what sleep is in the serving of this other human being. That's the purest form of love. What's the main feature here - giving.

Romantic love
Romantic love is actually the opposite. It's not even really love. It's infatuation. It's obsession. So much so that scientists have determined that the same hormones are raging in romantic love as in people with sever cases of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder).

And why? Why the obsession? Because of what this other person gives *to me*. The romantic love partner is no longer the giver but the receiver. True, they will turn into a giver, but that is only because of the largess they've been receiving. You do want to give to someone who gives to you.

Okay, I copied the above from drdeb.com, a marriage and family therapist. But even in the bible:

The love of God to man is translated as agape or God so loved (egapesen) the world. To love something or someone in already good standing or who has perfect accomplishments isn't love. But to love someone who is in a despicable state, and who has no reward to offer you as of now, that is agape.

To love without expectations of reward. That can only be found with God, your mother, and with someone who loves themselves and thus extends this love to the ones that are incapable of paying back. So this is one good sign to look for in a potential spouse.

I'm not talking about giving for clout or social media views; or giving things or doing things for inlaws. That's not actually coming from a place of love.

Generally speaking, love between a man and a woman doesn't fit this criteria. There's always an immediate, instant reward. Later on, it might actually be tested and proved to be agape though. That is, when one person falls into sickness or financial troubles, or what attracted has been taken away, and the other party becomes more like a caregiver.

Fact is, you'll only find this kind of 'true love' that withstands tough tests with someone who, even before being with you has always offered assistance to old people for free, gives things to poor kids and is generally considered a "kind" person. That's a tough find.

But generally, it is a give-and-receive thing. The balance could just be skewed towards one side with someone giving more than the other. That's what causes tensions in the relationship or marriage. So, in reality, you work with what you have, but with more scrutiny.

In the real sense, even with the ideal woman or man I described - the "kind" person, at the start, he or she is with you for your looks, your money or your sex game. And vice versa. And that's not bad. That's just how it's been right from Adam.

But there should be other considerations - first I mentioned some degree of kindness to others (without any expectations). Then yours might be different but personally I'd look at cooking skills, humor and conversation, intelligence level, family dynamics and general character. I believe every man should be assessing these from the second or third date.

Assess these and most importantly, assess her medical conditions, especially mind conditions. You must note how she reacts in stressful situations. This is very important.

Throw the word "LOVE" out of your vocabulary when it comes to marriage and relationships. Analyze your needs and how this person can fit into them, then you can decide to commit. Note the word commit. Let it replace "Love" in your vocabulary when it comes to relationships. But when someone says, "I love you", be courteous enough to reply with "I love you too ".

Anyway, this is a choice you'll be responsible for, not just for your lifetime but your kids' lifetime. Once a child is mentally f**d by their parents, they may not recover in a lifetime.

Marital or relationship love is something you "fall" into, according to the programming. "Princess Diana meets prince Charming. It was love at first sight. Prince Charming slays a dragon for the princess. They got married and lived happily ever after.". Imagine being programmed by the same BS in a variety of forms since you were small.

Commitment is something you have 100% control over. No falling. There will be selflessness when you commit to someone. But not after there has been sufficient scrutiny. This is a choice you make with both eyes fully open, sometimes even with pen and paper analysis. It's not just for yourself but for your kids.

chccho:

Pls where did u write it? I would like to read.

check my profile

HUSTLER001:
In a nutshell,as a dad,be the best friend of your daughter.Not her personal bouncer.

Gbam! Girl-children are too delicate emotionally especially in their teens

You both have baggages you are sweeping under the rug. You raise children to tow the same line and drop your own loads of BS on them. Don't marry until you're sure you actually love yourself. You can't actually love someone else. So what you can do is commit or not commit... I wrote something on girls with daddy issues and any guy in relationship should read it.

The irony is I was expecting a guy to be the first to comment.

Tax the rich to pay the poor - copying a page from Obama

One of the rules of training a girl-child is to not be too over-protective, especially during their early to late teens. Being overprotective during these stages will mess the child up. So, overprotective in the sense of you must not go out after 7pm, don't let them get into fights with other girls, put a tough limit on their interactions with boys etc. Protective is good, overprotective is not. It leads to emotional complications for them later, which leads to psychological problems. There are too many case studies of this.

And as a guy in the dating market, if you see this sign. A girl is usually scared of going out anytime from 7, or is scared of being left alone in the house, or usually scared generally of little things or believes that some people are after her or her family, it'll be better you let her find herself on her own terms. Most likely down the line, she'll be scared of you leaving her. This can cause extreme jealousy, which can be dangerous for you down the line. These are signs of lingering childhood issues that you cannot solve for her. And there is usually a psychotherapy need there. You might need to move on or just help them work through it, knowing that this may take a lifetime of "working through it". Just make sure your kids are safe from emotional manipulation.

The critical way to help a child develop into their fully confident self and help them develop a full-matured brain is to appreciate or make them feel good for small accomplishments. This is crucial when they are in formative years, 0-7 and pre-teen 7-13

Renman:
Are you a Virgin

Answer the question once and for all. Madam wealllovesez ... Anybody with a phone and data can give relationship advice these days

Messi and Ronaldo have done something great with their own lives. What have you guys done with yours other than being fanboys and social media asslickers? Go and sit down and think. Nigerian youths have a long way to go.