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Goodmarlian:
nah! Chasing doesn’t work for me tried in the past it failed

Obviously she's immature. You'll be bringing heartache into your life if you date her.

muhmeen:
Prophet Israel T. Ford and Pastor Lydia Ford, leaders of LifeWorks Church near Cleveland, Ohio, announced Shakayla Ford as Israel's second wife, framing it as God's will and citing Exodus 21:10.

Lydia herself introduced Shakayla positively to the congregation, and photos show the three posing happily together.

Israel posted on Facebook that the 'one wife only' teaching is unbiblical, while critics cite 1 Timothy 3:2 and traditional Christian emphasis on monogamy from major denominations.

Supporters reference Old Testament examples of polygyny, sparking wide online reactions from shock to defense.

Moment an American pastor and prophetess, who are both married, introduce a new wife to their congregation and announce that they are now in a polygynous marriage with a female church member, claiming it is the “will of God.” 😭🤦🏾‍♂️🙆🏾‍♂️ pic.twitter.com/Pu52Uf7LWy

— 𝐀𝐬𝐚𝐤𝐲𝐆𝐑𝐍 (@AsakyGRN) October 26, 2026

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Lilosama:
A man has shared his opinion that having a woman who constantly bills you can motivate you to hustle harder, stay focused, and become more successful. He also argues that getting married early can help young men become more responsible and build wealth.

However, I disagree with his perspective. A man should have his own reasons to work hard, build his future, and become financially successful. Your goals, family, personal growth, and desire for a better life should be enough motivation.

There is a difference between a supportive woman who encourages you to succeed and one who constantly puts you under financial pressure.

My question is: Must a woman constantly bill a man before he can become successful? Or should a man have his own motivation to hustle and make money?

Watch my video, hear my perspective, and join the discussion. Do you agree with him or do you share my opinion?

Let’s discuss respectfully.

Source:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wEJceddzKQs?si=j-uIRmlaOJ6vq3no

Marry early is the worst advice to give a man who has purpose. Marriage is where many mens' dreams go to die, especially when you marry a woman who is a liability.

No truer words. A broke woman is broke because of her mentality - the way she sees life, her values, her work ethic, her spiritual life, her mental capacity.

If she enters your life, she brings you down on all fronts. What's even worse is having a child with one. It's easy to predict that if you have two kids, one of them will be dull.

That's if AI doesn't go rogue and kill half the population before then

Ogabode:
For the sake of your father, your mother, and your unborn child, you are not supposed to marry into some families. It's not hatred, it's wisdom, because some families have a pattern, anybody that tries to rise will go down, even if wealth comes by mistake, the table will still turn. Nothing lasts there,

Some na generational problem, great grandfather eye dey pain am, grandmother carry am, her father carry am, now she dey on glasses, Na so e dey run from generation to generation, If you close eye because of love, you will open eye inside marriage, you are not just marrying one person. you are marrying a bloodline. your children will carry that blood.

Pray. Observe. Ask questions. Some families, abeg RUN.

Love is not enough to fight some battles.

You get it bro. There are spiritual covenants in some families. Once you marry there, you don enter am be that.

And women from broken homes with bad relationships with their fathers rarely make good wives. They'll find it hard to respect a man.

Your kids will probably lose their mom before they turn 20. SS don't usually live beyond 47.

Your kids will be AS. They have a lower pool of men and women to select from.

You have to deal with periodic crisis and take on the role of caregiver periodically. This will affect your business if you do business or manage people.

It seems you're desperate. Take a step back and assess the pros and cons. She's great now. But women only reveal themselves when they get in.

And having a first class isn't always a sign of intelligence. It could mean she had less of a social life. Had no other option but to read.

From what you said, she's a good woman. That's hard to find nowadays. But still if you'll take away the blindfold and selfishly look at your future, do you see a great life? Or one where you've helped her out. Her parents made the decision, you shouldn't pay for it.

That guy is very corporate "buddy, you don't need to go on my account"

Evaress:
read up my previous comment

You're beautiful. You should probably get out more.

If you really loved your bf, you wouldnt admit another man into your home while alone. If you loved your bf, you'll tell him everything. He should call him and communicate firmly with him. But I guess your bf is a weak man and you're just testing boundaries.

pgirl123:
U better abandon scam religion in 2026. There is no God in heaven talkless of the words of pastors (all religious leaders are scammers) meaning anything

Rest

Rebelutionary:
Discipline them into silence you mean?

You never can tell what is in the belly until you give them an opportunity to talk but if you think you want people to nod their head in agreement and then you take that as positive feedback, you will be shocked!

The youths might not be this vocal in certain church circles but it doesn't take away the fact that it's there and it's better you hear it however it is dished and correct it.

As much as this irks a nerve in me, this is feedback-an opportunity to begin to build systems to address it at its core!

If anybody thinks this is a "Pastor Bolaji church problem", think again...look around you! This is a societal problem. This is a wake up call.

At the end "let he that hath an ear hear what the spirit of the lord is saying"

Aside:
I have sat in a class of children between the age of 9 to 16 in church and heard all manner of things that it got the pastors wife crying.

They had an open mic session where you were free to express yourself on issues that bothered you and you heard all sorts-from issues of self esteem (my dad still bathes me as a 12 year old menstruating girl), to molestation that parents were not aware of, to bullying, to contemplating suicide, to relationship pressure!

If they didn't talk, how many will we know?

Let everyone in their own small corner pick the baton to address this-parents raise your boys and girls to always think industry not this entitlement mindset!

Yes. You hit the nail on the head. It's a values problem, not about "pastor said this or that". And it's what we see around us. It's just a mirror into what's in the mind of the average Naija woman. We all know this. The average Nigerian Gen Z/millennial woman is not going to build with a man.

The pastor should be commended for creating an open place for free expression. That's actually what's christ-like, not all this stuck-up men of Mammon.

You should get some fun in your life. Over-seriousness dey worry you. See where you took it.

Herd mentality

SecurityNgr:

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This is absolutely true. Women are able to consider three or more things at the same time. Most Nigerian men only think linearly (like the ones above ). But it depends on the quality of men. If you have one man who expands his mind (reads books, listens to podcasts), works on himself, that one can replace ten workers for you. Just that it's finding a needle in a haystack.

Humblesam:
I am ONLY preparing my sons to deal with HARDSHIP in this life.....every other thing, Women inclusive will behave themselves when everywhere is soft.
Hustle and stop deceiving yourself.

Even if you're a billionaire, a "good" woman will still play you like a fiddle if you're not someone that says no to her at least 60% of the time. Go and ask Rick Ross. Everything the op said is the gospel truth.

A woman who isn't messed up in the head respects someone who is principled - sex and money. Someone who protects their energies - your sperm, your money and attention (which are all directed energies).

Good women love "bad guys" because the stereotypical bad guy lets her know by his actions that the world doesn't revolve around her, hence the label bad guy.

Young guys should know this. Because our fathers didn't teach us. It's our responsibility to teach the young boys becoming men what we learnt by experience.

Kingzjayzee:
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FSBoperator:
No be only Ibadan born.

Get out

Saturnalia:
Who asked you whether you’re from Ibadan or Enugu? By their kindergarten tactics & gimmicks, you shall know them.

Kindergarten tactics kpai you dia. You lot can't think of anything except ibo this, ibo that. And on the other side, some unexposed ones Yoruba this and that. Where people are making advancement in genomics, AI, robotics, science. Nothing freaking productive to contribute except tribalistic comments here and there. It's already stale.

I can't cook, I can't clean girls will say it's AI. Stupid bunch.

I noticed that women that find it easy to expose parts of their body like that usually are people whose brains are not fully developed. BTW am fully Ibadan born and bred.

Single mother loading for her. And I can bet she was raised by a single mother.

NL, we need productive threads on the front-page, not this bunkum. Don't be trending idiots like this

Sirchiboy:
I tried all my best to live a good life but my best was not enough.
I was born with tears and agony.

Funny enough I graduated as the best student in my department.

I was very intelligent but not smart because you can not succeed in life without being smart.

I pray God accept my soul because I have lost sense of living

Don't kpai yourself because of woman. If you die today, 100s of women will walk over your grave.

90% of women are both physically and mentally lazy. A woman who isn't making at least 10% of what I make per month (without my own money involved) isn't even fit for a relationship, talkless of marriage.

1. You never really truly know someone until shit hits the fan.
2. Trenches people will rip you off till you are financially zero. They are with you for what they're eating. You must have standards.
3. Dating a woman who can't assess herself to see where she went wrong in her previous relationship is a serious red flag. A lady or man who bashes her/his ex is not yet fit for a relationship.
4. Women who are single mothers or whose mothers are single mothers have serious abandonment issues. Move on or be ready to play psychologist and handle the fact that they can up and leave or cheat at anytime.
5. Hone your skill everyday. Learn something monetizable for at least one hour everyday. Become 1% better everyday.
6. Do rigorous physical
exercise for at least 1 HR 30 mins per week. Sleep for at least 5-6 hrs per day (your body can handle this). Take care of your body. There's no substitute.
7. Chase one thing and be obsessed with it for a period of time. Don't chase multiple things at the same time. When you chase that one thing, ignore everything else, including women and most friends. You can have side girls that come and go. But never commit until you have that one thing you're chasing.
8. Avoid anything gambling like a plague. Also run from quick money schemes.

Virginity is a sign of self discipline. It's not a sign of maturity though. Marriage takes maturity. I've had relationships with virgins. Most of them are immature. It's not virginity that will sustain the marriage. Everything "virgins" ends after the wedding night. Only the small boys like those on the first page that think sex is all that will prioritize virginity when choosing a woman.

RightToReject:
Stop the disinformation. It is legal in many provinces in Canada to pay two, or more, years' house rent in advance if a tenant voluntarily offers and if the landlord is comfortable with the offer. It is often done by students, newcomers, or individuals with poor credit.

Don't mind her exposing her ignorance. Don't students pay 1 year accomodation when they travel?

kimjessey2019:
I got married with the hope to relocate with my wife to Canada but I did not tell her. When we were planning our traditional marriage she betrayed me that even till date I don't trust her again. Her people gave me a crazy marriage list and I had plenty fall out with them which I later discover that it was her who was telling them how to extort me and etc. How did I found out? Her phone would auto record every call and one day she went to salon and left her phone at home so I used it to make call and I wanted to delete the record and that's how I listen some of her calls with her mother. Long and short of this gist is I knew that even though she is calm, respectful and supportive but having a woman who listen to her people and tell them everything in her home will be a disaster if you take her abroad. Till date she still do not know why I left her in Nigeria. My point is the sign will always be there but some men will just hope there own will be different.

You are a wise person. You dodged a bullet.

pyyxxaro:
Not all Women are wicked People but 97% are very deep and wicked

My real guy’s wife just left him few months back , the guy just came back from Australia with his wife , he has taken her to US and UK , opened more than 4 businesses for her that she couldn’t sustain, money wasted..

The guy was flogging his 10years old Son for misbehavior , so she got into the place and started shouting at him , asking why the guy was flogging her son , he out of anger flogged her for raising her voice( the guy f”””k up there) , next thing the lady packed her belongings and left the house .. The guy has been begging for months now, kneeling down to beg , she say she nor de come back again… This particular lady most times you would see her in Club with friends around 11/12pm , she’s been doing a lot when the guy isn’t in town … she already knew what she wanted to do all these while , so that flogging was what she used to accomplish her plan …

A woman that would deal with you, show you pepper later , would always show you signs no matter how smart she is , the only wahala be say , Many men go de assume say NO LEVEL 😀



I fear Woman pass Tinubu 😫

She'll come back to beg, after she has sampled a lot of dicks. If he takes her back, he'll regret it for life.

Yeah. That girl always looked like a gold digger. She'll cash out big time.

They aren't his biological kids anyway. Blood is thicker than paper. To he'll with em