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Education / Greetings by johndan103: 11:26am On Apr 18, 2022 |
Hello nairalanders |
Politics / Re: Revolution Is The Solution To Nigeria's Current Mess. Nothing Else Can Work. by johndan103: 5:54pm On Oct 16, 2020 |
I made this post over 2 years ago. I hope you all can see it manifesting now? 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 2:12pm On Jan 10, 2020 |
Hi, I disliked your comment initially and it looked like you were attacking me. But it turns out you were the only right person in over 24,000 views. I have learnt from this experience not to post one's personal life online or expect to get the best answer. majority might be wrong. Hauwa and I have gone our seperate ways. We are on good terms I hope. The good thing about the breakup is that my mom didnt play any role in it. Her influence didnt even affect the seperation. What let to the seperation is that I found out that Hauwa likes girls too. Yeah you read that right. Well I cant deal with a woman who swings both ways. I dont want to assasinate her character cos she's a nice person inherently but i cant deal with Lesbianism. I guess independent women are prone to such feelings. I had to move on unfortunately. As for my mom, I have introduced someone else to her and she loves the lady to the moon and back My sisters love her too. The lady family love my family and I too. I am happy and everyone is happy. I really loved her but love alone doesnt sustain a relationship. I hope she finds a man that can deal with a Lesbian. And I'm sorry I couldnt deal. I didnt want to bring up this issue again because I got a lot of backlash when it went viral, even tried deleting the post, but I couldnt. I am now replying you cos you are the only person who saw the future and gave the accurate advice amongts thousands of people who viewed the post. I feel I am now on the right path with the right person and we are getting all the support that an intending couple should get Thank you. Noblefirstlady: |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 3:58pm On Oct 03, 2019 |
breadplanets: I didn't report your post. I have no reason to do that. The fact that I don't like your suggestion doesn't make you my enemy. Hauwa read your response along with others and asked me if I will protect her and I promised I will. She loves me too much to dump the relationship because someone on the net says so. I understand your position but we will keep being together. Thank you so much for the time you spent wading into our story and contributing to it. Cheers 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 7:22am On Oct 03, 2019 |
pcguru1: You are right on this. I guess that's why Robert Greene said it's better to be feared than loved. I will be more assertive about it 5 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 7:20am On Oct 03, 2019 |
LewsTherin: This is my life, so it's true. My dad believes her judgement and basically supports her decisions. I'm not weak. No one wants to keep fighting against someone who can rally the whole family against you and make you isolated. You want to be on her good side but I don't care anymore about her opinion on this matter. Also note that she has made some right judgments in the past. When I marry Hauwa we will stay far from her and keep our distance to avoid interference. When I'm married there's no room for external manipulation that's why she's fighting it now. I am man enough because I have made firm choices that keep making life better for me. Hauwa who by all standards will be considered a very wealthy young lady can see how much of a man I am such that she is even Willing to pitch her tent as a life partner. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 7:07am On Oct 03, 2019 |
ctleurocollege: My dad is alive and kicking. She has always had her way with all decisions. He allows her decide. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 9:30pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
PresidentAde: Thanks a lot. I appreciate your contribution |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 4:04pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
chii8: Thanks for your advise. I would have ignored her if she was not already ignoring me. We had an argument about Hauwa 2 days ago, she hung up the phone and asked me to forget about her if I go ahead with my plans. I dont want to reach out to her either but shes has already started the ignorance as she usually does. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 3:02pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
elektra: Thanks for your advise. I will be more firm and stand up to my mom protecting my fiancee and future wife. I have tried to be respectful to my mom but she is interpreted as weakness. I wont allow anyone put my Fiancee down phycologically cos she is a nice person and deserves to be treated right. Please dont ask Hauwa to reconsider, dont scare my baby. I will intensify efforts with different strategies to get my mom to order. Shes making our lovely family appear disfunctional, and it saddens me. 9 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 1:46pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
sisisioge: Thanks!! This is by far the most interesting advise so far. 15 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 1:37pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
Acidosis: Ok i will. Thanks for your contribution. |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 1:32pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
breadplanets: Why should Hauwa run when we both love each other? Will you give her another husband after she runs? No relationship is free from complications. If she runs now for how long will she continue running from all challenges? 14 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 12:15pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
patorial: No it is not a project but my reality. I tried to write it in a logical way so that it can easily be understood by the reader Thanks anyways! 9 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 10:21am On Oct 02, 2019 |
Bluehill1051: Some men have married women older than them and had a peaceful home. Age is just a number, love comes to us in different ways. In our case I am even older than her with some months. I dont really fancy distant age gaps in my choice of a partner and Hauwa is very obiedient, respectful, beautiful and most of all emotionally matured and stable. I dont think age will have any negetive impact on our relationship cos we understand each other perfectly. 206 Likes 11 Shares |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 9:53am On Oct 02, 2019 |
Rosarie: Thanks for your advise 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 9:51am On Oct 02, 2019 |
THUNDER4real: This my real life. This is where i am right now. 11 Likes |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 9:49am On Oct 02, 2019 |
healthserve: Thanks... I hope she will listen tho 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 9:48am On Oct 02, 2019 |
pocohantas: Sorry if the grammer offends you. I only want people reading to understand instaed of mumbling words that might confuse the reader. 114 Likes 6 Shares |
Family / My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by johndan103: 9:09am On Oct 02, 2019 |
Background I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom. Statement of Problem My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her. More Details She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship). She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers. My Point of View I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know. My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me. Hauwa's Point of View Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted. Mom's Point of View The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home). The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy. Family point of view My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support. My Question What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy?? NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person. Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children. Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion. Cheers 63 Likes 9 Shares |
Crime / Re: African Maids In Kuwait Cry, Beg To Be Deported(pics/video) by johndan103: 10:35am On May 10, 2019 |
Ok where do we start from. We need a space online to discuss freely. A lot of people think same way. vheckthor1: |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 5 by johndan103: 6:21pm On Feb 05, 2019 |
Hello everyone. Please note that I need an urgent response. I received an email from the embassy saying my axa mansard 180days insurance is not accepted. I paid 17,800 for it. I want to increase it to 182 days and submit tomorrow. This will cost me another 8,000. I was also told that my Visa should not be earlier than mid March. What will you advise me to do? 1 Like 3 Shares |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 5 by johndan103: 9:04pm On Jan 16, 2019 |
Chriswazo: Thanks, Amen. When did you do your interview? |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 5 by johndan103: 5:54pm On Jan 16, 2019 |
INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT BELOW Admission Letter: Arrived around august 2018. I wish you all success. Cheers 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Politics / Civil Defense Should Police The Populace Instead Of Nigeria Police Force (NPF) by johndan103: 10:14am On Jan 02, 2019 |
The reason why the police can never be currupt free is because they carry arms and ammunition. If the civil defense bear arms the police can focus on investigation of crimes. Instead of being bugged down by guarding and escorting a few people. 1 Like |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 5 by johndan103: 9:07am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Kenthumphz: Mine was deposed to the head of my family with his full names but his passport was not attached. Only my passport appears. But his full name is clearly written. Do I need to do another one? |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 5 by johndan103: 3:06pm On Dec 30, 2018 |
Chriswazo: Good day sir, I have a sworn affidavit deposed to the head of my family. But it only carries my picture. His name is clearly stated as the person swearing the affidavit. Is this acceptable? Thanks in advance for your help |
Politics / Re: One Man One Vote Is A Flawed Electoral Concept by johndan103: 6:45pm On Dec 22, 2018 |
life2017: So how do we change the status quo in Nigeria. We need to revolt. Old people won't want any other system that won't favor them. |
Politics / One Man One Vote Is A Flawed Electoral Concept by johndan103: 8:54pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Wisdom should be the only yardstick for decision making and governance. Wisdom cannot be attained without Knowledge Some members are ignorant and cannot possibly make a decision better than the enlightened ones. So therefore one man one vote is a flawed Electoral Concept. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Revolution Is The Solution To Nigeria's Current Mess. Nothing Else Can Work. by johndan103: 12:52pm On Dec 07, 2018 |
Donelli: We have said a lot of issue but there is no concrete step to go further from where we are. We as a people can always agree to disagree. But we need to start acting. Its up to the young people to act. The future belongs to the youths but the youths dont realize they can build a system that will liberate them from the clutches of poverty and backwardness. If my disclaimer number 3 is stopping you from further contribution; i feel i owe you an explanation as to why i put it up. And the two reasons are: 1. Nairaland rule number 9 2. What Africa needs is unity not disintegration. Use South Sudan as example. But the essence of everything is to move our dear fatherland forward without the people at the helm of affairs who are afraid to see us empowered and enlightened. Everyone want to leave Africa and the rest of the world doesn't want Africans. And the youths are praying for a miracle instead of taking their destiny into their own hands and charting a new course of action by mobilizing online and deciding their fate collectively. |
Politics / Re: Revolution Is The Solution To Nigeria's Current Mess. Nothing Else Can Work. by johndan103: 12:38pm On Dec 07, 2018 |
FarahAideed: The revolution i speak of is not one that will take arms like the Arab uprising. But the change the changes will happen subtly and not be noticed until the entire entire constitution is disregarded and we now look up to the new government that is operating in the cloud by everyone and cannot be manipulated or modified by any single individual. You are right about the bolded part of your comment. But what we now is the way forward. We have spent too much time analyzing but we dont put in any actions to change our current status. Everyone want to leave the country. Even those at the helm of affairs go out of the continent to take breaks cos a large part of Nigeria in particular is no longer habitable for sane people. 1 Like |
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