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If she can take her children around to get solution, she should take her husband around for prayers too. God will answer their prayer, thank God the man is not dead. She and her daughters created the problems, they should find the solution.

I just think swag queen can learn from my case.
I have been married for 15years and was constantly abused by my H, was not working for 1st 4 yrs of our marriage. I worked from yr 4 to yr 10 and then lost my job. When i was working, he was spending his money on other things and refuse to take care of the house. When I lost my job, he will abuse me verbally for asking for anything from him. He beats me and lock me outside to sleep in the compound.

I have caught him sleeping with my maid in the night and he said i am at fault, if i have finished all his sexual urge by giving him 12hrs or more, he will have no more energy to meet my maid, he sleeps with any small girl and even cleaners around. He is at a managerial level in a bank, good looking and very quite looking.

Two years ago, during one of the episodes, i went to our pastor who called him as usual and he told him he cannot stop beating me, then i knew i have to act fast.

1. I prayed and told God i want to act now, i dont want my action to lead to divorce but i want a solution, however if divorce is the only way out, then so be it.
2. I reported him to a human right organisation here is Nigeria who wrote him a letter, and threaten to charge him to court and inform his employer of his acts, he called my pastor and threaten to kill me if the human right group should do any of such. So he maintain his distance from me. He left home for a while and then came back.
3. I dont talk to my family about his act, but now i did. My brothers and sisters called a warned him never to try it again.
4. I prayed to start a new job or business, no job was coming and no money to start a business. I told him i want to sell my car which i was giving as payoff from my previous employer. He refused but i insisted, i waited for him for 4 months to suggest something else i can do but when it was obvious he did not want me to do anything, i took the car for sale. He came there and paid for the car and took possession. I had my cash and started my business with lots of prayer and fasting.

Now my business has started doing well, he returned the car back to me. He still sleeps around, but i am praying and i try to look away. It now surprise him that i have ignore him. One day i heard him praying , God help me to change, dont give up on me, dont let my time of grace expire.

My husband is still very far from what a good man should be, I knew i cannot make him to change, but I have the power to change.

He pays the children schools fees now,no more abuse. He tries to use verbal abuse, but i warned him i will give him some response that will make him to cry. Since he cannot beat me for the fear of the human right group and my family, he has stopped.

We leave like two strangers in the house now, only talk when it is important but it sure better than the abuse.

We are now learning how to relate without trying to dominate.

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