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Bradford111:
Ignoramus I know say you go don take her back I pity your useless parents bye bye

iInjureHerYansh:
If you like be doing thank you and still go back and simp.
I don't understand how made men can't go out and meet successful women like themselves. Instead they resort to dealing with useless hoes and on top of it be takinh themselves seriously. Werey

torqque7:
I swear that guy na thunder go strike am..Godforbid. This one too will say he is a man.

Bradford111:
You must be a very big fool to take what that guy is telling you, a big disgrace to your parents that’s what you are.
You saw for yourself that another guy is fvcking her roughly you are still so stupid and dawft to take the advice of an idiot is your cup of tea though no worry your eye go soon clear you never even start to cry sef idiot

TayusKilzEasyjay:
You've been saying thank you to everyone advising you but are you sure you're going to take heed 💭

1Sharon:
Her mom does not love op trust me. If the mom knew about her cheating, will she tell the OP?

akube34:
I was a fool last two years trusting my girl too. This girl Dey knack back and front for Benin. Bro just love on. E go hard ooo, just do it small small. It was so difficult for me to get over her. Now no more feelings

shomutuski:
Hello My Bro, which part NL you they?

I go come find you, I they always come there come smoke wella for Amsterdam. You are suffering and I want to help you free of charge, we can be brothers keeper, i want nothing from you financially, I just want to talk to you honestly like a brother. distance is no problem for me, i am not flexing. just trying to show you that i can visit you. You are simping away your life force i tell you, you hold so much value and you chose to waste over a woman. its called a sunk cost fallacy, you are afraid of letting go because you feel like you have spent and done a lot for that woman but the problem is that the only thing you should value is your freedom as a man. that the key you hold, your maneuverability. That girl will cheat till thy kingdom come, nothing you can do to change her, the more money you try to use to win her over the more she moves away.

See bro women pllentyyyyyyyyy! hear me again women plentyyyyy. No let anyone wey no fit help you, stress you. You need something to take your mind off her and then you ghost her completely completely and take nothing from her. dissapear and do not go back home anytime soon, you fit come visit me for poland. i go host you find you banny wey go scatter your head, oyinbo banny.

I will drop my number in your dm. call me make we talk, i go share you my own experience

Prettygirl200:
I guess u just opened this account

kelspinall:
someone is busy living her life at the fullest,using her mum to manipulate you and you called it relationship..a relationship were a gal is busy doing her thing upon all ya efforts and even told you to feed ya eyes.because she knows what she's doing and never ready to change.lemme tell it to you, you are being played and fooled because they knew you are an emotional someone..dude leave her before you contact ya own high bp....

take a word of advice,break up with thaa hooo....post Malone

Prettygirl200:
please follow that guys advice, end the relationship now, just let her go forget whatever u might have done for her,u did it genuinely and out of love, don't cry don't worry, God will double it for you. Cheating is painful and as a very young girl that's still learning how to love I was deeply hurt I cried till my eyes got swollen, I felt like dying that moment, shey u saw chat? I caught him red handed ontop of his ex, an ex that's into strong hookup. I just felt a very sharp pain in my heart immediately it was so painful, very painful so I understand how u feel but please just let it go, it's better than being there when your mind isn't settled. I opened a thread about that. Don't worry whatever u have lost God will double it and bless your hustle. End it and don't hear pleas from anyone, bad girls are always the ones meeting the good guys.
Once again am very sorry!!

frozen70:
You love her more and she knows that

She loves you but doesn't respect your relationship with her

Now my question to you is, how prepared is this lady for which ever level you are taking this relationship too

Or because her mom loves you, do she will be the one to oil the relationship

I think you should ghost her let's see if she will search or get worried about you not communicating with her

She said you should feed your eys on her messages, well be prepared to see more things that will turn you off

Ogaezy:
Dear op

Everyone here knows that you won’t heed to the advices, you yourself knows this and unfortunately even that your babe knows this too that’s why she’s toying with you. Her mother is finishing you off with emotional blackmail.

This is not the first or second time you’re seeking advise on this your babe’s issue. Sorry to inform you that you’re fully roped in and it will only take that girl leaving you to clear your eyes. You said you cried abi, you never see anything. Kindly accept my sympathy.

Regardless, I’ll still dare you to try to leave for the sake of your job, peace and mental health. Delete all those screenshots cos I know you have lots. Looking at them will do more damages and hinder your growth.

I really hope you’d pull through and intact to share your near-miss story.

Ogaezy:
Dear op

Everyone here knows that you won’t heed to the advices, you yourself knows this and unfortunately even that your babe knows this too that’s why she’s toying with you. Her mother is finishing you off with emotional blackmail.

This is not the first or second time you’re seeking advise on this your babe’s issue. Sorry to inform you that you’re fully roped in and it will only take that girl leaving you to clear your eyes. You said you cried abi, you never see anything. Kindly accept my sympathy.

Regardless, I’ll still dare you to try to leave for the sake of your job, peace and mental health. Delete all those screenshots cos I know you have lots. Looking at them will do more damages and hinder your growth.

I really hope you’d pull through and intact to share your near-miss story.

EriMma1:
You're welcome. By the way I'm a lady.
I pray you muster the courage to heed to this advice and you'll be glad you did.

Cheers!

Crampyblood:
When will you people learn that women are evil and should not be trusted?
Is the story of Romeo and Juliet not enough?
How about the story of Jack and Rose?
Anthony and Cleopatra is another story to show and tell you that love is DANGEROUS!
















Be a fvcking man and leave a cheating b¡tch alone..
Next time don't love more than 40%



... You're welcome

EriMma1:
Mr boy abi na man, that girl doesn't love you one bit. Even the tone of her message is very dry and without emotions showing she cares less is not bothered how you feel about her cheating games. It seems you've been the only one committed to the relationship all along cos the love seems one-sided while she's just with you because of what she's getting from the relationship. You better snap out of that mumu feelings you have for her or get the biggest shock of your Life.

Why would a girl who has a functional relationship be going to a guys house? I don't get it. It simply shows You're non existent in her love life hence the need to still be testing the waters. Even from the tone of her reply, one could tell and you still don't get it?

Giving excuse that the mother is having BP is why you can't leave the girl is pure stupidity because if care is not taken, na you go come end up with that BP. The mother doesn't really have your interest at heart. She's begging because of what she too is gaining from the relationship since you don turn father Christmas give them. She knows if you leave her daughter, resources will be withdrawn from her too and that she doesn't want to happen. So be wise.

My advice. Just cut all communication with her. Don't even try to call or accuse her of anything. Block her on all mediums she can reach you and move on. I know this may sound too difficult ( judging from the way you love her) and that spirit of competition and not wanting to lose to the other guy may creep in making you want to fight to get her back just to feel cool about yourself at the end of the day but let me tell you, if you don't let go now, you'll end up regretting in the future and may end up being the one getting kicked out by her after taking her abroad cos she's not the loyal type from all indications.

She's not the type you can leave and travel or even go to work if you eventually marry her. This type will be going to neighbors house to cut show and won't feel remorse or even bother to apologize because she knows she has you by the balls. Then it will be too late to do anything. Na there your own BP go come start.

Better safe than sorry.

Johnson225:
Op. From all you’ve highlighted, your woman is actively still cheating on you, but more careful this time. Stop loving like a teenager and apply wisdom…Goodluck

Sucre6:
I got worried when u said you moved to the Netherlands just to give her the best in life, dude, you should work hard for yourself and your family, no parasitic woman deserved that sh!t now, from this very moment, block all her parasitic family begging u to take her back, plan your live well and get married when you are good and ready, make sure u don't block her from all social media's but stop picking her calls not reply her messages, let her see your new updates and how good your love life is going, she will regret everything but sad enough it's will be very late for her.

Move on, focus more on improving yourself, work hard and make sure your family enjoys your hard work, workout and be better, get another girl and flunt her as to her face on social media

Kriss216:
For a girl to wish you "Love and Light" means she's done with the relationship.

What else to do you want from her? Are you allergic to good things of life? What's your problem gan gan

josephm456:
we have being together for 3yrs I just travelled last year hoping to be home again this year.

Kooldon:
But Guy, you get mind o. You want a single girl, stil in a higher institution to remain celibate for four years just to prove her love?
Its very rare to see a married lady keep herself for the husband who is the State and not to mention students.
Keep on helping her mum and forget about that girl.
She will move to calls n not chats again to decieve you

Brandiebird:
I don’t know if you will take any of these advices, but this girl doesn’t care about you one bit. She said we will both be okay or whatever so go and be okay. There’s nothing worse than a disloyal person and on top of that you are being manipulated. No one can tell you to leave or stay, but you should respect yourself so that others can respect you. All you did for her and that was her payback. Sir, respect yourself!

yrhuhfy113:
I AM NO PROPHET BUT IF YOU FOLLOW WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY TO LETTER, 10 YRS FROM NOW, YOU WILL STILL BE THANKING ME

1) END THE RELATIONSHIP NOW

2) DON'T COME BACK TO NIGERIA, GET A GOOD GIRL OVER THERE AND START YOUR LIFE AFRESH

3) CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATIONS FROM HER

4) FORGIVE HER FOR BEING A HOE AND FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR BEING A SIMPLETON

5) DISAPPEAR FOR 1-2 YEARS AND RESURFACE AFTER YOUR NEW WIFE HAS A CHILD.

6) NEVER BEFRIEND HER OR ANYONE IN HER FAMILY AGAIN

7) FOLLOW THE 6 TASKS I SAID WITHOUT EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS AND IN LESS THAN 3 YEARS, YOUR WHOLE LIFE WILL BE TOTALLY BETTER.



It is these WEAK ladies that bring strong men down and expect to be treated so special based on HISTORY or some fake ideologies movies and social media sold to them.

YOUR FUTURE is in your hands, anyone who proves not to be ready for it, should be excused.
She did what was BEST FOR HER at the time without considering you, NOW ITS YOUR TURN TO DO YOU.....

Lawl:
Read the chat well
Feel free to feed your eyes
We will be both be fine at end

Bro first of all why would login to her insta I'm sure If her too have your login would definitely see the cheat relate issues your saying

From my mind she is pure, she said read the chat well and you we will be both be fine at end she's is aware or not your still checking chats she is now honestly with her self

Bro tell her your not reading anything stop suspecting her and continue to build your love bro

I wish you well bro

josephm456:
Good morning nairalanders,I hope your night was good and great.please I need your help and advice at this stage I am.
There’s this girl I’ve being dating close to 4years now.,I travelled down here to Netherlands to seek for greener pasture so to have a good life for me and her even my family as a whole.,because I have much plans for i and her.,she’s in her 400lv and about to graduate.I even paid for her cake business and other training she’s doing.,rented her a new apartment and give her most of my things.because i already have it in mind that once I’m back we can get a flat in Lagos and atleast I’ll still have most my things back in our house,so she can be doing her business in Lagos pending the time we will both move to canada,but I haven’t tell her we will be going to canada but I preamble it sometimes,so last week my mind have being disturbing me to try to check her Instagram.,so I checked her Instagram and I noticed this girl is cheating on me.,it was so painful that I cried my ass out..i cried so hard that I can’t even work for 2days because I trusted this girl with everything.,her mom intervened and keep begging me,even her brother,because both parents already know each other,and she’s trying not to make that relationship of parents break,she also pleaded and I forgive her.,she said she did it out of emotions I don’t know what that means though,which she said it will never happen again,accusing me for the fact that I don’t make calls or something.I work alot of hours and still I still try to give this girl that much attention.,I was actually planning to come home again by august.,I’m satisfying this girl with all her needs both financially and all.,but what baffles me most was that whenever I ask if she blocked this guy.,she will say they are no more talking that atleast I’m seeing it all because she thinks I scanned her WhatsApp which is not true.,I only have her Instagram login and that’s all.,and I angrily logged out the Instagram because i was really broken that day.
So yesterday we have a little issue,because I noticed she was kind of replying me with attitudes and I asked what’s the attitude all about.,so I just leave her alone on her own,she then sent me a message last night that she knows I’m purposely giving her attitude because I’m seeing her chats and I don’t know how to say it out.,that I’m free to feed my eyes and read her chats very well,i actually don’t know what she mean by that statement plus I didn’t even scan her WhatsApp,I only logged in her IG.,I’m just pained have being doing things for this girl for the past 3years and it’s even 4yrs already.,I don’t just know what to do.,her mom suffers HBP and she likes me so much,because she doesn’t ever want me to leave her daughter,when this event happened she would keep disturbing me with calls and and begging almost everyday panicking that I should forgive her and it won’t happen again.,I really do love this girl soo much to the extent that whenever we have an issue I’m always very down.,but now I’m just confused on what to do,but nairalanders I really need your help on what to do.,this thing is giving me a serious problem her birthday is coming soon which I’m planning not to gift her anything,I’m not even okay at this point.
I will be dropping the chat below.👇no insult please.,all I need is your observation and advice,thanks,and sorry if my grammar isn’t good enough.thanks in advance.