Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

Calculate all he spent on the wedding.divide it into half and find way to give it to him not as wedding expenses but as a birthday gift or valentne gift

CuriousStudent:

I am female.
Answer simple question.

If you were a man,just starting life and your wife has an accident that makes her permanently bedridden. You will have to bathe her,clean her poo,bathe and care for four kids,cook,clean,wash,and still go to work,infact you are doing the duties of both husband and wife. Will you take up this new way of life while your mate are clubbing,partying and women changing or you will return her to her parents and drop your kids with relatives while sending money to both of wife and kids.

Yes or no?( No long talk,just yes or no)

Thank you for your frank view.


This is why when we are able,we should be extra nice to people.espcially our spouses and our relatives

CuriousStudent:
A fictional tale to shame women. Imagine catering for four kids and a bedridden man at the age of 26( when your mates are going from dates to dates and partying)

This should be the duty of a woman in her 50s whereby haven enjoyed the protection and provision of a man for decades, repays him by nursing him and taking care of him when ill health arises but not a young lady at 26.
So try to see things from the mother perspective.

Men walk out of their families and abandon their wives with kids if they feel overwhelmed or for their peace of mind,so why should this be different?

The lady in question can drop the man temporarily with his relations and give her kids to her parents then go Abroad. While abroad she can be sending money for the upkeep of her kids and husband till she can bring the kids over. The man should remain in naija while the wife hires a nurse and sends up keep till he is stable enough before he can join them over.

modified:
those incels/broke/frustrated/ never-do-well men rolling in sand over my comments,I am not responsible for your failures in life.
I only advised her to make the best choice for herself.

For her getting a chance at another marriage is not the question her. You can no longer Shame women into marriage. All she need is constant pennisses servicing. You are very dispensable. No more worries on what people will say.so act right and do your best so that your wife will give her best if things go wrong with you.
If you have lawyers in Abuja confirm from them on how women are easily filing for divorc

Ciao

It sounds cruel but this is largely the mindset of the modern Nigerian wife

All you have to do is to find someone who can do very very rigorious sex for u.

Then continue to meditate on the scriptures.God gave his beloved sleep.

all humans cheat.

if within child bearing stage,she is going back to her parents

outside child bearing stage,only question is am i still safe.if no ,she return to her fathers home

if im safe and she shows remorse when kid bearing stage is done.she is forgiven.

adulterating the lineage with bastards is not open to forgiveness .ki olori buruke ma ko ba e

to be sure if it is there and to plan the best way to handle it all when she eventually comes around

ordinarily i will condemn what dss did but in the case of emesiere THAT HAS ALREADY DEFY COURT ORDER WHEN IT COMES TO NAIRA EXCHANGE AND HAS ALREADY SAID."IF THEY WANT TO FIGHT ME,LET HIM COME MEET ME IN CBN" dss should lock him and throw the key away into the lagoon.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

sorry to say u are very stupid firstly.

now you can proceed with wisdom.

establish the fact that u are the head and what u want is what she should want along with you.

if she says hell no.

switch to plan b.get the young kids to a stable female relative of yours ,not one still hungry for dick o.'

then propose a 6months separation to help you clear your minds and head.

after 6 months and she is still not seeing things your way.divorce her.

many great men had to let go of a distractive wife in order to attain greatness.

dont ever marry anybody cus of love again.use ur head next time.love will never be enough.

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

The beta way is to accept it is your father that hurts you ,not your forefathers .

So just add your name to your forefathers name eg master........tayo-okokobioko assuming tayo.is ur name and okoko Bioko is ur surname.


Praying ur father's lineage be wiped is your wiping yourself out.

Blaze14k:
God when you think you've seen it all. What sort of shamble is this like all the so called charges u placed on him its now the gun part that is more important? We are so sick in this part of the world like everything about Nigeria is fraud. Soon they will find a way to justify emefiele is a terrorist. Like how did we get here. Why are we so backwards as a nation? God I'm sick and tired of this country😡😡😡

calm down ,this is definitely a holding charge.weighty charges will surely be added later as soon as they get the missing facts assembled

IconicR:
How dare you mention Christ Embassy in such manner. Be warned

u just proved him right

Her display,her choice,her joy.when it is your child's graduation do it the way you like

When she is ready for the consequences of having sex.

stop bothering your head.it is your mindset.stay off sex for now.
The sweetness of the vagina makes a man come too quick.always prefer the lady staying with u over nite so u can play return match if u lose any of the match,if u are under 50 and u start using any drug ,you are on the way to self destruction. continue to exercise.exercise is the surest viagra.thank me later.

their first marriage just ended,let the pastor sees if they can negotiate another marriage,if pastor cant get over it,let him first seperate.
the woman is obviously a lady who has no shame

Question is simple.who will you prefer to be reporting her to who.can call her and correct her and she will listen to .

Be wise pay to both father's.

research habituation.humans find the spouse they co habit with day in and day out less sexually attractive more and more .ur wife doesnt excites u any more .but what worries me is that u said u both love apart so habituation may not be the issue in ur own case.

does ur wife says words that puts you off or does she reminds u of you financial adequacy or other inadequacies when you meet her.

it is nothing spiritual.

see a therapist or a sex counsellor.im sure i can help u by GOD'S GRACE.

HEAR YOURSELF VERY WELL.NA FAMILY PROPERTY.YOU DO IT FOR THE GLORY OF THE FAMILY NAME.YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT GETTING ANY THING.IF U WANT TO RECOUP YOUR INVEST.PUT YOUR PROPOSAL IN WRITING AND LET YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS SIGN AS TO HOW U CAN RECOUP.IM SPENDING MILLIONS RIGHT NOW TO UPGRADE FAMILY HOUSE,NA FREE GIFT TO FAMILY.

A ready to be used , perfectly abd centrally located pharmacy with shelves etc is available for lease at ODEMO road Isara Remo, Ogun State, directly facing st John's Anglican church isara

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then otedola is not as smart.smart men are only outbidded once.

an average performance in the sense she didnt do a song that the audience goes home with .d kind of song u want to sing over and over again.she didnt sing for the moment.she did her normal thing.not a captivating performance for a coronation of the king of england .she sang below the event.all the same she went into history and deserves to be congratulated.

Salasa:

Oga what did you do at my age with your hormones? I didn't tell you I'm a masturbation addict?

Didn't you read the part I said I've never had sex and that I don't like that masturbation act and seldom indulge in it? Didn't you read when I said I can do weeks without it?

Some of you've comprehension issues. Saints and popes.

I asked about your age because you're illogical and reasoning from your toes.

Don't bother yourself.yoir penis is trying to protect you.he knows you are not ready for the consequences of having sex.

Nothing is wrong with you organiser your mind .when you are ready , erection will come..nothing is wrong with you.

good and great initiative.i pray to be alive in 2050 to experience the nigeria of my dream

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If the ex-management of Arik were competent, they wouldn't borrow money they can't pay back.
They were using loans to cover up their failures.

AMCON is not there to run business but as a creditor hoping to recover back its loans.

You obviously miss the basics about the receiver-mager. amcon digs her own grave by creating herculean bottlenecks for firms and advisers with plenty wisdom/competence to help them achieve their objectives.They mistake large financial chest on balance sheet for competence and therefore severely restrict their pool of advisers.

in my view Nigeria simply happens to amcon/arik rather than best practices in receiver/manager. though my opinion,i did try to be fair.

accept the fact with her ,u will be doing dna.accept the fact that if she finds the orher guy dick sweeter than urs they may plan to kill u.if u cannot forgive .please let her go.she indeed passed the boundary of marriage.whether or not they have sex is irrelevant.why lie to ur hubby to go spend the nite with another man.

rtdCivilservant:
I believe u brought this cos of the confused interpretation by some on what the electoral law stipulates. From what u posted, it is obvious the territory is not a state, if it were a state u would have have correctly said 37 states... Why do we allow simple English to get us confused?
For example, let's use a class of 9 boys and 1 girl. I may say for u to emerge the class-rep, two-thirds of the 9 boys and the girl must be willing to give u half portions of their daily meal. Now this does not mean that for anyone to emerge, they must get two-third of half the daily meals of the 9 boys and half the daily meal of the only girl. A girl is not a boy, so u don't expect me to say 10 boys, that is where the AND comes in. The right interpretation be same as if I assume the only girl is a boy and say two-third of 10 boys or two-thirds of the 10 students. In the case of our country, "AND" there shouldn't confuse anyone, it is only so cos FCT is not a state and that is the only way of accommodating the entity (FCT) into the grammatical expression.

Agreed a girl is not a boy and further agreed ordinarily fct is not a state but the supreme court of Nigeria has already ruled years ago that fct must be treated as a state in all respect..And it is the duty of the supreme court to give a final interpretation to any law in Nigeria.

its a pity she died but she forgots he is butcher and he is the husband.please stubborn wives dont forget he is your husband and dont forget his profession skilled him in the use of weapons.

finally gambari pa fulani

can buy u a plot of land at takete, isara remo.ogun state which u can sell for 1.2m by December 2023

Rubyjade:
Namely?

tatttooo is a no no

N3TRAL:
One thing I have noticed in life is that if you associate with a winner, you'll always win. If you support a loser, you will always lose.

G-5 were five deviant Governors of the PDP.

Wike, Makinde, Ortom , Ugwuanyi and Ikpeazu.

Wike and Makinde went with a serial winner, Tinubu, because of logic.

Ortom, Ugwuanyi and Ikpeazu supported a serial loser, Pandora, because of emotions.

Tinubu won. Wike's successor has won. Makinde has been reelected. They've achieved their political goals excellently against the claims of Obidîots that they will go into oblivion

Ortom failed his Senatorial bid and lost his State to the APC in the Gubernatorial elections.

Ugwuanyi failed his Senatorial bid.

Ikpeazu failed his Senatorial bid and is currently losing his State to the LP.

Patriots, lift your heads up high in pride!
Don't be sore losers but be optimistic.

You will be successful in all areas of your life as long a you celebrate the victory of a successful man. His tenure will favour you. You will buy that car, build that house and marry that sweet potato under Asiwaju's reign.

If you're quoting me, it should be to say Amen! I'm prophesying right now!

AMEN

Ade ipaye is obviously the natural choice having done well as the deputy chief of staff to the president