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she has evolved into an emotional expensive woman and she is asking u to pay more emotionally in order to earn the emotional income that already belongs to you.

if solution is really your quest,why not be extra nice and extra caring to her ,sing love songs to her,buy her small small gifts .

a wrong person is the one that sees every man or woman desirable as a spouse other than you his or her actual spouse

You must be a wicked person .

Is 37 not old enough ?

Why not tell us the state of your relationship.with him over the 37 years.

What kind of parent.

Teach him and lesson and found yourself in the untimely grave u sug fir urself and not him ?

A 37 yr old cannot makes his choices alone in peace?

adieora:
You never marry, you are already thinking of how you will japa out of the marriage once the going gets rough. Recipe for disaster. Sorry to bust your bubble but that document you sign in the church is a legal document. If you do only trad, it will not be recognised when you apply for visa

the english law has always recognised non english marriages.an alhaji with four wioves can legally take his 4 wives along to UK.

when u are sure u will never have anything to lose and when have put the money to hire a very good lawyer in a fixed deposit account.

If the strike is called off.nobody will respect the nlc call again.

Are govt workers the only ones in Nigeria who deserve reliefs.

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they mainly look for a guy they can put osuka on his head so he can carry all the burdens of the lives and make u the sacrificiql lamb for the sins of they guy they have the children from.and when u carry the load so well they will reconnect and start fucking the baby daddi.definetely there are exceptions.na market u must price well before u buy o

Lots of Nigeria wives becomes increasingly unpleasant largely to not having the dream life they thought marriage will give them .they found a way to take it out on the man and the man found a way to find joy outside the wife

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madam taiwo if you are truly the one that writes all these about your ex husband in retaliation for what he did and said about you.u are a very bad wife.

famology:
Laolu go and sleep jooor. Suddenly you're everywhere. You were not this visible and accessible during the 8yrs of Buhari/osinbajo regime you served. No job for u in this administration. Just tell channels TV to give you a job like Abati and Femi Adesina.

sincerely i too wonder if he just found his voice.

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

There is nothing to fight about .your father should expect the owner of a thing to eventually come for it.the best your dad can do is to claim maintenance fee and burial expenses he is the entitled .

If u are a xtian forgive the past and be loving to all .

U also need help if you the undegenerated brother do not know after reading this you should start prayer and fasting.

Very wrong question.im sure your question is not for Nigerian women.

Just made it clear from the beginning that if she ask for a million naira and all u have is one naira to give u will give her and she can decide to end the relationship ,it will be ok with u.

UnconventionalT:
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"I am a Nigerian student living in Scotland, A Nigerian Christian guy got in touch with me via WhatsApp and asked for a relationship, saying he got my number off a church whatsapp group that I haven't been to for almost a year now. He said he's prayed about me and God has told him we are good to go. He is a student too.
I was single at the time and haven't been with a Christian brother before, so I decided to give it a chance. It's roughly 2 months and I am at the point where I want to quit.

We got talking on the platform and also through calls, about a week into our relationship/talking stage he asked me to come to his place and cook for him so he can have enough food for the coming week. I was surprised because we hadn't even seen each other at that at time. I told him I cannot, he made a big deal out of it and said stuff like it's not a big deal for me to do that as his wife to be. We got over that and arranged to see for the first time, he suggested my house and I said I don't feel comfortable with either of us seeing for the first time in our houses and we finally concluded on a Bugger King outlet which isn't far from my house. This didn't go well with him tho.

We met for the first time and talked, after that he said he wanted to know my place as it isn't far from Burger King. He came to my place and stayed in my bed till around past 10pm, he tried touching and kissing, I told him I wasn't comfortable and he needed to leave because of time. He got annoyed said his intentions was to stay over at my place, he already told his housemate he isn't coming back home and it's so late now to go back. I told him I cannot allow him sleep at my house for the first time we're meeting, I have a small single bed and you intentionally didn't even say you'd sleep over before. He grudgingly left and dropped 3 packs of youghurt and a bag of unfried chips which I later discovered where all expired at the time he dropped them.

I told him about it and he made a mess out of the situation. He attends a pentecostal church and critisizes other churches, he doesn't really believe in adult taking responsibility for their actions as the devil is most likely responsible for everything, we simply have to pray against the devil.
He's asked for sex multiple times in less than 1 month, I stopped talking to him one time for about 2 weeks and we picked up again. He said he doesn't have to penetrate, we can do every other things to satisfy our flesh. He said doing all that with him is the proof of my love for him which I have strongly disagreed. Sex isn't a prove of love, we are adults and can have protected sex with anyone without loving them.
The only single thing I enjoy about him is that we communicate well, he talks a lot too and that makes our communication half argument, he finds fault in any little thing and blows it out of proportion. I have told him I don't have strength for argument in marriage since we won't be arguing over minute things that get him pissed off now.

Both of us have been getting multiple 12 hours night shifts from work and two nights ago, he asked me what he was going to eat when he gets home the following morning, I knew he was up to something. I told him I can't say, we don't live together and I don't know what you currently have at home. I suggested he buys bread on his way back home. He then asked me to cook for him to eat the following morning, I sincerely let him know I have no soup or stew myself. His response changed and he later called me on same subject, citing how I don't care enough about him to be concerned about how he is gonna eat since he's been working few nights now, he compared himself to a married man that always brings food to work at his workplace. Even gave the guy his phone to talk to me, that one too said I should do things in my power to make my man happy.

I tried to make him understand he isn't married and it might be difficult to enjoy what his married frnd is enjoying. Youve never bought me foodstuff, you haven't worked before and sent me 50 pounds or less for groceries, we are both working night shifts and I sort my own food, why are you angry I can't make out time out of my rest period to come cook at your house to stuck your fridge?

I have been in relationship where I cooked, I personally enjoy cooking, but I have never been with a man that feels to entitled to me doing that for him. He says I'm supposed to be the one cooking for him. He also believes in women abroad sharing bills, but he is too traditional to share house chores"

That guy is not sound minded.trust me

Nackzy:
If you're still in town Come let me show you around Jos

Take her to wildlife park,rayfield resorts,juice and grillade.townshio stadium,amala joint,west of mines,change nite clu,sharadize,hill station hotel,vom,nipps ,etc

wallrichy:
He needs to quickly straighten things out on his own personal disposition on the current Tinubu election victory because Olaolu Akande , his Media Aide had spoken carelessly and this careless talk might reflect negatively on Osinbajo if he doesn't come out and properly show his own disposition to the Tinubu Victory.....

U are too correct

U are indeed a yet to be wise fellow.while stood by recording while a citizen is being damaged.i won't be surprised if the judge gets you punished as well

Supreme145:
I've been dating my girlfriend for over 18 months now and it has been a bumpy ride. One major I issue I have had with her has been her relationship with other men. She spends a lot of time in my place and each time we have issues her one stop solution is to go out and see other guys.

In fact 90% of our issues have come from this same relations with other men. When I complain she makes it look like I am insecure and overly jealous. I have made it known to her that it's wrong to go on dates with other guys when you are in my place especially when we have issues. She would always insist that they are just friends.

She recently got a job close to my house so she had to move in though she's barely at home cos the work is a 8am to 8pm job. She insisted on the job cos she would be able to learn her desired skills while been paid though the pay is very poor.

She would come home and gist me about how guys have been asking her out in her work place and all. Yesterday she even showed a number that a guy wrote for her on a piece of paper and asked her to call him. We later had a minor disagreement cos I saw her sitting on the floor trying to burst a boil on her laps, she started scolding me that I shouldn't be starting at a woman's private part like that, I pointed out that she had panties on and I was just concerned cos I saw something that looked like a drop of blood on the tiles. This resulted in an argument so I just ignored her.

I later observed her copying out the number given to her on her phone amidst other giggles while chatting with other guys online. I overheard her talking to a guy she just met about him coming to pick her up today so she could follow him to church and then go to work from there. This is someone that have never attended church anytime she costs even though a Catholic church is just a stone throw from my house. I voiced out my displeasure and she said I had no right to interfere in her business since I was giving her attitude.

It rained this morning so she couldn't go to church as planned but I am worried that I am dating a terrible flirt and this is someone I am thinking of getting married to. I had to chat her up at work to complain but she still saw nothing wrong with her relationship with other male folks and told me that I am just being insecure and anytime we have issues she would still leave the house cos she can't stay in a house with someone giving her attitude.

I told her I would no longer continue with the relationship since she sees her attitude as normal and she dosen't give me peace of mind which every man craves for. She started guilt tripping me and talking plenty but I already made up my mind. I can't deal with am unrepentant flirt.

Do you guys think I am over reacting?

u certainly are,marry her aftr she agrees that u must do dna before she brings the bay into ur home from the maternity hospital.that way she go no say u know what u are doing.obviously u know she is a flirt and that is what will eventually ruin the marriage.

Has the husband a car .if he doesn't .give the hubby the car.if He has a car ,give him the car and tell him u want him to give it to his wife as a gift from you.

Don't change the equation of their marriage .

Bobloco:
•Says gov is victim of political jobbers




https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/08/alleged-coup-against-obaseki-my-story-deputy-governor-shaibu/amp/

He was on his way when the Chief of Staff to the governor called that the governor needed his attention in Benin.

did he aborted the trip and reported at the governor's office.if no.guilty as charged

DenreleDave:
This is a billion dollars question in my mind. It is now a norm for single ladies to compete with a married woman for her husband. They know the man is married with or without kids but our single ladies see it as a normal thing and the society has also ignorantly or unconsciously accepted it as a norm.

This makes me think again that a man doesn't instigate cheating on his wife, he is only tempted by another lady who is greedy jealous and envious about her fellow woman that is married to a man. Yes, men don't have the intention to cheat, we are only enticed by the greedy single ladies whose intention is to frustrate their fellow ladies and to fulfil their greedy needs.

Single men rarely mess with a married woman because when the society finds out, it will bring a heavy backlash on the married woman, the society won't stop reminding her that she cheated on her husband with a single guy but the society normalized a single lady for sleeping with a married man.

Many guys are still single because the single ladies are busy devicing how to get a married man on her bed to fulfil her greed. Many of we single guys are stranded because we can't approach married women as we respect the sanctity and vow of their marriage


My question is; Why do single ladies love to sleep with married men?

U are jobless.go and be asking them one by one

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

Calculate all he spent on the wedding.divide it into half and find way to give it to him not as wedding expenses but as a birthday gift or valentne gift

CuriousStudent:
I am female.
Answer simple question.

If you were a man,just starting life and your wife has an accident that makes her permanently bedridden. You will have to bathe her,clean her poo,bathe and care for four kids,cook,clean,wash,and still go to work,infact you are doing the duties of both husband and wife. Will you take up this new way of life while your mate are clubbing,partying and women changing or you will return her to her parents and drop your kids with relatives while sending money to both of wife and kids.

Yes or no?( No long talk,just yes or no)

Thank you for your frank view.


This is why when we are able,we should be extra nice to people.espcially our spouses and our relatives

CuriousStudent:
A fictional tale to shame women. Imagine catering for four kids and a bedridden man at the age of 26( when your mates are going from dates to dates and partying)

This should be the duty of a woman in her 50s whereby haven enjoyed the protection and provision of a man for decades, repays him by nursing him and taking care of him when ill health arises but not a young lady at 26.
So try to see things from the mother perspective.

Men walk out of their families and abandon their wives with kids if they feel overwhelmed or for their peace of mind,so why should this be different?

The lady in question can drop the man temporarily with his relations and give her kids to her parents then go Abroad. While abroad she can be sending money for the upkeep of her kids and husband till she can bring the kids over. The man should remain in naija while the wife hires a nurse and sends up keep till he is stable enough before he can join them over.

modified:
those incels/broke/frustrated/ never-do-well men rolling in sand over my comments,I am not responsible for your failures in life.
I only advised her to make the best choice for herself.

For her getting a chance at another marriage is not the question her. You can no longer Shame women into marriage. All she need is constant pennisses servicing. You are very dispensable. No more worries on what people will say.so act right and do your best so that your wife will give her best if things go wrong with you.
If you have lawyers in Abuja confirm from them on how women are easily filing for divorc

Ciao

It sounds cruel but this is largely the mindset of the modern Nigerian wife

All you have to do is to find someone who can do very very rigorious sex for u.

Then continue to meditate on the scriptures.God gave his beloved sleep.

all humans cheat.

if within child bearing stage,she is going back to her parents

outside child bearing stage,only question is am i still safe.if no ,she return to her fathers home

if im safe and she shows remorse when kid bearing stage is done.she is forgiven.

adulterating the lineage with bastards is not open to forgiveness .ki olori buruke ma ko ba e

to be sure if it is there and to plan the best way to handle it all when she eventually comes around

ordinarily i will condemn what dss did but in the case of emesiere THAT HAS ALREADY DEFY COURT ORDER WHEN IT COMES TO NAIRA EXCHANGE AND HAS ALREADY SAID."IF THEY WANT TO FIGHT ME,LET HIM COME MEET ME IN CBN" dss should lock him and throw the key away into the lagoon.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

sorry to say u are very stupid firstly.

now you can proceed with wisdom.

establish the fact that u are the head and what u want is what she should want along with you.

if she says hell no.

switch to plan b.get the young kids to a stable female relative of yours ,not one still hungry for dick o.'

then propose a 6months separation to help you clear your minds and head.

after 6 months and she is still not seeing things your way.divorce her.

many great men had to let go of a distractive wife in order to attain greatness.

dont ever marry anybody cus of love again.use ur head next time.love will never be enough.