I also learnt that the boy didn't go to church yesterday,d mum left him for his father cos people will surely ask him,and the father doesn't go to church,he stopped attending church immediately he got what he wanted. I think i was so foolish but now i want my child back. Do you think it will still be possible to get back the child? Pls i need your advise oooo. I don't want him to end up like the father, this is the same way the father mum took him away from his father and she brainwash him, till today he doesn't want to see the dat

Update: i finally dropped the child with the father last week Sunday cos his siblings insisted i take the boy to him knowing well he won't be able to take care of him then he will sigh the agreement of taking the child responsibilities but when i got there i was surprised that the mum was behind everything and she said she would take care of the child and nothing will happen to him,i couldn't argue with them but i left thinking i would use his siblings to get back the boy,now its over a week and the siblings are saying they hv tried but let it not be that they are on my side. I learnt The father now lives in the mum compound and both of them are taking care of the boy.

Honestly this is the most difficult moment of my life,even his family is saying I should return the boy to him cos he is tryin to dodge his responsibility.my pple want me to return d boy to him also that the stress will be too much for me. Talkin about sueing for a child welfare how will I be able to do that when my salary is just 20k. Am just confuse

phabulous88:


My dear I really feel for you. Have you heard of child support? I think you're entitled to some financial support from your erstwhile husband, even if your family has returned the bride price.

Follow this link to a law firm that deals with child support issues in PH. I don't know how much they charge but call them first and make enquiries
http://www.hg.org/attorney/primelaw-partnership/47726

All the best

ok I will do that,thanks

cococandy:

Then you already know you have to keep your child with you.
There's no debating that.

What you should be doing is looking for a better job and managing what you have before you get it.

You can contact child welfare services in your area and see if they make him pay up. Some people have said it works.

After all GEJ just signed the bill to make neglecting parental duty a crime. See if the implementation will work in your case and no matter how little they are able to squeeze out of him, it will go some way to feed the child at least.

ok thanks,that is what I will do once his sinblings can't make him to take responsility of d boy.

48noble:
I don't know why I've this undying believe u where nagging his brains out and not supportive or completely loyal to him...no offense.
Go back and work on marriage, children don't smile in single parenting...

Unless u were screwing behind his back n ur luck ran out,if not...this is just part of the marriage trying times.

NB. That u married him through pregnancy is not a bailout clause...respect the alter oath and ur little boys future.

well you won't believe my story but I have made the mistake I learned from it. I actually tot he paid my dowry cos he wanted a child but when I noticed he won't provide for d child whenever we have problems just to punish me.he paid only my dowry,dis man will be 50yrs nx year.he actually married me to cover up his marital status not that he was actually interested in the marriage.immediately he paid my dowry he started sleeping outside.he could sleep out for two days without coming bac to the house,even when my pregnancy was due.when it became too much,I started complaining to his pple,and his only sister who is a lawyer told me I didn't know him well before I married him that if I could manage him fine,if not they will allow me go wit d baby any time am ready to move on,that his brother has been living this kind of lifestyle for years. I even involved both families to talk to him to change his,even pastors to d extent that I was made to believe he has a spiritual problem.I have tried prayers and fasting but all dis didn't change him.and he always beat me up whenever I argue with him,threatening me with knife n bottle.honestly I have seen it all.I was still ready to stay cos every advise I get was to stay for d child so that he won't end up in a broken home.we don't appear anyway as husband n wife.he just paid my dowry n dumb me in the house.it was when d beeating to much that I decided to move on and have his dowry return

cococandy:
I'd say Keep the child with you and strive to do your best.
Some days won't be easy but it will get better.
Taking the kid to your mom is added burden to your mom unless she's financially well off. In which case you can ask her for assistance once in while but carrying the child to her totally is not fair.

Leaving the kid with your ex is not ideal at this stage. And i'm saying this under the assumption that he can't cater for a two yr old by himself. Unless you know him otherwise.
If the assumption is correct, what's he going to do? Unload he child to his own mom or his next wife to nurture for him?

How do you know those other person/s can give your child the same quality of love he/she needs to blossom?
Your kid of better off with you unless the dad can by himself give the child the same care that you would and not shift the responsibility to someone else who won't love your child like theirs.

You know who you married. Can he do that? That should influence what you decide to do.

. He can't take care of the child and his family knows that. His siblings were all by side when the marriage was not working and they are still behind me to make sure he carries his child responsibilites but he is not co operating. They even told him the child will not stay with them cos they have their own responsibilities and the child won't stay with their mum too cos she is old.

agarawu23:
I think you should monitor your child yourself instead of taking him to the village with your mum. You are to help your mum financially instead of adding more responsibility on her. Any child that doesn't suffer will not have sense. Ppl like me was raised by my mum alone at young age when there is nothing. If your child wasn't raised by you, they won't be much understanding between both of you and I blv miracles can happen, God can open a way for u.

Thats when you can show you are truly a mother. Should I tell you how many times my mum sacrificed her food for me?

thanks for your advise,I know its not going to be easy cos my child has to start school now. I pray God to help me make a decision I won't regret tomorrow.

I got married two years ago but the marriage ended three weeks ago as a result of physical and emotional abuse. It was pregnancy that actually led me into the marriage,we dated for a very few months then I took in for him. Now that the marriage has ended his family told him to take care of the boy upkeep and education till when the child finishes primary school,then he will have the child stay with him but he is saying no that I should return the boy to him or I should carry his responsibilities alone.the child is almost two years. My problem is that my salary can't carry me and the boy for now,so I decided to either take the boy to him or take the boy to my mum in the village pending when I can take care of him. Pls I need your advise on the right decision to take.

Pls oooooo someone should post teaching vacancies in port harcourt. Am still searching. Thanks

This man get mind shall,God forbit!end time father indeed.

Onajevwe:


Where in PH do you reside. I stay at Ozuoba., along NTA-Choba Road.

I stay at amadi,but am willing to relocate. Thanks

Thanks,noted. Please don't just view and go away,if you know any school that is recruiting now do let me know.

[quote author=obua post=36199019]you can organise evening lessons for the public and charge monthly rates[/quote. ) Thanks I will plan towards it

2kurupt:


This is the best time to secure a teaching job due to the long vacation that just started because it's this period that mobility of labour is at its peak in this sector.
I will advice you to prep your CV, don't just wait for adverts but dress up & visit the schools you wish to work in. The offers might not be immediate due to the closure & holiday but don't let that deter you. If you're diligent and God willing, you shall be getting various offers especially close to the resumption period. Cheers

. Thank U so much,yes I will do just that.

Greetings to you all,pls I need a teaching job in port harcourt.I have a B.ed in guidance and counselling,NCE in mathematics\computer science.I am currently teaching basic 5 but the payment is really small.I love teaching so much.am young,smart and knowledgeable.pls help a sister.my number 08088959086. Thanks

Greetings to all the teachers in the house.pls I need a teaching job in ph.I have a degree in education,I hv NCE as well.am currently teaching basic 5 but d salary is small.pls help a sister to get a better pay teaching job.thanks

The heart of man is despirately wicked,hope she join the guy too and continue their cheating in the spirit world