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So I came across a post on Twitter where everyone were busy sharing their wins for the year 2021. I smiled on how so many young Nigerians are winning and breaking through financially.

On the other hand, 2021 is the worst year I have encountered. So many challenges pull backs and all, but in the end, the goal is to hustling, never give up.

Because, even the Bible says that "Time and Chance Happeneth to Everyone". So my time shall surely come.

The aftermath of reading through the thread on Twitter resulted in lowering my mood about my situation. So I am asking guys, how did you make your first million and at what age?

I know that there'd be a lot of people who'd also draw inspiration and hope that will fuel their hustle from this thread.

Mods, please help project to front page.

Omooo! Mehnn!!

I started seeing shege the moment I finished my admission clearance as a freshman. I stayed in the hostel then. Many nights I went hungry. No money to buy food nor money for even pure water.
No water to buy compulsory text books used as a prerequisite of submitting an assignment. I recall a time before sleeping; I laid on my back faced up looking at the ceiling. I decided to rub my stomach. That was when I realized that I had emaciated to a great extent. Guys!! As I rubbed my stomach, instead of touching some flesh, intestines or even some organs, my hands rubbed on my spinal cord. Like I could feel my spinal cord while rubbing my stomach.

That night I decided that the suffering was over! I ventured into campus entrepreneurship. Zero capital services. I began doing assignments for my mates. The uni then made laptops compulsory, I learnt graphics design via YouTube and began designing for a fee.

Na so I take escape hunger o! From my second year. I barely called home even for school fees. I graduated also with some reasonable funds in my account.

Didn't go back to father's house after that. This life of entrepreneurship, we go follow am to its full course.

Today, the journey hasn't been easy. But na who give up, fvck up. Na who no work hard go die of hunger.

Shalom.

Bignuell:
Well i read your old story, must be a tough decision. Wishing you the best and heavenly blessings on your business.

Thank you boss.

So, It has been two years since I made this post (below) and I got wonderful responses from Nairalanders. I took heed to what many people here advised, broke up with her and set out to build my future.

https://www.nairaland.com/5592828/girlfriend-threat-me

And hey! trust me, it hasn't been easy. Due to Covid-19 and lock-downs at that time, my business suffered a huge loss. I lost almost everything. This life of an entrepreneur is not easy o! but trust me, na who give up fvck up! I am still struggling to get back on my feet while also trying my hands on other entrepreneurial endeavours. I Pray That The Grace Of GOD Finds Me. Amen.

Just Thinking I should update you all. Pray For Me.

daisidavid:
I will just focus on the road to success that have mapped out myself! Simple way of life!!!! Live her alone and focus on yourself more! Your life will just be perfect!!!! Seek first the source of income and any other thngwil be added onto it bro

Thanks man! I did just that. Only say, the road to success hard gan for Nigeria. I currently have a new girlfriend.

Preciousgirl:
My husband has destroyed my smart phone after I decided not to delete Facebook and all social media. To add insult to injury, he has bought for me a very cheap phone which cannot browse. I have bought myself a new phone secretly. I am not happy in this marriage. Many things are going on in my mind, please I need mature advice

From your concurrent posts, I for don send you go your Papa house.

Thank you guys for the positive feedback, advice and encouragement. Things have taken a much more better shape now.

I am determined not to fail God, hence, my future is the main goal.

HRHQueenPhil:
how old are u?
i ask cos if both of u are in love, then put a ring on it
that will help her feel more secure...
more money spending, dosent she work?

We both just graduated lol. She finished top of her class with distinctions. We always talk about marriage though. 2023 is the goal.

youngchopper:
Listen youngman! You don't need a damn drama in your life! Let me tell u lil story of mine!
Yesterday been 20th of December 2019 my gal friend who have been dating for just 2 months asked me on chat for money for Christmas hair 20k! I can afford it but what made me mad was I told her if she knew that 20k is somebody's salary and the fool replied " na poor person salary be that" since 24 hrs she has been calling have decided to snub her for a very long period of time! Just a galfriend what if I have her type like 5? Do u know the amount of prayer my sweet monther will pray for my head if I wire her 20k? Use your head youngman, your happiness is not tied around her!

Sure man. Our parents deserve more of everything. Thank you.

IAmStrange:
Hmmm!

I've always been an advocate of this method...

Work hard until you are financially capable to cater for a family. Build your character until you become a personage that can qualify as a potential good husband, father and in law...

And then look for a good woman... try all possible means to know her and everything you need to know about her to decide if she's right for you... Engage her and marry her!

All these love, dating, boyfriend and girlfriend issues, most times, are "robbing" tactics...

And it falls on both sides...

many times, the females do it to "rob" the males of their money...

while on the other hand, the males do it to "rob" the female of their vagina.

Na the two genders dey suffer that "scam" they call relationship.

Well, as for the first issue, I don't know how the spending process goes.. is she the one that asks or you are the one that's just too generous and you give her without her asking or because you think she needs it and will likely ask?

If You are the one that's just too generous, then you limit your generosity. That will not only help you save more but will also be giving her message that she should adjust her expectations from you.

If she's the one that asks, Oga, limit what you give her and reject some of her requests.

It's during trying or difficult times that we know true friends. It may be when you start limiting your spending on her that you will know if she truly loves you or not.

As for the second issue... What your girlfriend did is a sign of what may happen or might have happened if the matter becomes more complicated than that.

Someone who easily gives in to seeking attention elsewhere when the two of you are not talking? That's dangerous.

I'm not saying that it will happen for sure but it's dangerous.

Have you not heard stories of women who had misunderstanding with their spouses and then they sought solace in another man until that other man capitalised on her emotional state and slept with her?

There were even cases where it did not happen once. The first time it happened, the woman began to enjoy the "company" of that other man and they ended up having sex several or many more times.

And in a marriage, misunderstandings will most likely happen every now and then. It's not something that can easily be avoided. So if it happens at a time when there's another man in the picture, only God knows where it'll eventually end.

It doesn't certainly define her but your girlfriend seems to have such weakness.

Therefore, I'm asking you now - not to just break up with her - but to use your sense and open your eyes very well. Try as much as possible to study her and ask wise people for advise concerning her so you will not have problems in your marriage.

By the way, Imes is coming

Thank you so much. This has really helped in my judgement process. The said lady, and her family are a little handicapped financially. So you see the picture.
Also, she's someone who craves and loves attention. It's too much. Here is overly over 100%.

MistadeRegal:

You're still in love. And anyone in love is the most adamant person to ever advice. When you're awake, we can talk.

Let's talk man, I'm awake.

TheApologist:
to be very blunt with you, just move on and never look back. You owe yourself a glorious future, concentrate on your business while you look out for a better girl; a leopard will never change its spot, so be wise except your comfortable being second-fiddle

Lol. Thank you. I will do as you said.

oyinpr:
funny thing is you know what to do but I'm guessing love has blinded you...SMH where tf! are your balls ma man?? Act like a man and do what has to be done, you see that truth you're trying very hard to ignore? E dey front dey wait you. Cheers

Thank you man. I will act accordingly.

Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.

Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.

I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.

I've two issues that are bugging me;

First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.

Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.

I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.

Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.

P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.

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