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IRALIFE:
See how your post was reported on this site o.
https://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2021/10/07/man-narrates-sad-story-of-how-he-caught-winners-chapel-pastor-sleeping-with-his-wife-in-the-name-of-deliverance/#respond

Just see how they quote people out of context.

Even in the post the blogger wannabe copied and pasted, he also acknowledged that they haven't started the sexual affair. Yet, the mumu went to write another thing.

SMH

BarrElChapo:
His picture or pictures of their chats ?

Both

BarrElChapo:
Find out the state and get all your evidence printed and report to the state pastor.. I'll write this petition for you for free and copy WMA (cos he might be a high ranking pastor in that state) which is in charge of all mission stations outside Lagos. Believe you that guy will lose his job l.

What I have is his full name, phone numbers and picture.

VBCampaign:
Two things I'll advise:

1. Tell her family. Obviously she fears her mother knowing and that's why she told you not to tell her.

2. Find a Christian assembly and get your family involved there. That means you yourself will have to know Christ yourself and lead your family in the way of the Lord. As the Christian message reaches her heart, her sinful emotional attachment to that man will end.

A genuine Christian deliverance is what your wife needs.

By the way, that Pastor is a hireling and beware of churches like that.

If you will reach me privately, I can recommend a good church for you in the city where you reside.

All the best.

And what church would that be?

I stay in Lagos.

Please say it publicly

truthCoder:
hnmmm.

first, stop reading blogs that define relationships.

lets go practical. I speak the truth and it might hurt.

your wife and you got married not because you are best of friends but because you both seem to meet certain societal requirements you both set for yourselves. You wanted a virgin and a church girl from a good home. She wants a good man with a good job who will love her.

This is where the problem starts. You and your wife might be married but you are not friends. She needs someone to be free with and currently you are not..the pastor is.

Here is what you should do.

First ball is you. Are you the kind of guy that is not easily approachable by the wife on petty things? If you are, you need to change. She must have access to you on everything. If she thinks about ABC, she must be able to gist about it with you. Be more open. As regards sex, she is a learner...teach her...Sex is not just the penetration. Learn about taking it sloowwwww....For the next few days, make love without penetrating her. make her relaxed, give her a good massage, help her clean her ear, arrange her hair, help her try on different clothes, just lie on the bed and gist, kiss and cuddle, give her head, cut her toenails, do everything that involves touching but no penetration. This will loosen her more.

Take the pastor's phone number. Call him and tell him you are XYZ's husband. Don't allow him to 'pastorize' you. Tell him you have seen the chats and you are disappointed. Tell him he should never contact your wife again or he is going to see hell on earth. Tell him you will come into the church during service to embarrass him if he doesn't stop contacting your wife. Tell him you will report him to Winners Headquarters in Ota and via social media then hang up the call.

Next ball park is your wife. Sit her down and have this conversation with her. Tel her the most important relationship she has is the one with you. Every other one is secondary. Tell her you would love her more if she can make you her friend. If she has any thing to discuss, She should be free to do so with you. Show her love. Show her that she matters. Gist with her.

You will win her back

Thank you for your response.

The only thing I haven't done in this yoir response is calling the husband. Every other thing, I do it and even more.

Even down to house chores I do them and also do anything to make her happy.

I changed my line of business so I can work from home.

Longsleeve:
Collect the wife's number and start flirting with her..

I don't have her number. I would have called her to be sure she knows what her husband is doing.

How do I report a winners chapel pastor?

Do I confront her about again or just tell her people?


My family members don't know about it yet cos if I mention it to them, her respect is gone forever.

Edit : for those asking, we were friends for many years even before we got married. I didn't marry her cos of virginity. Who virginity help?

I married her cos she was my friend and we were compatible

Hey guys I'll just be brief.

Straight to the point.

My wife is having an emotional affair.

Whats making it worse?

It's with a pastor with wife and children. Her pastor when she was in another state.

Now they're both in different states.

How did I know?

I saw her chat with him about 2+ years ago, and saw all the sweet name calling, the pet names and how they tell each other their activities of the day and even marital problems.

All the red flags and checklist of an emotional affair have been ticked by them.

The only thing remaining is the sexual part.

We've been married for some years now, she was a virgin when I married her though I'm 100% sure they have not met since we got married.

But the issue here is that this is causing serious friction in our marriage.

When I first saw it, I gave some time to be sure and I confronted her and she denied and said he's just her pastor (denial is one of the checklist).

Some months later they didn't stop the communication, I was about to tell her mum cos she visited. She pleaded and I let it slide.

Fast forward to 2021 they are still in communication. This time around the so called pastor is even always reminding her to clear chats so I won't see it.

Now emotional affair is actually worse than sexual affair
This pastor has a wife. I just pity the wife cos I can imagine how she would also be feeling.

I provide for the home, I also had to change from biz to the one that makes me travel to something that makes me work from home so she won't say it's cos I'm not always around.

We struggle with our sex life. What do I mean? She doesn't like sex. She doesn't mind if we stay 1 year without sex.

But me I'm a man with sexual needs.

Now when I see the way she doesn't like sex and I remember this emotional affair, it drives me crazy.


Those who have passed thru this, how did you overcome this challenge?
I don't want a broken home for my children cos sometimes I feel like calling her people and telling them to take their daughter back. Infact I'll dash them the bride price.

Do I go and get a side chick? But that won't solve my problem.

Guys come to my aid.

Cos if we discuss this again, this will be the 3rd time we're talking about same issue and same guy.

Sorry wasn't brief