I always dream of seeing myself back in my secondary school which was a boarding house,so in the dream, I would always wonder, what am I doing here, haven't I grown up and finishes secondary school? It's either I'm in the hostel with my then classmates or some new faces or we would be in class about to write exams.

Another frequent dream is, I'm always in an unknown place looking for a way to the main road, there would be hills, water and even houses blocking me. sometimes, I get to see the main road and other times I don't.

The third one is, I always see my late friend, very close to me, we talk and chat until evening and we bid ourselves goodbye.

I have read through and i think i am just realising some mistakes judging from what some posters wrote down.
I will adjust on some things that's if the marriage eventually works out. My wife's action will play a big role in that.
There are certain times i come on here too and read some post and i automatically feel they are fictions but until mine happened and i had to pen it down anonymously(the beauty of this site) then i realise things happen.
I appreciate everyone and moving forward, i have answers to what i should do.

Mariangeles:


What was the circumstance like before you married her?
Was she in love with you?

She was in love with me and i think she still have some level of love, maybe it has dropped, i really cannot tell.

I am kind of afraid to confront her even with all the evidences with me, i fear she may just say it to my face and just end it all.

Horlubunmmy:
Are you faithful yourself??...And who told you she's not aware of your Fornication?

Hypocrite oshi.

When you dey do your own with random girls he dey sweet you...

She start her own hell was let loose.

Both of you should better sought things out, forgive each other and move on.

I don't mess with random girls.
I have respect for my health and my wife's.

I have been withdrawn from her and she doesn't know i know anything yet, she just asks if I'm ok and i just nod in affirmative.
I mean I've been played like a game of whot, this guy even sends her more money than she can spend couple with all that i give to her, i basically placed her on a salary and she is here professing love to another man while he bang her silly in an hotel room, which kain wahala be this?

Funnily, i still have this feeling for her, mixed feeling, like i still love her even after all this revelation..

How do I even start narrating this my ordeal?
What would you do if you find this on your wife's phone from another guy "i wish you would spend the rest of your life with me", i love you and i will do anything to be with you" and she replied with "i love you more".
This is a girl you married a virgin, young and innocent no ex drama, intelligent and beautiful.

So this is a girl i had always thought i was being unfair to her and always feel i don't deserve her because I've not been entirely faithful, as a man with some change, ladies will always come for you and somehow you can't reject all plus my job does not permit me to be home always. I trust her to a fault and she's an angel in my sight and can do no wrong due to the way i met her and how she carries herself, also a good wife and mother to my kids.

My problem now is, the guy is younger than me, he could be the same age with my wife or a little younger,has some money(all these oil guys) and they are somehow too attached emotionally which makes me feel theirs is beyond the sex.

I always thought as a sharp guy, i have everything under control but i must confess, I'm running mad and don't even know how to handle this like this girl has been playing me all these while or what?

A part of me is asking me to forgive her and assume i wasn't there enough for her emotionally, a part is feeling like i deserve the payback but honestly the African man in me is feeling it's total bullshit for her to cheat on me and in turn act like she's the best thing ever, call me hypocrite, it is what it is, a woman is meant to be forever faithful moreover she is not even aware of anything i did.