₦airaland Forum

Jayceon:
You are pained because we don't recognise you?? Even your compatriots are denying you

lol...

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So it's your karma that hit your sister.

Could be...So what? Its sad, but it will be a lesson learnt for her an her peers! Otherwise, im not proud of what i did, will never be...And if Karma comes, let it an i will remorsefully deal with it. Anywho, take my advice or don't..YOUR CHOICE! But dont say i ddnt warn you.

I dont see a reason why our woman, agree to get married to men who lives in other countries? There's marriage counselling at churches an all over, but ya'll still chose to get married an stay in long distance marriages? Or is it the Pastors who encourage them to get marriage an stay in those long distance marriages? Are they encouraging them so they can sleep with them an become their 'spiritual' fathers as they claim? Marriage is union of two people to become one, How do you love each other when you are worlds apart? Nigerian woman, needs to open their eyes, an get out of the box...liberation, spread their wings an fly... STAND UP, BE BOLD, HAVE COURAGE. You need to stop thinking you cant be or become anything without a man...Women world wide are empowered, doing great things for themselves rather than being treated like a slave, living in the village, depending on a husband to send you 500k every 2months, then declaire him as a good husband, just cos he sends you money? Well this below is what will happen to you!

A sister of mine got married to her husband, who stays in the US... A year later, the husband has met another Nigerian lady, married her there (US) they even have a child together. My friend doesn't even have a child with the husband, she got devastated an depressed...at this point doesn't even know what to do, the husband doesn't even visit or call her at all, but her Mother & the Pastors at church keep on telling her to be strong an hold on...But realistically speaking, Hold on for what? The marriage is broken, its a sham... My point here is, if you are getting married, get married to live with your husband or wife...this long distances is bullshit! Our sisters are suffering an getting heartbroken everyday..I know Iv been there aswell, well my ex girlfriend was so heartbroken to know that i have found someone and trust me im not proud of it...but it happened an i cant do nothing about it. (Sometimes you leave your wife home for the US, Uk etc...come home once a year, relying on whatsap chats, facebook, skype etc...the whole year, lol that is not enaf)

My fellow brothers, Be A man & stick to your wives wherever you go... You cant go to the US, Canada, Uk an SA without your wife! Otherwise you will find yourself cheating on her, and getting other woman pregnant...Or she will cheat on you with another brother or Pastor at church as they always find a way into their pants!

My guy, tell her the truth and move on... It's possible to fall out of love. You are not Jesus, so is your wife. Yes if she really loves you she will be disappointed, and heartbroken but she wont be the 1st or the last to get heartbroken, at least you would have loved her enough to tell the truth an set her free.

Do you have kids with her? If not, then let her go. Your parents will understand eventually...I don't see a point in ppl staying in a loveless marriage, because all it will do is create more anger which will turn into domestic violence...worst scenario cases.

There is no amount of counselling that can help you...If the LOVE is gone, its gone...(Honestly i think you were too quick to marry her, sounds like you married her because of her noble behavior, she loves the Lord, goes to church...maybe comes from a good cultured family, educated and her beauty) You should have first discussed how the relationship is going to survive or work out with the distance circumstance, then get ready to file for her before even walking down the isle. I knw its difficult to file for a spouse, with all the terms an conditions of the embassy...you need to have certain amounts of money in ur bank acc...and if you are still relying on other people to help you survive in SA its more difficult. You are looking at 5-10 more years into actually getting her papers ready, within than period you wudv gone to nigeria a few times, then boom she's pregnant...now the requirements to get papers are tripplin. And i cant imagine the poor woman raising her kids alone etc...


Seek advice from your parents and your pastor 1st...analyse your situation then make a decision. Been through something similar...tried & tried but failed ...the sane thing to do was let her go which was hard, because in my case i loved her...but i needed stability, and time is money. Travelling from the UK to Nigeria every now and then..and sending money home every month, wasnt going to make me any richer.

PS: Im now in South Africa, married to a South African Pedi lady...Beautiful educated, intelligent, Godly...gave me a set of handsome twin boys (They now live with my parents in Nigeria, to teach them my roots)...My mom adores her like her own daughter.

Amarabae:
Goodday All!
Let me briefly focus on some group of ladies who are shameless and lack morals.
THE HUSBAND SNATCHERS and Also The Side-Chicks.
sometimes we ladies blame men for infidelity even in marriage but are these men cheating with ghost? Is it not with ladies who mostly knew that many of them are already married.
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When you go through some married men facebook inbox or whatsapp, you see how some girls are selling and advertising themselves cheaply there despite being aware of this men marital status.
Why not go and flirt with a young unmarried guy?
Why do you want to cause pain to your fellow woman by breaking her home?
Are you heartless or what?
These vultures have no morals or class,
where is your conscience when you spread your useless legs for another lady's husband?
There are some girls out there who are always attracted to handsome married guys, they find them irresistible.
My dear friend just lost her newly wedded husband to these vultures, I saw her at antenatal session last week, the once always smiling and robust friend is becoming a shadow of herself amid her condition.
I am not trying to exempt men from part of the blame, but most of the time, it is these vultures that make the first move on these married guys, putting them under temptation.
Most of them target these men when their wives are pregnant, they feel that the other room likely may not be active during the pregnancy period, so they aim to strike.
Don't do to another woman what you will not be happy if it is done to you.
Some of these shameless vultures even go on to say "YES" when these man they snatched propose to them.
Its rampant in Nollywood and the funny fact is that such fake Marriages Do NOT Last!
Karma bites back.
And Finally To Men!
Cheating is not smartness, it shows a Guy without class!
If you truly love a woman, you will respect her and her feelings.
Morality has to be restored in our society.
Amara Has Spoken!
Thanks.

Sum of us, have to cheat on our woman, because we live far apart from them...its a matter of circumstance. We are human aswell! Leave the side chics alone, it is entirely upto the husband to break hs own home (We are the ones that approach the side chics, not the other way around), we are the common denominator.

fineboynl:
I am not impressed in sex with big ass girls & baddest shape girls.

I keep running after hot girls but the truth is when they pull off and we start the sex I really don't see any thing new/ enjoyment other than moving with them and get praises from shallow minded people.

Guys that craze over seeing big ass and boob are guys that haven't tested them. If you are used to them I assured you that you will see no different with them and other normal girls when making out. Majority of them don't even know how to sex good.

Just like women normally says size doesn't matter for men, if you have big dick and don't know how to use it then it will be useless, if you are a girl with killer beauty and shape and you sex like wood then you aren't special and will be useless.


The girls I met so far that sex really good are not that beautiful and not with wicked or killer shape. Slim/lite and average shape.

This are my verdicts. Is all about low key.

You are the problem, you are not a Pro...if you were...You would have techniques to Bleep whatever pussy you come acros...be it big or small. Shut ur mouth na!