Why do I feel this is murder? Years of watching true crime taking its toll on me. I think it's deliberate

jmaine:


A mother who did not care to visit her daughter and grandchild in over 9 months citing a flimsy reason is a PERFECT MOTHER...

She only picked interest when her elder sister who was MORE SENSIBLE than her volunteered to do a duty she absconded from for GOOD 9 MONTHS...

She did not only show an egoistic interest but went out of her way to ensure she destroyed the entire family in the process..

Una well done....

Her elder sister is more sensible? I see! I rest my case!

@OmugwoAunty
You can't be at war with your mum and expect your siblings to be cool with you. The fact they're on her side makes it even worse. It's either they're blindly devoted or they understand what you don't.

At this stage, it all boils down to how forgiving your mum is. If your priority is your siblings, then you need to forgive your mum and seek her forgiveness too. Call your siblings or send them an epistle on your POV. Admit your mistakes and let them know you won't repeat them.

Last warning, avoid that aunt of yours as she's proved your mum right already. Your aunt can't be trusted and she doesn't love you. If you think your mum is selfish, your aunt is worse than your mum. I ain't a prophet but I see your relationship with this aunt leading to chaos in your home. Your mum knows her sis and let's leave it at that.

jmaine:


You are the one expounding Nollywood fables here...

Did you forget the part where the aunt volunteered to go visit her with the mum which shows she respects boundaries?

Did you also forget the aunt volunteered to visit but away from her home because of her close relationship with her niece, and to respect the wish of her younger sister?

Did you also forget that her mum slandered her aunt first?

Did you also forget that her mum decided to escalate the issue to the husband to the OP's aunt accusing her sister of unusual meddling in her daughter's home which was a lie?

Did you also forget that the OP's mum also went ahead to use TRIBALISM to slander the OP's husband and his family?

What did you think would happen if the entire family ran with the notion that the OP's husband and family were unwelcoming and disapproving of all his inlaws...

Isn't that a HOME WRECKING Mother?

She went about slandering her sister to break family bonds with her daughter, went about reporting her sister to her husband to cause problems, and then went about doing the ultimate to break her daughter's home with unfounded lies about her husband.

In all these, we should exonerate the mother entirely and put the entire blame on the OP for being forced to set the records straight...

Until you experience life... This is a Nollywood script to you with sentimental opinions that extended families are always the evil ones.

So in her aunt's shoes, you'd do the same and what does that prove? Give your niece up just to score a goal. It's an own goal in this situation and if after everything, you're still pointing at the mum and don't see that this aunt and her husband are total agbayas that should be avoided,then you don't really understand life and continue living your Nollywood reality.

The mum doesn't want that aunt near her daughter for reasons the aunt has now verified. Aunt is not wise at all and mama knows this. She's tried everyway to make her stay away from her daughter but aunt no want gree. If truly she loves her niece, she'd protect her.

Why do you think her siblings are mad at her? You're not seeing the bigger picture here. Everyone including her cousins won't ever share any secrets with the OP ever again. This is not a school project or dissertation where you disclose your source.

Aunt is over 60+ and a mother too. She should know better that such revelation should never be leaked.

jmaine:


If the mum was wrong, why should we not blame her? I gave OP the benefit of the doubt because it is likely she gave an abridged version of her story. See the quote below.



From her story, you can see her mum had this expose coming. Do you know how she has been managing the situation until her mum moved a notch higher by trying to sow a long-term seed of discord between her husband, inlaws, and her own family while she enjoys her own new home in peace and harmony?

The mother went too far in her scheme, I believe pent-up frustrations and the need to clear her family's name pushed the OP to the wall.

I have advised her to apologize since the issue escalated to this point and stay on her own for now... A new mother with the pressures of a newborn baby don't require these extra headaches.

How you read this and arrived at your conclusion baffles me. It's like you guys believe everything in Nollywood flicks. You don dey view mama wey dey try save her daughter's home as Patience Ozokwor.

Aunt and her husband wey no get sense revealed that kind of information with no regards for the aftermath and it's her mum that's evil here? Dey play!

Her mum was right about the aunt, that aunt and her husband no get brain at all. They remind me of Teni( Taaoma's lil sis).

@OP
With the added information that both your mum and aunt are 60years +, please once again, stay far from that aunt. Your mum's got your back on this. That aunt go still do you strong thing if you no give yourself brain now. Walahi, she no rate you at all.

OmugwoAunty:


Mom is not in a dilemma regarding me. I never asked her to visit at all. Mom has suddenly expressed interest in visiting me after my aunty mentioned her visit,and is even bringing her new husband with her , if the visit happens. I did not object. I always respect my mom and her husband and have never put myself into their matter.

Regarding my aunty, she send the conversation between herself and her husband. She never mentioned this issue with her husband, it was my mom who called aunts husband, telling him to restrain his wife.

Please, listen to your mum. Without knowing anyone involved in this situation personally, I already deduced your aunt is going to cause more harm in your home if you keep her close enough. You can't share any secrets about you or your home with her. She threw you under the bus there and wouldn't hesitate to do it in future. Her husband is not smart either or your aunt wears the pants in that relationship.

It'll be hard henceforth for your mum or anyone in your family to trust you with information henceforth. You can't blame them. If you have a family WhatsApp group with your siblings, they're never gonna be comfortable discussing issues with you with what your aunt has done to your reputation.

Please repair your relationship with your siblings and your mum. Your aunt doesn't love you and it's a fact. I hope you think deeply about this and avoid her henceforth.

Ginaz:
your mother is a terrible person. for she to be so bold to say lies with a straight face shows the kind of person she is and I won't be surpised if she was the cause of the divorce between her and your father.

Don't feel guilty for exposing her, she brought the disgrace on herself. how can she go about lying against everyone without a conscience? she's now acting like the victim and playing mind games with your siblings.

she's very terrible. keep her away from you pls an becareful of sharing information about your family with her. she seems toxic and troublesome. Don't feel guilty , Ah! your mother own dey her body! which kind mama be that?

forget everyone and face your life. If your siblings ain't feeding you, then to hell with them. how can you mom just lie against your husband like that? so disrespectful!

How did you arrive at your conclusion? Ain't it obvious the aunt is the terrible person and momma was right bout her?

A newly wedded grandma got told by her new husband not to go see her grandchild. She's in a dilemma and without knowing the details of her first marriage, decides to keep her home and made the choice to obey her husband.

Her aunt decided to spill the vital information knowing it's going to damage her relationship with her mum and siblings but she doesn't care whose ox is gored. A very selfish being. Her husband is even worse. They don't care about OP and she needs to keep her distance.

Her mum is right after all, Aunt is a homewrecker and she needs that elbow room.

You have a lot of dumb and selfish people in your family but your aunt's husband is right on top of the chain. He's so dumb. Now that was really dumb exposing your mum like that but your aunt's husband being a man should know better than to forward your screenshots to your mum.

Your mum is right bout your aunt, cut her off and don't let her visit you, she'd ruin your home. Listen to your mum, she might not be there for you but she's so right bout your aunt. Don't let your aunt and her husband near your home

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