well i guess you are kinda right, she does expect too much from this guy and she sounds spoilt. Kim baby you complain a lot. but on the other hand maybe he really does some things that frustrate her. at least we could acknowlege coming home after midnight makes your wife insecure, i dont like the part where you are tring to be his mom, maybe its why he prefers to not be around you. you call him to order? like he is a kid? i dont think men like that, you cant force someone to go to church or accept Christ, its a personal decision, you can only pray for him. maybe you need to start loving yourself more then you will be loveable to some one else. i mean having a baby is no excuse for letting yourself go, you should try even harder now, you are breast feeding, you should be losing weight, i guess you take out your frustrations on food. be nice and stop talking about his back ground like that, did you not know thats how his family was like before marrying him? you sound as though you think you are better than him, maybe he sees it, it would be hard to be around you. yeah i guess Genious100 had a point after all, was so quick to defend you coz i think he was just being nasty to you but ey sis, you are just too much, try to change yourself,

Genious100 that is a bit too harsh, what do you mean 'who do you think you are?' she is his wife ofcourse!am sure it bothers her because at a point he never used to do that, yes why should he be writing stuff that makes his wife insecure? he is married and he should start behaving like a caring married man, even if she has her faults and we havent heard his side of the story, he is not treating her well and all a woman wants and needs to be able to bear the pressure of being a wife is love, have a little sympathy!

can somebody just help me, since i joined nairaland there has been mention of several pastors including pastor chris when people chat but none of Prophet TB Joshua, even on that topic 'who is your favourite pastor in nigeria'. or is he unknown in nigeria but so popular to the rest of the world?

what about T B Joshua? none of you seem to mention his name but he seems to be very popular in Nigeria?

yeah, even sounds like she thinks he might just be proud of her if she tells him she has so much experience, come to think of it she is strange,

she is just an insensitive girlfriend, maybe you should tell her some of your past experiences too,. she is just plain silly!

my dad would come first if he is just a boyfriend, then when he becomes a hubby he can enjoy the benefits of being first. but he can easily fall back to being second if he doesnt make me happy,

I am worried though about him having too many friends who are girls and being on stuff like twitter and mainly communicating with ladies, its all good advice. am just wondering though, if you get that job will he change? this guy is taking you for granted,. i guess try talking to him and all that but always be truthful to yourself, dont see what will amke you feel better, wish you the best sister. its such a sad life you live

you surely must have nothing better to do than formulate such a story, 2377 times? who are you Bill Clintion? you gave a one night stand your number? go and revise your story, you can do better, for now you got 0/10

because he is not being the man she needs him to be, probably the other guy is giving her what he is not, men tend to relax a lot and take their ladies for granted,

feel sorry for you but december is far, trust me things dont get better in marriage. if you already have these funny problems right now, imagine when he marries you,,he wont even bother about apologising coz he knows you not going anywhere. forget about how you feel and analyse how he feels about you, thats the most important thing right now. You loving him hasnt made you happy so far. why not stop reminding him and putting so much effort, you are supposed to be feeling like a queen right now and do you feel like one? i suggest you go on your knees and pray, If he is not the right one for yopu, God will reveal to you, maybe the devil wants to destroy your realtionship. and on the other hand remember not to marry this guy if things do not change, he will get worse, maybe he is cheating already. who knows why he has suddenly changed, he is surely not ready love,

Only to get of an ex when the current is behaving worse than the ex, but getting back might not work coz yeah they are called exes for a reason,

sweetheart do you know the meaning of love? you say you love him, the way you have treated him, has he in any way treated you the same? you can leave him if you want to have a long life and progress in life. what sacrifices are these that make you want to risk your future? it doesnt matter even if you bought him a merc, look my sister, you need serious counselling. you can live without this idiot, he knows you have a weakness wen it comes to him. he has a demon and needs help, he cannot be helped if he doesnt want that help. he will beat you again, he will do worse, love that is not reciprocated is not worth anything. dont do this to yourself, he is not yet your hubby and already treating you like a stray dog. come on, wake up and stop this nonsense, leave him, you wont die without him, he is not good for you, please. he doesnt deserve such loyalty. he probably beats you coz you irritate him, he has someone else besides you, or if you earn better than him, feels inferior to you. but whatever his reasons, its not right. you been so abused, you dont know love does exist and what he feels for you is definitely not love! leave! leave!

She slept with someone at work! ey thats really something. am a lady myself, i would advise you to leave her, why did she sleep with him in the first place? she couldnt handle a few weeks alone? i mean if she had just kissed the guy i might get to think she got tempted and was lonely etc, but to go as far as to find a venue for the act, go through the whole thing then suddenly come back to her senses, ah, and now she is sorry. you might think you have forgiven her and can continue with this relationship but you wont be able to leave with what she has done. she will do it again, she has no self control, and how will you regain that trust, you're just going to hurt yourself by trying to give this woman a chance, there are too many women out there to waste time on girls like her who dont appreciate good things when they have them. let her go!,

yeah you are right sis, men turn to become monsters after marriage.not just nigerian men,,men as a whole. you are lucky if he just cheats and at least acknowleges that, what about when he suddenly becomes violent as well. get a better job than your hubby and you will see how pathetic they can be. ofcourse not all men but most. yeah there are some women who also act in appropriately, but some are pushed into being whores by the men who have disappointed them each and evry time. its like men were born by the same mother, its amazing.

i think online dating can be dangerous, lucky for those who have found mr right on line, but its all tricky, at least with traditional dating you get to see how the person trully acts and some habits you might not like. i can be anyone on line,

I dont think there is any reason for you guys to fight about pastor Chris or the white garment churches. you all sound like you are christians but your behaviour does not show that. If pastor Chris is fake why not let God deal with him, the bible says we should not judge. About the white garment churches i also wanted to understand the part where some of them claim to talk to your dead relative, sometimes plead on your part for something. that is not biblical. isaiah 8 v 19. any prophet who says they can talk to dead people is false. but i would want to believe there are some white garment churches and christians who are genuine. some of these white garment churches do read the bible. about the use of perfumes and other stuff, does it really mean they are not genuine? did jesus not use mud to open that blind man's eyes? i think as long as they are calling on the name of Jesus and nothing else, they are just like the other prophets we prefer to believe are genuine, am not a member myself but i have come to realise some of these white garmented churches are trying so hard to please God and sort of want to embrace some of the methods in the old testament. its just my view,