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Thank you all for your responses. Don't get me wrong he's a wonderful man. He's the type of man that any sane woman would want. At this point if he wanted to have sex I don't think I could. When I don't see him and we talk on the phone I can't wait to see him but when I do I'm turned off. I know it sounds really shallow but I want to be honest. I've been with men that I attracted to but when it comes down to it they weren't ready for commitment or could not take care of themselves much less me. Anyone that is polite and considerate I believe you can love but I'm talking about attraction. Shouldn't I want to jump into bed with him if he's my man?

Thanks for your response Shentz. I really like him and appreciate him in my life. There is just no urge to have sex like I have with the others I've met. The other men I've met there was always physical attraction but no substance - with him there is everything else except physical attraction. 

Hello,

I need some advice. I met a wonderful man who treates me like a queen after dating a sleuth of losers. My problem is that I am not attracted to him at all. I like spending time with him but I am not at the point where I want to jump into bed with him. At my age I should be looking for everything that this man is offering- marriage, home and stability. So my question is, should I stay in hopes of developing feeling or walk away? HELP

Hello,

I have been paying very close attention to the comments on this post and I think it is very important that I am truly honest when giving my response. If a man is interested in being with you and only you there is absolutely nothing that will prevent him from doing so. I met  a guy who basically did the same thing. He sent text messages daily as well as making daily calls. We spent time together when it was cconvenientfor him and whenever I told him that I was going out he would question me and get mad if I said it was a date. When I asked him if we were dating his response was always "let's see where it goes". As women we always want to hear what we want to hear when the reality of it is, if a man realizes that you are a quality woman he would secure his position with you asap. Don't put your life on hold for him, go out and enjoy life and if he comes around and you're still available great, if not you would not have wasted your time waiting for him.