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Thank you very much sir

Pukkalolo:
This is an interesting one because there's a hidden dynamic at play here…

Please read this deeply… because there's a big lesson to learn here.

You see brother, there can be a million reasons why she suddenly started ignoring your calls… it can be because
- She felt cheap after having sex with you.

- Her sister is angry with her for going out with you and the sister advises her against
continuing any sexual interaction with you…

- She suddenly got a text from her ex

- Or whatever millions of other reasons your human brain can come up with

But the truth is… none of those reasons actually matter. Because the moment you think it matters is the moment you start failing the low-key shit test being thrown at you.

This low-key shit test is called: “Guilt-tripping” or “Induced Insecurity.”

This is when a woman makes you feel like you did something wrong. Or she makes you feel like you’ve “messed up”, so you start chasing her more.

Example pattern:

She initially show high interest in you…then

- she suddenly pulls away and starts giving you the impression that she's losing interest in you.

- She starts ignoring your calls or messages without saying why.

- Even when she doesn't ignore your calls or messages; she gives you attitude and gives you short, dry responses like “ok,” “k,” or “hmm.”

The goal of this shit test (consciously or unconsciously) is to make you feel like you “messed up” somewhere somehow. So that you start trying to fix the situation…by calling her or text her multiple times, simping for her and chasing her.

Most Men fall for this shit test because it is a Trojan horse kind of shit test: you won't realize she's playing manipulative tricks on you.

One reason guys(even redpillers) easily fall for this manipulative shit test is because most guys have the mentality of being in control or trying to fix situations.
When it comes to women, we have to go against this mentality: instead of trying to control and fix situations with women, we need to think differently…

Here's what I mean…

In my simping days, when I look back at all of my past failures or mistakes with girls, I would say that 80% of the failures came from trying to fix situations when the girls started ignoring me or misbehaving.

Back then I never knew these girls were giving me the Guilt-tripping” or “Induced Insecurity” shit test. They were low-key making me feel like I did something wrong, so I can now start getting worried and start chasing them more.

Now, I'm very experienced. I understand all kinds of "Guilt-tripping” and manipulative shit tests women execute to control men.

So in order to conquer those shit test, I follow the “Do nothing” principle.

Let me explain…

A few weeks ago, I started talking to this girl I really clicked with. And honestly… I like her. She’s very beautiful, super feminine, and has the sweetest personality.

At the beginning, she showed interest in me. About three weeks ago, we had our first date…just a chill evening walking around ShopRite and vibing.

At one point, when we got a corner where no one could see us…we had our first kiss. After the kiss, I teased her saying, “Wow, you’re not a good kiss at all,” and she laughed, playfully smacked my arm, and tried to prove me wrong by saying she was just shy because this was our first kiss.

Our vibe was perfect. It got late, so I walked her to her estate gate and made sure she got in safely.

That night, I sent her a simple text on WhatsApp: “You home safe?”

Two blue ticks. Meaning, She read it. No reply.

The next day…Sunday…still no reply from her. She even posted on her WhatsApp status: a video of her whole family dressed up heading to church in her dad’s car.

So yeah… she wasn’t busy. She was intentionally ignoring me.

As an experienced guy… I instantly recognized what was happening: a classic guilt-trip shit test. She ignores the message on purpose to see if I’ll get anxious, and start to chase her by double-texting, calling, trying to “fix” things.
That’s the trap. I didn’t fall for it. I did absolutely nothing.

Three days passed. No reply from her.

But she was posting statuses daily, so she definitely was active but purposely ignoring me.

She's very beautiful chic, so at that point, most guys would start over-thinking: “What did I do wrong? Where did I mess up?” they'll be tempted to reach out and fix things… but I stayed disciplined and did nothing because I understand female manipulative games.

Two weeks later, out of nowhere, she hits me up:
“Heyyyy, sorry for the late reply… I’ve actually missed you though.”

The rest, as they say, is history.

Here’s the truth: if I had chased when she ignored me, her attraction would’ve died instantly. Instead, by following the “do nothing” principle…I gave her space to wonder, “am I not beautiful in his eyes? Why isn’t he blowing up my phone like every other guy?”

Because I did nothing, she became intrigued and curious. That’s what pulled her back in, stronger than before. Her attraction for me sky-rocket.

So KennethIbe59, with this girl you’re dealing with right now: follow the “Do Nothing” principle. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t explain. Don’t chase.

When a woman realizes you’re not panicking or running after her, something clicks. She starts wondering what makes you different. That’s when her respect, and attraction…skyrockets.

Stay solid, king.

Stay blessed.

I went to see her that week and she confess to me that she cum more than Ones
Bleep her again last week but this time she no cum due to time factor we had to rush things

she don dey act same way again and I no even care again .
If I had another chance I will still Knack her cos her kpekus is tight 😂

Rizzputin:
or combination of three things:


- you didn't fùck her well
- you acted too in love with her after just one night
- her sis[quote author=Rizzputin post=137563061]One or combination of three things:


- you didn't fùck her well
- you acted too in love with her after just one night
- her sister suspects and she is advising her against you

Thanks you 🙏 🙏 🙏 [quote author=zenithgroup post=137371066][/quote]

Tenrack:
You no get issue boss, as it is now you have the upper hand. Wait till she reaches out. If she doesn't, jejely move on. But I'm almost positive that she'll reach out. Don't do it man, don't try to get in touch after calling the first time and she didn't answer.

Thanks I appreciate sir 🙏🙏

I invited her to my place, but she said she couldn’t come because she’s new to Lagos and doesn’t want to be disrespectful to her sister and husband. That’s why I decided to visit her in her area instead. She said maybe by next year, she’ll start going out more.

To be sincere, I really like her. I’ve never actually dated a woman before — all I usually do is have s3x and move on. But with her, it feels different.

She has never asked or requested anything from me, and we’ve never really talked about dating or being in a relationship. It’s just been normal conversations, a few kisses on two different occasions, and s3x last Sunday.

From your experience, Boss, if I should visit her again, how long do you think I should wait before going to see her.

Thanks for your time I appreciate 🙏

emmaodet:
It is a young relationship, so i will say give her more time.
It is not good to bolt out of a relationship at the slightest excuse. It is good to put in good effort to make things work before writing it off if not yielding.
You can't keep blaming others for things not working when you are regularly changing partners. Relationship needs time, effort and investment too.
That by the side, you are 35 and she is 27 so what do you really need? a fling or serious relationship leading to somewhere?
Also, you wrote that you lodged in a hotel just to sleep with her. Does it mean you are still struggling and don't have your own apartment for now? still squatting with someone? or your apartment is not decent enough to use or the environment? which may signal a man not ready for serious relation at that age.

Thanks Boss I appreciate your advice

I have decided to move on...

CaveAdullam:
1. Why don't you pay a visit to her place of residence since you're familiar there and it's unusual for her to act this way?

2. If she always returns missed calls and hasn't done so since then, perhaps, it might be that she has sunk into a hole.

Try to pay a visit to be able to ascertain her condition and attitudes. Or, make another call.

Thanks.

Thanks 🙏 🙏 🙏

JESHAL007:
q


Give her time, if she no respond cut off

@JESHAL007 WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE ON This sir

KennethIbe59:
Good day kings in the house

Please I need your take on this
There’s this girl I met — she just relocated from Abuja to Lagos. She’s the sister to my senior man’s wife.

I’ve been very close to their family before I relocated to another area, but I still visit them often. My senior man’s wife likes me a lot.

So, one day when I visited them, I met this girl and collected her number. I’m 35, and she just turned 27.

She was actually the first to chat me up, and we started vibing well. Most times, she’s the one who initiates our chats.

I’ve visited her at her workplace before; we’ve kissed twice on different occasions. She has even sent me money for food twice. I’ve never given her money before — I only spend a little when we hang out for drinks.

Last Sunday was her birthday. I went to see her, called her on the phone, and she came out without telling her sister where she was going. I took her to a bar, and we lodged for about an hour — we had sex.

While we were at the bar, her sister kept calling her several times, but she didn’t pick up.

After everything, I escorted her back home and even spent some time with her sister’s husband at a nearby bar before heading back to my place.

I didn’t call her that night. The next morning, I called — but she didn’t pick, which is unlike her because she always calls me “back” whenever she misses my call.

Since then, I haven’t called her again.

Also I bought her body spray as a gift for her birthday

What do you think I should do, kings?

@Rizzputin
@pukkalolo
@heartofcity12
@caveAdullam
@martinez39s
@skepticus
@emmaodet

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Potvalor:
Many things could be involved. She might have regrets from the act, or felt it wasn't worth it, or maybe you didn't match her expectations, or she is playing games to force you into a more established commitment after the act. There could be over a hundred reasons she avoided your calls, so best to let her be until she comes around herself.

No need to worry yourself over another person’s opinion. Did you enjoy yourself? Was the experience worth it? That's the most important thing for you: how you feel! If you want a more established relationship with her, then give her a few more days, and call back (or chat her up). Just talk casually at first, jokes, how are you, and the like. Then afterwards, you can bring up the elephant in the room, and you two discuss your next steps like adults – like, should you all date, keep it FWB, open up about the relationship to your senior man (and his wife), etc. But if she keeps avoiding you, just lock up and move on like it never happened. Even if you run into her in person while visiting your Senior Man, just lock up and withdraw your familiarity with her.

So for now, give her space, chill, and let her decide your next move.

Yes just a casual parole....

Thanks Boss I appreciate your time 🙏 🙏 🙏

Potvalor:
Alright then, you did well man. But I guess you guys didn't define your “situationship” even before the knack? Was it intended for a relationship or just a casual parole? If it is the former, then her behavior is totally out of place and weird. But if it is the latter, then maybe she is just sulking cos she wants something “more”. Just a random hypothesis, though, so go ahead with your plan to meet her at her workplace and clear things out.

Best of luck Boss.

Thanks Boss for taking your time to reply

She doesn't know where I live.

I am thinking of giving her today and tomorrow, if she doesn't call back or chat, I will visit her place of work tomorrow evening

As for the expectation I believe I Knack her well, she just dey moan all through licking my fingers as I dey knack her

I no even cum... After 30 minutes of knack she said she has to go home that her sister will be worried

Potvalor:
Many things could be involved. She might have regrets from the act, or felt it wasn't worth it, or maybe you didn't match her expectations, or she is playing games to force you into a more established commitment after the act. There could be over a hundred reasons she avoided your calls, so best to let her be until she comes around herself.

No need to worry yourself over another person’s opinion. Did you enjoy yourself? Was the experience worth it? That's the most important thing for you: how you feel! If you want a more established relationship with her, then give her a few more days, and call back (or chat her up). Just talk casually at first, jokes, how are you, and the like. Then afterwards, you can bring up the elephant in the room, and you two discuss your next steps like adults – like, should you all date, keep it FWB, open up about the relationship to your senior man (and his wife), etc. But if she keeps avoiding you, just lock up and move on like it never happened. Even if you run into her in person while visiting your Senior Man, just lock up and withdraw your familiarity with her.

So for now, give her space, chill, and let her decide your next move.

Thanks Boss please explain well

PrettyRX:
she's probably disappointed with her imaginations. The poor lady is traumatised so pls dont call her again. move on

Good day kings in the house

Please I need your take on this
There’s this girl I met — she just relocated from Abuja to Lagos. She’s the sister to my senior man’s wife.

I’ve been very close to their family before I relocated to another area, but I still visit them often. My senior man’s wife likes me a lot.

So, one day when I visited them, I met this girl and collected her number. I’m 35, and she just turned 27.

She was actually the first to chat me up, and we started vibing well. Most times, she’s the one who initiates our chats.

I’ve visited her at her workplace before; we’ve kissed twice on different occasions. She has even sent me money for food twice. I’ve never given her money before — I only spend a little when we hang out for drinks.

Last Sunday was her birthday. I went to see her, called her on the phone, and she came out without telling her sister where she was going. I took her to a bar, and we lodged for about an hour — we had sex.

While we were at the bar, her sister kept calling her several times, but she didn’t pick up.

After everything, I escorted her back home and even spent some time with her sister’s husband at a nearby bar before heading back to my place.

I didn’t call her that night. The next morning, I called — but she didn’t pick, which is unlike her because she always calls me “back” whenever she misses my call.

Since then, I haven’t called her again.

Also I bought her body spray as a gift for her birthday

What do you think I should do, kings?

@Rizzputin
@pukkalolo
@heartofcity12
@caveAdullam
@martinez39s
@skepticus
@emmaodet
@pansophist

Boss what do you mean

By saying weekends aren't great times to ask a girl out

Rizzputin:
You most likely didnt ask her out properly that's why she flaked. There is a correct order and process to ask out girls

Anyways, girls sometimes flake to test how the guy will respond. Just be chill and unphased about it


Hit her up tomorrow or Wednesday and just vibe with her... don't bring up the date. Don't over invest while texting her. Just keep it cool and fun

Do this tomorrow and Wednesday. Don't reply her on Thursday. Then vibe with her on Friday... and ask her out for the weekend

Ideally weekends aren't great times to ask out women but they sometimes work.

In summary... don't ask her out immediately. Vibe with her then ask her out again On a high note

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Boss the is sold for $13. Please can you send it to me
i4greatness1@gmail.com

Thanks

SuperOnyi:




I won't advise any man to let his woman know he's reading such a book unless she's understanding.

The Bad Guy's 29 Laws of Dark Psychology and manipulation to Get Any Woman.

Finished Man

Boss I don miss your contribution here
You and pukkalolo teach more of the practical than theory

I look forward to more of your contributions

Rizzputin:
I agree. It's just boring nonsense none of them have ever tried or will ever try.

And it got even more stale because none of them are trying out things they read so new epiphanies. Just boys jerking off how women are evil to their pathetic selves

emmaodet:


30k for babalawo to get back a gf that ran back to her ex.
Chaii.
Sometimes, I don't blame men.
Alot of men are sex starved and relationship starved that they will do anything just to have a woman at home or to call a gf/wife even if it will involve regular insults and cursing from their women.
The fear of being alone is real and the only way to solve this issue is to increase your social life.
It helps a lot.

So many examples

You said it all Bro

I joined my area community Whatsapp group and became very active in the group.

Two banny from the group don find me come house.

Rizzputin and pukkalolo will always want to talk bad the red pill

Since I started following these threads, it has been stated several times that red pill is amoral.

Abeg make una leave guys alone biko

As for me, I will keep my commitment to myself.

Women are Angelic being
They are harmless....

I pity who no take redpill

I love how women punish such men

heartofcity12:
Wonderful. It’s better they learn the hard way like this 👍

The guy mum sells roster corn.

He his within the age of 20-21

Na the girl even pay for the hotel from the money the mugu boy spent on her birthday

dkidd:
Some guys are just bastards... See the type of girl sef? I rather use that money start pig farm or goat farm than waste on a useless borehole

Lolz na this kind News I dey like.

Meedon:

I have know this tey tey

The woman nature no dey disappoint

I no pity for the mumu man

Yes.

Lisaint:
Hello is this the thread still active

Broke guys has different kids from different mothers

narite:
What do this niggas have in common? They are Rich!! Money stop Nonsense.

Your advice is not for broke niggas. I will advise they do not dare think of it; especially in overseas, for the little they have will be taken away and rendered useless for the rest of their misery short live.

What's type of job if I may ask

seanwilliam:
Cc usafall2024
I’m having one problem with self control again , after 3 years of maintaining stable relationship with one woman, I’ve started womanizing again. This started less down 2 months ago I think. I’m on fhucking spree now.
Got worse sotey two girls don find me come from Ghana to IB. Not to exaggerate , i go don down 15 girls in the past 6 weeks .. and it’s not hookup , it’s fwb, single mothers, Girls in serious rlt,one time fling and cruise turned fhucking

Though I noticed my business gives me access to more women.
Who else has experienced this? How can one stop this..
Even though I feel bad, I still kinda enjoy the pleasure..

You know the feeling where u know this thing you’re doing is destructive , but u still finding it hard to control yourself.
Tbh I stopped this lifestyle in 2019, but now I’m back !!

Few days ago a female cousin of mine was telling my female neighbor that men only comes online to talk bad about women but offline secretly spend their money on badies

jsp0:
this is 100 true

after my gf asked me 2k and i told her i don't have, she told me if 'you don't give me person wey go give me go give'