₦airaland Forum

First, the 'responsibility' of virginity till marriage rests on both sexes not just the female. That notion should be corrected cos d Bible never said women must be 'pure' while men are exempt n therefore free to do as they please. On this matter, it's d same standard but unfortunately in our world/society, it is made to look like a solely female requirement but that is a story for another day.

Next, there is no compulsion in Christianity. It is clear that you are free to choose and just as in our daily lives there are repercussions for choices made, so it is on matters of spirituality n d Bible. Again, wrong interpretation makes it look like the contrary is the case. Virginity is a matter of choice n should never be a yardstick for measuring the 'goodness' or 'badness' of a person.

Why are State Governors not held to account? is there any part of Nigeria as marginalized as th South East? Yet they haven't killed n destroyed fellow citizens cos it's obvious that these same people are struggling to survive too!

Incessant ra.pe and murder of women...how are they responsible for d problems so that ra.ping them will make them stop? These are miscreants who pander to their base desires under the guise of "poverty and non-development", very conveniently too.

The foot soldiers who do d actual dirty work are most likely not even sophisticated enough to grasp the intricacies of governance/politics and d resultant lack/evident poverty across d entire nation so what exactly do they understand this 'war' of theirs to mean? Why are the masterminds n sponsors just that, masterminds n sponsors? Why aren't they in the frontline fighting for what they 'believe'?

You see people in other countries go on hunger strikes or even set themselves on fire for what they believe in but here, u have idiotic self-appointed leaders calling the shots! if this is not characteristic of a rag-tag band of thieves gone wild, I wonder what it is! They just conveniently glorify themselves as having an ideology yet their very actions belie their words.

Some oaf will say they are also fighting Muslims n it's not targeted against Christians so why do they studiously overrun areas with significant Christian population and immediately declare an 'islamic caliphate'? Just a pity that things got out of hand and escalated to this pathetic point, this could have been nipped in d bud if not for apologists and saboteurs within d rank and file...the C-in-C can only do so much!

Let's be truthful and stop supporting common criminals by conferring an 'ideology, belief n purpose' on them when in fact they are thieves without honour, merely acting out a script!

I have a problem with attributing the insurgency and criminal preponderance of miscreants in the North-Eastern part of Nigeria to poverty and poor development. These and many more are general problems in the entire country so what informs this unholy n demonic display?
Again, if they are so aggrieved with the government n believe they've been unfairly treated, how have d young students, corpers and innocent citizens whom they kill n maim with impunity, contributed to their perceived unfair treatment? Why have they chosen to ignore the Northern leaders who were in governance for over 30yrs in Nig n have suddenly decided that it's Jonathan and his government's fault?

If it is proposed that infrastructure n development is the problem of these common criminals n thugs who claim to despise modern education, how will these be provided if they keep killing everything positive in sight? How have Christians and churches become responsible for their problems? (Madalla et al)

The Chad Basin has yielded prospects of crude in commercial quantity n suddenly they're up in arms, disrupting efforts to access this resource...they've always alluded to 13% derivation of Nig. Delta, wouldn't they hav had same or similar benefits as well?

They have their motives and it's hardly abt poverty or hatred of education so let no one keep playing that old, cracked n broken record! You seek development n yet destroy what little is on ground! How does that work? I could go on and on...

Ironing

Serious JAMB Question! I hope I never find out...but, I'll certainly not be cowed by his stupidity!

I hope it doesn't have those Arabic inscriptions no one seems to know d meaning of! Looks nice!

I hope it doesn't have those Arabic inscriptions no one seems to know d meaning of! Looks nice...

Personally, I believe that what is good for one is good for all. If Ilekokonit believes that all these rules or tips are right and should be considered/adopted by the female folk desirous of keeping a 'good African man' then I cannot be wrong to state that the African man desires a good African woman and must therefore be willing to keep her and therefore adopt same rules. It worried me when a lady saw her heart's desire and stated as much when she said she had seen her a husband in the op who could keep those rules and was ready to set the ball rolling but Ilekokonit sharply responded and said the rules were for her only!

Is it ok then for the man to for instance, dominate the conversation, hold business/career/religious commitments as more important than her, talk down at her before her kids, belittle and castigate her especially before her daughters, embarrass her in public, puncture her 'balloon' just to get even with her or bring her down, be unforgiving/mean/wicked, be selfish, be addicted to sports tv, blood and gore or generally stuff she doesn't like (abi she's not allowed to like and dislike), keep secrets from her, manipulate her...and so on?

If marriage must work and be beautiful, both parties must be in it and be determined to make it work! Understand that the duty lies on both of you to make the union work. In other words, humans are designed to please each other not just women pleasing the men. The right thing should be tips for keeping a good African marriage because take it or leave it, it goes both ways. Granted, the man is the main supplier/provider, it doesn't mean the woman will not have an opinion or apply her discretion in managing the home. It must all be done in love and understanding, not one lording it over the other. That is the balance the children should grow up to see and emulate!

QMark:
I don't know the guy, but from that pic, he looks naturally high. My only confusion is, I can't tell if it's on weed or alcohol.

Takes one to know one I guess...

Hmmm! I'm at a loss for words, I'm even more marvelled at the faith and 'die-hard' trust in God depicted on this thread while going through harrowing experiences. May the Lord Himself strengthen u all who have lost beloved partners n parents. He has promised to be with us till the end of time, never said there'd be no fire bt that He'll be with us in that fire so that we're not consumed.
I've learned great lessons here...

God bless you all who mourn and are still mourning,, thanks for sharing your lives, experiences n pains. God bless your beautiful kids n comfort u all.

I am encouraged, after having started reading this entire thread from 5'30am till now(1.36pm), and I know that God has plans for me...

How religion, particularly Islam, overrides the Nigerian Constitution which is the supreme law of the land, baffles me. How the provision of the constitution that renders null n void, any law inconsistent with d provisions of d constitution to the extent of its inconsistency, is conveniently ignored, leaves me completely flummoxed.

The fact that the milk of human kindness as well as d principle of equity and good conscience is lost on a good number of ppl, particularly adherents to this religion in the North, is particularly worrisome.

As na only dem waka come, make dem kontinu.

This stuff can only be done in ur personal house or building, not where u're paying rent unless u plan to live in another person's property forever.

You closed child-bearing after 4kids but d pregnancies just kept coming...hmmm So na breeze just dey blow, u close eye open, belle show...ok, kontinu.
As a child of God he abhors family planning...economic planning nko? Doesn't he know that d 'constant coming of pregnancies' has a direct bearing on his economy? I don't like it when ppl reason this way but feel no compunction in calling on those who practice n preach family planning to come to their aid!

Such a pity that innocent children are involved but with this mind set u can be sure that in another 2yrs they'll welcome another baby. Biko na dem know which church dem dey go o! cos the God I know encourages us to seek knowledge n be wise!

Allowances nko? Na salary wey no get head him dey talk. He should reject every income and that nasty pension for past Presidents and Vps then I'll definitely confirm his madness and the grand heist he has in the offing!

Kai! The adjectives on this thread are classic! 'Forbidden sacrifice', 'Smuggler', 'detachable bo*bs', 'starved vampire', 'witch wey no get contribution', 'Herbert Macauley', 'Trangendered', 'Fowl wey enter water', 'people with brains kinda under construction'...not forgetting those with the Devil in collaboration with their enemies dancing "sekem" on their matter... Oh! Nigerians and mouth shaaaa! Una dey yab for state and capital!

Meanwhile Denrele and Prince U dem, where dem dey keep dia 'particulars' for dose dia tight trousers? 'cos I don look tire, it's as flat as a female 'v'...I no go add Charly Boy cos he has proven the existence and effectiveness of his 'particulars' as Grandfather wey him be. But the other two...I tire o! Abi na d transg*** tinz?

A man is concerned that his wife has kept silent, knowing that he knows that she knows that he has been cheating on her and she is ordinarily a confrontational person. He wonders if he should be worried or it's nothing to to worry about as she has known for the past two weeks. Should he be worried?

@tartar9: Isn't there anything in your book called love and tolerance? You may refer to it as "Live and let live"! She has chosen The Way, you have chosen yours. No need to call names...love makes the world go around you know.

Haaaa! All dese mumu pikin dem! At 22 you're still growing and experimenting, u shouldn't expect to be a star studded hunk in bed! Na wa o! And for it to have been taken off by a single swipe of a mere razor blade...omo e small sha o!!

Kai! But some ppl sef! No more respect for marriage n traditional rites. How can a man go n perform trad rites n marry a woman when his family is totally against it? if he was so sure he was making d right choice why is he nw looking for anoda lady to marry? When we don't honour our parents who've walked dis earth b4 us, dis is d kind of mess dat happens.

@op: Since he can't even be honest n come clean or make urgent moves to clear d air if it's a mistake, I think u should gently pack ya load and ensure ur legs hit d back of ur head while u scram!

Nice one, all-encompassing. No one can come and say anybody was 'taking credit'! Naija sha...we can split hairs over things that don't matter while relevant things and issues are relegated. GOD BLESS NIGERIA

Would it kill some people to type "Christian" or "Christianity?" Why replace Christ, the reason for the way of life and relationship with God with an "X"?

Spitted! Hmm... That's some bullet @op.

First, it's nobody's business provided they didn't borrow or steal; again, the lady in the pic may be financially flush n comfy bt with a 'poor' dress sense according to u...last I checked that ain't no crime. She could've had a rich relative or partner who says..."what do u want for your birthday"? or whatever occasion n voila, she has an iPhone 6(@op:e be like say dis one pain u pass). Same scenario could play out for students. Next, some ppl are jst phone freaks like sum oda person could have particular fondness for perfumes, clothes, ties, shoes, wrist watches...name it. They will most likely ensure they can afford or procure same n like I said...provided they didn't steal or harm anyone...ain't no business of yours op!
Bia OP! What even gives u d justification to call anyone (w)retched? Even spelling worry u!


Finally, OP, to assume makes an 'as~s' of 'u' & 'me', kindly desist n better still, face ya work!

Tradition indeed! They should let d girl n her mother be, their tradition didn't demand dt dey get married since, now they want to stress d little girl. And to think dt men are d advocates of these barbaric traditions...they should ask themselves wat purpose female circumcision will serve rather than following a dated traditional dt is even dangerous to d well-being of females hook, line and sinker!

Na heavy story be dis o! The couple probably had fertility issues, adopted a baby somewhere n decided to cum up with this story...

As for those who through some warped way of thinking decided to connect this to the Bible...I hav nothing to say other than ask u to stop seeking validation for your own convictions by castigating that of others. If you have to then you must have some faults in your belief system. Let your beliefs n convictions stand on their own and for themselves, not as a poor reflection
of that of others.

Live and let live. Don't rubbish what others hold dear.

I would always go to the fridge to steal multivite syrup until the fridge closed with me in one fine day; make visitor no remain mineral for bottle for our house o! I go rush go clear table so i go drink the remaining mineral Meanwhile if nothing remain when I go spy nobody go send me dat message o! I no go gree as per last born stubbornness... Just until I broke a glass in the name of finishing left-over, my elder ones cum catch me... y'all know the rest.

Hmm! Heavy flow wahala! I dey dia too but it's not as bad as some cases I've seen here. I used to think it was really heavy to the point that I've had to do a scan and was given the all-clear, also told my fertility rate was high so to be careful unless I wanted to have a baby... @op: I hope you'll be fine and pull through.
Quick question: Do u bleed this heavily and steadily for the number of days your period lasts or it's on specific days on and off during the period?
Mine has a pattern that I've understood over time so I am usually prepared on the days of 'overflow' unless I am unavoidably tied up in an uncomfortable and inconvenient situation in which case...I prepare for and accept the worst wateva it may be...

I hope the right thing is done so that this unholy alliance called Nigeria can be re-structured and we can have peace!

What happened to the rest of her fingernails? Appears only the index finger is fixed, the rest are stripped bare...
Animals deserve love too

Last born no easy o! Last of 5 talking...lol

make e no be say na to find suitable place for some kind fireworks o! E no come gree chop kwa!