₦airaland Forum

PROPHETmichael:
I'm swimming in abundance of blessing that's why unlike you, i dont need to turn off my data, it's 24/7.

PROPHETmichael:
Anytime you pray for Isreal, you automatically get blessed.

GoldHorse:
Wouldn't want to call them f00ls. Israel does not care about Christians or Christianity. Population of Christians in Israel is less than 2%.

shortgun:
You’ve clearly misunderstood my point. When I speak of clear leadership, I’m referring to a kind of leadership that commands genuine followership and respectful obedience...this is something that’s sadly lacking in many marriages today.
This doesn’t mean a woman should be treated as a servant or a slave or shouldn’t be allowed to make inputs. It simply means that when there’s a clash of ideas in decision-making, the man’s position should take precedence for the sake of order and direction. Without this there’s always going to be confusion and never ending conflicts in marriages.

Apologize:
The man in this picture is actually dead

jasent:
Good day, Nairalanders.
Please, I need your honest opinion on this matter.

I met this girl about a year ago when I went to purchase some goods at her workplace. She was really caring and even helped me carry some of the goods to the roadside. When I tried to tip her, she refused.

At that time, I was living in Ivory Coast, so after returning there, I chatted her up and expressed my interest in her. She initially agreed to date me but later changed her mind.

When I later visited Nigeria, she came to see me at my hotel. However, she didn’t allow anything intimate to happen. On several occasions when she visited, each time I made a move, she would walk out without even asking for transport fare. I would always call her back to ask why she acted that way, but her reasons were never clear.

Still, I kept supporting her in my own little way, even though I knew deep down she might never accept me. When I started getting tired of the situation, I told her I was moving on.

At this point, I had already rented an apartment close to the Benin Republic border — I chose that location because the electricity is stable and the rent is paid quarterly, with no agency fees.

Last week, she chatted me up asking if I didn’t want her to visit. I told her I did, but that I’d prefer someone who could spend a few days with me. She agreed to spend two days.

However, on the morning of the day she was supposed to come, she messaged me again, saying she had changed her mind and wouldn’t be sleeping over — but that when she came, I could “ask for anything.” Long story short, she eventually came, and that was the first time we had sex.

Now here’s where the issue starts.

She currently lives with her biological sister and a female friend. When she came, she told me that she, her sister, and their friend wanted to move in with me because they didn’t have money to rent their own place. I actually liked the idea and agreed. I even spoke with her sister about it.

But now, her sister and their friend have changed their minds. They say they prefer to move back to the East rather than come live with me. I even offered to pay three months’ rent for them in a similar apartment here, but they still refused.

Mind you, the reason I wanted them to move closer was so they could find something doing here — unlike their current situation, where they’re broke and dependent. Whenever I send my girlfriend ₦15,000, it barely lasts two days because she’s the one taking care of the rest since they’re not working.

How long can this continue?

Now, my girlfriend isn’t really the problem — her sister and their friend are. They don’t want her to move in with me, and she also can’t make any move without their consent. I’ve now decided not to rent any place for them in Lagos.

Nairalanders, what’s your take on this?

Tenrack:
OP shey you don hear am? This is coming from a female. Shelve that engagement plan for now.

omotolly22:
Just be patient and give her the benefit of this first trimester which is 3 month

By the second trimester, you guys should be able to have regular sex back

Talking from experience, first trimester is usually the risky part of pregnancy, cramps ,morning sickness, risk of miscarriage etc

But by second trimester, she should be able to comply to your demand, except she is hiding something

Kobojunkie:
This nonchalance is why women are no longer reasoning to live as foolishly as their mothers and grandmothers before then. You actually think nothing of the emotional and a lot of times physical labor women invest in their relationships with men in addition to the fact of the wear and teat og pregnancy on a woman's body and mental health. I no blame your at all. 🥱

NotOfThisWorld:
Just talk to her, or wait patiently until May 2026 when she will deliver. May 2026 is just around the corner.

Diamond098454:
Men also cheat. Secondly, she's not your wife yet , she has every right to mingle with a man that has something doing . If her actions really pissed you off as you said get a job, get busy prove to her that you are also a maga and a real man with a manhood. If you don't have a job don't get into a serious relationship you may end up hurting yourself

Kayberg:
Don't fall for those tears…
That's all I'll tell you.
She already has someone asking her out and doesn't want you to feel like she doesn't like you enough to keep up with you.

Just move on… she has moved on long ago …
So, don't fall for those tears.

Diamond098454:
If all men will be like you things would have been better by now , Truth they said is bitter but must be told. Guys are really hitting on her already and she's flirting with some of them

Goodlady:
Counter attack is allowed.
You men messed up romance

Kobojunkie:
Because the aftermath is almost always borne by the woman alone. Plus, the vast majority of the time, women don't even enjoy these encounters.

For instance, out of 100 such encounters, the woman probably only enjoys it 5 out of those times. Who bears the cost during the other 95 times that she did not? Shouldn't it be the man?

Diamond098454:
hope when you marry you will get mind to do DNA . I don't no why everyone is shouting on top of my roof because some men that did DNA Test have not recover from it till now. I only provided a solution that will make some of you live long

Annad1:
Who knows what this is and how to cure it. I noticed it gets worse when she puts on shoes.

MarkNsukkaBread:
Most African cultures do not recognize DNA test.

Any child born under a man's roof belongs to him!

InMyOpinion:
Whats you're definition of "Fine girl" if this lady is not fine?
I guess long eye lashes, heavy makeup, etc?

SisterAnn:
Prison officials?
And his special advisers gave their approval too.

Baba wey no well, dey shout emilocorn. 🤣

Apostle Paul a hardened criminal?

If you don't leave AI alone, it would destroy what's left in your medulla O.