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iLander:
➜I lost my job sometime this year and i have been struggling to get another job. Along the line i also lost my GF ( she left), i met this girl, first we became friends and then lovers. She has been very helpful in every way you can think of, but she is also struggling and schooling too.
She asked me this question and i quote "Babe if someone comes along and say he wants to marry me, should i go ahead and accept" I told her yes because right now, i can give her the life she deserves. she started crying and refuse to speak to me. Did i answer her wrongly?

Kobojunkie:
You answered her truthfully, so what is wrong? So, she cried. She will get over it and hopefully go out there and find herself a man who is ready to give her what she wants at this point. Or were you intending to continue mining her— physically and mentally— for free benefits or something? What plans do you have in place if she gets pregnant while remaining by your side? Do you have money to pay for her pregnancy and to raise a child with? Or is it your plan to become a deadbeat dad like millions of Nigerian boys out there today?

JustSayHello:
➜Learn to tell them what they want to hear so that they'll think you are a lover.

Allsmilez999:
For her to ask such question, she’s seeing someone else or already has it in mind that you are not enough. she just asked that question as an excuse to end things. You fell for her trap!

Her question didn’t involve finances but your reply involved finances. Think about it, doesn’t she already know you are financially handicapped? Why degrading yourself like that with that response?

iLander:
She asked me this question and i quote "Babe if someone comes along and say he wants to marry me, should i go ahead and accept" I told her yes because right now, i can give her the life she deserves. she started crying and refuse to speak to me. Did i answer her wrongly?

iLander:
I lost my job sometime this year and i have been struggling to get another job. Along the line i also lost my GF ( she left), i met this girl, first we became friends and then lovers. She has been very helpful in every way you can think of, but she is also struggling and schooling too.

She asked me this question and i quote "Babe if someone comes along and say he wants to marry me, should i go ahead and accept" I told her yes because right now, i can give her the life she deserves. she started crying and refuse to speak to me. Did i answer her wrongly?

iLander:
I lost my job sometime this year and i have been struggling to get another job. Along the line i also lost my GF ( she left), i met this girl, first we became friends and then lovers. She has been very helpful in every way you can think of, but she is also struggling and schooling too.

She asked me this question and i quote "Babe if someone comes along and say he wants to marry me, should i go ahead and accept" I told her yes because right now, i cant give her the life she deserves. she started crying and refuse to speak to me. Did i answer her wrongly?

koladata:
Yes, you answered wrongly. If you find a lady who is willing to struggle with you, don’t let her down, but first make sure you truly love her before allowing her to go through that struggle with you. on the other hand, It’s still people like you who later come back with long complaints about how women only like self-made men. Many of those women once tried building with someone, only to be disappointed.

Even marriage itself is not expensive. I can advise two broke people to marry each other, but they should do everything possible to avoid having kids until their situation improves. The most successful couple among my friends is one that had a simple parlor wedding with just six people present, even we, their closest friends, didn’t know about it. Today, they own two houses in Ajah, three cars, and have recently relocated to Canada.

Diamond098454:
If all men will be like you things would have been better by now , Truth they said is bitter but must be told. Guys are really hitting on her already and she's flirting with some of them

Kayberg:
Don't fall for those tears…
That's all I'll tell you.
She already has someone asking her out and doesn't want you to feel like she doesn't like you enough to keep up with you.

Just move on… she has moved on long ago …
So, don't fall for those tears.

Allsmilez999:
For her to ask such question, she’s seeing someone else or already has it in mind that you are not enough. she just asked that question as an excuse to end things. You fell for her trap!

Her question didn’t involve finances but your reply involved finances. Think about it, doesn’t she already know you are financially handicapped? Why degrading yourself like that with that response?



The op is in love, no mind am the girl don give you 20-0 already because in her psychology you are not enough, do you know how many men married with even little.
Mind you it is important to know d lady you want to marry by asking her how much is enough, no be every family go dey eat out and post on social media.
If u can afford food and house rent and some other basic things, then you can take care of a woman

kiddaz:
Really? But somewhere else you were encouraging men to live a lie. Na wah. Na dissociative Identity disorder dey do you or what

Tenrack:
what should have been the better response?

Allsmilez999:
"who you marry is entirely up to you and out of my control".

Did he lie? No.

If he had said instead "No babe, don't marry someone else, can't you see i am hustling for us?" , would that stop her from going with a rich available man? No.

A babe that truly loves you will not cry at that response but encourage and reassure you. That's what i think.

kiddaz:
Yeah like 2/3 months ago but she needs a reason to back it up now

Tenrack:
nice POv. I just learnt something. Thanks. You're right concerning the bolded

Mariangeles:
Stop deceiving yourself.

As for the lady, she cried because op willingly gave her up so easily.
She was asking for assurance, and op did not give her that.
As a lady, it is unwise to remain with a man who cannot give you assurance and security.

Kobojunkie:
You mean lie to them? Who gave you the deluded idea that women want you to lie to them, though? And you all wonder why women have grown wise to returning the favor? 😑😑😑

Like you, they want the truth from you, no matter how much it will hurt them.

iLander:
She asked me this question and i quote "Babe if someone comes along and say he wants to marry me, should i go ahead and accept" I told her yes because right now, i cant give her the life she deserves. she started crying and refuse to speak to me. Did i answer her wrongly?

AllBlack:
na their way be that

SpencerForbes:
Someone that’s pretending🤦‍♂️ If someone should come, do you think she’ll tell you🤔

Keep living in your heart😂
🚶‍♂️

Goodlady:
What's their way?
Someone's sad the boy she loved can't fight for her.

Stereotyped soul. Repent Jesus commeth sooneth.