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aisha2: No use Aisha settle fight ohhhhhhhhhh, you guys need to talk seriously, Aisha is not supporting anybody oh, from madams post there is clearly a communication gap, WORK ON IT

Your content and not your person is what is in sync with my views. Thanks all the same.

aisha2: It is simply for better planning not with bad motives. When he knows what he should focus on and you do too it makes the home easier to run. Communication is key, some people want to take it as it comes some want it on pen and paper, I am a pen and paper person, makes life easier and more coordinated, I guess your fiance is too. It is better to resolve such issues before they become bigger problems.

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donpeey22: This is the same question i have been asking since and no one has been able to answer. In this modern age when men and women compete equally in all spheres of life, i think it is grossly unreasonable for a woman to still think of a man as the 'natural provider' like a lady here put it. I know some ladies reading this post would qualify me as 'uncaring' for daring to ask this crucial question which most modern Nigerian men have on their lips but are too shy to ask. But i don't give a damn! I'm just a realist who likes saying it as it is.

ONLY THE TRUTH CAN SET ONE FREE BROTHER ! SAY IT PLEASE .

How can a man plan based on discretionary support? well, Aisha has said it all. A word is enough . . .

aisha2: The poster is the one who used the word "delegate" ohhhhHhhhhhh. I am not sure he called her and said I delegate soup matters to you. If she had said lets discuss it more or let me cover some other area then I would agree its about the word delegation but it seemed more like a discussion where she has vehemently refused to contribute

So on point. He spoke kindly to her o when he brought the issue up. He has never been the autocratic type, instead he wants to carry her along, he wants to make her significant in the running of their home. He did not use the word DELEGATE . But even if he had, that shouldnt be an issue for an humble soul?

egopersonified: Abeg, whoever doesnt want to share, is on her own oh. Tmrr, when she would see her friend riding an expensive car she bought jointly with her husband or taking trips financed by both parties, she would sit up.

I wonder oo. And the guy really meant well for the two of them. He said whenever he brings up money issue with her, all hell will be let loose. She only likes to support at her discretion. How can a start-up home be run on discretion and anachronistic ethos? If she wants to be the traditional wife, then no problem but she should know that traditional wives :-

1. Dont have a say at home
2. Are not tantalized at Tantalizers
3. Most times call their husband lord and not "teddybear"
4. Do chores even when 8 months pregnant etc

I for one wont like any man to treat my sisters or daughters in the afore mentioned way! they are not raised in the village?

We need to form an hybrid between what is good in tradition and westernization to make it work in this modern times. And what is wrong with the word "delegation" ? which by the way means "to assign". If the head of the family haven considered his cash flow decides to gently ask his working wife to take care of something for the family, has he commited a family harakiri?

aisha2: True nah. If I was the man I will not raise my hand to do a thing in the house, let her sweat, cook, clean, bath the kids and only sit and watch TV all day, let me see the mouth she will use to complain after all supporting each other should be at ones "discretion"

I so much love this woman. Exactly what I told my friend o.

crackhaus: Indeed, poverty can make one argue over who buys ingredients for ordinary soup.

I beg your pardon!

Thanks to you all. My friend intend to be paying all other bills. He even told her that when things get better for him economically that he would take her off that bill too.

He wants to be giving her money for bulk purchase of staple foods periodically so that he can concentrate more on saving for their un born kids. He merely want her to be handling stuffs like soup , soap and other minor but short term expensis like that.

Is it fair for modern ladies to want to be traditional when it comes to family finance and Kardasian when it comes to romantic treatment?

A very close friend told me he asked his wife to be, to when they get married be handing soup matters while he will still be buying other foodstuffs and provisions. This he said is not in anyway to abdicate his manly responsibilities, he just feels in this modern age, a working woman should be able to handle some minor bills at home.

His fiance is refusing vehemently. He said she prefers the man providing the fund for everything and then she using her discression to add her money if and when neccessary. As it stands now, they are both on a collission course on this divergent school of thought about family finance yet, they want to tie the knot soon.

Great people of nairaland, what do you think of this issues? I have given him my 10 kobo advise but I will like to know what others think, especially, married nairalanders.

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