LordReed:


I have a fun story about it.

So the day I "resumed" the kisses, I went to drop off my wife at an office. My car is fully tinted so really can't see in from outside. As she alighted, I called her back and gave her a kiss. The security guards there started teasing saying "Oga we can see o!" Because the door was ajar. She started blushing and ran inside. LoLz.

When she came back in the evening she told me the guards where still talking about it when she left the place.

I hope to keep doing little gestures like this to let them know I do love and care for them all.

Nice one Reed 👍

cococandy:
You’re speaking for me too

Unexpected forehead kisses give warm and fuzzy feels.

LordReed, your original post reminds me of a youtube comment I read months ago. A woman in the comments section wondered how her husband couldn't see that she needed the sort of affection he showered on their daughter, as a female too.

I think it's a female thing, whether young or old, we all crave affectionate gestures from our significant other. Please include madam in those forehead kisses, it's a simple gesture that causes a lot of inner pleasure, it does something for us which I can't explain (let me speak for myself though)

Do it with wifey, when she least expects it and share her reaction or the outcome, afterwards. Yes, aproko dey worry me like that sometimes . And well done for being an expressive father.

copyrites:

Daddy's girl*, not rich man's daughter*. There is a difference.

Assuming your view is true, do you agree that men raise children better than women?

There isn't much of a difference. A daddy's girl is usually the heart beat of her father, rich or poor, he will move mountains to make her happy or comfortable. It's just better when daddy is rich.

No, I strongly disagree! Most of the valuable life skills I have learnt, to navigate this life, I learnt from different women in my life, my mother, aunties, female friends, female bosses. Some skills I learned by myself from reading great blogs and guess what, those blogs are authored by women. This is not an exaggeration or me being genderly biased, it is my reality.

No offence meant but a lot of men don't have much to give or offer, besides money. They are morally and spiritually bankrupt, particularly in Africa. Because our culture and society is one that encourages and applauds mens vices and excesses, rarely holding them accountable.

They think that as long as they provide and pay the bills, they have raised a child well or better. That's far from the truth.

copyrites:


Men will choose a daddy’s girl any day, anytime. This is because these girls are considered the best, always and forever.

Of course men will choose a daddy's girl any day, any time, because they know that when they are broke, lazy and slacking off their responsibilities of paying rent, school fees, and other bills, daddy will step in and step up, to do what they are meant to do, because daddy can't bear to see his golden child suffer needlessly.

Can you men please learn to admit the truth to yourselves and tell each other the truth as well. A daddy's girl will always be the best in your eyes because of all the perks/benefits you stand to gain from being associated with her or attached to her, especially if her father is loaded and well connected.

Certain perks start from the wedding day like a car gift, a house, then it continues afterwards, proceeding to a prestigious job for the husband, trust accounts and inheritance for grandchildren, etc. While daddy may not like his girl's choice of man or hubby, he still does right by her and her family.

oz4real83:
Before leaving home in the morning, I take a bath, when I come back home in the evening, I also take another bath . This is my routine when I'm out all day. During hot season and when I'm home all day, the routine changes, having a bath is my first anti-dote for the hot weather during the dry season, the hotter and more prolonged the hot weather, the more bath i have if i am home, i can even wake up at night when the weather is too hot, just to bath

That was a seriously dumb question you didn't have to respond to. Imagine someone asking why a person needs to bathe twice a day? By their comments you will know those who do not take personal hygiene seriously and then they wonder why they smell or have body odor. Tufiakwa

Double0h7:
You’ve documented this relationship from dating stage until divorce. It’s so weird. I hope you’re able to move on now and make better choices going forward. All you did was complain about this man and his family for the last 11 years on nairaland. I hope you’re not addicted to drama!

Lol @ your last sentence. You are not nice sha!
11 years kwa? Isn't that what long suffering and endurance looks like for us, in marriage, as Naija women?

Farfalla:


Hahahaha.....
You dey vex.

E no reach to vex?

They came and told us our way of life and way of doing things wasn't the best. They imposed the English language on us, which truthfully, I don't mind because today that helps us to communicate with one another in a diverse country like mine.

What annoys me is how they put us (an English speaking country) through English proficiency
tests at a fee, when they are not perfect at it themselves. Career purge koh, career page ni! The brits just love to feel superior for nothing if you ask me and IELTS is another way of fleecing people.

AngelicBeing:
Haha 🤣, you dey vex oo, but I agree with your post

My candid thoughts, I was just thinking out loud.

I wish divorced folks felt free enough to share their own stories/experience of getting over something similar. It will not only help you MommaD but educate others too.

Sadly,they may not do so for fear of foolish boys and girls on the site who will call them failures or throw insults of other kind.

What was it before?

I hate that country sha! They are good at surviving as a people and as a nation, by reaping where they did not sow.

First it was through colonialism by pillaging our lands and resources, now it is through exorbitant visa fees, relocation fees and tuition fees from migrants and international students to keep their economy afloat.

Remove immigrants and international students
from UK and watch it collapse like a pack of cards. The other day I received an email from the British Council's recruitment team titled "career purge."

What they meant to say was career page, I shook my head and thought to myself, this is the body conducting IELTS exams for folks like me to enter their country. Tufiakwa, make I bend if I ever take that nonsense exam for the sake of migrating to UK, temporarily or permanently.

folake4u:


But you have learnt something new today, courtesy the naughty girl.

Yeah, something new of no value at all. But mehn I had a good laugh from reading that post so it had value for me in a different way.

folake4u:

We no longer use the term "masturbation" for females. The word is so heavy and old school.

We call it "DJ" or "DJing" now. You can search it online.

The old school one we all know is the traditional type, while the use of vibrators is the "modern" type.

I say make I tell you as GenZ education.

You are a very silly girl but consider me educated I had no idea.

Magicalsineros:
That's how many of them are in reality

This was exactly what one of my colleagues said when I tackled him in conversation about the statement he made.

He was like, leave that thing, most of us men are wired that way, I am not pretentious and I will tell you the truth.

Doesn't that make up part of their bro code as men? It has been interesting watching them twist and turn, hem and haw, at your question and their very nature!

Men know the truth they just don't like to hear it from women and your moniker shows F for female, so of course you will get the sort of reactions we are seeing. Keep shaking the table though, it is entertaining to watch.

JovialJune:


So what's your contribution to your friend in the hospital? Your presence will remove the bullet and make him well?

JovialJune:


Because you're the doctor that will treat him abi?

LOL , sarcastically savage as always. I like you Jayjay, thanks for making me laugh tonight.

Magicalsineros:
How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

This table you have been shaking since, me, I am just looking and laughing . Two of my male colleagues have categorically said they will not spend money on a woman when there's nothing to be gained or gotten out of it. Of course they were referring to sexual pleasure, your thread and question brought back memories of those conversations.

JovialJune:



I was on ban but was off it for some time, just decided to stay away for a while

How are you and yours?

I just checked your profile what happened to your comments, can't see most of them anymore, some kind of error?

Sorry I'm just seeing this, I even forgot to log out since my comment to you. I'm doing well thank you. How have you been? I hadn't seen you in a while and I was wondering. There's no error with the comments I clean house every now and then on the site, pulling down posts when I feel like it.

JovialJune:

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Jayjay, you still on these streets? Were you banned again? You know e no dey hard you to cause the kind of vawulence that ensures a ban .

Holycity:
Most Nigerians love large families...

I advise one should have more than two children, helps when they are grown...
Four children to me is not much, if one loses one of his children, three will remain...

If three of them can get a good job fine. If not, other children can support their siblings...
And when they come home for the holidays, you will be proud of yourself...

Lastly, your children will have relatives they can go to, not spend their whole lifetime without any relatives to visit, always at home with their parents...

I personally wanted a large family too, like the Kardashian family

Quality over quantity has always been my watch word for doing this life when it comes to a lot of things.

A nairalander once asked this question, how are two people (i.e a mother and father) able to take care of five people (him and his siblings) Yet, five people are unable to take care of two people (their parents)

He was talking about his family. According to him three of his siblings were doing okay but hardly helping out their parents. He was still an undergraduate at the time and could do very little, there was no mention of the fourth sibling or what was up with that one, but his point was very clear to me.

It is unhelpful to think that the more children one has the better off they will be in life or old age.
1. Adult children can be selfish.
2. It may take a while for them to land a legit and good source of income.
3. Some end up in jobs where salaries are delayed or owed for months.
4. Some simply refuse to catch sense or be responsible in this life.

The question that guy asked is a reality in many Nigerian families. You find that only a few children out of many are helping and looking out for parents. Of what use is a large family of many children, when they can't help you or send you money on a regular for drugs and other needs. Why will anyone be proud of having kids like that when they come for holidays? That is if they can even afford to travel home for the holidays.

When you choose quality over quantity, with no more than two kids, you are better placed to give them and yourself the best this life can offer. You can quickly raise or train them, while working towards your retirement, instead of spreading resources over four kids, as an investment and retirement plan for old age.

The fewer the better! The families I have seen living it up, only have one or two kids, the ones I've seen struggling are usually the ones who go beyond two kids. Folks need to understand that life doesn't begin and end with children, it goes beyond that, after you've had kids, will you not buy new underwear for yourself as a parent, change shoes when they are old and worn out, pay for personal development courses etc.

Instead of incurring more bills in the name of a large family, use resources to take care of your needs as a parent and human being, treat yourself as that third or fourth child you would have had. It doesn't make sense to bring a non-existent person into existence just so they can make you proud or look after you in old age. You already exist make things happen for yourself in good ways, as best as you can.

folake4u:
Klass99

Thankfully, Cena was honest with his preference. I'm happy for him.

Like I wasn't honest or haven't been honest about my own preference.

Na John Cena you dey happy for. Where you know am from, before? Don't tell me the fast and furious. Yeye girl

Be happy for me too because that's one less strain to deal with in my life abeg.

I am amused at how one woman has terrorised her family members and gone unchallenged for so long. Is she that powerful or untouchable?

How old are you daboy18? What stops you from repeatedly calling out your mother or verbally confronting her when you see the things you have complained of? What stops you from forcefully taking food to feed your niece?

You are not a child, I am guessing you are a teenager or young adult in his early twenties, what stops you from standing up to the evil in your house? There is no excuse or justification for your silence and cowardice in this matter.

Your mother has grown wings because you all let her continue this behaviour without clapping back. One of you or all of you should have shut it down. I laugh when naive people say there's nothing like a mother's love, no one can love you like a mother. That is naivety at its peak . The people who love you the most, won't always be your family.

EdiskyHarry:

His comments here used to make sense.
I guess I was wrong

Hmm.......that guy has never made a comment I thought was sensible or value adding.

The kind of stupid comment he made on this thread is the sort of comments I regularly see.

He is always talking about karma in a roundabout way, I hope he gets his as quickly as possible for the fraudulent life he lives.

EdiskyHarry:

I used to hold you on a very high esteem until I saw this comment.

You holding a yahoo boy in high esteem is questionable in and of itself.