I don't feel sorry for that Nigerian man at all .

Dereformer:

What are your opinions.

1. Your post comes across as biased and as scare mongering.

2. Divorce is not the end of life, divorced folks are not failures either.

3. Couples should be at liberty to divorce for valid reasons and not compelled by anyone to stay married for wrong or unhelpful reasons.

Valid reasons will differ from person to person, based on their unique circumstances, our personal prejudices can not be the yardstick for determing what constitutes a valid reason or not.

sukkot:
oh ok lol it’s good practice especially if you think your views compromise what your perception of what you want people to have of you. I am thinking about deleting the portion where I was talking about big dicks only because I don’t want people to think I am some weird pervert. But in reality that conversation is inspired by an astrological body currently in the zodiac house of Pisces called PRIAPUS. It is depicted as a man with a huge erect phallus. It’s a Greek god. Not sure why it’s present in the zodiac but there you have it. Someone had
talked with me earlier about it

At the bolded, I delete because people who know me in real life can read some of my posts and figure out this is Klass99, if they are really paying attention.

I also delete because there are a number of vicious trolls on these streets who weave a believable web of lies from your posts, aimed at publicly insulting and humiliating you.

You see this topic and issue of being childfree bah? I have been vocal about it here and people who are familiar with my posts, know I am not interested in having kids of my own. Two guys on this platform twisted the narrative several times, claiming that through abortions I damaged my womb and I can't have children.

One claimed that he knew me with my old moniker from years back when I was aborting babies and being advised against by other forum users. Each time he was asked to name my old moniker and I would do the same to verify his claims, he would hem and haw, then claim that I deactivated it.

The other guy is a self confessed baby daddy of three, from three different women. He also began a smear campaign of his own along the same narrative of abortions and damaged womb, after I ignored his DM and public request for us to talk off the forum. I ignored his request because my first encounter with him ever, he insulted me and another female user, without cause, provocation or justification.

At the time he was making requests to chat privately, I didn't even know he was a baby daddy of 3, that came out much later, but you see, it was his rude and disrespectful attitude, that put me off enough to decide that I didn't want to deal or engage with him beyond NL.

When the guy started coming after me, then revealed that he had 3 kids from 3 different women, I thought to myself, that who people are online is a strong indicator of what they are really like in real life.

crackhaus:

Every time I read something like this, I automatically assume something must be wrong with either one of them, and I just don't mean medically.

Cos all things being equal (healthy & fertile), there's no way the woman in this scenario won't get pregnant at least once. Then what happens?

She gets rid of it? Okay

Which then circles back to what Jman06 asked, what is the point?
Why marry at all?

If companionship is the goal, then get it outside the institution of marriage...this is the better arrangement.

And YES, one of the main purposes of marriage is procreation. No amount of jibber-jabber or gobbledygook will change that.

Crackhaus this is 2024 abeg rest from this your pretentious, sanctimonious, bullshit and be real.

I vividly recall that you engaged me in the past about this issue of not wanting kids and being childfree, with one of your alternate monikers which I can't accurately remember, but Uyai publicly pointed out that you were the owner of that moniker and you didn't deny it.

You asked questions and even insinuated some kind of childhood trauma or medical disability on my part which led to such a life choice. All of which I answered no to, maintaining that a lack of desire and zero interest in being a mother/parent, were my motivating factors.

You conceded at some point and said you couldn't understand it. Whether you recall that conversation or not, I do, as if it was yesterday. Yet, here you are again casting aspersions on folks like me who don't want children. Insinuating again that it may be some sort of medical or health challenge, or in your words, you automatically assume something is wrong with such people.

Why is it so hard for folks like you to accept that people are wired differently and we all want different things in this life? There are essentially three purposes of marriage;

1. Companionship
2. Sex and then.....
3. Procreation/children.

A person can want marriage for three of those reasons above, just two or only one of them. You asked, why marry at all if you don't want children? I want marriage for the sex and companionship only, sex and companionship on a platform heaven will approve of and I won't be fornicating or sinning.

The live-in lovers lifestyle you suggested is not the better option or the way everyone wants to roll, for the sake of companionship. You are a believer, aren't you? I expect you to know better.

Additionally.......marriage and children are life choices, not mandatory goals or achievements we all have to meet, in order to unlock happiness or the adult phase of our lives. There is no rule or law that says you must marry for children!

I know married couples who are childfree as a matter of choice, there is nothing medically or spiritually wrong with them. Abeg rest! What was the point of engaging and drilling me with questions back then, only to return now, with the same assumptions and insinuations as before?

You don't need to understand "childfree by choice" folks, but respect that as humans we have free will and the power of choice given to us by the creator himself. And some of us are exercising both free will and power choice, by intentionally and deliberately, choosing to not have children. Our choice does not harm or affect others. We must not want the same things you do.