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Now we can see that people who claim “God protects” don’t believe their own words. Left to me, I’ll remain and continue my journey. I don’t believe in spirits, whether the devil or Holy Ghost. I do my own thing.

It’s a straightforward story. All that happened was mentioned.

AllBlack:
Bros no tear shirt. Abeg shed more light on this

1. Nonsense sensationalist news. It must be a slow news day.

2. The Oyibo man’s uniform: a shirt, a pair of shorts and a pair of sneakers. They all look like they came out of an assembly line in the get-up.

It happened in my village. Taah, who dash Benue state?! Rumours have made every Tom, Dick and Harry want to claim the achievement.

AllBlack:
Somebody please verify this.

A friend of mine told me there was a Christmas season people drank all the beer in Benue state till there was no more beer and when Nigeria Brewery finally supplied beer again, boys clear the road like say na fire service dey pass.

For all I know, the child likely never existed.

delpee:
How is this right? We have Psychiatric hospitals for that.

What about her missing son?

Sense is far from the forum. The worst part is it keeps chasing the platform daily, but Nairaland is faster.

MissRight:
I legit thought it was just me

Dirt road in a village with zero obstacles. Anybody can drive on that road. A dog can be taught to drive on it.

Na me born you? Ogbeni, face your matter squarely.

Toolegit123:
Good afternoon everyone.

So it's been over 2 months since my fiancee broke up with me. I've asked her to know what I did that made her to take that decision but she certificate has no reason for it. Finally I've decided to move on with my life and that was after I send a friend of mine to help me speak with her. She told my friend she had moved on with her life ,and that I should also do the same. So,I've accepted my fate and that's it .

But here lies the problem,I've met a couple of ladies. Some have equally shown interest too but my problem now is that I'm finding it difficult to trust any of these ladies, considering what I went through in the hands of my immediate ex.

Please, Nairalanders,what can I do to build up my trust back especially around women.

Everybody dey practice fiction writing for Nairaland.

“It could happen to anybody.”

Wordsfrombimpe:
Do you comprehend ?

Tie the woman rope. Mental health is not taken serious in our climes.

Comprehension is a crucial life skill.

chieveboy:
I am doing something useful here telling you we in Africa find it wrong to chain a member of your family for 16 years even if its okay in America where you come from.

Get it?

Try to get help.

osuofia2:
You sure say your medula still de okay? You mean you feed mad person in chains, defecate there, eat there in one place, it better she be freed instead of this treatment

All discussion go end for Nairaland. Find something useful to do.

chieveboy:
Tell us what chaining someone in America or where you come from means

Drink cold water.

AllBlack:
If you can tell me your location, I can come over there and declare that you are not mentally okay and before you can even say anything you will see people I have bribed and influenced (MIB) bundling you into a car and chain you. The more you say you are not mad, the more MAD you will look. Before you know you have spent 4 years in a dog cage eating dog food and sleeping with them till you gradually become a FERAL being. Imagine all this happening to you? I know you will say IMPOSSIBLE but just drop your location and see.

It is sweet to say the things you said Because it is not you.

If sleep catch you by 11 p.m., sleep. Nobody gives awards for depriving yourself of rest. Learn whatever it is during the day. I’ve never seen you in school so I’m guessing you’re unemployed.

Do you feel better now?

dequir:
You always find excuse for every unimaginable crime committed by your people. Be humane for once.

Misdirected anger. I hope you feel better.

donself9:
C'mon stop these nunsense talk, dont you people no when to be serious, everything na cruise

If your daughter or son has mental issue, you will lock dem up in one room for years that is the Treatment abi

Which nunsense africa believe in chain, even if you handcuff the mental patient it is just to take dem to where they get treatment nd proper care

please only people with sense we need on NL,

Find where to direct your anger. I never supported it. I’m sharing what I know.

wellmax:
Can you imagine this mindset. Is that an excuse for chaining her up like a dog? Even dogs get treated better.

Look at those arms. The males can do twenty push-ups each. I know very well she can’t do two. Put her fat body on a treadmill. She can’t chase a thief.

The relationship don end. Good. Let her find another.

You sure she was mentally okay? I know Africans believe chaining a mentally ill person is a temporary solution. If the symptoms don’t go, at least the person will remain hidden to avoid disgracing his/her lineage.

Why do you children keep making up stories? Were you not breastfed as a baby?

uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate

They’ve switched gender in this story?

Flana:
I met this lady in my estate sometime in 2022. We exchanged numbers, but we never really had the time to hang out back then. Sometime in May this year, I saw her number in one of my old iCloud accounts and decided to give her a call. She picked up, but she didn’t seem to remember me—in her own words, because we used to only see each other on the road before she moved out of the estate.

We chose a date and location to hang out, and it all went well. We had a great conversation, and since then, we have been calling and texting each other. We went on a second outing, and she asked me a question that I actually expected of her: what did I really want from her? I told her that my days of playing games are over, and that I need a friend, a partner, and someone I can build a relationship with. In turn, she told me that she hadn’t given relationships a chance since her last one ended two years ago. She also mentioned that she doesn't want to have too much history with men, which is why she has been trying to protect herself.

Since then, things have been cool. We talked on the phone almost every day, and everything was going well between us. However, I noticed she asked a lot of questions, but whenever I asked her something, she was always reluctant to answer. I told her what I do for a living and where I work, but she would only tell me her job title, never the name or location of her workplace. I didn’t really have a problem with that, though.

A few weeks ago, she called me in the evening, crying on the phone, and told me she had just been informed that her dad passed away. Being the kind of person I am, I have never really had anyone close to me lose a loved one where I had to console them. I just told her, "May his soul rest in peace," promised to call her the next day, and hung up. Due to work stress, I didn't end up calling her until the third day. I noticed she wasn't really responding the way I expected, and after some questioning, she opened up. She said she hadn't expected me to just end the call like that on the night she found out, as she really needed someone to talk to, and then I didn't check back until three days later. I apologized and explained to her that it wasn't intentional—I just didn't know what else to say and wanted to avoid repeating words or rambling, which might not be comforting to someone grieving.

We eventually agreed that I could come for her dad’s wake-keep and burial. Initially, she only wanted me to attend the wake-keep because her family's village is far from her hometown and she didn’t want to put me through the stress. But I insisted that the stress would be worth it, especially since I would be experiencing a burial ceremony for the first time in my life. The wake-keep and burial were scheduled for last week Thursday and Friday, respectively.

God bears me witness, I had fully prepared my mind to travel. But on Wednesday evening around 5:00 PM, one of our clients called stating they were in the middle of a time-sensitive project, one of their services was down, and it needed urgent fixing. Normally, I could have resolved this remotely, but traveling from Abuja to an unfamiliar village where I wasn’t sure if there would be a network connection was a risk I wasn't willing to take. So, I picked up my phone, summoned the courage, and told her I wouldn’t be able to come as scheduled. In the middle of my explanation, she cut me off, saying she already knew I wasn’t coming. She said if I had genuinely planned to come, I would have been checking in with her since that morning. Because she hadn't heard from me all day, she had already concluded I decided not to show up. Then she told me, “I don’t think this whole relationship thing will work. You should just forget about everything and have a good life ahead of you.” I asked, "Just like that?" and she said yes. I wished her a good life ahead too, and ended the call.

After 20 minutes, I messaged her asking for her account details. She sent them, and I transferred some cash to her. She messaged me the next morning, thanking me very much. Why I sent the money, I can't really tell, but it genuinely calmed my temper down.

Since then, I have been calling and texting her, but she hasn't responded. However, I noticed she called me twice on Saturday, but I wasn't close to my phone. Since then, I’ve been calling her twice every day and dropping messages, but getting no response. I called her yesterday, and luckily, she picked up. I asked if she was back, but she said she was still in the village. I asked if she could talk, and she said yes. But as I was trying to explain myself and apologize, not even 30 seconds into the call, the line dropped. I called back and it was switched off. I called again later in the evening, but there was no response.

I really like her, and I want her to know it wasn't intentional, but honestly, I am feeling exhausted.

Remain on Nairaland since your site no wan blow.

Exactly the type who doesn’t understand the reality on ground.

JimD:
The way you reason is baffling. You convinced yourself these ones are captives. So Boko Haram captures captives and give them guns.

AmeboBlogger:
I mean everyone shares the link to their blog post at then end of the post here, but I do it and get banned? Why? are Seun and his employees scared of competition? Even Reddit doest restrict me as much as nairaland. I shared a few links to my discussion forum wherever I saw a complaint about nairaland and it was flagged as spam. Why?

Na you use your hand do yourself:

AmeboBlogger:
no, but i must market Zyke!

No pictures of how he looks today?

What then happens? Do they return to civilian life and things fix themselves? Sometimes I believe we who read these news don’t understand the specifics of the matter. It may go deeper than we assume. I will convince myself that they were captives threatened to fight for the sect. Government forces do so. I don’t see why terrorists would act any different.

I won’t watch the video. I hope it was performed with wisdom. Sometimes jumping into action during an emergency leads to multiple casualties.