₦airaland Forum

Mcbenjamin:
For those of us in pH, there is this new company in trans Amadi adjacent to AOS ORWELL by ordinance road, they are accepting CVS is a bottling company and their operations might kick off soon. Go and drop yours as well. is a new building if you are coming from ordinance round about it is by your right hand. Just enter the gate and tell the gate man, he will give you a sample of how to address your CV.

I sent someone down there but the person couldn't locate the place. pls give a detailed describtion to the place if you can. Thanks.

chris4gold:
imagine what she might have gone through in term of crisis...

My mother lives with sickle cell and she is above 50yrs. She suffered as a child. She was given all sort of things as treatment. She even had a special pot for snake meat. sometimes during crises, they will tie her upper arms and legs very tight with rafia and keep her on a mat outside the house or put her in a big basin of hot water. The woman suffer no be small. Na only she go find out her problem wen she grow older and don tire for the matter.

pishon:
Good morning everyone, have been folloing this thread for a while now but I wanted to finish reading all the pages before I acknowledge the op and everyone that has contributed so far cause have learnt a lot here but I have a pressing issue to attend to now pls I really need your candid advice on this issue. My fiance stays in his parent house but he is dohouse project but I feel he should rent an apartment now since we a planning to get married before the end of the year, he is a low income earner but he has an access to some cash recently and fortunately we are able to get a room and a parlour self contained yesterday for 70k we were about going to see d lanlord for payement when he said I should let him inform his mum first before he pay which I said ok. He called me this morning that his mum said he y can't he wait and finish his house first and move there from there house, the problem I have with her idear is that the money e have is not enough to finish the house and also do the wedding besides my fiance does not have any house appliances he will have to furnish the house as well I don't know what to tell him now and I don't want to be in between mother and son. I will be 31 soon and he is already 34years

Why not invest the 70k in the house project instead of going for an apartment that you'll renew rent in a year's time. Depending on the level of the project, you can make one/ two rooms ready/livable and move in. Then from there you complete the rest of the house. Since he is a low earner, I'll advice, you forgo the white wedding, do trad/ court. Invest the money meant for the wedding into the project.#myopinion tho#

Herzumpther:
Finallllllllllly. Thank you so much you all. Dad has finally given me the go ahead to follow the choice of my heart. Its was a tough time but then you all stood by me with encouraging words and advises. It can only get better from here on. I am so happy. Thank you all. I am so greatful to you all.

For those still on the battle field, don't give up very soon cause victory is near.

Congrats! We thank God for this goooood new and from saving you from high bp. Now you can plan and think of wedding colours, cake and all that in confidence

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] C'mon..I also have something to lose as per 11 years down the drain...is it not my 11 years too? And remember we've had prolonged intervals of separations so it isn't a continous 11 year relationship therefore she must have had her fair share of side affairs. Look, i just don't want to make any situation worse than it needs to be.Besides, i'm just putting down a game plan, a road map to something beautiful for the team here.All we need is a bit of faith,dedication and comittment to each other but if she's all about herself,her age,her time and not 'we' then she's not worth the trouble how much less the marriage.Let mi ask, what is wrong if a lady gets to 30?,I mean what if she leaves mi and maybe due to relationship misfortunes gets to 30,what next?...heavens won't fall,i know it won't [/color]

11 years is a long time to know if this woman is what you want. What causes the off and on thing in these 11years? Are the off-times more than the on-time? Aside the career driven attribute, what other attributes do you expect from your partner and does she possess them? Marriage entails a lot

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] hmmm...i never thought of that before,it could work only if she's the hustling type,she once disclosed during our off days that her vision in her life was to be a preacher's wife...preacher's wife?!?!...That should give you a psycho-analytical sneak peek of what i'm working with. I just felt the need to jolt her senses with my four year program, if she is my type (patient,loyal, hardworking with a keen eye to see and harness potentials) then she shouldnt have any problems with my terms and i wouldn't mind her baggage....give and take. [/color]

The baggage is suppose to motivate her to work or do a business so as to be financially independent and not be a financial burden to someone. Btw are you a minister or intending to be one?

SmartFaces:
Thanks people, your comments are encouraging. The court marriage has been done. The big deal for him is that he holds a position in his church. They are threatening to suspend him if he goes against their rules.
One alternative is to leave the church and their rules then join another church but he said his hearts and conscience won't let him.

They should go to church on a sunday, stand before the congregation then make pastor bless them and declare them husband& wife before God's people. No be by force to wear white gown and suit on a saturday.

What if he had one or two siblings living with him before the marriage, when then happens to them?

Also, no asoebi! I no get strength to ask people for money. Just wear anything that matches the color of the day. Family insists on getting their asoebi though.
Also, no brides/grooms men. LOL. Just maid of honor and best man.[/quote]

shrekandfiona:
when I read your post, it was a "deja vu" for me. Like you I have 2 kids pregnant for my 3rd as well. I married a traditional man who sees the woman as a domestic being. I am working though so what I did was employ a house help he never supported at 1st but I pay her myself. She is not a live in help. She resumes 8am and closes 5pm when I get back from work.

I wake up daily by 5am, cook for the house wake kids up by 6:15am to get them ready for school, their school bus picks them up by 7am, thereafter I prepare for my work. Hubby is still asleep till 8am when he wakes to eat his breakfast. I leave for work by 8:30am by then the help has resumed for cleaning.

can you believe by 1:30pm everyday hubby calls me to ask if his lunch is served at home and me am at work o. I have to call my help at home to make sure his lunch is ready. Note that he doesn't allow the help to cook his meals o. I cook and store away while the help just warms and serve.

It has not been easy but I had to adjust. So my advise to you is to get a help (not live in o) or get a relation like a younger sister or cousin to
help you out because if your hubby is like mine, he will never yield to helping around the house o. I had to even change jobs to a more flexible but lower paying one just to reduce stress

Na wa o!

One of my favorite......

Spirit divine, attend our prayers
and make this house thy home
descend with all thy gracious power
oh come, great Spirit come!