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Gloriagee: I just got off an emotionally abusive relationship and even though I know it was for the best...I've been crying like forever. I couldn't even eat n have just been existing. I think what happens is that the abuser makes you dependent on him and then starts withdrawing. So, yu start to think it's yr fault or maybe the abuser has found out smthg bout yu that put you off. Somehow, yu start exerting yrself to be back in his gd books. N it don't av nothing to do with self reliance at times. I'm v. self reliant and have always paid my bills.

My sis/ friends keep assuring me, it's not my fault but I keep feeling I should have tried harder. Kai, abuse is horrible!

Its not your fault my dear. Its his fault and loss.

Any man that losses me has lost amala and ewedu soap. Hot one o.

https://www.nairaland.com/1149515/very-low-self-esteem-please-advice#13655513

Ok,i see. You think you're not good looking and people say you're lucky to have him that's why you have stuck to him for 10 years,taking all this bull crap

Well, the truth is that he ain't doing you no favour! Infact you are the one doing his sorry a$s a favour! If you leave him,his world will crumble. Dump him real hard girl! You're a strong African woman. Stand up,leave that house and don't look back.

jennykadry: Nigerians are not good people

Ah ah! How naw


I see you.

Awwww.... @pickabeau, Nashville,RR,chillisauce, et al,i admire you all. Make i see any person wey go talk say Nigerians are not a good people!

Judii,i see you. Thank God u're back.

What pains me the most is that these people will meet trouble outside and scamper for safety only to come home and panel-beat their women! I'm so pained.

Uncle RR,introduce yourself ni

Go to the police.! He's just saying all that to frighten you. God! I don't know what to say.

kenyattamoore: I tried leaving for for several times but he would come to my house and cry his eyes out ..

Which house were you referring to?


Well,we're all concerned about you. Hope you do something fast!

Where is your family Maybe people in here could help you trace them.

I'm tongue tied.

booqee: Hmmm.....she hasn't been on nl front page for a while. Rita dominic and beverly have taken her space. Hopefully dis will bring her back, trying to form gentle girl, holier than thou. Homely my yansh!

Ah booqee,show a home homely girl some love!

She died of a broken heart! RIP mama

pickabeau1: which actress so we can move to the left side of the road when we see her coming

. Na me you wan hear something for mouth abi

pickabeau1: True..

You can't deny however it's funnier if one hears hear you left Your own house because you have a shrewish wife,a man?

I heard a popular actress's husband just walked away jejely one fine morning and till today,hasn't
returned. Reports had it that he was spotted in U.K

Eiyah.... RIP

pickabeau1: Sadly she is not yet married

WTF! Is he crazy Now is the best time to leave. From your post,i can deduce that your family is well aware of the relationship. He will not kill you if you leave! But will definitely kill you if you stay! He's a coward. let me stop here pls before i start cursing him out. Ediot!

Nashville: Another sad one, but I honestly think your husband is a psychatric case. Seriously, no sane person should do this? But can I ask why you keep going back? Please remember you have a choice. you have a choice . You are in the current situation because of the choices you made in the past and what happens next depends on the choices you will make now. Remember you have a choice to being beaten till death or to stay alive. Do you have family? Kids? Are you working? What kind of support do you have? Sibling, parents? Please read thru this thread, you can contact ministry of women's affairs in your state. They can help you!

@the bolded,while you're at it,stay away from him as much as possible!

What happened to Andy Uba

@ajibanban, how this your write-up take concern the topic

kenyattamoore: I am in a abusive relationship ,this for those who are saying what they will or not do if they find themselves in this situation .the last time he beats was yesterday .as I am writting now ,I have a bloody eye and wounds everywhere ...he squeezed my throat so hard until I stopped breathing ,kicked me in the head repeatdly and also kicked me in my lower abdomen,am still bleeding right now and I am very scared
I tried leaving for for several times but he would come to my house and cry his eyes out ...if the crying doesn't work he will result on threatening me ,like he did yesterday ,he says nobody else will have me because he would have killed me before it happens ...so I really don't have any choice right now and no strength to fight no more ,I know I am already dead anyway,just a matter of time

Run back to your father's house. .lt them see the red eye and bruises. From there,you can make a decision whether to go back or not! Soo sorry dear.

pickabeau1: Generally a man who reports abuse will be termed a weakling and that will hit his ego so he suffers in silence for the kids

Just like women who are called terrible or troublesome when they report abuse. No need to report or suffer in silence. JUST LEAVE!!!!!!!!

What is love potion

Where is it sold

What does it do

Hahahaha.......


The man na retired principal

Lwtmb! Nna nothing wey man pickin no go hear!

Odikwa funny.

Chillisauce: What he gaining from the marriage? What stopped him from walking away and never look back? at least he would be alive now.

Abi o.

My hubby is of the view that no man likes to stay where he isnt happy. If he was unhappy,he would have left the house for her. But i know somewhere in his heart,he was hoping that she would change! Too bad he did not live to see his prayers answered.

Hmmm,me i dey yarn with my siblings o..... but i know where to draw the line so that hatred doesn't come in.

@ switosman,did she not exhibit such traits when you people were dating

Does she see you as a weak man Don't you assert your authority as the man of the house

Has she got no home training

What's her background Did she watch her mum abuse her dad

Hmmm,the thing tire me o. Dem no born any woman well,wey go hold my husband for shirt! That hand,na for floor you go pick am!

Chillisauce: Am telling you, I thought I was strong .

Even though I don't believe in demons, I strongly believe she has one. I couldn't explain the force that got me to the door. With just one hand o.

Hehehehe. Lwkmd.

@ francafrank, do you think age difference between the couples also has a role to play

Madam,I still dey wait your mail o.

Shuooo see wahala o! E remain small thing make my hubby tell me say make i dey wear even gele for house! A knee-length v-neck dress i wore one day almost caused wahala. Me as a babe,i wan naked sef for him! But i gat to still cover up cos that's what he wants!

jennykadry: Na those ones dey live long oo

Remember he has a heart disease.

ileobatojo:

And the shriveled blokos?

Na small time i go manage am before he dies!