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Chillisauce: maybe next life you will be the oyibo wealthy man with the heart disease.

Pls, I demand to be eaten!

Lol

Lolzzzzzz...... i wan die o!

In my next life,i will marry an onyibo man who is 90 yrs old and very wealthy with a heart disease!


Biko,nobody should eat me raw oooo

Chillisauce: Sometimes it's the why that causes the problem. Shows you are not submissive

Exactly! Infact my husband will say you're rubbing shoulders with him if you ask why. Then he starts yelling and his eyes turn red. if u love your life,just shut up else......Hmmm no be me go tok wetin go happen!

nne3870: How did he become violent?
A man does not suddenly turn violent pls so I ask what made him violent?

Some men just want to instill fear in their wives,hence the need to be violent.

O.P said the husband told her that sometimes,the only language women understand is violence. But rather than instill fear,they end up getting hatred,disrespect,obstinacy, etc

Biko Jenny and Nne,pls don't abuse yourselves nah o gini We are all here,condemning verbal abuse and you're here promoting it.

judii: This cracked me up so hard. I can't stop laughing self . Biko, were u able 2 fight back? I have never been physically abused and I pray it never happens because I will sooooo slap that man back 2 reality ehn! He would be too shocked! I still dey laugh.

Fight back ke Not immediately though. I eventually dealt with him so much so that he attempted suicide. At first,he was losing his mind and then he decided to end it all. Na God save am sha! Eediot

Donxavier: Submission is actually your strength if you are dealing with a man that loves you and of course a reasonable man.

Don,God bless you! A man that loves you and a reasonable man.

The OP was submissive by not working as the husband wanted and he turned round to ask her what impact she has made in his life!

Is it ok to tell your present hubby/bf the abuse you suffered in the hands of your ex

Chillisauce: You learn to adjust but how can one adjust to violence. Either you leave that moment or take whatever the result is. Some take a step back, analyse issue, then return and it never happen again while most times, it continues.

I had a classmate back then, lost her left eye due to her husband abuse, she couldn't continue with school as she was advice to step back in order not to stress the remaining eye. She was advised by her folks to remain submissive blah blah blah. Next, the man threatened to remove the remaining eye because he was accused of chasing women. Fast forward today, he threw her out, seized her children. Somehow, through face book, she was able to locate her classmates and asking for financial assistance.

I don't wanna all details here, but when you see her, pretty lady, eyes the same but the left is blind.

Now, this is what I call blind love. The damage has been done.
Like I said, some ppl can tolerate one eye, some can't . The difference lies on how you love yourself.

Lol @blind love! Nna one hot slap my ex boyfriend gave me one Christmas shifted my jaw! . It was his friend,a doctor that adjusted my jaw for me! I'm laughing as I'm writing it now because i didn't lose some teeth abi?


It is well o

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lorretta u: So saying that if she didn't come,the proposal wouldn't have held?

Na wa o

If na me,the proposal for dey cancelled.cos I can't imagine myself traveing to go and fight someone over a man whis cheating on me

What if it wasn't a prank,she'd really go physical over a man?what if she got hurt and the man still leaves her in the end?

Odikwa risky o

Lol odikwa vely vely vely lisky o.

What if the other girl poured acid on her

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babyosisi: I have written enough already and the poster read my posts and responded
I can't repeat it
Sorry
Click on my name and read my direct responses to her position and those like hers.i also wrote my sister's story
My stand on physical violence is pretty clear

No offence intended dear. I hear that a lot. Stay and make it work,all men are like that. My friend's hubby calls her a prostitute at the slightest provocation and she says: kreami,that is our second name as women! I replied well,it's not my name and i won't take it.

babyosisi: Let me say something here that many men may not like including my own hubby if he reads this but it is so true
Almost every man wants to control his partner
It is a man's nature and make up to control the things around him including his family
The same make up that makes them protect their own also makes them wAnt to be in total control
It is the duty of a woman in marriage to wisely set a boundary and create some independence for herself
Anyone who has been married to the same man and is comfortable in the marriage knows exactly what I am talking about
And it is not easy to obtain ,the man will resist it and term it " open eye" and non submissiveness etc
But you are just trying to be allowed to be your own person within the marriage and there is nothing wrong in it.

That is why I insist every married woman should have a job and earn her own money
There is some level of respect when he knows you can take care of yourself and are pulling your weight .
I have heard women hiding clothing in the garage and in their cars so the man won't be upset
Well if You made your own money and had your own personal account even if you had a joint account,he cannot be mad that you bought a new pair of shoes or sent money to help your brother out .
Babyosisi ain't hiding no shoes in no cupboards,I work too hard for it.

Ma[b]rriage is good and I love my husband to pieces,he is not perfect by any stretch and neither am I but we are determined to make it work,thank God he is a Christian man that [/b]fears God.
I have written here before that I have this one chance at marriage,I will not do this marriage thing with anyone else lai lai
It is hardwork to fashion my life to align with hubby and I have invested a lot into it and God knows I don't have the energy to start it with anyone else
It is not easy training a man to your taste wallahi
Men are tough creatures

@ the bolded ,So what is your advice for all the abused folks? Stay and make it work?

babyosisi: I wrote earlier about my own sister too
I wish I could have her come to this thread and chronicle her experience in a hellish emotionally and physically abusive marriage before she ran out pregnant to save her life and that of her unborn child.
My own mother overheard the man yell at her and call her a goat,mumu etc and was in tears
He didn't know my mom was within an ear shot
Imagine sending your wife on an errand and add," make sure you return quickly,I need the car,don't go there and be doing like mumu"
And my sister is one of the smartest females I know.
Can you imagine what will possess a man to address his wife that way,a woman he pleaded and courted and she left Obodo oyibo to go marry him and live in Naija.
Anyway thank God she got out before she became Vanguard news about a port harcourt woman cut to pieces by a deranged husband

She's a mumu because she agreed to marry him right Ah no blame am.

babyosisi: A man beat you on your honeymoon and you are still there?
Nne pick race o

Ah na stale gist be that naw.

Twas days after my sister's wedding that her ex hubby started calling her names in the presence of people who they were having drinks with. He stood up and advanced towards her but my brother stood up and told him not to even think about touching her.

My dear,that marriage didn't last up to a year. My sister is doing very very well on her own.

If i stay for an hour without calling him,he'll call and say

"what is his name?"

"Whose name" i would reply

"The guy that is making you forget me!"

I felt choked! I pitied him. He needed help but I'm no psychotherapist nah! After beating me,he would buy the world the next minute! He was crazy. Na him wife i dey pity now.(that is if he didn't meet his match!)

Never been on Facebook. Ever.

LaShawn: I've read that abusive men all act in a similar way, like they were schooled in the same institution.

My dear,this one was obsessed about me. But the last straw was when he called my folks,insulting them! I went maaad. My mum had seen the marks on my back from his belt and she knew at that time,that it was best for me to leave. I walked and never looked back. I changed all my sims. I ran,i ran. He looked for me everywhere. Till now,even though he's married,he's still trying to reach me. He admitted to someone that he saw my name on Facebook and added the girl thinking it was me.

Btw dude is a lawyer o.




To cut the long story short,have you moved on

The secret of happiness is freedom; the secret of freedom is courage.

Nashville: Also lets try and train our children to be self confident. For them to realise they were wonderfully made in God's image. Those silly jokes about weight, height and looks are unnecessary. Dont say anything negative to your children as it affects their self esteem and makes them look for love and acceptance in the wrong places. !

Imagine my mum in-law telling my three year old daughter that women are to be seen and not heard! In this time and age I called my baby and said that's a lie from the pit of hell.

Imagine drumming that into the young mind of a girl for a long time. What sort of woman would she grow up to be

#shocked# ah ah,gini bu nke a biko nu

Biko I'm out before God punishes me for even reading this rubbish this lady is spewing with her mouth!

@LaShawn, are you sure you did not date my ex

Hmmm! God is wonderful o. This guy and my ex na the same o. My own na story for another day.

@ replies.....

Its not on my Google play store. Where can i download it on my galaxy tab 2

miqos02: does he ever say sorry even when its obvious that he is wrong?

He doesn't come out to say sorry. He just leaves the house and calls on the phone to ask a question he knows the answer to! Or he'll just say "so you're boning for me abi?" And we're back to square 1.

Hmmmmm...... where do i start from Ok.

My husband yells at me o just to drive home his point but says thats how his voice is naturally.

The things he says to me makes me wonder why he married me in the first place. Its only twice that i have yelled back at him! Most times,i just count from 10 to 1 in my head to ensure i don't say a word to him. I just focus my attention on something else and shut down my ears to his raves and rants.
He does not apologise after yelling at me and cursing me out o.

But when I'm wrong,i just kneel (not always,sometimes i stand too)beside him and say baby,I'm sorry.pls forgive me.it won't happen again.then proceed to give him a foot massage and of course #the lights go off afterwards#

But if na him o,hmm no apologies o. But i still forgive him.it doesn't matter. I love him right

Like seriously! Did u people just kiss and make up? Na wah o

nne3870: I thought the thread was actually for the abused or has the topic changed? What concerns Trump and office policies on this thread?
Please if you guys nolonger have what to say just unfollow the thread or create another where you can insult yourselves till thy kingdom come. I wonder the kind of children you all are raising with such vain talks. Crazy set of mother's we have nowadays

My sister,i tire o. I thought the thread was for abused men and women. Why are men and women coming here to abuse themselves I'm guessing a lot of abused people have been silenced with this e-war.

@ babyosisi, that story sent chills down my spine. Mehnnn.

@all abused men and women,pls take necessary measures to stop the abuse.if its separating from the maniac,fine.

Cathaliya: Having a pestle in your house is not only for pounding purpose o....

Its only for pounding purposes o.


Pound the hell outta the abuser!


My friend whose husband would always beat,left with her two kids for her parent's house.from time to time,the abuser would come and spend weekends with them.one day,after everybody had left,he picked a quarrel and advanced towards the girl to beat her,the girl immediately reached for the pestle! No be person tell the man to respect himself. For my papa house kwa! Na wah o

Nna eh! This war of words is intriguing. Loving it.


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