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I am sending everyone I believe have been partially or fully played a part in the reason this country has suffered a set back to an everlasting exile.

Let me comment to encourage you😊😊😊😊 let me smile first. Oga calm down first! Except if you do not love your wife.

Let me start by admitting that it is a scary news for both husband wife, but let me share my testimony as one who was in the exact same shoes but the Lord has proven himself this year 2025.

I got married in 2015 and before then in 2010, I had gone with my younger sister who is married at the time and I did not come for any checkups as I was very well. She had gone for a scan and I only accompanied her. Well, the Dr we met I guess was trying to be friendly Na so he asked I also get a scan and I obliged. Low and behold my sister was okay and I was not, he observed the presence of fibroid in me,Va word I have heard associated with women with fertility issues.

He had advised that I quickly get married and have some babies before the fibroid grows and I begin to have issues with conception. That single advice almost destroyed me but for God's mercy. I began to date desperately trying to get married and it did not happen until 2015.

By then the fibroids had grown and you can feel it. Unknown to me, what was only 1 then was now 7 in number, 2 large ones and 5 small.

I got married out of desperation and to a man I never would have looked at twice. Well true to the Drs words, I couldn't conceive. My ex was patient the first year, before our anniversary I conceived but the fibroids grew alongside the pregnancy and at 2 months I looked 6 months and the fibroids pushed it out.

Well for lack of power to type let me cut my story short. I had to undergo a myomectomy to remove the fibroids still no conception. My ex cheated and impregnated a young girl of 19 that was towards the second year of our marriage, he had started sleeping out for weeks and not come home. Well the marriage was destroyed and we ended up divorced.

On getting back to my parents house I wanted to know why there was no conception after the marriage and that was when I was told after a HSG that my tubes had what is known as tubal adhesion during my recovery after the surgery. Imagine when a pipe melted at several points and it joins together, meaning Sperm can't enter. I can never conceive naturally except via IVF the Dr said. Note before the surgery I did not the HSG and of course due to the sizes of the fibroids which were laying on some of my organs the HSG dye did not flow out when they used the normal amount, it took the Dr who was quite seasoned to say try a bigger syringe and increase the concentration of the dye, once they did it, the dye came out showing that my tubes were patent before surgery and that was why I did not conceive early in the first year but I still did before our first year anniversary.

Of course the news that I could not conceive was devastating, I had lost my marriage and I decided to leave the conception matter and focus my energy of furthering my education.

I dated on and off some men after my marriage, ☺️☺️☺️ not a single conception.

Well, last year I met to this man and started dating, I opened up after 8 months and told him the truth about my situation and man looked me dead in the face and said, unless I do not serve a living God and it's not me, you shall conceive without IVF, well I have heard you and in the future we can still explore the IVF if that is what it comes to but I am sure you will conceive. I do not know if it was how he said it, I agreed and said Amen!!

February came of this year of course we had been doing it (sex), we continued, in March my period did not show but due to the length of years it has been since I last conceived, I do not check, I don't keep dates cos my period has never failed to show up.

It was in April I remembered e be like say last month I no see period and so I went to check my pack of sanitary towels and they were well intact

I said Lord, do not let me enter early menopause, I also said maybe it is hormonal imbalance due to stress let me wait. An extra week came and went no period. I finally summoned courage and asked my younger brother to go buy me 2 pregnancy strips. I checked with my hands shaking seriously, 1 line appeared first the next thing I saw another second line following behind. Lo and behold Na 2 fat lines, I had to read and re-read , look and re-look, I am pregnant like this ooo.

I told my man and he could not believe it, he came and picked me from work and we went for a scan, indeed see gestational sac. I am pregnant, no IVF no nothing. I am pregnant like this.

Please my brother, stand by your wife. Do you guys have NHIS registration that is insurance, if no go and do it. Go to a good government hospital and let her remove the fibroids if they are large it will cost you guys only 10% of the original cost using NHIS. After that, keep making love to your wife in faith, remove your mind you and your wife from pregnancy and just enjoy companionship and great sex, the day way e go happen e go shock you.

Fibroid is not death sentence. A lot of women conceive after removing the fibroids immediately.

All the best.

Let her help you, contributing to the family is a must. You wife is an unreasonable being. What is she saving all her money for? That's why most men die young. Oga you are contributing to chores so she must contribute to finance. I am very sorry you married a woman who is not a team player. Tomorrow after you retire without achieving much she will ask what you have been contributing while she goes on an investment spree. The world will call you a failure not knowing you were shouldering all the responsibilities all the years and that's why you are broke.

He is not apologizing, he is saying to pay more according to your blessings wait earnings. It has changed God no longer said to pay only 10%. You can tithe 15, 10, 30% and even all. Let all the idiots say Go on sir we hear you. IDIOT!!!!!

Thunder fire who write this post!!!!!!!

Carlyboi:
You made some reasonable points but a larger part of your argument is absolutely flawed:


Most of your criticism was mostly targeted at average Nigerians trying to eke out a good living and seeking for a better life, which they’re well within their rights to seek. If you can’t be empathetic about their plight then do make mockery and act savagery about their situation.

Nigeria is one of the richest countries in the world in terms of resources in Africa alone we’re Top 3 globally we’d be polled and fall in-between the Top 30 out of the UN recognized 195 countries of the world. Yet we’re still a third-world and developing country asides from Lagos, Abuja and some of few other cities in Nigeria, most of parts of our country have a semblance with failed states and bordering on “ 4th World “ if there’s a word like that. Why are we living in such tumultuous and dire conditions? Pray tell….its the politicians, the useless scoundrels, vacuous, uninspiring, retarded, directionless, rogues, greedy, self-serving fools we have had at the helms of affairs since independence.

The political and economic brigands who have mortgaged the past, present, foreseeable and even the distant future of millions of Nigerians.


The type that would misappropriate, allocate, and have a jamboree on the common patrimony of all Nigerians.

To whom much is given much is expected, and your Claim that low income and middle income Nigerians should be burdened with extra tax so your politicians, cronies, sons, and other members of their family can keep stashing our commonwealth, in tax havens like Panama, or Swiss accounts, acquire more properties and relocate to Dubai, share Eko Atlantic and a large chunk of Ikoyi, Banana Island properties to themselves and cronies? It’s utter nonsense and it’s not gonna happen.

No Nigerian should be paying taxes, until all the billions of dollars that’s been stolen from our national coffers, have been recovered, repatriated, accounted for and judiciously expended.

Until the EFCC stop being a political witching hunting too and curb and totally end the economic skirmishes that the Nigerian state has been experiencing for ages.

A dunderhead sits his ass down in Abuja, earning 30m naira monthly for doing nothing aside’s puerile and frivolous activities like changing the anthem but no, increase tuition fees in public universities and government cutting subventions and removing educational subsidy is what should be our priority. Any missteps by the Federal government would be the last salvo and its Achilles at this very tense moment.

Lastly the remittances from Nigerians in the Diaspora has been the one of highest means of earning forex and generating revenue, stimulating the Nigerian economy. If an embargo was placed on emigration 10 years ago Nigeria could be in a state of nature now. Lol

Can I be your girlfriend. I love intelligent people. Thanks for the in-depth analysis. I tried but yours is way better.

Joking about the girlfriend thing, but kudos.

StOla:
It is time the Nigerian government places a 10year embargo on the siphoning of Nigerian earned funds to sustain academic infrastructures in UK, US, Canada, and any other country Nigerians are going to for education tourism.

Only a foolish country allow people to ship off funds earned in that economy to benefit another economy, without paying any tax to the economy where the funds was earned.

They will sell property in Nigeria and pocket all the money to go donate to another economy, yet no tax is paid on the sale of that property to the economy where the wealth was acquired.

Imagine all the best income earners in Nigeria spending the bulk of their Nigerian earnings on the undergraduate education of their children or their own postgraduate education abroad, after the heavily subsidized undergraduate education that Nigeria provided them to secure those jobs in Nigeria that funded their ambition to wear winter jackets in Europe and North America?

Any country that does not understand the intricacies of economic national security, will keep wondering why its economy continue to flounder.

Even the countries receiving Nigerian funds know how to prioritize their own national economic security, and make policy changes from time to time to ensure that the academic tourists remain only a source of net foreign remittance into their own economy instead of a net subtractive parasite.

I will say it again, the prevailing time is not one to allow your best income earners take funds out of the Nigerian economy without as much as a 50kobo tax on their destructive drain of our national wealth.

Anyone that wants to go abroad for education should find a way to get a job in that country and raise the funds from the income earned in that country.

CBN should with immediate effect prohibit any transfers from a Nigerian account to any foreign academic institution for a period of 10years, while the government should simultaneously raise the school fees to something tangible that you save for years ahead, instead of the rubbish fees that is not up to the pocket money the students spend in a month.

Or is UK or Canada or US tuition fees for local student the kind of amount that local student will spend on buying burgers in a month?

So why are Nigerian universities charging money for 1month shawarma as annual tuition fees?

Charge well, pay lecturers well, and still have enough to upgrade and maintain the education infrastructure in Nigeria.

Goddammit!

I loved your write-up until you mentioned that the school fees in Nigerian universities be increased and then I cursed at you.

How much are the minimum wages in those countries you mentioned and how much is it here? Can you compare the standard of living over there to what we have here? How are the people in Nigeria expected to pay the fees without corresponding increase in living wages or you want to create another issue of mass illiteracy where by people can't afford education a necessity? Please countries subsidize education for their citizens and make foreigners pay through their nostrils.
When the school fees is high they make sure that the citizens have good paying jobs that can enable them fund it and still have a take home.

So, please you made sense until your last 2 paragraphs or so which I highly disagree with.

We can not operate a foreign system in a country with a very bad economy as we have.
Policies must be made according to the standard of a country's economy. Meaning we never reach to practice such until we look for ways to improve our economy and the people's lots. Your suggestion will further impoverish the masses.

I am sure the minister of power has this same mindset as urs and it is flawed badly hence he introduced the band system.

Thanks!

Kobicove:
Let's be honest, Sanusi is too loudmouthed and is not suitable to be emir of Kano

It was also Sanusi that was spending CBN money as if it was personal funds while using CBN money to do charity donations to victims of bomb blast in Kano State when he was CBN governor so as to ingratiate himself to the kingmakers!

I think you meant enlightened. He meant well for his people and wanted to reset every backward chains that had held them down and the enemies of civilisation and liberation of the north said no.

Gerrard59:
The faces I'm seeing and the conditions I've read they go through aren't palatable. It has made me realise I'm really lucky in life so far. I'm very grateful and wouldn't misuse the luck.

Special thanks to my parents.

True! They don't look good at all.

omoredia:
If u like japa ur sin will find you out. Evil Nigerians. You support Tinubu now u wan run

😂😂😂😂😂😂 y you dey make me laugh with this comment.

He should just remain where he chose to call home. There is too much problem in Nigeria at the moment. How do u leave and not look back in 38 years? They should show him mercy and let him live out the rest of his life in the place he has called home.

He is a foolish man and should be deported to go stay in Ghana and learn his culture. So, since 1977 he has not stepped foot to see his family. That was all I saw. Mchewwwwww!

I will take the food please

She is dated out man. How can you date someone for 7 years? Of course the loveis gone.

Please let her be, she don try for u and do not blame her for anything. I tell people, when you date too long, chances are available for interference, see finish or the love can die. It is always better to strike when the iron is hot and do not tell me it was finance, y not use small money pay bride price since? To cap it off u were even cheating self and she cheated too.

Please, I am a she and that lady is gone for now. Do not force things else u will regret it.

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