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franchasng:
thanks so much my brother, may God bless your daily endeavor. As you wish others well, may your ways be prosperous too, happy sunday

anthonyuncle:
what of kiss on da pocket

franchasng:
lol, I get your point perfectly well, very correct.


But you know in my case, before I decided not to work again and ventured into personal business, I had goals, I had vision beyond the normal Nigerian trading business setting you see all around.

My mentors own popular brands u do see and hear about which I won't mention here, so u can imagine.

I sleep and wake up planning and thinking and brainstorming how to grow my company (not just a business) to be like these my mentors' companies.

I have an organizational structure, it is not exactly how I want it to be now, but I am still working on it so that the business will function smoothly even if I am not around for months.

And the sector my company is happens to be one of most sustainable and viable sectors all over the world with potential to go global if well planned, funded and with God's favor too.

I tell my staffs to see their job as a corporate work, at least some earn as much as most civil servants in Nigeria today. And I am praying to God, once my company monthly turnover hits 10million mark, I will start paying my staff 100k + and least staff 70k with full health insurance (HMO) and pension package so they will know they have a career future.

My future plans is to hire few staff and pay them well but they will work from the time they clock in till close of work, than hiring too many staffs that earn peanut which is the model many Nigerian companies operate to deceive government and secure government grants and subsidies, reason many Nigerian graduates are working but can't take care of their needs

Safitu:
Your obsession with early 20 something year olds is why you’re r single and I’m telling you this as a 24 year old. You can’t find a 22/23year old that is ready for marriage mentally and physically in this generation, it is hard. This is not the 19th century, most women under 25 are still finding themselves and living their life, dating multiple guys. I understand you want a young lady who is still fertile. Fertility doesn’t decline rapid until 35 plus. If you are looking for a serious, mature minded lady who is ready to settle down, go for 26-30. These set of ladies are still young and fertile and are also ready for something serious. But hey, that’s just my opinion.

calgaryFriend:
You are right, I have seen many 30+ ladies here that look very 20 something.
But menopause does not care, a lady has a decreased sexual appetite at menopause and they become very irritable to things like sex.

So for a man who is still extremely aroused at 55+ years and a woman who is already tiring of sex, it becomes a huge problem.

Nature is on the side of men marrying younger girls..... Even our culture supports that approach.

Zielle:
False. It's uber stupid to make these sorta assumptions. I don't look my age in real life, plus trust me some 20-somethings have been around . I practically have no experience compared to a 20-something. Some women in their early 30s have kept themselves very well or are still virgins. Never judge a woman by her age

Zielle:
I've said there is nothing wrong with marrying whoever you want to marry. Just don't come disturbing Nairaland later. I know you're an open book in that way. Continue being the huge liar n hypocrite that you are, Yemi. It's ur life, ur choice.

calgaryFriend:
Hey brotherly , thank you for your response. I have attended a few cultural events but I stopped attending cos most ladies I see are over 30 years old.
I can tell you I am yet to see a <30year old single Nigerian lady , not that they dont exist but I have yet to meet them.
I am sure even you may not know too many, so I just got tired and decided to give up on the option of finding my category of people here, cos truly before a lady will be able to be set for express entry and stuff they will either me more than 30 years or very close.

So it is quite complicated....

calgaryFriend:
Age is a big factor for me. By the time a woman hits menopause some at 40 - 45 years old, a man is just starting. Imagine at 50years you cannot have satisfying se.x life. I am not saying it is the same for everybody but by design a man is still good to go at 65 years, if your wife is 65 years you would have to give up on se.x totally .
And because women age quite faster compared to men so marrying a woman over 30 years is a no no for me.

calgaryFriend:
I did not cancel her out immidiately, I spoke to her gently and let her know it is disrespectful to the other person. I have asked her out and I have even gone as far as letting her know I really would love to start a serious relationship with her, the fact she still continued after I let her know I dont like that shows 2 things.

1. She does not understand the word respect. My time is also precious and I have many people to chat but I show respect to her by not chattin g multiple people at the same time. HOW can you be discussing with someone about how you guys want your future to look like and she is typing away while still on the call ? You may justify of trivialise that but it is a red flag. Mutual respect is important in any relationship.

2. She may have another relationship or several other relationships.

calgaryFriend:
I can relate with you OP. For me I am outside of the country and I already made up my mind not to marry from outside the country. I have been meeting people online but after relating with them for sometime I realise the extent of how ignorant, materialistic and focus-less most ladies are.

I was following up with a lady last week, then I saw her whatsap status - ENU GBE, E FUN MI LOWO ENU GBG (i am broke, please give me money I am broke). What kind of human being comes on social media to write such trash ? People dont even have respect for themselves or their families.

WheN i WAS in school I was placed on minimum wage and I tried to live within my means how can people just begin to behave like peasants, so that pissed me off and I just cancelled that babe.

The next one was even a little promising but on 2 occasions I was speaking to her and she was speaking to other people, imagine chatting someone and they admit they are also chatting up to 7 people at the same time.

Then I rebuked the person and the next few days we are talking on phone and the person is typing and after I asked what was going on she said she was chatting with people while speaking with me on whatsap call, I did not even react, but I just cancelled her in my mind.

It is quite tough really, the quality of women out there is really very low, we just have a few who are young and have proper sense.

Goodluck as we continue to search...

funlord:
Send the screen shots to me via what's app. My number is in the profile

messi042:
hello nairalanders, please for the past days now I've been staying at home and hunger has been tormenting me , so i decided to come and advertise me my self in this forum. please if anyone has or knows who can offer me any well paid job with a free accommodation or somebody who needs a sales boy or anybody who can offer me any well paid work with or without accommodation please should just drop his or her comment with his or her contact so
i can call him or her. thanks

funlord:
Why are you not posting the evidence?

Clinton66:
hanks