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2PNIGLTD:
Where is your location

budaatum:
Perhaps register the almanjeris first. Its their not being in school that leaves them tendering cattle.

budaatum:
Perhaps register the almanjeris first. Its their not being in school that leaves them tendering cattle.

SarkinYarki:
only a fool will expect Atiku to get fair hearing in the hands of these judges .

ladywriter:
That’s it. No calls. No text. No visit.

Another day is over without his usual calls to check up on you.

You raised the issue with him, but he gave you a load of excuses on why he has not been calling as usual.

In fact, you have been the one calling lately.

And you can’t help thinking...

Is he losing interest or just busy?

Hmmm! Sister, it is time to wake up.  

There are telltale signs of a man losing interest in a relationship and in this article, I will deal with 5 of such signs.

Are you ready?

Let’s get started.

1. He is an "apartment renter" and not a "home buyer"


There are people who rent houses and those who buy them. Some men are like people who are looking for houses to rent. They are just looking for “ladies to rent”. They are not looking for a long-term relationship. They only want a lady who will be there to satisfy their needs for the meantime.

Some people who are financial buoyant can buy a house. Such people are not looking for houses to rent. Likewise, there are men who are looking for women to marry and not ‘rent’.  

If your man falls into the first category i.e. the "apartment renter", he will lose interest in you very fast because he is just renting your “space”. When he is done with you, he will move on to other available “spaces”.
 
Are you dating an “apartment renter," or a “home buyer,"?


2. He cannot chase someone who is behind him


This one will sting, so get ready ladies!

Some men are achievers. They are gunning for the top of their profession. They are professionally certified or reading to get certified. They are running one course after the other either offline or online. Most men who are achievers always love their women to also tag along educational or otherwise.

And you are there sitting down with your Diploma, HND or Bachelor’s degree. You are satisfied with where you are. You have no plans to move forward in your professional career. You are done with education!.
 
Perhaps, he has even advised you on several occasions to up your game, but you are just comfortable with whom you are and where you are. 
Hmmm! This is a recipe for your man to lose interest in you very fast.

3. The dude has his eyes on a new “hottie”

Remember the apartment rental I mentioned above, most of them don’t stop renting. They will go to other fine places to look for newly built modern houses that are modern. 

Some guys are like that too. They are constantly searching for slaying ladies in their office, entertainment places, school, etc. Whenever they get a new lady, they lose interest in you very fast. 

The truth is, men are fired up with the thrill of a new chase. He will stay with you for as long as there is no other option in sight. But as soon as a new opportunity arrives, you become an old story.

4. You are not a “ride or die”
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A ride or die” means you are a liability and not an asset to your man. Your man will evaluate your value based on what you bring to the table. He will consider the value you are adding to his life and goals. 

If instead of improving his life, you made it bitter; you are not adding value to his life. 

If he feels that you are not beneficial to his life and his dreams, he will pack his bags mentally and follow suit physically in no time. 

5. He has eaten the forbidden fruit


Call it old school or something else, I still believe in no sex till after marriage. 

When there is nothing to look forward to in a relationship, it is boring. 

When, instead of keeping yourself, you freely give yourself to your man for as many time and he wants, it will be boring. It is a matter of time, it will park up. 

6. You turn him to your ATM


This is common. In fact, most ladies go into relationships because they need someone to take care of their financial needs. 
Once a man comes into your life, you automatically become his responsibility. You want him to be responsible for your daily upkeep, your pocket money, your recharge cards, your school fees, etc.

This is the reason you see many young and upwardly mobile men running away from dating relationships. They can’t cope because of incessant demands from ladies who have turned them into an ATM.

It is time to wake up and start doing the right thing.

It's your turn GUYs, add yours.


Curled from: https://relationshipmatas101.com/why-a-man-lose-interest-in-a-relationship/

ladywriter:
You've heard of playing hard to get, right?

Here's the scenario:

You are beautiful

Several men have asked for a date with you

But, you think you shouldn’t tell them ‘yes’ immediately

It's not as if you are not interested in their proposal

You simply want them to ask and ask again before you say 'yes'

So, you decide to play hard to get in order to make them work for it.

You just want to be chased. You are simply enjoying the game.

You know what?

It is time to stop that game.


Check out the frightening reasons below:

1. You will lose a potential partner

The thing is, a good man that likes you but respect boundaries will not pester you for long. He will go and talk to other women. It is not because he doesn't like you, but because it is not right to always ask a lady out for months until she agrees to go out with you.

On the other hand, men who don't respect your boundaries will still continue to pester you. It's not because they are in love with you, but because 'no' means nothing to them.

They don't care about what you want, they are only concerned about what they want.

You agreeing to date after a few requests do not make you cheap. If you wait for a man to chase you for months before you think of giving him a chance, you are really setting up yourself for failure.

2. You will fall into wrong hands

People who only want what they can’t have don't value what they manage to get. For some of them, by the time they managed to get you and they see your imperfections, they feel disappointed that they have wasted their precious time chasing an imperfect woman. Such men tend to behave in an unacceptable manner.

3. You will end up alone

Let me tell you one truth here. Women are everywhere searching for husbands. The thing is, good men are scarce. If you don't want to stay alone for the rest of your life, you better stop playing hard to get. It is an express road to a life of loneliness.

4. Men will treat you like a thing to use

Playing hard to get is the same as treating yourself as a “thing to be acquired”. Men who do not have good values will also treat you like a thing to use. Your desires and thoughts mean nothing to them. This is the reason why some women complained that men treat them like their property. It is the way you present yourself that you will be treated.

You can add the fifth one!

Curled from: https://relationshipmatas101.com/playing-hard-to-get/

OkpaNsukkaisBae:

budaatum:
"Most glorious God! author of all good and giver of all mercy! pour down Thy blessings upon us, and strengthen our solemn engagements with the ties of sincere affection! May the present instance of mortality remind us of our approaching fate, and draw our attention toward Thee, the only refuge in time of need! that, when the awful moment shall arrive, that we are about to quit this transitory scene, the enlivening prospect of Thy mercy may dispel the gloom of death; and after our departure hence in peace, and in Thy favor, may we be received into Thine everlasting kingdom, to enjoy, in union with the souls of our departed friends, the just reward of a pious and virtuous life. Amen."

So mote it be.

Brethren: Here we view another instance of the uncertainty of life, and the vanity of all human pursuits. The last offices paid to the dead are useful as lectures to the living. From them we are to derive instruction, and we should consider every solemnity of this kind as a summons to prepare for our approaching dissolution.

"Notwithstanding the various mementoes of mortality with which we daily meet; notwithstanding death has established his empire over all the works of nature; yet through some unaccountable infatuation we forget that we are born to die; we go on from one design to another, add hope to hope, and lay out plans for the employment of many years, till we are suddenly alarmed at the approach of Death when we least expect him, and at an hour which we probably conclude to be the meridian of our existence.

"What are all the externals of majesty, the pride of wealth, or charms of beauty, when nature has paid her last, just debt? Fix your eyes on the last scene, and view life stripped of her ornaments, and exposed in her natural poverty; you will then be convinced of the futility of these empty delusions. In the grave, all fallacies are detected, all ranks are leveled, and all distinctions are done away.

"While we drop the sympathetic tear over the grave of our deceased Brother, let charity incline us to throw a veil over his foibles, whatever they may have been, and not withhold from his memory the praise that his virtues may have claimed. Suffer the infirmities of human nature to plead in his behalf. Perfection on earth has never been attained; the wisest, as well as the best of men, have erred.

"Let the present example excite our most serious thoughts, and strengthen our resolutions of amendment. As life is 'uncertain, and all earthly pursuits are vain, let us no longer postpone the all-important concern of preparing for Eternity, but embrace the happy moment, while time and opportunity offer, to provide against the great change, when all the pleasures of this world shall cease to delight, and the reflections of a virtuous and holy life yield the only comfort and consolation. Thus our expectations will not be frustrated, nor we hurried, unprepared, into the presence of an all-wise and powerful Judge, to whom the secrets of all hearts are known.

"Let us, then, while in this state of existence, support with propriety the character of our profession, advert to the nature of our solemn ties, and pursue with assiduity the sacred tenets of our Order. Then, with becoming reverence, let us supplicate the Divine Grace, to insure the favor of that Eternal Being, whose goodness and power know no bounds; that, when the awful moment shall arrive, be it soon or late, we may be enabled to prosecute our journey without dread or apprehension, to that distant country, from whose bourne no traveler returns."

May we be true and faithful; and may we live and die in love.

IFEOLUWAKRIZ:
Oponu. Let me tell you the bitter truth, you go fey give person poision. Your heart is dark. Go purge your heart of evil. It will consume you if you allow it go unchecked.

Indeed, Nairaland houses both humans and programmed robots.

stubbornman:
Be a Patriot some other time....not today!!

BarrElChapo:
K where is this coming from

IamD18:
Lol, pussay related matters should be kept aside now Bruv, we lost someone, just type "Rip" and move on.

cococandy:
And you will live forever

czarina:
What is wrong with you?

Things are hard but did it affect your conscience? Just stop this please. Not good at all

IamD18:
Just pray Sarrki don't end up bringing your sad news on front page.

cococandy:
You’re a ridiculous person

Is there something about NL that makes some of you senseless? You can’t put aside prolifically difference at a time like this?