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I cheated because my partner gave me the impression that she was faithful, she talked about her faithfulness nonstop even used it as an excuse for any bad behaviour she exhibited. Saying things like yes am abusive but atleast i dont cheat. I actually believed her till i saw texts on her phone making hotel appointments and having chats about kissing with other guys.

I had been holding myself because i had this "holier than thou" picture of her in my head. Once i realized i was wrong i let the girl who had been wanting me for so long have as much of me as she needed�

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To all the people saying that the affair is a "made up" story, bear in mind that dismemberment of a human body is a personal crime which is carried out with a lot of anger. There must have been a level of closeness between the victim n d perpetrator for him to have done that. Her sacking him n not paying him the money agreed on could be for a number of reasons. Maybe he was also cheating on her or she didnt have the money. Only the victim n the perpetrator know for sure

Thanks for all the comments guys. Iv decided that walking away from the relationship is actually the best because I can't stand an unrepentant cheat.

These were not comments I expected. I know I do wrong when I beat but my anger gets uncontrollable + I am already working on stopping it. I also know dat I av to put more work into our relationship, bt I'm just not sure of how to go about things. Pls I dont want to lose her

OladimejiRufai:
Well, some people are probably gonna hate me for this but I do not give a sh!t.


My comment..


First, you have to apologize to that lady for all the moments you struck her with your hands; causing her undeserved pain. That is a limit you have transgressed; you have gone beyond your boundary for that act.


Do you own the body? Can you create something like it? If she experiences a cut or tear as a consequence of your bashing, can you cause it to heal and get back to how it was?


If you cannot do all of these things, then you have no right to harm that skin for no just cause.


And also, this could be as a result of a flawed mentality.. because you realise you are stronger than her then you feel you can capitalize on that and exhibit superiority by inflicting undue pain on her.


Just to understand the reality of your actions, how about you go fight an elephant, chimpanzee, gorilla or tiger? Then you feel what it is like to oppress people you have realized to be weaker than you with your strength.


You owe that girl a big sorry and never try that again. A real man does not beat his wife. He admonishes and corrects her. If he must beat her, then it will be with his 'rod' and will be for fun not for punishment.


Well as for your relationship, I am not that good at giving relationship advice.


But mine is, as a man, earn for yourself and make enough money to start a family first. Then look for the RIGHT partner and then get married!!


Boyfriend/Girlfriend is a scam! Most of the time, such relationships turn out to be a waste of time, waste of energy, waste of resources/money and waste of sperm...

I av serious anger issues dats y i beat her, bt I am working on it. In as much as I av my faults. She also did something wrong, I just want to know if ders hope 4 d relationship.

Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys